Ukuphila akunakulinganiswa. It has konke: izinyembezi, ukuhleka, injabulo, usizi, imihlangano, futhi, ngokudabukisayo, ukuhlukanisa. Futhi uma singakwazi ukuhlanganyela nabangani, khona-ke nabantu esibathandayo kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu.
Uma abangane abanesikhathi bangahle baphambukele eceleni, abathandi bahlangabezana nenqubo yokuhlukanisa kabi, ngisho - ngokudabukisayo. Asifuni neze ukususa izipho zomngane emehlweni - ngaphandle kwengqondo. Asikhulumi nomqondo wokuthola ngokushesha umngane omusha, ophumelelayo, ukuphambana nomdala, ne-postcript-diagnostic "ex" ...
Endleleni yokuphuma, sinayo imodeli yobudlelwane, lapho umuntu esaba kakhulu ukuphumula futhi uya noma yikuphi ukuvuma, kanti okwesibili uyayisebenzisa ngamandla nokuyinhloko. Sinezibonelo lapho kungekho khona imizwa yangaphambilini, lapho kungekho khona i-incandescence eyedlule, lapho kungekho lutho nje. I-N-Th-th. Ngokuvamile kufanele uzwe "gcina umshado ngazo zonke izindleko", "ubalekele empini", "ukuyekethisa". Futhi konke lokho? Ukungabi yedwa embhedeni owomile futhi lelizwe elinonya, elinonya. Kodwa cabanga ngokucophelela - ingabe kuyadingeka kuwe?
Uma umuntu esondelene kakhulu nawe, bese engazange asebenze ngokwabo noma angahlangabezane nezilindelo zakho, lokhu akusho ukuthi kufanele unikezele impilo yakho ukuphindiselela. Angakuhlambalaza bobabili emehlweni e-"exa", nakwabo. Ngesinye isikhathi owesifazane ozobiza futhi athumele izincwadi ngezinsongo adumayo. Ukuphindiselela kukubona ukuhlukunyezwa kwakho, khumbula lokhu. Khumbula: ukufutheka kuyodlula, kodwa ngenhloni yalokho akwenzile ukukuphilela. Futhi akunandaba ukuthi wenzeni: faka izithombe ezifakiwe zomuntu owayengumthandi kwisayithi le-gay noma uthele umnyango wendlu yakhe nge-valerian.
Ukuhle kakhulu nokukhiqiza okuningi kuzokhohlwa. "Kulula ukusho ukuthi," uzophefumula, "Khohlwa ngakho konke okwenzekile phakathi kwethu, ngamazwi akhuluma omunye nomunye ..."
Misa! Akekho ohlinzeka ukukhohlwa ngakho konke okuhle, okwenzekile ngesikhathi seveli yakho, akusizi ngalutho ngokuphelele. Ngokuphambene nalokho, udinga ukukhumbula okungcono kakhulu, kodwa ungazisoli ukuthi izikhathi zihambile ngokungenakuqhathaniswa.
Funda ukukhumbula, kodwa ungaphuthelwa. Funda ukuthethelela futhi uphile. Esikhathini sokuhamba esidlule ngeke uhambe kude, kodwa sinomzuzwana nje "lapha nango manje". Uma ufuna ukulahlekelwa - ngokuqinile, ngokuqinile, ngokuzizwa-vumela lokhu okunethezeka. Ingabe ukubeka uphawu, ukuhlela isihawu kuwe, kodwa ungasithathi futhi. Lapho usizi lukucindezela, thola amandla ukumema abangani ukuba bavakashele noma baye ematendeni, emcimbini, noma ngabe yini oyithandayo. Uma uxhumana nabangani, sebenzisa inkohliso eyodwa: kaningi ukuhlangana nalabo abakwaziyo kanye nesifiso sangaphambili hhayi nje njengabantu abashadile, kodwa njengabantu ababili abazimele. Uzoxhumana kakhulu nabalandeli benyunyana olujabulisayo - usengozini enkulu yokwehlisa ukucindezeleka. Ngamehlo abo, uzofunda ukudabuka, ngisho-nokuhlambalaza, ngakho kungcono ukuphazamiseka ngabajwayele abasha, vakashela izindawo ezintsha, nizulazula emaqenjini.
Uma kudingekile ukuba usinde igebe, kubalulekile ukubona umugqa omuhle phakathi kokudabuka nokuzibeka phansi. Ubeka engozini yokuba yisisulu uma uthathwa yi-last. Uma udinga impilo entsha, lungisa iziphakamiso ongazange uzicabange ngaphambili.
Yenza lokhu, ngoba i-sublimation iphumelela, futhi izithelo zayo zivame ukubaluleka kakhulu kunombhalo owababelethela. Qaphela: awazi ukucula - uvakashele nabangani bakho ibha ye-karaoke, besaba ukuhamba-baya ekamu. Thatha izifundo ze-guitar, gxuma nge-parachute, ufunde ukupheka i-lasagna enhle kakhulu, ufunde isiFulentshi, ufunde ukuguqula i-poi. Uma uzithatha into engavamile, imicabango ecasulayo izoqala ukuqeda.
Ukuziphindiselela okungcono kakhulu kwe-ex yakho kuyisidingo sempilo yakho "emva kwakhe" ngendlela enelisekile ngayo. Ungazivumeli ucabange ukuthi nguye kuphela onokuqonda. Akunjalo.
Ukuze usinde igebe, hamba ukudla. Ukusinda ekuhlanganyeleni kuzosiza ukuthula kwangempela kwemvelo. Lezi zihlanganisa isinkwa nge-bran kanye neminye imikhiqizo evela kumanhlamvu. Qaphela i-turkey nobisi. Izitshalo ziqukethe izinto eziyinkimbinkimbi zama-acids carboxylic, kanye ne-turkey nobisi lwe-tryptophan. Zonke zazo ziyimphambili ye-serotonin, into ehambisana nomoya omuhle.
Ukusheshisa inqubo yokuphulukisa yamanxeba angokomzwelo, inqabe izinongo ezibukhali - i-chili ne-curry. Ukunciphisa ukusetshenziswa kwekhofi, kuvuselela isimiso sezinzwa, esingenzi isandla ekutholeni. Faka esikhundleni i-tonic eyodwa nabanye - izindlela zokwelapha, ama-teas nezithelo nama-freshly pressed juices. Futhi ngoba isibalo siyasiza, futhi sinomzwelo. Phuza okuningi uketshezi: ukuphelelwa amandla kwamanzi kubangela ukukhathazeka.
Uma kukhona ikhefu, kukhona uhlu lonke lwezincomo ezibizwa ngokuthi "Okungafanele ukwenze". Ngakho-ke, unga:
- udakiwe ngaphambi kokudakwa nokuxokozela, ukulila inhliziyo yakhe ephukile ngokukhala izinyembezi phambi kwabantu abangajwayelekile;
- ukulala nebhizinisi langaphambili elidakiwe noma elizinzile: cishe, ubulili buyokucasula kuphela, ngoba imizwa ngeke ibuyisele isenzo;
- Ngokuvamile, khuluma nothando lwangaphambili, kungcono ukugwema, awukwazi ukuthi ungavuma kanjani: ukukhala, ukusola noma ukusekela.
Kungcono ukusula incwadi yefoni kusuka ezinombolweni, ukubhubhisa amakheli e-imeyili futhi ungahambi "ngengozi" eduze nendlu yakhe. Izipho ezithandekayo, ama-baubles, noma yikuphi ukubeletha okungakhohlwayo kususiwe emehlweni. Nika, unike inhlangano yokusiza, uma kungeyena isihawu - vele uyilahle. Izithombe zivutha kahle, futhi imikhuba ehlangene ikhohliwe ngokushesha, udinga nje. Kodwa uyayifuna, akunjalo?
Akumangalisi ukuthi abahlakaniphile bathi, "Ukuhlukana akuyona ukulahleka, kodwa umhlangano ngokwakho." Khipha inzuzo enkulu, funda emaphutheni futhi wakhe impilo entsha ngaphandle kokubuka emuva.
Anastasia Krainer