"Umshado wokuqala uvela kuNkulunkulu, kanti owesibili uvela ku-Evil," kusho ukuhlakanipha kwabantu bakudala. Ake sibone ukuthi uqamba amanga yini? Mhlawumbe umshado wesibili uzophumelela kakhulu?
Ngokokuqala ngqa, abesifazane bashada ngokusemncane. Nakuba silwela ukulingana namaMelika, okokuqala, ukuthola imfundo, ukwenza umsebenzi, bese udala umndeni uneminyaka engama-30-35, konke okuhlukile kithi. Amantombazane aseRussia agqoka indandatho yokuzibandakanya okokuqala eminyakeni engu-20-24. Izizathu zokwenza isinqumo esibalulekile kangaka zihlukile: ezinye, ngokuzizwa eziphakeme futhi ezilula, zifuna ukubhalisa ubuhlobo babo, kuyilapho abanye befuna ukubambelela ingane engakazalwa. Kodwa inkinga ibujule kakhulu. Iqiniso lokuthi abantu abasha abaziqondi ngokwanele yonke imithwalo yemfanelo yalokho okwenzekayo. Umndeni awunamanga nje kuphela inyanga, kuwumsebenzi omkhulu wokwakha ubudlelwane, ukuthola ukulinganisa nokwamukela umuntu nakho konke okukufaneleyo nokunciphisa. Umuntu emva kweminyaka engu-20-21 usuvele ukhona njengomuntu, futhi cishe akunakwenzeka ukulungisa ukuziphatha kwakhe. Kunezinketho ezimbili: ukwamukela umuntu njengoba ekhona, noma ukubheka omunye ofuna. Ngikholelwa, okwesithathu akunikezwa, ukudweba okuthile komunye umuntu kuzodala okungaphezu kwakho kuzo zonke izici. Ngokusho kwezibalo, iRashiya iye yaba yilawa mazwe okuqala ngokwenani lehlukaniso. EMoscow yonke imibhangqwana eshadile yesibili ihlukanisile. Izimbangela eziyinhloko zesehlukaniso: ukuhlukumeza utshwala, ukungabi nendlu, izinga eliphansi lempahla nokuhlukaniswa kwabalingiswa.
Yini owesifazane okufanele ayenze lapho iseli lomphakathi lihlukanisiwe, futhi igama elithi "uhlukanisile" livele kudatha yomuntu siqu?
Okokuqala, akusikho into ongayibeka ngayo icala, uzihlambalaze, uzibambe futhi uthole amaphutha. Ngakho uzokuthuthukisa i-neurasthenia noma i-inferiority complex. Kubalulekile ukuvala zonke izihlobo zangaphambili enqabeni, bese ushiya ukhiye ebhentshini epaki. Khumbula, ukuhlala "lapha futhi manje" kuyimbewu yokuhlakanipha nenjabulo.
Ukwahlukanisa ukucindezeleka, futhi kuthatha indawo yokuzizwa okuhle. Cabanga ngalokho ongathanda ukukwenza - funda ukuthi ungadansa kanjani, ugobe, uhlanganise, ufunde uhlelo olusha lwekhompyutha noma ulungise isidlo esiphundu. Futhi mhlawumbe unephupho elidala elingalindelekile ukuya kwelinye izwe? Kuzokuphazamisa ngokuphelele.
Futhi, Ladies othandekayo, ungakhohlwa ngokubukeka kwakho. Yehla noma uye esikhwameni sezilwane, i-masseur, yenza umuthi womuntu. Nsuku zonke, thinta umzimba wakho ngokugeza ngamafutha abalulekile e-orange - le nqubo ivuselela futhi ivuselele imizwa. Bhalisela iklabhu yokuzivocavoca - lokhu akuyona nje indlela eya kumuntu omncane nomuntu ohlakaniphile, kodwa futhi nethuba lokwenza abangane abasha.
Hamba ukuyothengisa, njengoba umngane wami ethi, "ukuthengwa kugqugquzela!". Thenga wena izingubo zamaphupho akho, futhi awukwazi nje ukugqoka ...
Nsuku zonke, zama ukuzibandakanya ekuthuthukiseni-akusho ukuthi kufanele uxazulule izinkinga e-algebra, nansi umbuzo wokwenza ngcono ngokomoya. Kufanele ufunde ukuthethelela abantu, ukuqonda ukuthi abantu banamaphutha, bazilawula ekuboniseni imizwelo emibi, ukuxhumana nabantu futhi ubone kuzo, ngaphezu kwakho konke, izici ezinhle.
Abesifazane abaningi emva kokuhlukana banecala futhi, ngisho nenzondo ngabo bonke ubulili besilisa, bakholelwa ukuthi bonke abantu "bangabo," futhi bazizungezile "ngokuphindaphinda abesifazane." Qonda, ngoba umuntu oyedwa akahluleli sonke isigamu somuntu, ubanjwe nje akuyona indoda yakho. Cabanga ngendoda yakho ekahle, kodwa ungapheli ubuso, kodwa cabanga ngezici zobuningi ofuna ukuzibona kuye. Myeke abe nomusa, ngenjabulo, izingane zokudala, ezithandekayo, ezinothando. Ngalolu hlelo lokusebenza, uzokwakha ekhanda lakho ngqo isithombe sakho esihle somuntu. Yebo, iqiniso alithathi isikhathi eside.
Ungaqala kanjani ukuphila nge-slate ehlanzekile ngemva kwesahlukaniso? Kwezinye izimo, lapho owesifazane ohlukanisile eshiywe ingane noma ngisho nezingane ezimbili. Ngokuzithandela akafuni ukuhlela impilo yakhe ngenxa yokwesaba ithonya elibi lomntwana wesilisa ekukhuliseni izingane. Kwenzeka ukuthi izingane ngokwayo zithinta umama ukuba angahlangabezane namadoda "angajwayelekile". Kulowo wesifazane, umuntu kufanele aqonde lapha ukuthi umuntu akufanele akwazi ukuzitholela zonke izifiso zomntwana wengane, amenzele isithombe, amkhulekele, akhonze "i-ego" yakhe embi, kungenjalo omunye kuzodinga ukuzisola. Kudingeka sithole indlela eya kwengane, sichaze lesi simo kuye, ngenkathi sibonisa ukuthambekela kokubeletha nothando. Chaza ukuthi umndeni omusha uzophinde uzalwe kabusha, ukuthi bayomthanda ngisho nangaphezulu, futhi uyojabula nakakhulu.
Abesifazane bazihlupha ngemibuzo ngokuthi ngabe ubaba wabo omusha uzothanda izingane emshadweni wabo wokuqala. Okuyiqiniso ukuthi uma indoda ithanda owesifazane, khona-ke uzothanda izingane. Uma imizwa yangempela.
Ngemuva kokuhlanganyela ebhizinisini lakho ozithandayo, ukuthola amathalenta amasha kuwe, ngeke uqaphele indlela okuyokwenzeka ngayo ukunikeza ubudlelwane obusha, obuvuthiwe futhi obuvumelanisiwe lapho uzothola injabulo elahlekile. Khumbula ukuthi isinqumo sokuqala impilo kusukela ekuqaleni emva kwesahlukaniso sincike kuwe! Inhlanhla!