Ukuhlukumeza kwezingane kuyadingeka okwamanje. Naphezu kokuthi izimbangela eziningi nezinhlobo zezenzo ezinonya zivezwe izazi ze-psychologists kanye nabafundisi, izinga lobuhlukumezi bezingane zasenkulisa alinciphisi, okuyisisekelo esiyinhloko sokukhuliswa komndeni.
Kusukela ekuzalweni, ingane iqondisa izwe elizungezile futhi izama ukuxhumana nomphakathi kusukela ngenyanga yokuqala, lapho ihlangana nonina ngokumomotheka okujabulisayo. Ngokuphathelene nokuntuleka kokukhuluma amazwi, ingane ifunda ngokuthinta nokubonisa izimpawu zokutshela othandekayo ngempilo yakhe.Ukumamatheka, ukuhamba, ukubola, ukunyakaza okuthulile ngepeni kufakazela isimo esihle somntwana. Ngenkathi ngimemeza, ukunyakaza okunamandla kwezandla nezinyawo, ukukhala okunamahloni, ukukhala, futhi kamuva ukudonsa izinwele, ukukhahlela, ukugubha ukukhuluma ngokungahambi kahle noma ubuhlungu bengane.
Ukusabela kwabazali kulokhu kuziphatha kwengane kubili:
- ukugcwaliseka okusheshayo kokufunayo.
- ukungazinaki.
Abazali uma kwenzeka izenzo ezinonya zengane kufanele zenze okulandelayo:
- baqonde imbangela yokukhamuluka nokukhala.
- ngokushesha ususe imbangela lapho kwenzeka ubuhlungu noma ukugula kwengane.
- uma kwenzeka i-vagaries, ukushintsha ukunakekelwa kwengane kwezinye izinto.
- esimweni esithulile ukuchazela ingane ngendlela edlalayo noma ngokusho kwezincwadi zokuziphatha okubi.
Noma yisiphi isenzo esonakalisayo somntwana, kufanele asabele ngokuthula, ngaphandle kwemizwelo enobudlova, akhulume ngemizwa yesisulu futhi afundise ukuziphatha okulungile. Kulokhu, ngitshele ukuthi kuyamzwisa ubuhlungu umama, lapho eshaywa izinwele, ukuthi udinga ukuzisola ngomama, ukushaya ikhanda futhi agcizelele ukuthi ukunakwa komzali kufanele kukhangwe ngendlela ehlukile.
Kubalulekile ukufundisa ingane njalo futhi ngokungahambisani nemigomo yezenhlalakahle, ikakhulukazi ukuchaza izenzo zabanye abantu abathande ukubona ingane. Ukulwa kwezingane noma ukudakwa kwabantu abadala kumele kuchazwe ngokushesha ngolimi olutholakalayo, futhi kungashiywa ngaphandle kokunaka noma kamuva.
Qaphela ukuthi ingane ayikhiphi isihluku sayo nokuhlukumeza izilwane, izitshalo noma izinto ezingapheli. Ungakhulumi ngaso sonke isikhathi ngemizwa ethiwa yobuhlungu besisulu, kodwa qiniseka ukuthi unikeza isibonelo sokuziphatha okuyisibonelo.
Kusukela ekusungulweni kokukhulumisana ngamazwi, ungathola isizathu esiqondile sokuhlukunyezwa kwengane bese uqeda ukubukeka kwayo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ungadlulisi imizwelo emibi, ukunganaki nokuhlukumezeka ezingeni elingenalutho, ngakho-ke kuyadingeka ukuthi uphonse intukuthelo nokwesaba.
Isibonelo, sisiza ingane encane ukuthi ikhulule intukuthelo ngokusebenzisa ukuzama ngokomzimba, ukukhala okukhulu okusuka enhliziyweni, ukukhishwa kwephephandaba. Ngomfundi osezingeni eliphezulu ungadlala umdlalo "Futhi unjalo-ke-ke," lapho uphonsa ibhola, ubiza omunye nomunye ngamazwi ezilwane, izitshalo, ifenisha, izinto kuqala ngombala omubi, bese uqhubekela phambili emazwini afudumele futhi anomusa.
Isizathu esiyinhloko sokuhlukumezeka ezinganeni ukuntuleka kothando lwabazali, ukunakekelwa, ukuthandeka nokuhluleka ukuveza imicabango yomuntu, ukubeka ukuxhumana nabanye. Ngakho-ke, ingane kufanele ihlale idunyiswa futhi ihlonishwe, futhi ijeziswe ngokungalaleli, kubalulekile ukugxila ekunganeliseki kwakhe ngokungaziphathi kahle kwakhe, hhayi ubuntu bomntwana. Futhi ufundise isenkulisa ukuba ujwayele, udlale futhi uxoxe nezinye izingane kanye nabantu abadala.
Ngakho-ke, ukuhlukunyezwa kwezingane zangaphambi kwesikole kungokwemvelo futhi akusiyo inzondo, kanti imfundo engalungile yabantu abadala kanye nesibonelo sabo siqu ingabangela ekuthuthukiseni isenzo esicasulayo.