Okubaluleke kakhulu kubonakala sengathi kuyimfanelo yangaphakathi - isimilo esihle, umusa, ubuhle obungokomoya, ingqondo. Kodwa, ngicabanga ukuthi abaningi bayavuma ukuthi owesifazane kufanele ahlanganise zonke lezi zimfanelo.
Mhlawumbe, kulo magazini kufanele unake umbono womuntu. Yini abayigugu kakhulu kubesifazane? Iziphi izimfanelo ezizihehayo?
Ngokusho kwabameleli abaningi besilisa - ngokuvamile abesifazane, ngokuqaphela noma cha, benza ukuba bashintshe ukuze kube ngcono. Kakade iqiniso elilodwa lokuthi, eseduze kowesifazane, bazama ukuziphatha ngokucophelela, ngobubele, kukhuluma okuningi.
Ngenxa yalokhu, owesifazane akadingi ngisho nokusho okuthile, ukusikisela okuthile. Ukubona nje umusa wakhe, amadoda azama ukuba nomusa, futhi angcono eduze kowesifazane. Umusa ungenye yezimfanelo ezinhle zowesifazane. Lokhu kubonakala ngezindlela eziningi, abesifazane bahlale benomzwelo kakhulu kunabesilisa, kaningi banomqondo ophuthumayo wokuhawukela, uzwela. Mhlawumbe, ngenxa yalesi simfanelo, abesifazane bayabusa kulezo zisebenzi njengodokotela, uthisha, uthisha enkulisa. Kulezi zisebenzi, uhlangothi lwengqondo lomuntu kubaluleke kakhulu.
Nokho, mhlawumbe ikhwalithi engcono kakhulu yowesifazane yikhono lokuthanda. Ikhono lokunikeza ucezu lomphefumulo wakhe komunye umuntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungumyeni, ingane noma omunye umuntu oseduze. Uthando, yilokho kanye amadoda abheke kunoma yimuphi owesifazane. Kubo, imizwa eqotho ibaluleke kakhulu, ngakho-ke bafuna ukuthola owesifazane ongeke abathande ngesimo, ukuvikeleka kwempahla noma umlingiswa, kodwa ngoba nje basondele.
Futhi ungakhuluma okuningi mayelana nothando lomama. Akunamkhawulo. Owesifazane angenza noma yini ingane yakhe. Ukulungele ukunikela impilo yakhe yonke kuye, ukwenqaba ngezindlela eziningi, ukukhathalela kuphela inhlalakahle yakhe. Uthando lomama wengane, lolu luhlobo olunamandla kunazo zonke olungaba khona.
Futhi ikhwalithi ebalulekile yowesifazane ukukhuthaza. Abesifazane abaningi abaphathi nje ukwenza imisebenzi yasendlini nokukhulisa izingane, kodwa nokusebenza, ukwakha umsebenzi nokufeza impumelelo enkulu kulokhu. Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi abesifazane banamandla kunamadoda. Kaningi futhi banesineke esikhulu kanye namandla. Lokhu kuvumela ukuba baxazulule izinkinga eziningi zokuphila. Abesifazane abanamandla abajwayele ukukhononda nokucindezela abanye ngokungazithembi, izinkinga.
Ubuhle futhi buyingxenye yezimfanelo ezinhle kakhulu zowesifazane. Yiqiniso, wonke umuntu unombono wakhe wobuhle. Abaningi lokhu kusho ukumane nje ikhono lomfazi ukuba azizinakekele, agqoke ngokunambitha, ikhono lokuziveza. Owesifazane akudingeki abe ubuhle, njengomfanekiselo noma umlingisi waseHollywood, kodwa kufanele abe mnandi, aqondise, abe nekhanda lakhe eliyingqayizivele kanye nesithukuthezi.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, wonke owesifazane kumele okungenani abe necansi encane. Lokhu kungabonakaliswa ekuziphatheni kuphela, kodwa nakuzo zokugqoka, ukwakheka, ingxoxo.
Isici esiyingqayizivele sabesifazane abaningi futhi sikwazi ukuhambisana nabantu. Ngakho-ke, emkhakheni wezisebenzi zenhlalakahle, iqembu lezinsikazi liphinde libheke phambili. Ngoba abesifazane banesineke futhi banengqondo. Futhi lapho usebenza nabantu, lezi zimfanelo ezibaluleke kakhulu. Ebudlelwaneni namadoda, lokhu kuhlanganisa nokuhlanganisa okukhulu. Owesifazane akakwazi nje ukusiza unina ekhishini noma uxoxe noyise. Uzama ukwazi kangcono labo bantu abazungezile bakhethi bakhe futhi abasondele kubo.
Ikhwalithi ebaluleke kakhulu yowesifazane yikhono lokulalela. Lokhu kuhlonipha umxhumanisi, okubaluleke kakhulu ekusebenzelaneni nabantu. Lekhwalithi iyaziswa kakhulu kwabesifazane kakhulu. Owesifazane uyakwazi ukumlalela, ngisho noma engavumelani nalokho okushiwo ingxoxo. Futhi kuphela lapho, ungalokothi ukhombise ngokuqondile ekungalungeni kwakhe, kodwa ukusikisela ngokukhohlisayo ngezimpikiswano ezincane.
Ukuzizwa komusa kubesifazane kubonakala futhi ukuthi bavumela abakhethiweyo babo ukuba bazizwe njengendoda. Futhi kubonakala cishe cishe konke. Ngisho nasezintweni ezinjengokuqala kwasekuseni. Owesifazane ohlakaniphile akasoze aphoqelela umyeni wakhe ukuba adle i-yoghurts, i-cottage shizi, njll yekusasa kwasekuseni, uma eyazi ukuthi uzodla ucezu wengulube ngenjabulo enkulu. Linikeza lo muntu ithuba lokukhetha, ngaleyo ndlela abonise inhlonipho yakhe. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, lokhu kuyinkomba yesithunzi sowesifazane.
Futhi, izimfanelo ezinhle zowesifazane zihlanganisa ingqondo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lawo madoda asho ukuthini, ahlale ethanda iziphukuphuku ezingenalutho ezaziyo kuphela ukumomotheka kahle, ukuhleka ngesizathu, nokukhuluma lutho. Owesifazane kufanele akwazi ukusekela ingxoxo, akwazi ukuphikisa. Futhi le mfanelo ihambelana nabesifazane abaningi. Bayazibuza futhi bahlose kahle ezindaweni eziningi zolwazi, ngokuvamile ngisho nasemasimini omadoda. Ngakho-ke, bayakwazi ukuqhuba ingxoxo cishe noma yisiphi isihloko. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abesifazane bavame ukuvinjelwa ngaphezu kwamadoda, futhi lokhu kuvumela ukuba baphikisane, ngaphandle kokuyibeka ehlazweni.
Lapha, mhlawumbe, izimfanelo ezinhle kakhulu zowesifazane. Futhi lolu hlu lungaqhubeka. Thatha okungenani umuzwa wokunambitheka nomqondo omuhle. Abesifazane bakha abaduduza ekhaya. Ngokwemvelo banomqondo omuhle futhi balwela ukwenza konke okuzungezile kangcono, okuhle kakhulu. Banikezwe umhlaba ocebile, ozwela kakhulu, ozwelayo, ongase ubizwe ngokuthi izimfanelo ezinhle.
Ingxenye yabantu besifazane akuyona into ebizwa ngokuthi yingxenye enhle. Owesifazane uvame ukuhlanganisa zonke izimfanelo ezinhle kakhulu ezinikezwe imvelo. Ngokuvamile umusa wesifazane uyazibophezelo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, abesifazane bavame ukuba nezimfanelo ezivela kumadoda ngokujwayelekile. Lokhu ukubekezela, amandla okuthanda, ingqondo ebukhali, ukukhuthazela nabanye abaningi.