Ukudumisa ingane ngokuqinisekile kuyadingeka - wonke umzali wanamuhla uyazi lokhu. Kodwa ingabe zonke izindumiso zizwakala? Imishwana ejwayelekile esebenzisa ukuvuma okungavunyelwe kanye namadigri amahle kakhulu angenza ingane icabange ukuthi umama nobaba baxoxa iqiniso. Izingane zizwa sengathi zingenangqondo, zingenakulinganiswa ezincane zazo, kodwa lokho okufezekile okubalulekile kungalimaza kakhulu kunokugxeka. Indlela yokunconywa kwengqondo kwengane kuyindlela yokudumisa "echazayo". I-essence ilula - akudingeki nje ukuveza ukuzwakalisa, kepha nokuchaza ingane ukuthi yini eyabangela. Isibonelo, ukuthinteka ngomdwebo womculi osemusha, kufanelekile ukufaka imininingwane embalwa mayelana nokukhuthaza, imigqa ebushelelezi nemibala ekhethiwe kahle. Ukudumisa ekamelweni kungabandakanya ukubonga ngokusiza umama nokuncoma ukuzimela.
Le nqubo yokwamukelwa inezinzuzo eziningi: ayisekelwe ekuqhathaniseni, igwema "ukudlula" nobuzenzisi, yenza ingane ihloniphe imizamo yakhe. Kodwa into eyinhloko ukuthi indumiso "echazayo" ishukumisa ingane ukuba iqhubekele phambili okufezekile, imnike ukusekelwa okudingekayo kokuziphatha.