Umfana uzimisele ukukhula ngokushesha, kodwa ngokomzwelo uhlala ingane. Ngakho-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu kubazali kule nkathi ukugcina umugqa omuhle: ukuphatha njengomuntu omdala, kodwa ungakhohlwa ukubonisa imizwa nokukhathalela.
Ukuhlukunyezwa ebusheni, kunalokho, hhayi ukuhlasela, kodwa ukusabela okuzivikela ezenzweni eziqondiswe kuso. Ngokuvamile, zonke lezi zinzwa zishiswa ngokweqile, ngenxa yokuzwela ngokweqile nengozi.
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi kunzima kubazali ukuthi bafunde ukuthi bangasabela kanjani ngokuziphatha kwengane. Abagcini nje ngokwengqondo bengakalungiseleli, kepha abakwazi ukubhekana nobukhulu bezinkinga zansuku zonke nhlobo. Kodwa, njengoba bethi: "Waxwayisa, ngakho-ke, sihlomile", ngakho-ke sichaze izizathu ezivame kakhulu zokuqala ukuhlukunyezwa kwentsha futhi sinikeza iseluleko sendlela yokubhekana nayo.
Izimbangela zokuhlukunyezwa kwentsha
Kunezinhlobo eziningana zezimbangela zokuhlukunyezwa ezinganeni: emndenini, ngokwezifiso nangokwemvelo.
Izimbangela zomndeni zobudlova
Akuwona wonke umndeni ohlakulela indlela efanele yokukhuliswa kwezingane. Yiqiniso, lokhu kunciphisa abazali, kodwa bancike ezintweni eziningi futhi ngokuvamile abakwazi ukuzivimbela nokuzilawula. Kunoma ikuphi, udinga ukwazi ukuthi ukuziphatha kwabazali kungabangela kanjani ukuhlukunyezwa ezinganeni ekukhuleni:
- Ukunganaki nokuzondwa kumntwana
- Ukwenqaba (ingane engalindelekile), ukuntuleka kothando nokubonakaliswa kwayo
- Ukulawula ngokweqile nokunakekelwa
- Ukuba nomthelela wokuphila komntwana osemusha
- Ukungabi nokuxhumana ngokomzwelo
- Ukuthokoza nokuhlambalaza, ikakhulukazi emphakathini
- Ukususwa kwemizwelo yengane kanye nanoma yikuphi ukubonakaliswa kokuzimela
Izizathu zomuntu siqu
Lezi zizathu zingavela kokubili, futhi ngenxa yezimo zomndeni kanye nomthelela wemvelo:
- Ukwesaba, ukulindela okubi kakhulu
- Ukungaqiniseki kokuphepha
- Ukungalingani kwama-Hormonal, ngenxa yenkathi yokukhulelwa
- Ukuthukuthela nokufutheka, ngenxa yokuziphendulela
- Ukuzwa unecala ngento ethile
- Ukuzwa isizungu
Izizathu zesimo
Ngokuvamile kuvame ukuhambisana nezimo ezithile ezenzeka empilweni yentsha esikhathini esithile:
- Ukusebenza ngokweqile, ngenxa yokucindezeleka ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo
- Izifo
- Ukudla okungalungile
- Umdlandla ngokweqile kumidlalo yekhompyutha
- Izimo zendawo ezingathandeki emndenini
Izindlela zokulwa nokuhlukunyezwa kwentsha?
Kuyafaneleka ukuvuma ukuthi ayikho isisombululo esisodwa kule nkinga. Okokuqala, kuyadingeka ukunquma ukuthi yini engaba imbangela yokuziphatha okunonya kwabaselula. Ngokusekelwe kulokhu, ungathola ukuthi yini okudingeka ishintshe ekuziphatheni kwakho, imvelo yengane.
Khumbula, umsebenzi wakho oyinhloko, njengabazali, ukunciphisa ukubonakaliswa kobudlova, okusho ukunikeza izimo ezikhululekile kakhulu kuye noma ukushintsha isitayela sakhe sokukhulelwa.
Ngokuvamile, abazali baba imbangela yokuhlukunyezwa kwengane, ngakho-ke kufanelekile ukuqala ngokuzifundisa:
- Vumela intsha isinqumo, uthathe isinyathelo kuqala noma ucabangele izithakazelo zakhe kukho konke.
- Ukuqeda ukuhlukumeza emndenini. Hlaziya ubuhlobo nengxenye yakho yesibili yokuhlasela okuhlaselayo.
- Ukuqondisa kabusha ukuhlukunyezwa kwentsha ibe ngumzila owusizo, isibonelo, ezemidlalo.
- Khuluma nengane yakho kaningi njengomngane. Ungacacisi ukuthi wenzeni, thatha indima yomeluleki ohlakaniphile, ocebisa, kepha akalahli.
- Ngokuvamile udumise ingane, iyokhuthaza ukuthembela kuye.
- Hlonipha ukukhetha kwakhe, ngisho noma kubonakala kungalungile kuwe.
Ingane ekhukhumezayo ayifuni nje ngokuzikhethela. Khumbula ukuthi uyisibonelo sokulingisa ingane yakho. Akumangalisi ukuthi: "Ningakhuli izingane, zifundise." Uma ulahlekelwe umzuzu futhi uyavuma ukuthi awukwazi ukubhekana nawe ngokwakho, thintana nesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.