Omama abaningi banenkinga yokuthi izingane zabo zivame ukuthinta izidalwa zabo zobulili, ngakho-ke zizama ukuyilonda. Futhi kaningi izingane ziqala ukuhlanganyela kulo kakade kusukela eneminyaka eyodwa ubudala. Ngokuvamile abazali bayaqaphela ukuthi izingane zizithinta kanjani eminyakeni engu-3 kuya kwengu-7 futhi zidlale "imidlalo engcolile". Amama namadodakazi bahlambalaza izingane zabo ngalokhu, bachaza ukuthi kwakungenakwenzeka ukwenza kanjalo, futhi bathi ngezwi elihleliwe ukuthi bazolala ngezandla zabo phezu kwengubo. Kodwa ake sibone ukuthi kuyinkinga enkulu kangaka, nokuthi ngabe ukwesaba abazali.
Yonke ingane kusukela ngosuku lokuqala kanye neminyaka eyisithupha kuya kweyisishiyagalombili idlula indlela ende kakhulu yokuzifunda wena, abanye abantu kanye nezwe lonke. Kithina bazali, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi kulesi sikhathi ukuthi umntwana uthola lonke ulwazi oludingekayo kanye nokuphila okuyisisekelo. Ngesiko lesiRussia ngokujwayelekile ingane yonke ibizwa ngokuthi "ingane". Khona-ke akazange azihlukanise ngezansi ezinganeni. Futhi lapho umntwana eneminyaka emithathu ubudala, kwakufanele aqaliswe phansi. Le ntombazane kufanele igqoke ingubo, amakhrayoni kanye nama-plaits, kahle, abafana bagqoke ngokufanele.
Umntwana kufanele afunde umzimba kanye nomzimba wabanye, ngoba kubalulekile kuye. Kumelwe aqonde ukuthi unjani umehluko nokufana nabanye abantu. Ingane ngayinye kulezi zenzo ilandela umgomo ohluke ngokuphelele kunathi, abadala. Emva kwakho konke, cabanga, njengomthetho, imfundo yezocansi yezingane isekelwe ikakhulu emithethweni yokuhlanzeka, abazali kanye nothisha badidekile ngenxa yezinkinga zezingane ezingenasidingo futhi ezingathandeki. Bazali abathandekayo! Kubantwana lesi sihloko sifana nabo bonke abanye, aboni umehluko, ngoba banesithakazelo kukho konke okulinganayo. Kuzo zonke izinyane, zibuze: "Zivela kuphi izingane?" Ingabe unemvelo futhi elula ukubuza: "Kungani kubhakabhaka?".
Okuthakazelisa kakhulu ukuthi lapho ingane ifunda ubuso, izingalo nemilenze, abazali bayasabela ngokuthula. Kodwa i-crumb iqala ukuhlola izitho zakhe zobulili, abazali balahlekile futhi baqala ukucabanga ukuthi ingane yabo ingakhula iphikisiwe futhi ichitheke. Abazali bafuna ukufunda: ukuthi bangasabela kanjani emidlalweni yocansi yezingane. Izingane ziqaphele kakhulu kunanoma ubani wethu. Bashawule ngokushesha ukuthi kunomuntu ngamunye emndenini wakho, bayaqonda ukuthi umholi ungumholi wendlu, okudingeka ulalele, futhi ongamnaki. Ngakho-ke, awukwazi ukufihla uhlangothi oluthile lokuphila kubo noma . Ikakhulukazi uma ingane iya esikoleni, inamathuba amaningi okuthola ulwazi olunjalo. Noma kunjalo, khumbula ukuthi ingane ngokuvamile ayiboni lolu lwazi njengocansi.
Ngakho, kanye nokufika kolwazi, izingane ziqala ukudlala imidlalo yezocansi, njengombuso - ziyizingxenye zemidlalo emndenini. Ngezinye izikhathi izingane zingabonisa izenzo zabantu abadala, ngenkathi zilingisa uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi obuseduze. Lapho abazali bethola lokhu, badidekile. Nokho, ihlaya kanye ne-vzvomuschatsya kulezi zikhathi akufanelekile. Uma ingane yakho iphilile, imidlalweni yemvelo "yezocansi" ayimzwisi injabulo, ngakho-ke lapho ungaphazamisi kahle ingane ngokumane udlala ngokungazi lutho, futhi lokhu kubona ngaloluhlangothi lweqiniso njengokujwayelekile futhi kubalulekile, ngoba kunjalo.
Kodwa ngokushesha nje lapho umuntu omdala eqala ukubuza ukuthi ingane idlale kanjani, ukuzama konke ngokuningiliziwe, ukuyihlazisa ingane, iqala ukushintsha ingqondo yakhe futhi iqonde ukuthi into eguquguqukayo, into ethakazelisayo kanye nesici esibaluleke kakhulu esinqatshelwe. Kodwa awubuyiseli isithakazelo ngezenzo zakho, i-atolko iyanda. Ingane iyaqonda ukuthi ekuvulelekeni kwakhe ukudlala ngakho akunakwenzeka, lapha uqala ukufihla. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokuvamile ingane encane iyayiqonda ukuthi kungani ijeziswa, kodwa ngaso sonke isikhathi inomuzwa wokuthi uma enza kabi, abazali bakhe, abaphindaphindiwe nabo, benza into engcolile, ehlazo futhi engavunyelwe. Ngakho ungakha umkhawulo othize wengqondo phakathi kwakho nengane. Kubuye kwacaca nengane ukuthi kungalungile ukuthinta izitho zangasese bese uthola isithakazelo kubo. Ngakho ingane ingaba nezinkampani ezithile zedolobha, zonke izinhlobo zeziphambeko kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okuyimfihlo.
Kukhona nesici sesibili: umsokhemikhali uthola injabulo emzimbeni wakhe, futhi ukubonakaliswa kwalokhu kungahluka ngokuphelele. Uma umisa lokhu, umkhawulo bese uhlambalaza ingane, khona-ke kungase kungalungile ukwakha ubudlelwane nokuphila ngokocansi esikhathini esivuthiwe. Kumele uqondise ngokuhlakanipha futhi ulungise ukuziphatha kweziqu.
Ngakho ungesabi imidlalo, lapho izingane zifunda khona abanye abantu kanye nabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungazami ukunyundela futhi ukhiphe lesi senzo. Kungcono kakhulu uma ingane iqala amehlo akho. Ngendlela, ezinsukwini zakudala abantwana bavakashela ibhuloho kanye nabazali babo baze bafinyelele ekukhuleni, ngakho bababona behamba futhi befunda. Babelala egumbini elifanayo. Khuluma ngomphimbo, buza ukuthi yini ebalulekile futhi iyamthakazelisa kuye. Ungabi umbonisi, zama ukuba umngane wengane.