Ingabe kukhona ukucindezeleka ezinganeni? Yebo, ukucindezeleka kanye neuroses kuvamile ezinganeni nasebancane. Namuhla sizozama ukuqonda izimbangela zalesi simo futhi sinikeze abazali abakhathazekile iseluleko.
Ngesizathu esithile, sisetshenziselwa ukukholelwa ukuthi ukucindezeleka kuyinqwaba yabantu abadala. Uma kungazelelwe umuntu uqala ukuzwa ukungenakulinganiswa, ukubuthakathaka, ukukhathazeka, singamthola uma egijima. Kuvela ukuthi izingane zingase zihlupheke nalesi sifo ...
Ochwepheshe baqaphele lesi simo ngisho nasezinsaneni. Okuhlangenwe nakho kokuqala kokucindezeleka izingane zithola esikhathini esiyizinyanga eziyisithupha kuya ku-1.5. Lokhu kubangelwa ukuthi iqiniso lokuthi umama uqala ukondla ingane, kancane kancane ukugcoba kusukela esifubeni, ngisho nokuya emsebenzini, ukushaja ingane ugogo noma umfana. Ngalesi sikhathi ukulwa nokucindezeleka ungeluleka eyodwa kuphela - kaningi ngangokunokwenzeka futhi ukhulume kangcono nengane yakho.
Kule minyaka yobudala, lesi sifo kunzima ukunquma, singasiza kuphela ochwepheshe. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Konke lokhu kulandela ukuthi abazali abaqondi ingane encane njengomuntu ohlakaniphile, bambheka njengomncane futhi engazi isimo. Lokhu kulandela ukuthi isizathu salesi sifo sokuqala sokucindezeleka kubazali ngokwabo, abangabanaki izingane zabo.
Njengoba ingane ikhula, isimo sokucindezeleka siba lula kakhulu, ngoba izimpawu sezivele zibonakala kweso elibukhali: ukunganaki, nokungafuni ukuxhumana nabantu, nokunganaki ezweni elibazungezile.
Lapha izimbangela zesifo zihlukile.
Ukuze umfundi wesikole samabanga aphansi, ukucindezeleka kungabonakaliswa ngokungenakwenzeka kokulondoloza ukugxila okuphezulu, ukubonakala kwezinkinga zememori, nezinkinga zokuphumelela kwezemfundo ziqala.
Izingane ezinesifo sokucindezeleka zingahlukaniswa ngamaqembu amathathu:
• abafundi abangaba nobudlova kumfundisi, ukuphikisana nabalingani nabo ekilasini, bengagcini isiyalo esifundweni, bangakwazi ukulawula. Izingane ezinjalo zizikhohlisa ngokuzenzekelayo ukuzethemba.
• Abafundi, ngokubambisana, babhekane nezinto ezifundiswayo, kepha ngokuzumayo bangashintsha ukuziphatha kwabo, bangabi nandaba, bazibophezele ezweni labo elingaphakathi. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi isimiso sezinzwa somntwana asihambisani nomthwalo wokuqeqesha omkhulu noma ukucindezeleka ngokomzwelo.
• Ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ukuthi inhlalakahle yangaphandle (ukutadisha okuhle, ukuziphatha okuhle) kugcizelela ukungezwani kwangaphakathi. Abantwana besikole besaba ukuya ebhodini, bafunda isifundo esifundwe, basuke bengacabangi, ngokomzwelo basabela ekugxeka kancane ekhelini labo. Kancane kancane, ukwesaba ukungazilungiseleli izifundo, uthisha oqinile uyakhula ukungena esikoleni.
Ezinganeni, ukucindezeleka kubonakala, ikakhulukazi ekuphambanweni kwezimiso zokuziphatha: ingane iba yintukuthelo, ihlukumeze wonke umuntu, ngokuvamile ikhona amahlaya kunoma yikuphi, ngisho nakakhulu, isenzakalo. Ukugqugquzela ukuqala kwalesi sifo kungasebenza njengokucindezeleka. Lapho ubona umuntu omdala, uthando lokuqala, izivivinyo, ukuphikisana nabangani noma othisha, kubonakala sengathi akubalulekile, futhi kumuntu osemusha angase abe yinhlekelele.
Akekho umuntu okufanele aphazamiseke kakhulu ezindabeni zezingane, azihlekise, enze iziphetho ngokushesha, kungenjalo kungabangela imiphumela embi. Ukuze ugweme ukugula, abazali badinga nje ukuthanda ingane yabo ngaphandle kwemigodi, bekhululekile ukubonisa uthando lwabo, banakekele izinkinga zayo.
Umkhathi endlini kufanele ube nobungane kumntwana, ukuze ahlale efuna ukubuyela lapho ethanda khona futhi ehlonishwa khona, alalele umbono wakhe. Ikhaya liwumthombo wendawo yonke yokuphila, indawo lapho ungafihla khona ezinkingeni nasenkingeni.
Ngenhlanhla, ukucindezeleka kuphethwe, kodwa kungani ulwa nalo, uma ungakwazi ukulandela izinyathelo zokuzivikela, okungekho futhi okunzima kakhulu. Kuyadingeka kuphela, ngokulandela izincomo zodokotela, ukusekela isimiso sezinzwa zezingane ngamavithamini nokuhlela ukudla okugcwele okucebile amaprotheni. Ngokwemvelo, ekuvimbeleni nasekwelapheni ukucindezeleka ezinganeni, indima eyinhloko yilabo abazali. Kudingeka siqonde ukuxhumana nomntanakho, ulalele umbono wakhe kanye neseluleko, uvuselele uthando lwakhe, usize ekuxazululeni izinkinga. Ngamafuphi, ukwenza konke okwenza umntwana azizwe njengomuntu ogcwele, wafunda ukuphila ngokuvumelana naye kanye nezwe elizungezile. Ukucindezeleka kanye nezinzwa ezinganeni nasebancane - icala, njengoba odokotela bathi, lungalungiswa, kodwa kungcono ukuvimbela kakade esiteji sokuqala.