Uhlela izinhlelo, ufuna ukwabelana nazo zonke izinjabulo nezinselele zokuphila komndeni.
Kodwa, ngonyaka ozayo, kukhona ukuphikisana kokuqala, ukuxabana okubuwula, yiziphi zonke izingxabano, noma kunjalo, okufanayo. Bobabili bathukuthele! Isizathu? Yebo, cishe ngeke bakhumbule manje! Mhlawumbe ngenxa yekati noma inja, uma ngaleso sikhathi lo mbhangqwana wawungazange ube nezingane. Ziningi futhi zandisa ngokweqile. Khona-ke, ihora lidlula, futhi ucela intethelelo futhi ... noma umlingani wakhe uthethelela, noma uthatha inja / ikati, izitebhisi eziyizintandokazi futhi ugijime ngqo ehhovisi lokubhalisa ukuze afake isahlukaniso. Ngomzuzu nje, waqaphela ukuthi wayengafuni ukuhlala eboshiwe lobu buhlobo nokubhekana nokucindezeleka komndeni, okubonakala sengathi unamathela kuye kusukela isitembu sitholakala epasipoti.
Kudlula isikhathi. Futhi kubonakala sengathi zonke izimo zenkantolo sezivele zixazululwe futhi angeke azizisole ngesinqumo, kodwa ukuqonda ukuthi ukhona manje, noma kunjalo, kodwa usuke enesizungu kakhulu, enhliziyweni, esamhlupha. Uqala ukuphinda ucabangele izenzakalo ezenzekile, ubuyele esikhathini esedlule bese uzama ukuthola izizathu zesehlukaniso, uzitshela yena nabanye. Kufika isikhathi sokulinda. Uyesaba ukushintsha noma yini ekuphileni, enethemba lokuthi mhlawumbe uzobuya ngelinye ilanga futhi konke kuyoba njengangaphambili. Ihlanganisa imizwa yentukuthelo, intukuthelo, ukwesaba, ngakho konke lokhu kuthatha isimo sezungu eside.
Izibonelo ezinjalo zikhulu, izinkulungwane, izigidi! Kanye nezizathu zalokhu. Akekho olwahlukana nomshado. Ngezinye izikhathi akusakwazi ukugcina umshado, kodwa ukunqoba le nhlekelele futhi ukulayisha okusheshayo kwengqondo kusesandleni sakho.
Yeka ukuthi ungaphambuki kanjani, futhi isehlukaniso ukuwa kwamathemba nokuthembela maqondana nomuntu oseduze kakhulu. Yingakho, yonke le miqondo emibi kufanele uqale ukususa ekhanda lakho. Ukwahlukanisa yisilingo esinzima kunawo wonke, kepha akusilo ukuphela kokuphila, kungukuphela kwesinye sezigaba zalo, okukudambise, okwenze ube namandla futhi okuhlakaniphile. Ngakho cabanga ngokuthi ungenza kanjani isigaba esilandelayo sokuphila kwakho siphumelele kakhulu. Zama ukungapheli amandla! Ukuhlukanisa akusona isizathu sokuyeka ukuzinakekela futhi ukhale nje. Izinyembezi kulesi sikhundla ukuphendula okujwayelekile okwenzekayo, akudingeki uzivimbele, imizwelo engalindelekile izohlala isikhathi eside futhi ihlehlise isikhathi sokulayishwa kwengqondo ngemuva kwehlukaniso. Into esemqoka akukhona ukuyeka! Okokuqala, ukukhulula ngokwengqondo umlingani wakho wangaphambili nakho konke okukuxhumanisile. Zama ukushintsha isithombe, imininingwane yangaphakathi, ungalahle izinto ezithile ezikukhumbuza okwedlule noma ngisho nokuthuthela kwenye idolobha uma ungaxhunyiwe yizingane noma ezinye izibopho. Ukushintsha indawo yokuhlala kuzovula abantu abajwayele ukuxhumana nabo, amathemba, amathuba futhi bayokulondoloza emhlanganweni ongase ube nomyeni wangaphambili noma olahla imibono yabangane. Uma uqonda ukuthi ukukhulumisana okungajabulisayo akunakugwema, zama ukuzithoba ngokuthula kuzo zonke imibuzo bese unikeza izimpendulo ezanele. Kusukela ngemuva kokuhlukaniswa, uyinto yokubheka, ngisho nalabo bantu ababengeke banesithakazelo ekuphileni kwakho ngaphambili. Kalula nje, usuyisihloko esiyinhloko sokuxoxisana, kodwa ungakhathazeki, maduzane kakhulu ukunakwa kwakho kuzokwehlisa futhi ungakwazi ukuphefumula ukukhulula. Ungesabi ukuzithokozisa, hamba eholidini noma usebenzise iphupho lakho elibalulekile, lizosiza ukunciphisa ukucindezeleka. Ukuya kuma-movie, emidlalo yaseshashalazini, emapikiniki, emakilasini okuzilibazisa okuthandayo nazo ziyamukelwa.
Isinyathelo esilandelayo ukukhomba imigomo nezinhloso ezintsha. Zethembise ukuba unqobe zonke izinkinga futhi wakhe ikusasa eliqhakazile. Yenza uhlu lwezinguquko okufanele uyenze endleleni yakho yokuphila. Ungakhohlwa ukufaka kulolu hlelo amathuba okuvulela impilo yamahhala. Ngikholelwa, kuyoba nokuningi okunjalo! Ukulayishwa ngemuva kwesahlukaniso kunezici zayo ezinhle! Phela, akusize ukuthi abaningi abake bashadile bengazibopheli ngokwengeziwe ngokuzibophezela, kodwa bazinikezele ukuzimela.
Ukulayishwa kwengqondo ngemuva kwesahlukaniso yisikhathi eside ngokwanele, okungathatha cishe unyaka. Yiqiniso, isikhathi siphulukisa konke, kodwa uma emva kwalesi sikhathi isimo sakho esingokomzwelo singathuthuki noma unomuzwa wokuthi awukwazi ukubhekana nesimo sakho ngokwakho, kufanele ufune usizo ku-psychotherapist. Njengoba ukusabela okungakapheli kokungazinzi kwengqondo yengqondo kungaholela ezinkingeni zezempilo ezingathí sina.