ihlala ingaxazululwa futhi ekugcineni ikhula ibe ngumbuzo: "ukugcina umshado ongajabuli noma isahlukaniso kangcono?".
Ukuphila okuhlangene kuwumsebenzi onzima. Kuyadingeka ukuthi ufike nazo zonke izibopho ekuxazululeni imibuzo enjalo. Yiqiniso, okokuqala, kuyadingeka ukuthola ukuthi ingxenye yesibili icabanga ngani ngalokhu. Zama ukuqonda isimo ndawonye. Kungenzeka ukuthi oshade naye ubhekene nohlobo oluthile lwenkinga yangaphakathi, mhlawumbe unezinkinga zempilo noma ngomsebenzi. Ngakho-ke, kungase kube nokuhlukaniswa, ukucasula, isimo sengqondo esibi. Abanye abantu abathandeki ukwabelana nakho okuhlangenwe nakho, okubheka abanye ukuthi bangabathandi. Qaphela ngesigamu sakho, bese-ke, mhlawumbe, inkinga yokugcina umshado ongajabuli noma isahlukaniso uzowa ngokwawo. Noma kunjalo, isikhathi siphila ndawonye akusona isikhathi esibi kunazo zonke empilweni yakho?
Kwabanye, umshado ongajabuli uhlobo lwezintambo, "ijoka entanyeni." Ngempela, kufanelekile ukucabangela ukuthi udinga ukuqhubeka lobudlelwane. Ukubambisana okuzithandela kwabantu ababili abakhululekile kunethuba elikhulu lokuphila isikhathi eside kunomshado wokuba lula noma isidingo. Kodwa lesi simo asikho ithemba nanoma. Uma izinhlangothi zombili zingathola izikhathi ezimnandi, noma zizuze ngokwabo kule nyunyana, khona-ke isehlukaniso, njengendlela yokuxazulula inkinga, izobonakala ingeyona indlela efanele yokuphuma kule nkinga. Ekugcineni, ungafinyelela ekuvumelaneni okuzuzisayo. Kukhona abantu, ngokuvamile abantu abadinga ukuzizwa bekhululekile. Kumele baqiniseke ukuthi bangakwazi ukuhamba noma nini uma befisa. Futhi yilokho kuqiniseka okubagcina besondelene nomlingani. Kunzima ukuhlala nabantu abanjalo, kodwa kuyathakazelisa. Kukhona njalo inani elithile le-adrenaline, kanye nenkohliso yezinto ezintsha. Uma uqonda, lokhu kuyindlela enhle yokulondoloza umshado.
Kuyacaca ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ukubukeka kwemizwa kanye nemibono ukusondelana komuntu othandekayo kudonswe. Izinkinga zomkhaya zibhubhisa isimo sengqondo sokuthandana, isimiso sosuku nosuku sinciphisa imizwelo. Yilapho kufika isikhathi lapho bobabili abashadile bengenalutho. Kukhona isifiso sokungena kumbono omuhle wokudlala ngothando kanye nokuthandana futhi. Kuyinto enjani yokuhlolwa komshado wakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzoqondana, ingabe uzohlangana, noma udonga ngokwakho odongeni lwakho nodonga lokunganakwa bese uqala ukuphila impilo yakho. Kuze kube yilapho, ekugcineni, unganqume ukuthi kungcono ukuhlukanisa, ukuphindaphinda ungene olwandle lwezinjabulo zokuphila mahhala. Futhi kungani ngidinga ukuchitha isikhathi ngibheka okuhlangenwe nakho okusha? Bheka eduze kwakho kakade unomuntu oye wafunda kahle. Uyazi ukuthi yini ongayilindela kuye, wazi imikhuba yakhe, ubuthakathaka, ukuthanda kwakhe. Zama ukudlala kuso. Shintsha wena, shintsha imvelo, shintsha isithombe. Kancane kancane, umlingani wakho uzothathwa emdlalweni owawuqale. Ngokumangazayo, uzothola izimfanelo zakhe ezintsha, ezingakaze zibekwe ngisho nokusola. Ngeke nje uphumule kahle futhi ujabule, uzokwazi ukugwema isahlukaniso, ugcine okuthandekayo kakhulu kokubili. Lokhu kuyasiza kakhulu kunokuqala kusukela ekuqaleni.
Ukulondolozwa komshado yibhizinisi labo bobabili bomshado. Sidinga ukuhlola ngokucophelela isimo samanje. Yiqiniso, kunezimo lapho umshado ongajabuli ungakulungi ukugcina. Konke kuxhomeke kubantu ngokwabo. Ngaphambi kokuthatha isinqumo sokwenza okuthile, izikhathi eziyisikhombisa ukukala. Ngezinye izikhathi udinga nje ukuthatha ikhefu komunye nomunye, isikhashana, ukukala konke. Akudingekile ukuthi lokhu kuhlale ezindaweni ezahlukene. Ungakwazi nje ukuzama ukuhumusha ubuhlobo engxenyeni enobuhlobo. Yeka ukuthukuthelelana, ukwenza izimangalo. Asiqapheli ukuthi sinake izintambo eziphathekayo. Kancane kancane ukuqoqa, lesi sifo singaba yisidumbu, singabhubhisi ngokungabonakali i-apple enhle yothando evela ngaphakathi. Zama ukuba nomusa komunye nomunye, futhi mhlawumbe akusikho konke okulahlekile, into eyenza ukuthi ukhethe kusuka kulowo muntu wonke umuntu.