Wonke umuntu uthola izindaba mayelana nokugcwaliswa komndeni esikhathini esizayo ngendlela yabo. Omunye ujabule futhi ukhalela ngenjabulo, ebambe ukuhlolwa okuhlosiwe ngemichilo emibili, omunye umuntu uthukuthele futhi othukuthele, bathi, hhayi ngesikhathi, othile ufihla futhi akabonakali imizwelo yakhe, ngoba akaqondi ngokushesha ukuthi kwenzekani. Futhi kwenzeka into enkulu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuzwakala kanjani ukukhathazeka. Kuhle, ngoba kusukela ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa ngokusebenzisa impilo yakho, umugqa owawuhlukanisa okwesikhashana ngaphambi nangemva kudlulile. Futhi manje konke kuyoba okuhlukile - umthwalo womuntu omusha, njengomthetho, ushiya umshicileli kokubili umlingisi nesimo sengqondo ekuphileni. Futhi ungesabi ngakho, konke kungokwemvelo, konke kuhamba ngokuvumelana necebo. Futhi konke kuyoba kuhle!
Ngikhulelwe!
Akunandaba ukuthi ngabe ulungiselela ukukhulelwa noma kwaba isimanga kuwe, ukucasula kwalo ukucindezeleka kwangempela kowesifazane. Ngenani lezinguquko - endleleni yokuphila, futhi ekucabangeni - ukulindelwa kwengane kushaya wonke amarekhodi. Umshado noma ukuguqulwa komsebenzi noma ifulethini akuthinti owesifazane ngokujulile futhi akuwutholi ngokuzwakalayo njengezindaba ukuthi maduzane uzoba ngumama. Kunjengokungathi ngokuzumayo uzithathele futhi uthuthele endaweni yokuhlala unomphela ezweni elingajwayelekile kuwe. Izazi zengqondo ngaphandle kwesizathu zibiza ikhomishana yokuqala isikhathi sokutholwa kwengane. Yebo, ukuthatha umntwana empilweni yakho, kungathatha amasonto ambalwa. Futhi konke ngenxa yokuthi kusengaphambili kuphazamisa i-specter yesikhathi esizayo, lapho ungawazi ukuthi yini ekulindele. Mhlawumbe leli gama eliyinhloko lapha "alingaziwa" - ngakho-ke ukukhathazeka nokwesaba: Ingabe ngizoba ngumama omuhle? Ngizokwazi yini ukubeletha ingane enempilo? Ukuzalwa kwengane kuyothinta kanjani ubuhlobo bami nomyeni wami? Sizokwazi yini ukunikeza ingane konke esikudingayo?
Injabulo yakho iyaqondakala futhi ilungile, into esemqoka akufanele uziphakamise, kepha ukuxazulula izinkinga uma ufaka. Futhi qala nge ... ukukhuluma noma ukubhalela ingane yakho.
Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuba ulungise ukuqondisa kwengqondo yabesifazane abakhulelwe ekubelethweni, futhi wamukele futhi uvumelane nomqondo wokuthi ingane isivele ikhona, usevele kakade nawe. Khuluma naye, njengokungathi uyisondelene nayo nayo yonke umngane oqondayo. Ubheka, futhi i-toxicosis izodlula. Uyini ubudlelwane obuphakathi kwe-toxicosis nokwamukelwa? Ososayensi basaphikisana ngezimbangela ze-toxicosis ye-trimester yokuqala. Yebo, kubonakala sengathi kuyisenzo sokuthi "i-alien genetic material", okungukuthi ingane yakho, ngoba uhamba naye futhi ubaba ube yingxenye yokuthi ezingeni lezinto eziphilayo zibonakala njengento ehlukile. Kodwa kungani abanye besifazane bengenayo i-toxicosis nhlobo, amasonto achitha ekutholeni "umngane omhlophe"? Ezinye izazi zengqondo zithi ukubonakaliswa kwe-toxicosis kuhlobene ngokuqondile nokutholwa kokukhulelwa. Ngamanye amazwi, i-toxicosis ezingeni lomzimba ibonisa ukungabaza, ukukhathazeka nokungaqiniseki kowesifazane ukuthi usekulungele okwenzekayo. Futhi lokhu kuvamile.
Wonke umuntu unezizathu zakhe zokukhathazeka. Futhi kuzomele uzame ukuzola futhi uvumelane nawe. Okokuqala, ukuvuma ukuthi ingane isivele ikhona, ukukhulelwa ngeke "kuxazululwe", okusho ukuthi kufanelekile ukuxazulula phansi nokuphumula, emva kwakho konke .Imizwelo yokuziphatha ayixazululi noma yini, yithinte kuphela isimo sengqondo. Okwesibini, cabanga ngalokho okuzoshintsha empilweni yakho nokuthi kungani ukwethusa.Bhala kule kholomu ubuhle nokukhathazeka kokubukeka komntwana emndenini wakho, chaza izinkinga nezindlela zokuzixazulula, isibonelo, nginovalo lokuthi ngeke kube nemali eyanele, ngakho mina nomyeni wami sanquma ukugcina imali kuyo yonke imiholo ekuzalweni kwengane nezinyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala Ngikholelwa, azikho izinkinga ezibulalayo, kungcono nje, mhlawumbe, ngenkathi ukwesaba kubo, awuboni ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nazo.
Ngokuvamile ukungazinzi kwezezimali okubangela ukwesaba okukhulu ngesikhathi sokulungiswa kwengqondo kwabesifazane abakhulelwe ekubelethweni. Futhi inkulumo ethandwayo ethi "uNkulunkulu wanikeza ingane, uzonikeza nokuthi yini okumdliwayo" ngandlela-thile ayiduduzi wonke umuntu. Mhlawumbe, ngoba "ukudla" okungenalo izindleko ezinkulu ekunakekeleni ingane. Ukudla okunomsoco nje, ingane engaphezu kwengane, kuhlale kukhona okudliwayo. Futhi uqala ukubala konke okunye - ukudiliva, izindiza, izingane zamoto, izicathulo zezingubo, izinsizakalo zezingane, izinsizakalo, izikhungo zokuthuthukiswa, emva kwakho konke, futhi yisikhathi sokubamba ikhanda lakho.
Amanani ayakhuphuka usuku nosuku, ukukhuphuka kwamandla emali kusuke kungabonakali, futhi usizo lukahulumeni alukwazi ukubizwa ngokuthi lubonakala kangaka. Bala kuphela kuwe. Futhi akuyona into engalungile, ngoba ingane yindoda yakho hhayi isimo. Uma sicabanga "ngokungaqiniseki kahle", isintu sasizofa esikhathini eside esidlule, ngikholelwa ngaso sonke isikhathi - emlandweni wamazwe nabantu ngabanye - kukhona ithuba lokubheka ukuthi akufanelekile ukuzalwa kwezingane. Ngakho-ke, ungazalanga? Yiqiniso, ubelethe.
Kodwa ungalindeli isimo sezulu olwandle, enethemba lokuthi olunye lwezinsuku ezinomlilo uzowela efa elivela kumalume, ozoxazulula zonke izinkinga. Sidinga ukuthatha isinyathelo uma, okwamanje, awunakekeli okwamanje. Qala ukuhlehlisa manje, ngisho noma kubonakala kuwe ukuthi yini ongayiphindela yi-penny. Mhlawumbe, maduzane lokhu kopeck ngeke kube ngokwanele kuwe. Hlala phansi nomyeni wakho bese ubhala uhlelo lwezezimali ezinyangeni ezizayo, ucabange ukuthi ungayisindisa kuphi, futhi lapho ungakwazi khona ukugcina imali, lapho ungathola khona imali eyengeziwe, yiziphi izindleko ezizayo ezidingeka ngempela, futhi ngaphandle kwakho ongakwenza ngaphandle kwakho. Ngendlela, unakekela isinkwa sansuku zonke, njengombuso, indawo esengozini yabantu, eshaya izindaba zokukhulelwa komama. Ngamanye amazwi, uma owesifazane, ecabanga ngomntanakhe, esaba: "Ngingabe ngizoba ngumama omuhle?", Indoda iyaqhubeka: "Ngingayisekela yini umndeni?". Futhi nganoma iyiphi enye indlela, eqinisweni, ngaphezu kokwandisa izindleko zomndeni, uzoba nekhefu lokubeletha, okusho ukuthi - susa umholo wakho kumabhajethi womndeni. Umthwalo wezimali uwela emahlombe endoda. Kodwa ungenzi lokhu kube yinhlekelele. Konke kunqotshwa, kungaba khona isifiso.
Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukulondoloza, kungaba kuhle ukuba ube nesiko lokubala izindleko. Ngezinye izikhathi ukubala okuqakathekileko konke okuchitha isikhathi ngenyanga noma emibili kuholela kulo mbhangqwana ekutholeni okumangalisayo ukuthi imali eningi igeleza njengesihlabathi ngeminwe, akukho ndawo futhi akunandaba. Kuvela, futhi akudingeki ulondoloze okuningi, udinga nje "ukuhlunga" ukusetshenziswa kwemali, ukunciphisa i-athikili yezindleko ezingalindelekile kanye ne "Wishlist" yesikhashana.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, akuyona yonke into ocabanga ukuthi iyadingeka, udinga ngempela. Isibonelo, ukotini nokulala okuhlangene nabazali akudingi ingane, futhi esikhundleni somqhudelwano ungathenga ukuthungwa okufakwe imfashini kungekudala, okuyinto izikhathi eziningana ezishibhile. Awufuni ukushiya lezi zinto zendlu encane? Buza phakathi kwabahlobo abanabantwana abancane. Ngokuqinisekile banokuningi kwalokho asebekudingayo kakade, futhi ulungile nje. Futhi bona ngokwabo bayothokoza uma ubahambisa (mahhala noma ngemali ekhethiwe) kusuka kulezi zinto.
Ulwazi nokungazi
Uma ulwazi luhlanganisa, khona-ke ukwesaba kuyinto engalungile: kungcono umama ozayo uyaqonda ukuthi kwenzekani kuye manje futhi kuzokwenzeka esikhathini esizayo (ngesikhathi sokubeletha, ezinyangeni zokuqala zokuqhuma kwempilo), ukungabaza okuncane nokukhathazeka. Yiqiniso, ukukhulelwa akusona isifo, futhi ukuzala, akudingeki ukuba uqedele isikhungo sezokwelapha, kodwa ukuqeqeshwa kwengqondo nokuqala ngokomzimba kufanele kube. Ungathembeki ngengozi, ngakho uzibeka engozini. Kodwa ungakwazi, ngokubhalisa ukwesekwa kwemvelo nempilo yakho, zize uzize. Ukubeletha kuyinkinga kanzima kokubili umama nomntwana, kodwa akusiyo into ebusayo, njengamanye ama-mummy ngezinye izikhathi achaza, ngendlela, njengendlela, labo abangakalungi ngokwabo, ngakho-ke, babhekene nobuhlungu futhi Abafundisi ekulungiseleleni ukubeletha baqinisekisa ukuthi ungazala ngaphandle kobuhlungu!
Nguwe kuphela okudingayo ukuthi wazi kanjani. Futhi ezifundweni zabazali abasha, lokhu kufundiswa: imikhuba yokuphefumula, amasu angewona imithi analgesia - lapha iyakwazi ukuhleleka kokulwa, izinto eziyisisekelo zokuzihlalisa, zifakwa ezinyathelweni zokubeletha nokuthi kwenzekani esigabeni ngasinye. Kulula kakhulu ukuzilawula wena nomzimba wakho uma wazi ukuthi kungani, kungani. Ukufundisa ezikoleni ezinjalo kuvame ukuhlukaniswa ngezigaba ezifundisayo futhi ezisebenzayo, futhi ukuvimbela ngokweqile kuhlukaniswe izingxoxo ngokukhulelwa, ukubeletha nokunakekela ingane esanda kuzalwa.