Yebo, kunjalo! Ingane kumele ibe yinto engcolile! Izingane ezinjalo kuphela zihlala impilo egcwele. Kuphela okuvela kubo kukhula okukhanyayo, ubuntu obudala.
Phinda ufunde ngokulandelana kwabantu abaningi: akekho kubo ebuntwaneni kwakungeyona ingane enhle. Ngokwesibonelo, uCharles Darwin, owayenesithakazelo kuphela ekudubula, ephikisana nezinja futhi ephethe amagundane, wabikezela ukuthi uzoba yihlazo emndenini wakhe. U-Helmholtz, ongazange abonise intshiseko ngezifundo zakhe, othisha bavuma ukuthi baphuphuthekile. UNewton wayenamanothi enyanyekayo e-physics nasezibalo. Abaningi balabo abaye bafinyelela ekuphakameni kwenkazimulo nokuqashelwa komhlaba, ebuntwaneni, babephindaphindiwe: uGogol noGoncharov, uDostoevsky noBunin, uKhekhov no-Ehrenburg ... Kubonakala ukuthi izici ezingenakukwazi ukubhekana nezikhathi ezithile ngekharikhulamu yesikole, zazingenasiphelo, azikwazi ukugxila kulokho okudingekile futhi ecasula abazali babo.
Kuyini ukungalaleli kwezingane?
Ngakho-ke yini ukungalaleli kwezingane, ngenxa yokuthi zonke izizukulwane zabazali ezintsha zihlupheka futhi yini ephoqelelwa yilo lonke isizukulwane esisha sezingane? Kusukela ekubukeni kwabazali, ukungalaleli kuyinto ecasula abantu abadala. Futhi cishe yonke into iyangicasula! "Ungakhulumi ngemilenze yakho!" - futhi ukhuluma. Ngakho akusizi lutho. "Ungamkhathazi uyihlo ngemibuzo yakho yobuwula!" - futhi uyabamba. "Angenakuzizwa!" Waqhekeza ingilazi - "Nelukh! Bathi kuwe: Ungaphenduki! "Wawa wawa phansi, wathi:" Angikuthandi! Ukukhuluma okufanayo nawe: ungagijimi! "Abazali bonke bahlangenwe nakho okufanayo. Ubheka ingane ehlaziyayo kuma-hysteric futhi ucabanga ngesaba: "Ingabe kuyoba njalo lokhu ...?"
Singaba kanjani?
Yebo, kuyohlale njalo njalo. Futhi nakakhulu nakakhulu! Uma uqhubeka ubala kude nawe. Uma ungashintshi ingqondo yakho ngokungalaleli kwengane. Ngokuvamile le nkinga ibhekwa njengesikhundla sabazali, okungukuthi, indlela yokubhekana nengane engafanele, indlela yokuyilawula, ukwenza ukuphila kwabazali kube nokuthula kancane.
Encwadini edumile kunazo zonke ezinikezwe kule nkinga ("Ingane Engathandeki" kaDokotela Dobson), kuxoxwa ngokuvumelana nokujeziswa kwezingane. I-recipe inikezwa (ngempela impela!), Indlela yokwenza ingane engenangqondo ibuhlungu kabi, kuyilapho ingakhuli kahle. Futhi ngifuna ukumemeza: "Yeka ukuthi ukuthuthuka okude kangakanani!" Udokotela (!) Ukwabelana ngokuhlangenwe nakho okungenabungozi kwezingane ... Futhi nabazali abaningi manje bafakazela ngenjabulo le ncwadi: "Kuvele ukuthi ungakwazi ukushaya izingane! Futhi ukuphamba kuyasiza kakhulu! Futhi kuze kube sesikhathini esithile ingane ayicasuli ngaso sonke isikhathi. "
Khona-ke kungani bekhala kangaka, uma kubasiza kubo futhi kungabi kabi?
Yebo, ungayigcina ingane ibe yinsimbi, ungamfundisa indlela yokuhamba ngentambo ephethe ukubetha, ukubopha imilenze yakhe bese ubuza imibuzo engenangqondo. Kodwa ... ngolunye usuku ingane ekhulile izokhumbula konke lokhu. Ngakho, akukho izinyathelo eziqinile eziqeda inkinga yokungalaleli. Uhamba nje. Futhi esikhathini esizayo esiseduzane - esikhathini sokuguquka. Nakuba ... khona-ke ungakwazi ukuphonsa konke phansi esikoleni, esangweni, kumakhompiya amabi, kumathelevishini angcolile ... Hhayi, kuthiwani uma ungawucindezeli le nkinga bese uzama ukuyixazulula ngaphandle kokulibaziseka ngaphandle kokusebenzisa iseluleko "uDkt" omkhulu uDkt.
Eqinisweni, kuhle uma ingane ikwazi ukuthi yini ayifunayo nokuthi ayini. Usitshela okuhle, okubi, okuwusizo, nokuthi yini eyingozi.
Ingane ephilayo noma idonsa?
Yebo, abazali abakhathele, behlushwa izinkinga zokuphila, ngifuna okungenani izingane zabo zijabule.
Ngifuna ukuwabona ehlanzekile, ngamathunga azungezile, ukuze abantwana abanesidlo badle imfino yabo bese bedlala ngokuthula ekhoneni labo. Futhi ungaboni. Futhi abazange benze umsindo. Akazange futhi alimale. Futhi uzofika ocingweni lokuqala. Futhi babezokuthatha amathoyizi. Futhi ngesikhathi sokulala. Futhi babezoletha ezinhlanu esikoleni. Futhi babezokhipha imfucuza ... Ngesizathu esithile abantu abaningi abadala bakholelwa ukuthi izingane kufanele zibe njalo! Kufanele ngoba abazali bafuna kanjalo, ngoba bekhululekile kangaka, bekhululekile. Phela, abazali beletha abantwana babo emhlabeni, babondla futhi baphuza, futhi izingane, nazo, zifanele zikhokhelwe lezi zibusiso. Ukukhokha nge-OBEDENCE, okungukuthi, ukukhishwa kwentando yomuntu. Akusekho, akukho okungaphansi.
Kodwa akuzange kuzalwe ingane engathanda ukulalela, othanda ukuhlala ngemuva kwezifundo kunokudlala; ngubani emva komdlalo abe namandla okuhlanza amathoyizi; ngubani owayezofika ehlanzekile emgwaqweni; owayengafuni ukukhipha ubaba e-TV, nomama kusuka efonini; ngubani ongathanda ukugcoba iphepheni njalo ngoMgqibelo, futhi athathe i-trash bin njalo kusihlwa.
Kusukela ekubukeni kwengane
Ake sibheke ukungalaleli kwezingane kusuka esikhundleni sabo. Futhi kuvela ukuthi "ezinengi" ezinganeni ezingekho ukuthanda. Yebo, kunzima kubo ukuba bangakhulumi ngezinyawo zabo, ngoba amandla abashaya ngokukhiya. Yebo, lo mdlalo uthakazelisa kakhulu kunezifundo (ingabe ucabanga ngempela?). Yebo, emva komdlalo basuke bekhathele kakhulu, njengowe emva komsebenzi, ngoba umdlalo wabo uyinto efanayo. Ngakho ukususa amathoyizi ezinganeni akunakwenzeka ngempela ...
Kodwa uma esikhundleni sokusikhahlela nokusikhuza ekungalalelweni, sizosiza ingane ukuba ibhekane nalolu daba oluyinkimbinkimbi, uyosibonga futhi ngesinye isikhathi siyophendula kwisicelo sethu futhi sisisize. Kuphela ngale ndlela (hhayi nge-oda) ukuthi ufunda ukuzwelana nokusiza. Mtshele: "Uma unesikhathi, sicela uyenze," uzokwenza. Noma ubuze: "Uma ungakhathali, ngisize, ube umngane" - futhi uzogijima ukukusiza. Into esemqoka ukucela ukufudumala, ngobumnene, ngokomuntu. Phela, ingane ayiyena robot noma isosha, kodwa umuntu OPHILAYO. Same njengoba sinawe. Umuntu ophilayo othanda izinto zakhe siqu, ubumnene bakhe nobumnene bakhe, ubuthakathaka bakhe futhi, uma uthanda, i-oddities. Yebo, lokhu kuyamangaza kubazali abaningi! Futhi zonke lezi zici ziqala ukuvela ekuqaleni kakhulu, ngisho nasekuqaleni komntwana. Omunye ubamba ubumnandi ubusuku bonke futhi uholele abazali ukukhathala, omunye uyamemeza lapho egalelwe emanzini okugeza, owesibili uma ephuma emanzini, kanti lo ulandela ubisi ngaphansi kuka Strauss waltz ... Yebo, bonke bayaphila futhi bahluke kakhulu.
Ingane ihlale ilungile
Kodwa kuphela ingane ezokhuluma, maduzane izinkulumo zakhe ezithandayo ziyoba "Angifuni!" Futhi "Ngeke!". Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, impilo emindenini eminingi iba umzabalazo wangempela. Ekulweni akulingani ... Ngenxa yokuthi umama angamphoqa ingane ibe yinkinga enenzondo, futhi akakwazi ukwenza okufanayo nomama wakhe othandekayo. Ngenxa yokuthi ubaba angakwazi ukugxilisa ingane ecasulayo enhliziyweni yakhe, kodwa, ingane, ayikwazi ukwenza okufanayo nobaba ... Ngakho-ke ingane encane ingabaphikisa amandla abantu abadala? Ngikhathazekile kuphela "ANGIFUNA!" Futhi "ANGIKHO!" Ngisho noma unayo. Futhi kufanele sijabule!
Ngempela, ukungalaleli kubonakaliswa ubuntu obuthile. Umuntu onombono futhi akesabi ukukusho. Ngisho noma lo muntu eneminyaka emibili nje kuphela futhi uvele nje ephuma emabhokisini. Lo muntu oziqaphelayo, lokhu okusho ngokucacile umuntu ukuveza umbono wakhe ngokucacile kunoma yisiphi isenzakalo. Yebo, ukungalaleli akukubi, njengoba abazali abaningi bakholelwa. Eqinisweni, kuhle uma ingane ikwazi ukuthi yini ayifunayo nokuthi ayini. Usitshela okuhle, okubi, okuwusizo, nokuthi yini eyingozi.
Ukubeletha inhliziyo, abazali bangavuma bona ngokwabo ukuthi cishe zonke izimo ingane iqinisile! Ukungalaleli kwakhe kubonakaliswa yi-innate HEALTHY SENSE.
Yebo, wenqaba ukudla, ngoba akalambile. Akafuni ukugqoka, ngoba akabandayo. Yebo, uyaphambuka ngokumbeka embhedeni, ngoba akakhathele okwamanje futhi akafuni ukulala. Ngakho-ke kungani thina, bazali, singazitshela? Kungani kunciphisa impilo yengane yenjabulo nencazelo? Ake simnike ithuba lokulamba, ukuthuthumela ngaphansi kwemvula, ukuze sithole isihlabathi nesobumba, ukugijima futhi sidlale ngokwanele, ukuze kamuva aphule iphunga lesinkwa esimnyama ngesifiso futhi alale kahle.
Ngokungalaleli kwakhe okunenkani ingane iphikisana nenjongo yokuphila. Futhi umntwana onjalo ufanelwe konke ukuhlonishwa ngisho nokuhlonishwa, futhi akuzona neze izinkathazo eziyingozi, hhayi ukugxeka nokuqhekeka, njengoba ngokuvamile, alas, kwenzeka ... Kuyiphutha futhi kuyingozi ukubukela ingane njengento ephansi, okuyinto kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi izindleko futhi ukuqeqesha! Ingabe ufuna ukuthi kufanele "acindezele isigqila ngedonsa"? Kodwa emndenini lapho ingane ifundiswa khona ngengqondo ye-slavish. Okokuqala emndenini, ngoba umndeni uwenza lo muntu, hhayi inkulisa, isikole, njll Inkulisa, isikole sihlola kuphela umuntu: yini efanele?
Ukungalaleli kuyinto imvubelo lapho ubuntu buvela khona
Futhi kangcono imvubelo, inamandla imvubelo, amaqhubu amaningi kanye nokuxabana emndenini. Kodwa uma sifuna ukuba ingane yethu ikhule ibe ngumuntu osebenzayo, odala, ngeke sigcwalise le mibiliso evundile ngamanzi abandayo wezinkolelo nezijeziso. Yebo, ngezingane ezithobelayo zithulile, kodwa zingenambala. Ngenkathi yokungalaleli, kodwa ezithakazelisayo. Nge-noughty ungakhathazeki!
Ake sibheke ingane njengomdali olinganayo wokuphila kwethu okuvamile. Ungaphuli intando yakhe, kodwa ujabule ngokubonakaliswa kwayo. Ungamangaleli ngokuzimela, kodwa ukhuthaze. Ungathokozi ngokuhluleka kwakhe, ungahlaziyi, kodwa khuthaza. Masibe nenhlonipho eyisiqalo kwengane yakho, noma ngabe yincane kangakanani. Vumelana nomntwana, uqaphele ukufaneleka kwakhe, mnike kuye - akusikho konke ukuhlazisa futhi kungenamahloni. Lokhu kuvamile, kungumuntu, futhi kusondeza kuphela kumntwana wethu. Futhi-ke, "wena, wena, ongalaleli!" Uzoshiya lexicon yethu, futhi ngokuphindaphindiwe uzofika enenhlonipho: "Awu, makube yindlela yakho, kid."