Ukwakheka komuntu wengane eminyakeni yokuqala eyisithupha yokuphila kwakhe kuyisigaba esibalulekile ekuthuthukiseni ubuntu bomuntu. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi sokuphila kukhona ukuthuthukiswa okusebenzayo nokubunjwa kwengqondo yengane, umntwana angabanjwa, anentshisekelo futhi aqeqeshwe ngaphandle kokugqugquzela okhethekile. Noma kunjalo, lokhu akusho ukuthi ingane idinga kuphela ukuba ifundiswe futhi iqeqeshwe, ungakhohlwa ukuthi ubuntwana, obubalabala futhi obukhanyayo, kuphela kanye kuphela ekuphileni kwakho, ngakho konke okwenziwa ngumntanakho kufanele kumlethe injabulo nokujabula okukhulu.
Njengomthetho, abazali abaningi eminyakeni yokuqala yokuphila kwengane yabo baqala ukufunda nokuthuthukiswa ngokwabo, nokuthi sekuyisikhathi sokufunda okuthile okumele bakhumbule ngaphambi kwesikole, uma sekuvele "oh ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sini." Khona-ke ukufunda okusebenzayo kuqala, okungekho okuletha izinzuzo ezithile. Ngikhumbula isimo lapho ngivakashela abangane bami, futhi amadodakazi abo kwadingeka afunde itafula lokubuyabuyelela. Yeka ukuthi kudabukisayo kangakanani ukubuka leso sithombe lapho ingane enezinyembezi ifundisa ithebhulethi yokuphindaphinda, kodwa ngenxa yokuthi intombazane ayikhumbuli konke kahle, abazali bayo bamemeza. Uma ubheka umsuka wenkinga, cishe cishe kuzodingeka uhlasele abazali ngokwabo, ngoba kwakungeyona ubuvila ukufunda "ababili nambili", futhi babeyivila eminyakeni embalwa eyedlule ngesimo semidlalo esithakazelisayo nesidlisayo ukuletha ingane yakho ibe yusizo ukuze uthole ukwaziswa okuzayo esikhathini esizayo.
Ngakho-ke, ukuze ungafihli izinyembezi, ama-shams nama-dentures, akumele kube buhlungu ukuthatha ukuthuthukiswa okubalulekile nokuhambisana nokuziphatha, ukukhuliswa nokubunjwa kobuntu bokuqala, futhi lokhu kufanele kwenziwe ngokusuka kuma-diapers. Uma ingane yakho kakade ingakabikho ukuqala kokunciphisa, ungaphelelwa ithemba, njengoba bethi: "Ukuphuza kangcono kunokungalokothi". Kunoma yikuphi, konke ukuqeqeshwa nokuthuthukiswa kwengane, kuqala ngaphambi kwesikole, kuzoletha izithelo zayo eziwusizo esikhathini esizayo.
Ukuthuthukiswa nokubunjwa komuntu wengane kuze kube unyaka owodwa
Ingane ifunda izwe elizungeze unyaka wokuqala wokuphila kwakhe, izici eziyisisekelo zokubona okubonakalayo kwezwe, inkulumo kanye namakhono omzimba, nokuthuthukiswa kwengqondo yakhe kufezeke. Ukukhulumisana nomntwana phakathi nalesi sikhathi sokuphila kwakhe kuyisici esibalulekile sokukhuliswa. I-Lullaby foam, ukumomama komama, ukumbamba ngobumnene - yilokho okudingekayo kakhulu ebusheni. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umama akhulume yonke into, ngakho-ke ingane iqoqa ulwazi lwakhe oluthile. Futhi uma ucabanga ukuthi lapho ingane ingasho lutho, ke ayiqondi lutho, ngakho-ke, cishe awuqondi ingane yakho. Ingane engaphansi kweminyaka yobudala iyazi, iyaqonda futhi icabanga okungaphezu kwalokho ongakucabanga. Kuwe kuncike kuphela ukuthi ulwazi luni lwekhwalithi nolusizo olunikezayo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu, uma uneminyaka engaphezu konyaka, ukuqonda imidlalo yokuqala yokuthuthukisa, isibonelo, ukwengeza ama-pyramids, ama-cubes, ngesikhathi semidlalo ukudala ubuhlobo phakathi kwesenzo nesiphumo salesi senzo. Isibonelo, uma uphonsa into ethile, ihlale iwa. Iwa kanjani? Loud futhi hhayi kakhulu. Okusho ukuthi, into iyawa futhi ikhiqize umsindo, kuye ngokuthi yikuphi okukwenziwa kuyo, nangokwenyuka kwayo. Kubonakala sengathi kusukela ezinkambisweni ezijwayele isikhathi eside ungenza iziphetho eziningi ezibalulekile, yilokho kanye okwenziwe yingane yakho. Isibonelo, lapho inja ibamba ngaphandle kwefasitela, ke-ke, kungenzeka ukuthi awuboni, ngoba iminyaka eminingi isivele isetshenziswe kulezi zomsindo. Umntanakho, njengombuso, ubamba ngokucacile izinja ezikhazimulayo, neminye imisindo eminingi, ngoba kuye kuyindlela yokwazi umhlaba owuzungezile.
Isikhathi sokuthuthukiswa kwengane kusukela ngonyaka owodwa kuya eminyakeni emithathu
Ngemuva konyaka, umuntu angasho, ukuthuthukiswa okusheshayo kwengane kuqala. Uqala ukugcwalisa ngokugcwele amagama akhe. Futhi ngisho noma ingane yakho ingathandi ukukhuluma, ungaphelelwa ithemba. Zonke izingane zihlukile. Mane nje ngesineke uqhubeke ukhuluma naye ngakho konke okusemhlabeni. Uyakuqonda kahle futhi, kholwa mina, uzwa futhi uzwe.
Kusukela unyaka owodwa, lo mdlalo udlala indima ebaluleke ekukhuliseni nasekubunzeni ubuntu. Izingane ezisencane nasebancane zihlanganyela emidlalweni ehlukahlukene yokufunda lapho ingane isebenza khona amathoyizi amnandi, izinto ezilula, kuqala ukwenza izenzo ezilula (ukuguqula, ukuphonsa, njll), futhi kamuva kubukela izinguquko kumathoyizi (ukuchithwa kwezakhiwo kusuka kubhubhu , kanye namapiramidi, ukuhamba kwamathoyizi wewashi, njll) nokuzama ukusungula imbangela yalezi zinguquko.
Kule minyaka, indima ekhulayo idlala imidlalo ehilela ukunyakaza okuningi ngangokunokwenzeka. Ungayinaki incwadi yalomntwana. Indodakazi yami eneminyaka engama-1 nezinyanga ezintathu yathandana nezincwadi, okwenza umama, ubaba nomkhulu bafunde lezi zincwadi. Ungathengi izincwadi ezinenjongo, ezikwazisa, ngokulayisha kombhalo omkhulu. Kwabancane, kunezincwadi eziningi-amakhadi anemidvwebo emifushane, izincwadi zesithombe ezinamagama ezilwane, izinto zendlu, izitshalo, amathoyizi, njll. Lokhu kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokuthuthukiswa zakuqala.
Ekukhuliseni ingane, kubalulekile ukukhumbula nokuzijwayeza ngezimiso zokuziphatha nemithetho yokuziphatha. Ungakhohlwa ukutshela ingane yakho: "isifiso esimnandi" lapho ehlala phansi ukuze adle noma "ebusuku obuhle" lapho elala. Tshela ingane yakho lokho ongakwenza futhi ongakwazi ukukwenza. Ingane kufanele iqonde kakade ukuthi akuyona yonke into ayifunayo ukwenza okuhle futhi evunyelwe. Kulapha kuphela ukucasula futhi ukujezisa lokho okungafanelekile, ngoba ingane izoyeka ukuqonda izwi, futhi ijwayele ukuklabalasa nokujezisa ngokomzimba, njengokukhulumisana okuvamile. Okufanayo kusebenza emfundweni yabantwana abaneminyaka yobudala engenkulisa. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukwakha ubuhlobo obunobungane nabathembekile phakathi kwabazali nezingane zabo.
Ubudala kusukela unyaka kuya kwesithathu bubonakala futhi ukuthi ingane ngokuvamile ihlambalaza futhi ingenangqondo. Lesi isici sonyaka owanikwa. Abazali badinga ukubekezela okukhulu, ngoba ingane encane iyazi kuphela izwe elizungezile. Futhi awudingi ukukhulisa ingane nge "isanqante nokunamathela" indlela, indumiso kanye nokuvinjelwa, ngoba nawe usemncane futhi wadlulisela isigaba esifanayo sokuthuthukiswa kwakho. Uma unqabela ngokwengeziwe, ingane izokwenza okuningi ngokubi. Akumangalisi ukuthi zithi isithelo esivinjelwe siphunga. Kulula nje konke ongeke ukwazi ukukwenza noma nje ongakwazi ukukwenza, udinga ukuyifihla ngangokunokwenzeka kusuka encekwini, noma uchaze ngendlela efinyelelekayo ukuthi kungani kungavunyelwe.
Kusukela ku-3 kuya kweyisithupha - "Kungani?"
Ubudala kusukela eminyakeni emithathu kuya kweyisithupha yisikhathi semisebenzi ethile nokuhlolwa. Ukumemeza, ukululeka, noma ukuphunyuka, ukusetshenziswa komuntu onamandla onke "cha", ukuzama ukulawula ukungokoqobo ngesifiso esisodwa kuphela - lokhu kufanele kwenzeke ngalesi sikhathi. Futhi amandla angokomoya kuphela abangela ingane ukuba yenze ngendlela efanayo, ukuhlanekezela ukuthi yikuphi, ungathola izinkinga ezinkulu esikhathini esizayo. Amandla onke omntwana kufanele ahanjiswe esiteshini esiwusizo, ekugcwalisekeni kwemisebenzi kanye nokuhlolwa okuzofundisa ukutholakala kokulinganisela kwengqondo nangokomzwelo.
Ingane ephakathi kweminyaka emithathu kuya kwemihlanu inenhloso enamandla kakhulu. Izingane zikhuluma ngenhloso yakhe futhi yenza konke okusemandleni ukuze zithole lokho akufunayo. Umuntu omdala uzwela kakhulu ukuthi yiziphi izifiso, futhi akufanele zihunyushwe ngokoqobo. Kodwa lapha, uma esemncane ukucindezela futhi umise umqondo wengane, khona-ke kuyoba nzima ngaye ukukholelwa emandleni akhe nasekhono lokuphila komuntu omdala.
UJohn Grey weluleka ukunamathela kule migomo elandelayo yokukhulisa izingane: okuhlukile kwabanye, ukwenza amaphutha, ukufuna ngaphezulu nokubonisa imizwa emibi kuyinto evamile, ukuveza ukungavumelani kwakho kuyinto evamile, kodwa akufanele ukhohlwe ukuthi umama nobaba yizona eziyinhloko.
Ingane engaphansi kweminyaka emithathu ngumcwaningi omncane, ofanele ukudunyiswa, ukuhlola nokuvunywa. Ungabi nobuvila ukuthola izimpendulo eziwusizo kumuntu ozithandayo "kungani" wengane yakho, ufuna ingane yakho ikhule ubuntu obugcwele, kodwa lokhu, ngezindlela eziningi, kuxhomeke kuwe, abazali abathandekayo.
Ukufana: ukuthuthukiswa kwengane - ukuthuthukiswa kwabazali ukuze kuzuze bonke
Uma abazali abaningi bekhuluma nengane yabo, kulula kakhulu konke okunikezwayo, noma ngabe yini ayenzayo. Kwabanye abantu abadala, akuzona neze ezithakazelisayo ukutadisha, zithi, "izinto ezilula": ukwenza izinhlelo zokusebenza, ukudweba izithombe zakudala, ukubala kuyishumi, ukufunda ama-alfabhethi, njll. Kodwa kuyathakazelisa kakhulu ukukwenza nomntanakho! Ubonakala ubuyela kabusha eminyakeni engamashumi amabili edlule! Ngizikhumbula mina: lapho ngineminyaka engu-7-8 ubudala, ngase ngifuna ngempela ukufunda izincwadi ezindala futhi ngixazulule izinkinga zabantu abadala, futhi manje, lapho konke kucacile futhi kuyaqondakala, ngizicabangela kakhulu ezweni lomntwana nendodakazi yami ethandekayo! Ngifisa wena okufanayo!
Izincwadi Zabazali Abazimele
Ukuze uqonde ngokujulile izici zentuthuko, ukukhuliswa nokubunjwa kobuntu bentwana yasenkulisa yalesi sihloko, kuncane kangakanani. Kunezincwadi eziningi ezithakazelisayo neziwusizo ezingasiza abazali abasha ukukhulisa ubuntu obumnandi nokuphumelelayo. Ngeke ngikunike uhlu lwazo zonke izincwadi ezingenzeka futhi ezifinyelelekayo zokufunda, kodwa nansi ezimbalwa ezithakazelisayo kakhulu emva kwakho konke engizokuncoma. Lezi yizi:
- UDanilova Lena «I-Encyclopedia yemidlalo yokufundisa»
- ULedloff uJean "Indlela yokukhulisa ingane ejabule"
- UMasaru Ibuka "Ngemva Kwesithathu Kuphelile"
- U-Alexander Vasyutin "Incwadi engcono kakhulu ekukhuliseni izingane"
- Irina Manichenko "imithetho eyishumi yemfundo"
- Irina Manichenko "Izimfihlo Zemfundo 10"