Setha umlindi
Ekuqaleni kokuthandana, ukutholakala kwale "chip" yangempela kumuntu, njengendlela yokuzilibazisa, njalo kumenza abe nesithakazelo emehlweni alowo wesifazane. U-Avot eseqale ubuhlobo naye, owesifazane uhlale efuna ukuthi yonke inzalo yakhe igxile kuye yedwa.
Kodwa awuzange uhlangane enkulisa? Ngisho noma kukhona kakade i-tama yengane ngayinye, kunomjikelezo othize wabangani nezenzo zokuzilibazisa. Yingakho udinga ukuhlonipha ilungelo lomkhethiweyo wakho ukuze ujonge futhi ulungele ukuzilibazisa kwakho, lapho "ekhombisa khona" isikhathi eside kunani. Izenzo zakhe zokuzilibazisa ziyingxenye yezwe langaphakathi, lapho uvele uthathe izinyathelo zokuqala.
Yiqiniso, ungaqala ukulwa futhi uphumelele, isibonelo, ngesikhathi samasonto onke uLisa, uMaria Presley wakwazi ukukholisa umlingani wakhe uNichols Cage ukuthi athengise ukuqoqwa kwezincwadi zamahlaya ayezibuthe kusukela ebuntwaneni futhi manje uzizisola kakhulu.
Ngokombono wezengqondo, kuvamile ukucabangela ukuhlukanisa njengomphumela wemvelo wokulwa okunjalo: kumadoda, ukuba khona kokuzilibazisa kubaluleke kakhulu. Kukhona umbono othi isiphetho somuntu sithathwa ngokuthi "ukuphulukana okungakaze kwenzeke": ukuthuthukiswa kwezinhlobo ezintsha zomsebenzi, ukuthunjwa kwezindawo ezintsha, ukunqoba kwabantu. Ubuciko kanye nobungozi - enye impela impilo yomuntu.
Lokhu kungahle kube kanjani ezweni lanamuhla? Ngakho-ke sekuye kwaba khona ukuthi abathembekile bethu bakhetha ukuzijabulisa okungajwayelekile, ngosizo lwabo abazama ukuzama ukufeza izakhi ezingenakwenzeka zokuzimela kwabantu. Ngendlela, ukuqina komuntu, ukuqala kokuzilibazisa kanye nokunamathisela okukhulu kwamadolo.
Lokhu kuthinta kanjani uthando? Akukho lutho! Futhi ukuzilibazisa kungasindisa umuntu kusuka kwezinye izindlela eziyingozi ukuze ahlukanise impilo. Ngakho-ke, vumela okungcono ukuthi aqoqe izitembu, kunokuba emva kokuya ebhasini "anqobe abantu". Ngaphezu kwalokho, izwe labantu abazilibazisa lihlukile kakhulu.
Ukuzilibazisa kokuqoqa
Amathini wamabhiya, amabheji, amalebula, ama-trinkets, amathayili womzimba, cha, okhethiweyo wakho akahlupheki nge-kleptomania, nje ngokuba "hamster" ufuna ukuqoqa iqoqo.
Yini ekuvimbayo ? Kuchavsheskoj nonsense endlini. Ukuvakashelwa okungajwayelekile kwabangewona abaza ukuthenga, ukubheka, ukushintshanisa noma ukuthengisa. Futhi, ekugcineni, lo mdlalo wokuzilibazisa usempeni "elikhulu".
Ukubheka kusuka ohlangothini . Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi "umhlangano ogcwele" ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uzokwazi ukuthola inzuzo ehlonishwayo. Zonke izakhi zangempela zeqoqo zingasetshenziswa njengemihlobiso yangaphakathi. Ngendlela, abaqoqi ngokwabo bangaba mnandi kakhulu ukukhuluma nabo.
I-"Classic" yokuzilibazisa
"Fanatism" yokuzingela, ukudoba, izimoto, uhlobo oluthile lwemidlalo-ngamanye amazwi, izenzo zokuzilibazisa azifani neze ezijwayelekile.
Yini ekuvimbayo ? Isikhathi esifushane, amaqabunga ahlale ezindongeni zendabuko. Ngokwesibonelo, ngoMsombuluko owodwa omuhle ngoMgqibelo, bamnika ukuba angaphumi embhedeni usuku lonke, kodwa wathi: "Kuyompoqo, ngizohamba nje ngizodoba! Ngiyazikhumbula abafana! ". Ngokushesha babuthana, bememeza, baya endaweni eya kuyo. Futhi njalo njalo ...
Bheka kusukela ohlangothini. Vumelanani, unayo yini eyakho yokuzilibazisa "yama-classic"? Akumane angakhululekile. Kodwa uma usondela ebhizinisini lokuzijabulisa ngokuhlukana, ukushiyeka kwakho ngokuhlanganyela kungakwazi ukukhokhelana ngokugcwele - ukunyuka emcimbini wezemidlalo - ukuqina, ukuzingela - ukuthenga, ukuchitha isikhathi nabangani, i-hen party, ukumba imishini ye-SPA. Futhi iyiphi inkinga lapha?
"Ukuzilibazisa" kwezenhlalakahle
"Amakhwenyana" lanamuhla abamba izikhali zabo futhi azibonakalisa ngokuzenzekelayo emibuthanweni, kodwa ama-flash mobi abanesithakazelo esikhulu isinyathelo ngesinyathelo balungise izenzo zabo eziningi.
Yini ekuvimbayo ? Abathandi bemisebenzi yokuzijabulisa "engokwenhlalo" engavamile bafuna ukuba "nabafundi" kanye "nabalandeli". Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, uzomenywa ngokuqinile ukuba ujoyine lezi zinhlu.
Ukubukeka kusuka ohlangothini . Uma kwenzeka wabelana ngombono wakho wesoka, i-hobby yakhe engavamile ingaba eyakho kalula. Futhi uma imibono yothandekayo wakho ingakukhuthazi nhlobo, kufanele uzilungiselele ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ubuhlobo buzofika ekugcineni kwawo.
I-Adrenaline yokuzilibazisa
Abalandeli be-Karting, abadlali be-speleologists, abakhuphuka nabo bonke abanye abameleli beqile banesibindi, basithandana, kodwa bayathanda ukuhlala njalo behlala isikhathi eside.
Yini ekuvimbayo ? a) ukungahlali njalo komuntu omthandayo njalo njalo; b) ukutholakala kwama "cheerleaders" kanye "nabangane" ukuhamba ngezinyawo, njll; c) amathuba okulimala kwamazinga ahlukene okubunzima.
Ukubukeka okuvela ohlangothini. Indoda enjalo iyitholile yangempela ukukhombisa izintombi zakhe: abashisekeli abaningi bangena emithonjeni ehlukahlukene. Kodwa ukungahambi isikhathi eside kwefoni kungasetshenziswa ngenzuzo ngokwakho nasemzimbeni wakho noma ube njengezifundo ezithile. I-Factor "b" ingathathi hlangothi ngokuhlangana nesikhumulo sezindiza othandekayo ngokubamba okushisayo futhi njalo kumsekela ngothando.
Isikhathi sokuzilibazisa
Izibonelo zezimoto, izindiza, ukuzingela izithombe, ukuzalisa izimbali, inhlanzi ye-aquarium, njll. Ngesikhathi sokuzilibazisa kanye nokuzilibazisa kwakhe uthola ukuphumula kwangempela ngokomzwelo.
Yini ekuvimbayo ? Kuzo zonke izindlela kungenzeka ukuthi avimbele "ukungena ezweni lakhe". Lokhu kubangela umuzwa wokuthi ushiyiwe futhi ushiywe.
Ukubukeka kusuka ohlangothini. Noma ubani unelungelo lokuphumula kwakho siqu! Futhi kuyiqiniso! Ngendlela, ngolunye usuku oluhle, ukuzilibazisa kwakhe kungaba yindaba yokuphila, okuletha imali engenayo enhle kakhulu.
I-computer yokuzilibazisa
Ngokwezibalo zengqondo, kungokwemvelo ukuthi izwe elibonakalayo liguqule iningi lezici zokuziqhenya kwamadoda empilweni, kusukela ekumeni kwengozi ekudaleni ubuciko. Futhi mayelana nabadlali be-computer, laba yizihlakaniphile abanenhlangano engqondo engqondweni.
Yini ekuvimbayo ? Uma ngabe awukho "ubungane" nekhompiyutha, ingxenye yakho yezinto ezibonakalayo izobonakala njenge "emgodini omnyama" owesabekayo futhi ongaqondakaliyo, lapho kusihlwa khona okhethiweyo wakho efika khona.
Umbono ovela ohlangothini . Isixazululo silula: ungesabi ukukhombisa intshisekelo yakho ekuzilibazisa kwekhomphyutha yakhe - ukujoyina ngokuphepha ukudla kwakhe okubonakalayo, hamba ngemidlalo yakhe yokubamba, ukushintshiselana ngolwazi oluthandekayo kumasayithi, njll. Ngikholelwa ukuthi, ngokuba "umsebenzisi othuthukile" akusijabulisi nje kuphela, kepha kuyasiza kuwe.
Futhi ekugcineni, kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi ngisho nokukhanga okungenamsebenzi kwesoka lakho kungagcwalisa umsebenzi owusizo: uzobekezelela "ubuhlanya" bakho. Futhi izindlela zakho zokuphumula ezivela kuye ngeke zidale ukungqubuzana nokulahlwa. Futhi uma udinga imali kubantwanyana bakho, uzohlala unenkinga enkulu - inani lama-zero (kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ulinganiselwa) ukuthi othandekayo wakho bachithe ekuzilibazisa kwakho.