Kholwa mina, bantu!
Ngokwezibalo zomhlaba, imboni yokuphola inthanethi iye yabhekana nokukhula okusheshayo eminyakeni emibili eyedlule, okusho ukuthi izigidi zamakhosikazi nabesilisa zihlanganyela ngentshisekelo yami kulezi zinhlelo zokusebenza ezincane. Ngonyaka odlule, emhlanganweni waminyaka yonke we-Inthanethi Dating Executive Alliance (inhlangano ehlanganisa abaholi bezingosi zokubambisana kakhulu kunazo zonke ku-intanethi), kwamenyezelwa ukuthi ukuhamba kwezimoto kuye kwanda ngo-12% uma kuqhathaniswa no-2008. Amawebusayithi amakhulu kunawo wonke aseRussia nawo abone ukwanda kwenani labahlanganyeli kanye nesikhathi esijwayelekile esichithwa kuwo kumasayithi.
Iyini inkinga? Okokuqala, ngesikhathi senkinga, abantu abaningi banesikhathi esengeziwe samahhala, imali encane yokudlela-amakhonsathi-ukuvakasha, nesidingo "sokushaya" kwengqondo, ukuzwelana, ukuqonda, ukusondelana kuye kwanda. Isibonelo, ku-poll kwi-website enkulu yamazwe ngamazwe eHarmony.com, abesifazane abangu-25% bavuma ukuthi yikuhlangenwe nakho ngezinkinga zezomnotho ezibangele ukuba bangene ebuhlotsheni besikhathi eside nabesilisa. Futhi ngalezo zinsuku lapho inkomba yeDow Jones yawa amaphuzu angaphezu kuka-100, inani lokuvakashela kwiwebhusayithi lagijima ngokuphawulekayo.
E-Russia nase-Ukraine kunesici esengeziwe: inani labantu abaye bazi kahle ikhompyutha landa, futhi bayakhula. Ngokwesibonelo, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo waseRussia uVladimir Shahidzhanyan, obhalisiwe noMamba eminyakeni emine eyedlule, uthi ngaleso sikhathi, eneminyaka engama-65 ubudala, kungenzeka ukuthi nguye oyedwa kuphela esakhiweni somuntu walowo mdala; Namuhla unezimncintiswano ezineminyaka engu-70 no-75 ubudala. Kodwa-ke, njengasezweni lonke, iningi lisaqhubeka le ntsha kuze kube yiminyaka engu-25. Kodwa kunezimo ezibucayi ezifuywayo: ngokusho kwezibalo ezakhiwe yi-Mamba sociologists, amadoda anganoma yimuphi ubudala abanesithakazelo emantombazaneni amancane, kuphela amadoda angama-20% afuna abesifazane abaneminyaka engama-30-35.
Ngaphezu kwalokho , amadoda amaningi awalwela ubudlelwane besikhathi eside, futhi ngocansi - lokhu kusobala kunoma yimuphi umsebenzisi ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ngemuva kokubhaliswa. Mina, ngokwesibonelo, ngilungiselela ukubhala isihloko, futhi futhi ngibhaliswe kwenye yezindawo, kunalokho "ngokujulile futhi" ngokujulile "kugcwalisa lemibuzo, kepha akuzange kungisindise eziphakamisweni eziqhubekayo zokuchitha ubusuku" njengabantu abadala ".
Ngake ngivutha: "Usufunde ifomu lami lesicelo? Endaweni efanayo, konke kubhaliwe! Ngingathanda kuphela ubudlelwane besikhathi eside! "Impendulo yathinteka ngokuzenzekelayo:" Angikholelwa kulabo besifazane! "Isiphetho silandela: ngezinye izikhathi, futhi mhlawumbe kaningi, ngisho nabesifazane abaningi" abahle "basabela ekuvumelaneni kukaDon Juan. Nginesiqiniseko sokuthi abesifazane abaningi ezindaweni zokuphola bafuna ubulili. Okufanayo emphakathini wethu ungaphansi kwamadoda. Phela, sasihlale sicabanga ukuthi uma owesifazane eshintsha izithandani, khona-ke "ukuziphatha okulula", futhi uma umuntu - khona-ke unenkathi enjalo empilweni yakhe. Noma kunjalo, ngaphezu kwezifebe, okuyizinto eziningi kakhulu kumasayithi, kunabesifazane abavamile abanesithakazelo kuphela kwezocansi, hhayi uthando. Kungenzeka ngezikhathi ezimbalwa, noma "ubulili obuvamile" - kukhona isayithi kanye nalolu khetho.
UBrad Pitt no-opharetha
Kungani abantu bebhekela usizo lendawo yokuphola? Impendulo incike ekutheni umsebenzisi udala kangakanani nokuthi isimo sakhe senhlalakahle siyini. Abantu abasha bebelokhu benamathuba amaningi okuhlangana kwangempela kunabantu abadala. Abesifazane abahlukanisile abangaphezu kuka-30, elulamela ukucindezeleka okungenakugwemeka, baqale ukufuna abalingani kwi-intanethi, ngoba kuma-nightclub bazizwa bengabafokazi, ngokuvamile bengaya emabhajini, ngokuvamile bachitha isikhathi samahhala nezingane. Esizeni ungaxoxa ngisho nasebusuku, uma unesimo sengqondo. Ngakho iningi labantu abavakashela abantu abadala abantu abahlelekile kahle emphakathini abangenayo izinkinga zokuxhumana kwi-intanethi, ubudlelwane obuseduze. Into kuphela abangenayo isikhathi samahhala nemikhuba yokuzilibazisa ngaphandle kwekhaya.
Ngokuqondene nentsha , ke isithombe sihlukile. Senze ucwaningo, sizama ukuqonda ukuthi ubuqiniso beqiniso: izingxoxo, izinkundla, amasayithi okuphola - kubaluleke kakhulu kubantu abasha kunokuphila "kwangempela". Abaningi balabafana namantombazane baxhumana ngendlela engafaneleki: abangaphephile, abazi ukuthi bangasungula kanjani othintana nabo. Ewebhu, benza i-legend: bashintsha ubulili, ubudala, isimo sezenhlalakahle, beza "nama-nicks" - imaski efihliwe ngemuva kwabo. Futhi othintana naye akayethusa njengokwenyama. Ungacabanga ukuthi uphumelele kakhulu, uphumelele kunalokho. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kulula ukuvela kule ndawo futhi nje kalula.
Amaski enza kube nzima ukuba angene empilweni yangempela, kodwa akudingekile kwabesilisa namantombazane abathintekayo, basuke bengenele ngothando. Uma imithetho yomdlalo iphulwa, ukuhlazeka okukhulu kungase kwenzeke. Isibonelo, uVladimir Shahidzhanyan weluleka njengesigqila sengqondo esisodwa, esethulwa kuwebhusayithi. Insizwa eneminyaka engama-22, ngaphandle kwemali, ne-acne nomama onomusa, ngokungahloniphi kwisayithi senkosikazi enhle: umqondisi wezeminyaka engu-40 ubudala, uthanda abafana abancane. Esikhundleni sesithombe sakhe, le nsizwa yamthumelela isithombe sikaBrad Pitt. Wayejabulela ukuhleka usulu futhi waphendula ngesithombe sika-Angelina Jolie. Bahleka futhi bavuma ukuhlangana. Le nkosikazi yazisa i-CMC ukuthi yayithenge ama-vaginal amabhande nezinye izinto eziwusizo. Ngemva kokufika ngosuku, umfana ojabule wabona ... umama wakhe. Ngemuva kokukhwabanisa okufuthekayo ("Ungakwazi kanjani, ngisho nangokuthi ungumqondisi wezezimali, ungumqhubi webhange!"), Umama nendodana akhenge akhulume isikhathi eside, futhi kwakudingeka ngiphenduke kwesazi ngandlela-thile ngisombulule isimo.
Izivakashi ezindala eziteshini zivame ukusebenzisa leli thuba ukufihla ngemuva kwesimaki esihle. Intombazane eneminyaka engu-27 ubudala, ukuhlala nabazali bayo, ivikelekile kakhulu, ibilokhu ihlezi ezindaweni zokuphola eminyakeni embalwa edlule futhi yenza imibhangqwana engapheli. Unomhlobo othile wobudlelwane namadoda, kodwa kungekudala, ngezikhathi ezithile. Futhi kuyi-Intanethi - impilo "yangempela" nothando. Kodwa-ke, wenqaba ukuhlangana nabalingani bakhe bezokuxhumana, ngoba wesaba ukwenqatshwa. Futhi ngiyazi amacala amaningi kangaka. " Amadoda amaningi nawo akalokothi abambe izintamo zabo empeleni, mhlawumbe ngenxa yokuthi besaba ukudumazeka, noma ngenxa yokuthi ashadile futhi angaboni lutho kwi-intanethi, ngaphandle kwesigamu se-drive ephephile. Esizeni ungaba sikhanyayo, sibukhali, sinobuciko, sinesibindi, sidlala noma yiliphi indima ongayifuni ukuyenza empilweni. Abesifazane (ngesilinganiso) kulula ukuvumelanisa nokunqotshwa kunamadoda, ngakho-ke kungenzeka futhi bazimisele ukunikeza ukuxhumana kwangempela.
Ngoba amantombazane angu-10 ...
Kubonakala sengathi uma ubeka isithombe sakho futhi ubhala iqiniso ngawe ohlwini lwemibuzo, ingozi yokulahlwa emhlanganweni wokuqala incane. Kodwa empeleni, ukucabanga komuntu kwenziwe ngezinto ezincane eziyinkulungwane esingazicabangi ngazo, ukuhlangana "empilweni yangempela": indlela yokugaya, ukuhamba, ukukhuluma, ukulungisa izinwele; iphunga, isiteji sezwi, indlela yokumomotheka, ingasaphathwa imibimbi engabonakali esithombeni.
Khona-ke udonsela ukubhala okuthile okumangalela ngamadoda ase-post-Soviet, lapho engakaze afinyelele isimo esithile senhlalo (ngisho noma isimo somnikazi wemoto yangaphandle), uqale ukuzulazula abesifazane, njengengulube ema-acorns. Futhi kuyoba yiqiniso, kodwa kuphela okuyingxenye.
Ezweni lakithi bekulokhu kube nenkinga echazwe engoma: "Kunezingane ezingu-9 zamantombazane angu-10 ngokusho kwezibalo. Ukuqhathaniswa kwezenhlalakahle zangemva kwempi sekuqedile kakade, isibalo samadoda emphakathini, ngicabanga, asincane kakhulu. Kodwa abaphumelelayo, abahlakaniphile, abakhangayo, abaqaphela impilo beba ngaphezu kokulingana kwamadoda alinganayo. Kukhona inqubo yokukhululwa, abesifazane baqhudelana ngokuqinile namadoda ukuze baphumelele nesimo, futhi bona ngokwabo bahlupheka ngalokhu. Ekubalweni, kubalulekile ukuthatha enye into. Amadoda aphezulu angakhethi abalingane bawo ngesimo sabesifazane. Bakhetha ukuphumelela kangako, hhayi ukugxila emsebenzini, labo abazobheka abakhethiweyo babo kusukela phansi ngezandla zokukhangisa - menze abe nesisu sebheya nomlingiswa omubi.
Kodwa abesimame phezulu abazimisele ukuzihlanganisa nabantu abanesimo esingaphansi, nabesilisa abancane kunabo: lokhu kuyimfundiso yamasiko. Futhi labo abanqoba amathangi amasiko, bavame ukuzithola bebuhlobo no-alfonso wangempela. Kodwa emasimini okuthandana nabantu, umehluko wezenhlalo unjengokungathi ususiwe. Lapha konke kubonakala sengathi kulingana. Futhi amadoda ajwayele abesifazane abakuphila kwangempela abengeke babheke ngisho nokuqondisa kwabo. Yiqiniso, ngokuvamile labo ababaziyo baphela kuphela ngokobulili obuzuzisayo.
Ngakho-ke, akunakwenzeka ukusungula ubuhlobo obunzulu kusayithi? Cha nakancane. Kunoma yiliphi ihhovisi, lapho okungenani abantu abayikhulu benza umsebenzi, kukhona ohlangana nomlingani ku-Inthanethi. Zinezici ezivamile: emva kokutholana, azihambisani isikhathi eside, ngezinye izikhathi ezinsukwini ezimbalwa kuphela, bese zihlangana ekuphileni kwangempela, - Inna uyazisa. - Uma umuntu ngokushesha evuma emhlanganweni, lokhu kusho ukuthi unesithakazelo ngempela ebuhlotsheni obunzima. Yiqiniso, abaningi kufanele bahlale kumasayithi omnyaka, bahlangane njalo bese bekhetha, baze bazuze lowo, owodwa kuphela.
Kubonakala kimi ukuthi labo abangalibali ukubhala izincwadi bazimisele kakhulu ukuhlola ukucabanga kwabo ngokusebenza. Ngempela, kuwebhu sithandana nesithombe esithile, senza konke okulindelwe kulo, sinikeze izimfanelo esingathanda ukuzibona ezikhethiwe. Futhi uma isikhathi eside sesibhaliswe, ukuphakama kwenqaba enhlabathini, kuyadumaza nakakhulu uma uhlangana. Kodwa-ke, ngicabanga, emva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa emhlanganweni, kusekuqaleni ukuhlangana. Kufanele kube nencazelo yegolide. Uma kungenjalo, abantu abanaso isikhathi sokuzizwa komunye nomunye ukuthi abavamile, bomdabu, ukuthi bangaxhumeka.
Ukuqomisana okuhlakaniphile
"I-Sieve" lapho kubhekwa khona abazofuna ukuhlolwa kufanele ibe nama-cell of size medium, hhayi encane kakhulu futhi hhayi enkulu kakhulu. Isibonelo, "ukukhula okungaphansi kwezingu-180, umholo wezinkulungwane zamaRandi ayizinkulungwane ezimbili, utshwala emlonyeni awuthathi" - lokhu kuyisikhulu esikhulu kakhulu, abaningi abakhokhelwayo abakhangayo bangabaleka. Owesifazane ohlakaniphile unamandla kakhulu okwenza isosayensi ngenkokhelo encane yomsebenzi webhizinisi eliphumelelayo.
Ngakho-ke, kuyasiza ukuhlanganisa uhlu lwezimfanelo eziyisisekelo zomuntu ezibaluleke kakhulu kuwe (ukunakekelwa, ukuzwelana nokuthatha umthwalo wemfanelo, ukuhleka kwemihle, njll) futhi ubonise efomini lakho lesicelo njengezidingo ze-satellite esingaba khona.
Mayelana neholo oyifunayo, ngendlela, kungcono ukuthi ungabhali. Uzoqonda konke emva kwemihlangano eminingana. Kodwa hhayi iqiniso lokuthi ngemva kokuqala. Ngokusho komnikazi we-ejensi yokushada yaseMoscow, abantu abaningi abacebile kakhulu baqala ukuya ezindaweni zokuphola, futhi bakwenza ngokungaziwa futhi ukuqokwa kokuqala sekudla ukudla okusheshayo - badlala umdlalo "ungithandi ngemali yami." Ngiyazi ngokuqinisekile ukuthi kahle, ohlakaniphile, amadoda aphumelele angaphezu kuka-30 anesidingo sobuhlobo obukhulu. Njengabesifazane, baphelelwa yithemba, ngoba abazi ukuthi bajwayelene nobani abalingani abangaba khona. Ngifunda indaba ngomuntu webhizinisi osebenza eqenjini lamadoda elikhononda ngokungakwazi ukujwayela owesifazane. Ngakho ulethe omunye ngemoto endleleni evela emsebenzini, "- umngane wakhe wameluleka. Ngingacabanga ukuthi kuyoba kanjani ... Ngivame ukubuyela ekhaya ngisuka emsebenzini emva kwamabili. Umgwaqo, ubusuku, i-jeep iyayeka futhi indoda enkulu iphuma kulo ... Nangu owesifazane ohamba emgwaqweni uyojabula!
Kuyamangalisa ukuthi okwamanje akekho owenzile ibhizinisi endaweni ehloniphekile yamaqembu "kulabo abangaphezu kuka-30". Phela, ukuhlala kwamadolobhana kuyaqhubeka, abantu basebenza ekuseni kuze kube sekwephuzile ebusuku futhi abazi amagama omakhelwane babo esitebhisini ...
Ithemba eliye lavela enhlabathini enjalo, njengendlela emincane eqhweni, lingabonakala kalula futhi livele linyamalale kalula. Iziguli, ikakhulukazi amantombazane amancane, ziza kimi izinyembezi: "Wangikhaphela! Sasiba abangane naye kakhulu, ngamtshela konke ngawe, futhi wasakaza izimfihlo zami kulo lonke isayithi! "Iphutha liwukuthi ziletha ubuhlobo obuhle, ubudlelwane obusanda kuvela ebusweni bomuntu siqu: banobukhwele, babheka ukudlala ngothando nomunye intombazane" ukukhohliswa, "ngisho nokuvusa abaxhumana nabo ukuba" baphikise ", ikakhulukazi, babuze abangane ukuba babelane ngothando nabakhethiweyo babo futhi ngokuzithoba balandele imiphumela yomdlalo ongathandabuzeki. Kuyinto encane futhi engafaneleki. Ewebhusini, udinga ukuhamba kakhulu ukuze uqiniseke, ungaphoqeleli ubudlelwane. Ngisho nokufihleka ngemuva kwe-mask engaziwa, owesifazane uzohlupheka uma oxhumana naye ehleka ngamahlaya phezu kwakhe, uzohambisana nokuvuma kwakhe ngobuqotho ngamazwana angenangqondo.
Ingozi yokungena enkingeni enjalo iphansi, uma ukungathí sina kwezinhloso ze-interlocutor kuqinisekiswa ngento ethile. Isibonelo, eNtshonalanga, izinsiza ze-Intanethi ezikhokhwayo ziba imfashini kubantu "abahloniphekile": akudingeki nje kuphela ukwenza umnikelo wenyanga ka-$ 50, kodwa nemaminithi angu-40 ukugcwalisa ifomu lesicelo eligcwele kakhulu uma ubhalisa, ukuze umlingisi we-elekthronikhi athola ukuthi ungumlingani ofanele kakhulu.
E-US, ngokwezibalo , wonke umbhangqwana wesishiyagalombili oshadile wahlangana kwi-intanethi. Ukudabuka ngengozi yomndeni, ukuhlala kwamadolobhana nokuhlukaniswa kwabantu abavela komunye nomunye kungenzi lutho. Inqubo iyaqhubeka, awukwazi ukuyiyeka, udinga nje ukufaka umqondo ovamile - futhi usebenzise amathuba okuhlinzeka ngokuphila.