Cishe ukhumbule ukuthi kanjani uchungechunge lwamahlelo ethi "Ubulili kanye Nomuzi" oyedwa wabalingiswa abakhulu, uCharlotte, wafuna kumlingani wakhe konke ayekufunayo, uma ezwakala isicelo, ngobumnene wathinta isandla sakhe ngaphezu kwesigqoko. Ukwamukelwa kwakuphumelela kakhulu kangangokuthi ngisho nasesimweni sakhe sokushada, waphendula wathi "Ujabule!", Nakuba ayengenanga ukuya emqhele.
Yiqiniso, kule ifilimu isimo sivame ukunyanyiswa, kodwa noma kunjalo, ukwamukelwa nge-touch akuveli endaweni yefantasy. Lena enye yezinhlobo, ama-anchors okuthiwa - izakhi ze-NLP. Futhi izazi zengqondo zomndeni zikholelwa ngokuqinile ukuthi indlela yezikhonkwane zizovumela imibhangqwana ukuba ixazulule izinkinga eziningi ebuhlotsheni. Ake sibone ukuthi kunjani, ukuthi basebenza kanjani futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, sizozama ngosizo lwabo ukwenza ubuhlobo bobubele bube ngcono nakakhulu.
Iyini ihange?
Ngokwezengqondo ze-psychologists, i-anchor iyisisusa esibangela isimo somzimba noma ngokomzwelo, ngakho-ke ukuziphatha okuthile. Futhi lokhu kuvuselela kungaba yinto: isithombe, umsindo, inzwa, ukunambitha noma ngisho nokuhogela. Ake sithi usebenzisa i-Chanel inombolo engu-5 kuphela ngamaholidi, empilweni yansuku zonke, ukhetha amafutha kalula. Kodwa ngolunye usuku wawufuna ukusebenzisa i-Chanel ngaphandle kwesizathu. Njengoba ucebile, ngokushesha wazizwa ujabule kancane, isimo sathuthuka. Ngokuvamile, ngathola lonke uhlangothi lwemibono ebonakala kithi ngokulindela leli holide. Futhi phawula, ngendlela efanayo le iphunga lizophazamisa nomyeni wakho futhi, ngoba iphunga likaCanel No. 5 liphinde lihlotshaniswe nokuzijabulisa okujabulisayo.
Kodwa ukukhuluma ngezikhonkwane ezingokomzwelo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi akugcini nje kuphela, njengokwedlule, kodwa futhi kubi. Isibonelo, indoda, emi ngemuva kwayo, ichithela indebe yetiyi. Futhi ufuna ukumbamba. Uyasondela, umgoqa ngezandla zakho, futhi umyeni wakhe uphenduka ngokuzumayo. Kungani, ngoba konke kuhle kuwe ?! Khumbula, kodwa ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ezedlule kwenzeka isimo esifanayo: umyeni weza emsebenzini evela kunento ethile edangele, wayefuna ukumduduza futhi ummbathise ngemuva. Khona-ke wanquma ukuthi wakwazi ukususa lesi simo, futhi umyeni wakho wabopha ngokucophelela ukuvuma kwakho imizwa emibi evezwa ngaleso sikhathi. Futhi lapho wena, ngaphandle kokuqonda, uphinde wakhiqiza le nsimbi, umyeni wathukuthela futhi. Ungakugwema kanjani izimo ezinjalo esikhathini esizayo? Lapho othandekayo esephumile, zama ukumshiya yedwa okungenani isigamu sehora. Futhi uma kungenakwenzeka, ungayithinti nje.
Futhi umsindo nokuhogela
Ochwepheshe be-NLP bathi impilo yethu igcwele amahange angokomzwelo. Futhi kunjalo! Njengomthetho, inqubo yokubambelela "kwenzeka" ngokungahambisani nokuphila kwethu. Ake sithi uyazi ukuthi othandekayo uzokusekela futhi akulethe njalo, ngakho-ke akumangazi ukuthi esimweni samandla amakhulu lapho ufuna kuqala ukusondela kuye! Lokhu akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi, ngakho-ke uqala ukucabanga ukuthi umyeni wakho uzokukhuthaza kanjani, noma ngabe yikuphi amazwi owakushoyo, futhi uhlale phansi. Futhi kungaba khona amahange amaningi anjalo: umculo ovela ku-Aida, izithombe zendodana encane noma indodakazi encane, iphunga lokubhaka kuka mama, ifilimu "Spring on Zarechnaya Street," njll.
Uma lokhu kusebenza ngokuphumelelayo, kungani ungazami ukuphatha inqubo yokwakhiwa kwamahange futhi uwasebenzise ukuletha ubudlelwane ezingeni eliphezulu.
Okokuqala, ake sibone ukuthi yiziphi amahange okuzokusiza ukuthi ushayele othandekayo bakho ngemizwa ehlukahlukene yokuthandana: kusukela ekuthandweni kuya ekuthandeni. Kubukeka. Isibonelo, ukugqoke ingubo enhle, buza ukuthi kuya kuwe (ngokujwayelekile, yenze ukuze akhumbule). Futhi uma ephendula ukuthi yebo, ngithanda futhi, ngimenzele ukuncoma ngokubukeka kwakhe. Futhi noma nini lapho ugqoka kule "isikhali semfihlo", dumisani othandekayo wakho, ukukhukhumeza, ukumanga. Uzobona, esikhathini esizayo ukugqoke kule ngubo, ungamvuselela.
Hlela othandekayo wakho ngekhandlela ukukhanyisa uphinde uvule uhlobo oluthile lomculo wothando. Udinga ukuqinisekisa ukuthi lo mculo noma ingoma iba "yakho". Khona-ke, lapho uzwa, othandekayo uzokucabanga ngawe, khumbula ukuthi uhlangene kahle kangakanani. Ukuthinta kwakho "okhethekile" noma kumanga ngesikhathi lapho wena nabathandekayo bakho kuyokusiza kakhulu ukuba usondele kuye nakakhulu.
Ngaphambi kokwenza uthando, ukudonsa kancane ngamanzi afanayo noma amanzi angasese. Ngemva kwesikhashana, kakade leli phunga elilodwa lizobeka umyeni wokuvumelana ngokudlala.
Futhi manje ake sizame ukuqinisa othandekayo ngosizo lwe-anchor - kinesthetic ephumelelayo kakhulu. Kodwa ngaphambi kwalokho ngingathanda ukukuxwayisa: ungacabangi ukuthi ngokwenza lokhu izikhathi eziningana, ulapha, uzobona imiphumela. Phela, umlingani wakho akayena inja kaPavlov. Okuningi kuxhomeke kaningi kangakanani okwenzayo, ukuthi umyeni unomzwelo kangakanani nokuthi ngabe lesi senzo sizomthatha.
Ngakho-ke, linda isikhathi lapho othandekayo wakho enemizwa enhle. Ngengozi, yithinte ngokucophelela izikhathi eziningana endaweni ecacisiwe. Futhi uma kubonakala kuwe ukuthi umyeni akakunaki ngokwanele, phinda "ukuthinta" kwakho. Naka amaphuzu amabili. Okokuqala, ihange lizosebenza kangcono uma "ulibeka" lingabonakali. Futhi okwesibili, ihange elinjalo lilula kakhulu ukugqoka "izindawo ezifinyeleleka kalula": ingalo, isiphambili, ngemuva.
Ngokusho kochwepheshe be-NLP, amadoda angase awele ama-anchor okubukwayo nokubukeka. Ngakho-ke, hlala kakhulu ekubukeni kwakho futhi kaningi uthinte othandekayo wakho.
Ungadluli! Anchors ezingokomzwelo zingasiza kakhulu ebuhlotsheni bobuhlobo. Into kuphela, akufanele uwasebenzise njengendlela yokuxhaphaza. Ngoba, okokuqala, ngokushesha noma ngokuhamba kwesikhathi umyeni uzokhipha ukuqondisa kwakho, bese-ke, qiniseka, ngiyabonga ngeke usho. Futhi okwesibili, izazi zengqondo zithi ukusetshenziswa kwamaqhinga amaningi e-NLP kwephula umbono wethu ngokomzwelo. Vumelanani, uma uchitha yonke imizwelo yomuntu othandekayo, njengokungathi emashalofini, impilo iba yindabuko emangalisayo.