Amazing kakhulu!
Ososayensi nabanokholo kwengqondo bacwaninga uhlobo lokuhleka, bahlale benesithakazelo embuzweni othi "Amahlaya asithinta kanjani ubuhlobo bothando?" Kubonakala sengathi impendulo isobala: ngokuqinisekile. Ukuhleka, imizwa emihle ehlangene ikuletha eduze komlingani wakho. Uyahleka, ungesabi ukubonakala ungenangqondo, ngakho-ke, uthembeke, komunye nomunye, uvuleke ngokwengeziwe.
Kodwa kukhona enye impendulo yalo mbuzo. Ososayensi ababili baseMelika baqhuba ukuzama okunjalo. Bacela amadoda nabesifazane abangu-200 ukuba babheke izithombe zabanye bobulili obuhlukile futhi bakhethe labo ababezojabula nabo ngosuku.
Imininingwane ebalulekile: "abanikazi" bezinye izithombe bashiya imibono ehlelekile ngaphansi kwabo, bonke abanye babengama-signatures angathathi hlangothi. Ngenxa yalokho, cishe bonke abesifazane ababamba iqhaza ekuhlolweni babefuna ukuhamba ngolunye usuku namadoda abazethula ngokuhlekisa, kanti ukukhethwa kwamadoda akuxhomeke kumqondo wokuhleka kwamantombazane esithombeni. Isiphetho silula: bobabili abesilisa nabesifazane bayakwazisa umqondo wokuhleka usulu ngesikhathi sabo sesibili, kodwa abesifazane bayaqonda ukuthi bayakwazi ukuhleka, futhi amadoda - ikhono lokuqonda ihlaya.
Yebo, ngenxa yabososayensi, sekucacile ukuthi ekugcineni ungenza kanjani othandekayo wakho ukuthi uphelele: ukuhleka, ukuhleka nokuhleka amahlaya akhe futhi, ukuphakamisa umqondo wakhe wokuhlekisa. Imisho "Wangenza ngihleka kangaka!" Futhi "Kubuqili!" - isikhali sakho semfihlo kanye nezingubo zangaphansi ze-sexy noma igama elithi "Peking Duck". Uqobo, noma ngabe unomqondo ohlekayo wokuhleka usulu, namanje ujabulisa amahlaya, ungazami ukuphuma ngaphandle komlingani wakho. Vumelana, kunezinye izindawo eziningi lapho ungakhanyisa khona: nabangani, emsebenzini.
Ngakho, ngokuthi amahlaya omuntu othandekayo "kuyo yonke indawo sinomgwaqo", sawuhlunga. Kodwa ukuthi ungaba kanjani, uma ngabe amahlaya akhothiwe, ake sithi, kanjalo, akuhlali njalo uphumelele, ngisho nangombono wakho ongacabangi? Futhi ukuyibeka ngokucacile, ukhuluma ngama-witticism nama-anecdotes, izintshebe zazo ngisho neKarabas-Barabas ezizoziqhenya! Yebo, kuwe izindaba ezimbili: okuhle nokubi. Into enhle ukuthi lokho akulona ikhwalithi engakazalwa, ingasetshenziswa. Futhi into embi wukuthi uzodingeka umgome. Ngakho-ke, ake siqale, kuphela ukuqala engingathanda ukwenza ukuchofoza okubili. Okokuqala, kufanele wazi ukuthi kunoma yimuphi umuntu ozobizwa ngokuthi unfunny cishe into efanayo nomthandi omubi. Ngakho-ke, ukunikeza iseluleko sakho isithandwa sakho, sibe nesicefe, noma ngisho kangcono, cishe cishe.
Okwesibili, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uphumelele kangakanani, ungenzi imibono kumlingani nabangaphandle. Kulesi simo, kungenzeka ukuthi kuningi kakhulu ukuhleka, kodwa kulungile ukumomotheka ngenhlonipho.
Qaphela ukuthi ubani obhekiswe kakhulu kumahlaya akhe: amadoda, abesifazane, konke ngesikhathi esisodwa? Iqiniso liwukuthi ukuthanda izinto ezihlekisayo zezethameli ezahlukene kungahluka: lokho kwabanye kuyamangalisa, kwabanye kungamangalisa. Zama ngandlela-thile ukukhuluma ngalokhu ngothandekayo wakho. Masizame ukwenza wonke umuntu ahleke, akusi njalo njalo kumculi oqeqeshiwe. Kodwa ukubamba abantu ababili noma abathathu, unamandla kakhulu.
Kuyaqondakala ukuthi umuntu ohlakaniphile ngempela ufundiswa kahle. Ngakho-ke, bamphonsa ngezikhathi ezithile zezincwadi ezithandwayo zabalobi abathandwayo futhi bahlele imibono yomndeni ye-cinema yombhali. Yiqiniso, i-anecdotes inomqondo wokuthi ingafundwa kunoma iyiphi incwadi yokuzijabulisa noma etholakala kuyi-Inthanethi. Kodwa lokhu, futhi okungezansi: akulona iqiniso ukuthi izethameli ziye zazizwa ngokuphindaphindiwe, ngaphezu kwalokho, kusukela kumlandeli onethalente. Ngakho-ke, akufanele ulandele indlela yokunciphisa okungcono: kungcono ukwenza abantu bahleke "ngezindaba ezivela ekuphileni". Ikakhulu uma lezi zindaba zenzeka kumlandisi. Uma izindaba ezihlekisayo nomlingani wakho zingenzeki, ungakwazi futhi uhlobise ezimbalwa nje ezihlekisayo.
Ukuqala ngokucindezela emlandweni. Bathi uMarie Antoinette wesaba kakhulu ukulahlekelwa ngumkakho womyeni wakhe, uLouis. Kumele sivume ukuthi ukwesaba kwakhe kwakungenasisekelo: ngezindinganiso zalezo zinsuku, indlovukazi yayisivele iseneminyaka emaphakathi (i-alas, noma nge-facelift, noma ngisho nekhilimu elihle lombimbi ngakho-ke sasingakaze sizwe), futhi enkantolo kwakukhona abaningana abahamba ngamanzi. Futhi-ke, ukuze avuselele, waqala ukushintsha waba ngumalusikazi. Kumelwe ngitshele ukuthi uLouis uhleka kakhulu, ebona ukuthi akusikho ukuhlanza kokuqala "umalusikazi" odabula emasimini asegodini nabasebenzi abahlelwe, beqhuba umhlambi wezimvu ezimnandi. Kodwa umphumela wenziwa: uLouis waphinde wamvakashela ekamelweni lokulala.
Le ndaba emnandi mayelana nama-greats alo mhlaba uqinisekisa kuphela ukuthi abakwa-sexologists abakhathele ukufakazela: ukuhleka kunomphumela omuhle kubantu. Isimo sakho sokudlala sizovuselela impilo yakho yobulili kuphela. Thatha okungenani ukudlala indima yezocansi. Vumelanisa ukuvela ngaphambi komuntu othandekayo esitokisini esikhethekile, uthi, umhlengikazi ovula okuningi kunezingcingo, udinga ukuzwa amahlaya. Futhi othandekayo wakho, futhi, ikakhulukazi uma uzomfaka "uhlolwe", bese "uphatha".
Noma kunjalo, amahlaya amahlaya , kodwa ukuhlanganisa ubulili nokuhleka kuyadingeka "ngokuhlakanipha". Umkhawulo phakathi kwamahlaya angcolile nokuhleka usulu cishe awukho. Futhi mhlawumbe wazi ngokwakho ukuthi uzwela kangakanani, kukhona amadoda, lapho amahlaya ehambisana nesihloko esithi "ngaphansi kwebhande". Ngakho-ke, "funda izikhathi eziyishumi, uthathe kanye", uma ufuna ukuhleka usulu ngokuziphatha kwakhe embhedeni, umnike isiteketiso esihle noma ubeke isipho esitolo sangasese.