Izinkimbinkimbi
Njengoba wazi, wonke umuntu wenza ukhetho oluthile, uhlangabezana nemizwelo ethile, ngokusekelwe kokuhlangenwe nakho nokubukwa kwakhe. Kodwa indima ebalulekile idlalwe isimo sengqondo nokulingana kwengqondo. Kukhona amadoda anzima kakhulu. Zilungele ukuthanda, kodwa azilungele ukubhekana nezinkinga futhi zamukele ukwenqaba. Emadodeni anjalo, inzondo ishaywa phansi lapho kungaboniswa uthando. Bangakwazi ukuthanda owesifazane isikhathi eside kakhulu, kodwa emva kokuqaphela ukungahloniphi kwamaphupho abo kuza, uthando luphenduka inzondo. Empeleni, umuntu onjalo uyamzonda umshana, kodwa yena. Kodwa akanakukuvuma. Uqala ukunqoba lo wesifazane ekuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe nobunzima bomuntu siqu, uhlakulele ngobuhle kuye, ukuze ngandlela-thile avikele ukuhluleka kwakhe. Abantu abanjalo banamandla kakhulu emoyeni. Abazami ukushintsha okuthile. Kulula ukuthi bazonde umuntu kunokuba bazibonele ngokwabo amaminithi bese bezama ukuguqula zibe izinto ezinhle. Ngabantu abanjalo, ushintsho olungajwayelekile ngemuva kwalokho, njengoba beqonda ukuthi abakwazi ukufeza uthando. Eyinkimbinkimbi, ethandekayo, ekulungele-konke, ngokungazelelwe iba ama-misogynists anonya abalungele ukutshela ikhonji ngesikhathi lapho owesifazane owakhandayo owakuthandayo, oyisiwula, engafanele ukunakwa kwabanye. Ezimweni ezinzima kakhulu, yilawa madoda azama ukulimaza abesifazane futhi aphindiselele kubo. Kuhlale kudingekile ukuba uhlale kude nabantu abanjalo.
Iqiniso lokuthi i-takoyevspyshki inzondo iyisiphumo sokuntuleka kothando ebuntwaneni, ukuhlazeka kwezigebengu njalonjalo. Umuntu onjalo, bonke abangamthandi yizitha. Ngesikhathi umfana ethandana nomfazi futhi efezekisa, enhliziyweni ukholelwa ukuthi uhlangabezana nalezi zimzwa, ufuna nje ukubona ukuqinisekiswa kothando lwakhe. Kodwa uma lokhu kungenzeki, le ndoda idumazekile futhi owesifazane uba yisitha komunye. Ngaphezu kwalokho, la madoda aqhubekisela abanye konke ukulahlekelwa nokudumazeka kwabo. Uma engayifinyelelanga owesifazane, akusiyo ngenxa yobuthakathaka bakhe nokungabi namuntu, ukungabi nethemba, imikhuba emibi nokuntuleka kwekhono lokuziphatha ngendlela efanelekayo. Akunjalo! Akazange afinyelele intombazane yakhe ngoba ingumfana osemdala (i-idiot asebekhulile) enobuchopho (ohlakaniphile kakhulu), izidingo ezingenalutho nokunye nokunye. Ngakho-ke, uma ngokuzumayo uzonda umuntu owayekade emthanda, ngubani ofanelana nale ncazelo, esikhundleni sokucabanga nokuthukuthela, zama nje ukugcina kuyo ngangokunokwenzeka futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ungayinaki amahemuhemu angayikhipha. Khumbula ukuthi lapho uqala ukuphendula, uyaziqhenya ngokuzethemba kwakhe noma uqinisekise futhi ukuthi uyindoda enhle, futhi uyisidalwa esingenasidingo esiziphendulela, ngakho-ke siyavuma ukuthi unecala.
Ukuchitha imibono
Yiqiniso, inzondo ayifikanga kuphela ngemuva kwezinkathazo. Amadoda angabazonda labo besifazane abathi ngenxa yezizathu ezithile babe nesmogli noma abafuni ukuvumelana nemigomo yabo. Ekuphileni kwawo wonke umuntu kukhona indoda noma owesifazane amaphupho akhe. Ngesinye isikhathi, siyaqonda ukuthi abantu abalungile abakho futhi sizama ukuthanda labo abafanele kakhulu izidingo zethu, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo uhlala umuntu. Ngeshwa, abanye abantu abafuni ukuqaphela lokhu. Cishe, owathandekayo wangaphambili owake wadala ekhanda lakhe unhle. Khona-ke wahlangana nawe futhi wacabanga ukuthi nguyena lo wesifazane-iphupho. Konke lokhu waziqinisekisa yena nothando lwakhe. Kodwa ngeshwa, waqhubeka ethandana nomqondo wakhe futhi wazama ngawo wonke amandla akhe ukuthi angaqapheli ukuthi awunjalo. Futhi-ke, mhlawumbe, kwakukhona isimo, ngenxa yokuthi le ndoda yayisadingeka ibone isimo sangempela, esingajabuli ngaso. Kwakungemva kokubhubhisa imigomo yakhe, ungasho ukuthi, wasusa iphupho, le ndoda yakuzonda. Kulesi simo, kwengqondo yakhe iqondakala ngokuphelele. Khumbula ukuthi ulaka kangakanani kubantu abachitha izinhlelo zakho noma bekuvimbela ukuba ufinyelele umgomo wakho. Kulesi simo, ubhubhise isithombe sakho esihle emehlweni futhi lo muntu akafuni ukuvuma ukuthi uhlale ube umuntu ohlukile. Cha, uzoziqinisekisa ukuthi owesifazane wamqamba amanga ngaso sonke isikhathi, ezenza sengathi uphelele.
Okwesibili ukuthi uzoziqinisekisa ukuthi ushintshile, ngoba wayenomusa, othakazelisayo futhi omuhle kakhulu, futhi awuzange uyibone futhi uguquke ube yi-bitch. Kulesi simo, kufanelekile ukubhekana nalokhu. Yiqiniso, kuyabuhlungu futhi kuyalimala lapho usolwa ngezinye izizathu awukwazanga ukutshala kuhlaka lomfazi ongcono, okwamanje kuleli zwe alitholakali. Kodwa-ke, kungcono ukuba ujabule ukuthi ekugcineni lo muntu wavuka futhi wayeka ukukhohlisa hhayi yena kuphela, kodwa wena. Kunzima kakhulu ukuphila, ukwazi ukuthi ukubuka umuntu uthanda umuntu ongapheli ngokuphelele. Futhi uma uzama ukucasula ukuthi uzicabangela owesifazane ohluke ngokuphelele, aziphathe ngendlela engakafaneli nesithombe asidalile, lo muntu uqala ukwakha izizathu ezingenangqondo ezenzakalweni zakho, kodwa akafuni ukukholelwa empeleni.
Futhi uma wamcasula
Noma kunjalo inzondo yomuntu ingabangela izinkinga zakhe ezingokwengqondo kuphela. Owesifazane kungaba ngempela isizathu. Ngakho-ke, uma umfana wakho eshintsha kakhulu isimo sengqondo kuwe, namanje ucabange ngezenzo zakho. Futhi uma uzizwa ukuthi wenze okungalungile, akudingeki ufune isizathu. Mhlawumbe wenza ngokungathembeki kancane, ukukhonjiswa noma ukuguqulwa. Noma, isibonelo, bahluleka, kodwa baqhubeka bebonana, becabanga ngenye into, futhi bayishintsha ngenye. Kulokhu, ukuziphatha kwe-vego akumangalisi. Awuzange nje umlimaze, wamthuka futhi wamthobisa ubudoda bakhe, futhi lokhu kuyisizathu esiyinhloko sokuzonda abantu. Futhi uma isimo sesithuthukile ngale ndlela, khona-ke indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma kuyoba ukucela intethelelo futhi ilahleka phakade empilweni yakhe.