Ukuziphatha okuholela ekuphuleni ebuhlotsheni

Izinkinga ngokuthembela nokuqonda okufanayo zingase zivele ngezikhathi ezithile ngisho nangesibhangqwana esinothando nesivumelana kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, kunezibonelo ezihlukene zokuziphatha, okuholela ekutheni iningi lamacala aphule ukuhlukana okungaqondakali ebuhlotsheni. Uma ukuziphatha kwakho kufana nelinye lalezi zinhlobo - zibophe ngokuphuthumayo. Shintsha, kungenjalo ubuhlobo obunjalo obulandelayo buzophela ngokuhlukanisa, ukudumazeka nokulahlekelwa ukholo othandweni lweqiniso.


Ukusola

Ukusola ngokweqile kanye nokuthungatha okuyingxenye yakho kuzokubulala ngesikhathi esifushane ngisho nethando elihlanzekile kakhulu. Uzoqala "ukuthola" umlingani ngemibuzo ejwayelekile "ukukhathazeka?", "Ungobani na?", Bese uya phansi ukuyohlola amasaka akhe ukufuna inothi lakhe. Akungabazeki ukuthi noma yimuphi umuntu ojwayelekile uyoba nesineke ngokwanele isikhathi eside kangaka ukuze amelane nokungathembeki okunjalo okululazayo futhi agcwalise ukunganaki ilungelo lakhe esikhala somuntu siqu.

Qinisekisa ukuhlonipha umlingani wakho, ukwakha ubuhlobo naye ekuthembekeni kokubili. Uma unenoma yikuphi ukungabaza okuqondile - zama ukubiza ingxoxo yakhe evulekile. Kodwa kwenze kahle kakhulu, ukwazi ukuxolisa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukuhumusha ingxoxo uma ubona ukuthi asikho isizathu somhawu wakho. Uma unomuzwa wokuthi ukusola kwakho kuyisifo sokugula, cela usizo kumuntu wezokwelapha.

Ukuqhathanisa

Hlala uqhathanisa nomlingani wakho namanye amadoda ngokungahambisani. Yenza le grubo, ngokuqondile ebusweni, futhi lezi ziqhathaniso azikho nhlobo kumuntu wakho. Khona-ke ubuhlobo bakho ngokuqinisekile buyobhujiswa. Noma yimuphi umuntu ofuna ukubhekwa njengengqayizivele - khumbula lokhu! Amadoda aziqhenya kakhulu futhi angathinti, "ungahlwanyeli" endaweni ethile ekungabazeni komlingani womlingani ukuthi akuyedwa kuphela kuwe. Futhi ukuqhathanisa kungokwemvelo ngokwemvelo. Uma ungathandi konke okomuntu, kungani ungenaye, hhayi nge-Dlegri "ekahle" noma u-"osebenza kanzima" ka-Oleg? Okusho ukuthi "uphonsa ubuchopho bakho" kumlingani wakho nsuku zonke, uma uqhubeka nokukopela, naphezu kokushiyeka kwakhe ngokuqondene nabanye?

Qaphela ukubala ngokwengqondo kuze kube yishumi njalo lapho ufuna ukukusho ngokuzwakalayo nabanye abamele ubulili obuqinile. Ingabe unelisekile ngokwedlulele nomlingani wakho? Khuluma naye ngendlela enokuthula ngangokunokwenzeka, ngokuqinisekile unikeze ukuphuma kokukhipha lokhu kulesi simo. Khumbula: ungakwazi ukuveza ukuthukuthela kuphela ngezimfanelo umuntu angazilungisa. Kungumuntu ongenakuqhathanisa ukuqhathanisa nendoda yakho ecindezelekile ngomakhelwane 'ogqoka umfazi nsuku zonke ezandleni zakhe.' Vumela ingqondo yakho iqhubekele phambili kolimi.

Isimo sokukhononda

Ungapheli ukukhononda ngendoda yakho njalo uma unenkinga ebuhlotsheni bakho. Kuyacaca ukuthi ufuna ngokuqinisekile ukulahla imizwa yakho, ukuze uzwele ngokomzwelo ngokushesha. Kodwa-ke, ufuna ukugcina ubuhlobo nendoda? Uma unquma ukuthi u-yebo, izinkinga zakho siqu kudingeka zixazululwe ngokuzimela. Ungabandakanyi ukuhlanza "izingubo zomndeni" zabangane nezihlobo. Ngokuqinisekile bayokulalela ngentshisekelo, banikeze izeluleko eziningi ezibalulekile, baze babelane nakho, kodwa lokhu akunakwenzeka ukukusiza.

Khumbula: bonke abantu bahlukile, izimo azifani ngokufanayo. Cishe, abangane bakho "bazovusa" ukuze ulahlekelwe amandla okuhlola isimo ngokuqondile. Zama ukuzithengisa ngokwakho ngu-Spartner. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kunamahloni ngaleso sikhathi ngaphambi kwabantu, lapho izindaba zabathandekayo zizoxazululwa. Ngabe udaka luthulwe kanjani ekhelini lakhe, futhi manje, njengabo bonke abanye, bakhohlisiwe. Ngakho-ke, akuyona into embi kakhulu, ngoba uhlale nabo bonke njengakuqala.

Ama-Scandals

Ingabe lokhu kubuthakathaka besifazane (noma ubuwula)? Kubalulekile ukuqonda kusukela ekuqaleni ukuthi amadoda ngokujwayelekile abambelela ukubaluleka okuncane ezintweni "ezibalulekile" ezibalulekile thina, besifazane, kubonakala sengathi ziyisikhathi esibalulekile sokuphila. Udinga ukucabangela isici somuntu onjalo futhi ungahle uhlele ukungcola, ngaphandle kokuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo ngenxa yemisebenzi yasendlini ehlakazekile nezinye izinto ezibaluleke kakhulu ngezinto zakho ze "bell".

Amadoda asuke ecindezelekile kakhulu futhi edinwe kakhulu kulezi zinkinga ezincane "ze-bazaar". Babheka abesifazane, abahambeli babo, abangenakuhlala phakade bejabule ngempilo yabakwaMeggers. Thatha lula kuwe, isiphetho sokungazinaki lezi "zinto ezincane." Ngeke usindise ubudlelwane kuphela, kodwa futhi nesistimu yakho yezinzwa.

Ayikho intethelelo

Funda isayensi eyigugu yokuthethelela. Uma ngabe ingxabano "ixazululwe" yodwa, khuluma ngale nkinga endaweni enokuthula. Qaphela amaphutha akho bese uxolisa kumlingani wakho. Noma yikuphi ukuphazamiseka kokungabikho kokuthethelelwa okukhulunywe ngakho kuzokuhlala enkumbulo yakho indawo emnyama. Lokhu kuzokukhumbuza njalo ngxabano. Ukubuyisana okuphelele kanye nokuthethelela akuyikushiya imibono emibi emphefumulweni, ube mnandi ngempela.

Izinkinga zikhona kunoma yiluphi ubudlelwane. Kodwa uma ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ukuthola ukuthi yikuphi okukuvimbela ukuthi uhlangane ngokuvumelana, ungagwema ikhefu elingalindelekile. Futhi, ngokuphambene nalokho, uma ubuwula "ukugoba umugqa wakho" futhi ungafuni ukushintsha ngenxa yothandekayo ukuze ube ngcono, ngeke ube nobuhlobo. Lokho kuyiqiniso lokuphila.