Ukuqonda kanjani lapho umuntu ekhwele?

Abaningi abameleli bobulili obufanele bakholelwa bodwa ukuthi uma indoda ihlela izigcawu zomhawu noma nje ngazo zonke izindlela ibonisa, ke uyayithanda ngokuhlukumeza. Kodwa empeleni konke kuhluke kakhulu. Uma umnumzane ezwelana nenhliziyo nowesifazane, izizathu zomhawu zilula - wayesevele enemizwa yowesifazane futhi wesaba ukulahlekelwa yiyo. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi ukubonakaliswa komona wesilisa akubonakali ngokuphelele, kodwa esikhundleni salowo muntu uhamba ngokuzizwa kabi nokufutheka emphefumulweni.


Ukuhlala ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa nomuntu onjalo akuyona into elula kunomuntu onomhawu ohlala emzimbeni, ohlala njalo lapho uhlala khona, uhlela uhlazo nakho konke okulandelayo kuye. Ngendlela, ngokwezibalo, cishe, inhlukankulu ishade kwenzeka ngenxa yomhawu ofihlekile nokungaqondi kahle kwabesifazane ngesimo. Ngakho-ke, ukuze ugweme inkathazo, kubalulekile, okokuqala, ukuthola ukuthi umona unomhawu futhi ngosizo lwalokhu ukuze uthole ukuthi isoka lakho linomona yini noma akabonanga izizathu zalokhu.

Izimbangela zokushiswa komona wesilisa

Okokuqala, kufanele uzibonele ukuthi ngabe unika idrayivu ngomhawu. Sikunikeza izizathu ezivame kakhulu ezibangelwa umhawu emadodeni:

Ukuphulwa kokuziqhenya kwamadoda. Lapha, into yokuqala efika engqondweni ukuthi iningi labesilisa abanamandla kakhulu besaba ukuphonswa ngaphandle ngenxa yomunye umuntu. Ukukhathalela lolu hlobo kuvame ukulinda njalo izindaba ezimbi futhi nsuku zonke bazama ukuthola kumfazi noma yibuphi ubufakazi noma ubufakazi bokuthi uyamkhaphela.

Bonke abanikazi besilisa noma izandla zami abazithinti. Indoda ingumnikazi, ngokusemthethweni, engafuni ukwabelana ngowesifazane wakhe nomunye umuntu. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu, uma ubona ukubonakaliswa komhlukumezi wakho wokuhlukunyezwa kwamanye amadoda, ama-interlocutors akho, masule umehluko ngisho nasengxoxweni enhle kakhulu futhi unake ukukhetha kwakho. Ngakho uzokwazi ukupholisa amandla akhe futhi ugweme ukungqubuzana.

Umbono wesixuku ngumthetho. Futhi isizathu sesithathu esivamile, esibangele ukuhawukela emadodeni - ukwesaba owesilisa ngamahemuhemu, ukuhleka kwama-chinabolists. Kulokhu, lo muntu uqobo uyakwazi ukuqala ngokuhlukumeza ubudlelwane nomgomo wokufundisa owesifazane nokukholwa ukuthi ulungile.

Indlela yokuqonda uma umuntu egcwele ngaphakathi ngezwi lomhawu ?

Ngendlela, akuwona wonke amalungu e-sex oqinile avame ukuvuleka kakhulu, ngoba kukhona abantu abafihlekile kakhulu futhi babonise umhawu wabo ngendlela ehlukile. Izinhlobo ezivelele kakhulu zokubonakaliswa kwekhwele eliduna elifihliwe, njengombuso, kukhona ezimbili. Okubalulekile kokuqala ukuthi umuntu wakho omuhle uvame ukuqala ukukubuza ngemibuzo ephakamisayo bese ubonisa isimo sengqondo esibi mayelana nokubuya kwakho ekhaya emuva kwesikhathi emsebenzini, uqala ukucasula imihlangano yakho nezintombi zakhe, njll. Ngaleso sikhathi, cishe akunakwenzeka ukwenza amaphutha, indoda yakho izothuthukisa! Indlela yesibili yomhawu yikuziphatha okucasuliwe komuntu. Lapha, i-chevalier iziphatha njengomntwana: ukudlala ngokuthula, mozhetotkazyvatsya kusuka kokudla ngisho nesikhashana ukuphuma endlini. Kule nkinga, kunzima ukubona kuqala imiphumela yokuziphatha okunjalo, ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukuqonda ngesikhathi lapho othembekile wakho enomhawu futhi ethatha isenzo, ekhomba imbangela.

Yiziphi izibonakaliso, ukuthi unomhawu

Ukuze uqonde ngomona ohlangothini lomuntu othandekayo kulula kakhulu, uhlolisise imininingwane evamile engacacile kanye nezinto ezivela empilweni yansuku zonke yokuphila kwansuku zonke. Isibonelo, qaphela ukuthi uthanda kangakanani ukuthanda kwakho okufihlekile kuwe noma ngaphansi kwanoma yikuphi okunye okucacile okushiwo i-SMS yakho efonini, e-imeyli noma kuphrofayli yakho kwinethiwekhi yomphakathi. Konke lokhu kwenziwa ngokumane nje, ngoba umuntu (noma ngaphandle kwesizathu) unomsolo futhi uzama ukuthola umdwebo ozophendula imibuzo yakhe. Uma uqaphela lokhu, qiniseka ukuthi ukhuluma nesoka lakho futhi wenze ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, ngoba izinsolo zakhe ezingenasisekelo zingakhula zibe yi-paranoia.

Esinye isignali esitshela ukuthi othandekayo wakho unomona, kungaba yisifiso sakhe sokuhamba nawe kuma-movie (futhi lokhu kungakhathaliseki ukuthi wayenqabele ukuhamba ngaleyo ndlela). Ngendlela, lesi sifiso sibonakala ngokucacile ngesikhathi uhamba nezintombi zakho noma ozakwabo emsebenzini. Lokhu kungaphikisana nokuthi uke wanquma ukuhamba nawe kanye, ngoba ufuna ukuphumula esimweni esisha endaweni entsha. Okufanayo kusebenza ekuhambeleni kwakho kuzivakashi noma kumidlalo yaseshashalazini, njll. Ngandlela-thile, ngisho nesifiso esivamile, kodwa isifiso sokudambisa, kungenzeka kube isibonakaliso sokuhawukela.

Kunezikhathi lapho umuzwa womhawu ubonakala ngendlela ekhethekile. Lokhu kubalulekile kulabo bantu abathanda ukucinga kuzo zonke izinkomba ngezindlela ezikhohlisayo zokuthi "ingqondo isho kanjani". Isibonelo, ngesikhathi sokudla kwasekuseni, othandekayo wakho (njengokungathi ngengozi) ekhuluma ngokumaziyo kwakho futhi edlulayo, ngesikhathi sale ngxoxo, umbuzo wesiphakamiso ungase "udlule" kodwa ubonane ... Yebo, lokhu akukona isibonakaliso somhawu, kodwa uma ingxoxo enjalo emini ishaya izikhathi ezimbalwa - uqinisekile ukuthi ube nomhawu.

Esinye isibonakaliso somhawu wesilisa kubhekwa njengokusabela kwakhe ngokomzwelo kumngane wakho wesilisa. Isibonelo, uhamba phansi emgwaqweni, uhlangabezane nomngane wakho, ongakaze ubone isikhathi eside. Yebo. Umhlangano uzodala ngaphandle kokubambisana nobungane futhi uwanga ebusweni. Khona-ke ingxoxo ekulindelwe isikhathi eside iqala, futhi umphathi wakho usuvele ukhona. Akaphuthelwa nethuba lokuzijwayeza nomngane wakho futhi kuzo zonke izindlela azama ukuheha umuntu wakhe. Okufanayo kungenzeka, noma ngabe ubona umngane, obona njalo. Wena isoka usazama ukuheha wena noma uqale ukukhuluma noDeveli. Ngelinye igama, ukwenza noma yini eyokuvimbela wena nomngane wakho ukuba nihlale nedwa. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uthini, izwe limane liphazamise othandekayo wakho. Ngakho zama ukumbonisa ukuthi usho okuningi kunamanye amadoda.

Futhi into yokugcina, uma i-chevalier yakho inomhawu ngawe - makenze lokho, ngoba bonke abanikazi besilisa nomqondo womhawu (yebo, okulinganiselwe) yingxenye engafanikiyo yokuphila kwabo! Into eyinhloko akufanele uhambe kude, uqaphele ukunganeliseki kwakhe, futhi ungaphenduli induku, ngoba noma yikuphi ukubekezela kuyaqedwa!