Ama-Psychiatrists athi amaphesenti angama-75 abantu abahlala esifundazweni sethu abhekana nezinkinga ezihlukahlukene ezingqondweni. Lezi zinhlamvu ezingavamile zihlala eduze kwethu futhi ngezinye izikhathi ziphanga impela isimiso sezinzwa kubantu abaphilile. Ngakho-ke, kufanelekile ukufunda indlela yokuziqaphela, ngokushesha ukukhomba izici ezimbi zomlingiswa womuntu. Indlela yokuqaphela nendlela yokuziphatha kahle nabantu abanjalo kuzoxoxwa ngezansi.
I-BORETS YE-IDEA
Indoda yalolu hlobo inamandla angenakuphikiswa nokuzikhandla okungenakugwema. Futhi amandla akhe avame ukuqondiswa kwesiteshi esisodwa, futhi kaningi - ukulwa nomunye umuntu. Isibonelo, ugogo-ugogo angakwazi ukuhlela icala elilodwa kumakhelwane abancane abahlala phezulu, ngubani, ngokusho kwakhe, obala kakhulu umculo, ukuhlukumeza futhi ngazo zonke izindlela aphule ukuthula kwakhe. Kuzokwakhiwa upholster eminyangweni yezikhungo ezibusayo ukuze kutholakale "ubulungiswa". Futhi, ngaphezu kwakho konke, ukuqina kwakhe kuvame ukuvuza, futhi ufeza umgomo wakhe. Ngoba ukunqoba kubakhuthaza abantu abanjalo ngamandla amakhulu, futhi ukuhlukunyezwa kuveza kuphela ukukhanya kwemvelo.
Olunye uhlobo lompi - "ososayensi owaziyo" - angasungula unomphela umshini wokunyakaza ongapheli. Ngeke kube nzima ngaye ukuyeka umsebenzi wakhe ohloniphekile nokuzibheka "laboratory" yakhe ngezinsuku ekugcineni. Ngendlela, ifulethi "lomndeni" liguqulwa kalula libe "i-laboratory" uma ligcwele izingcezu zensimbi, imidwebo nemidwebo. Kubi kakhulu ukuthi akunakwenzeka ukuba umfazi nezingane ezincane ziphile ngendlela enjalo, futhi baphelelwe iqiniso lokuthi badinga usizo lwezinto ezivela kubaba wabo! "Usosayensi oshisayo" unonembeza okwanele ukukhombisa ukunganeliseki komkakhe ngeqiniso lokuthi akahlinzekeli umndeni, kuyilapho esematasa ngebhizinisi.
Ngendlela, ubuciko bomuntu wesibhamu "ukulwa" kuhlukaniswa bonke labo abazungeze "abangani" kanye "nezitha". Abangane yibo ababelana ngemibono yakhe, kanti izitha yizo zonke ezinye. "Izitha" musa ukuhawukela. Phela, "iFighter" inamandla okungajwayelekile futhi impindiselo iya ekugcineni.
Indlela yokuxhumana?
Uma ungabelani ngombono we "Fighter for the idea", thula ngakho ngo-rag, ngaphandle kwalokho unethuba lokuzenza isitha esinamandla. Kodwa uma kwenzeka isimangaliso futhi imigomo yakho ihambisana naye, hlanganisa! Ngenxa ye "Fighter" uzothola okuningi. Kwezinye izimo, zama ukuhlala kude nayo. Kusukela izici ezingalungile zobunjwa bomuntu - ukusola, ukuhlukumezeka, ukungahambisani nezinkinga zabanye abantu - ukwandisa kuzo zonke izindawo ezizungezile.
UMUNTU EFUTLER
Khumbula, emlandweni odumile we-"Man in Case" kaKhekhov, uthisha wezwe akuvumelekile ukuba aphile ngokwesaba okukhulu nokungabaza? Waphindaphinda njalo: "Bekuzokwenzekani," kodwana ekugcineni ukukhathazeka kangangokuba waze wafa. Lo titshala uyisithombe esihlangene sabo bonke abantu abangabazayo.
Abantu abanjalo abakwazi ukuzola. Ngisho noma konke kuhle, bahlushwa ukungabaza: "Ngenze konke ngokulungile?", "Kungani uMarya Petrovna angibhekile kabi kangaka?".
Nginomngane oyedwa ochitha cishe ihora ukuphuma endlini. Futhi konke ngenxa yokuthi isikhathi eside uhlola ama-bolts, imishini kagesi, amanzi kanye nokukhiya. Uhlale ezwa ukuthi ukhohlwe okuthile ukuvala noma ukuyivala. Lo wesifazane akudingeki aphule emsebenzini kusukela ekuphakameni kosuku lomsebenzi futhi aye komunye umkhawulo wedolobha, ukuze aqiniseke futhi: indlu ayizange iphangwe.
Kodwa ngazo zonke izici zabo ezimbi, abantu abanjalo banokwethenjelwa kakhulu futhi banomthwalo wemfanelo. Bangabangane abahle kakhulu - bahlale bezwela, bebalekele ngesikhathi esilukhuni futhi bangalokothi benze intando ngamabomu. Kodwa-ke, lungele ukugcoba nokukhala. "Indoda ecaleni" amahora amabili namane ngosuku isesimweni sokwesaba nokukhathazeka. Kuye, kuzodingeka udlale indima yocwaningo lwe-psychotherapist: ukhuthaze njalo futhi ukhuthaze ukuzethemba emphefumulweni wakhe womshado.
Indlela yokuxhumana?
Ngokuseduze ngangokunokwenzeka, bukela ukuziphatha kwakho, amagama nezwi lezwi. Phela, "Umuntu osesimweni" angase avuse ngisho nokubukeka okubi. Ungalokothi uligxeke, ungcono ukudumisa. Uma udinga ukumbuza mayelana nensizakalo - ungabi namahloni: lo mphefumulo onomphefumulo ungene ekhekhe uzophuka, kodwa ugcwalise isithembiso. Nokho, isabelo kufanele sinikezwe ngokucacile ngangokunokwenzeka. Ungasho ukuthi: "Iya esitolo uthenge inyama." Uzohamba, kodwa ngeke abuyele maduze, ngoba ngeke azi: a) yisiphi isitolo okufanele ahambe kuso; b) ukuthi inyama nokuthenga ingakanani. Kudingeka ukuthi: "Yiya esitolo (leyo yileli kheli), uthenge i-kilogram yezinkomo bese ubuyela masinyane."
I-TIRAN EYININGA
Ngeshwa, umuntu onalolu hlobo lomlingiswa akakwazi ukulawula ukuthukuthela kwakhe siqu kwentukuthelo. "Isiqhwaga" sigula ngenxa yesenzakalo esiyinkimbinkimbi kunazo zonke, bese kuthi isikhathi eside singakwazi ukufika ezinyangeni. Iqiniso liwukuthi ukufutheka nokuthukuthela kwakhe kuyakha kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiziphi izimo. Ngezikhathi ezithile, "Tirana" kubalulekile ukuthola isisusa sokuthi "uphule" komunye umuntu, ngaphandle kwalokho imizwelo emibi izoqala ukudla ngaphakathi. Ngeke kube nzima kakhulu, njengesibonelo esiphilayo, ukuvusa inkumbulo yakho ngomunye womunye umuntu (noma mhlawumbe owakho?) Oshade naye oshayayo noma oyisikhulu esithukuthele.
Phakathi kokudabuka kwentukuthelo umashiqela angabonisa umbono omuhle kakhulu, kodwa lokhu akusona isikhathi eside. I-speck encane ezembathweni noma isidlo sakusihlwa okungenani iminithi ingabangela ukufutheka komphefumulo wakhe nentukuthelo, eyashesha ngokushesha kwabanye. Ngezikhathi "zesahlulelo esibi", zonke "izono" zabo ziyakhunjulwa. Umoya omubi ungavela ngisho nangokwakho, ngenxa yesizathu esicacile. Ngezinye izikhathi "isikhathi esimnyama" sihamba izinsuku ezimbalwa.
Laba bantu bafuna ukulalela okungenakuphikisa, kodwa bona ngokwabo ababekezeleli ithoni ehlelekile. I-Egoism kuzo ihlangene nobuningi nokuhlukunyezwa. Ngezinye izikhathi "amaTrans" akakwazi ukulawula ukuqhuma kokufutheka kwabo abazitholela emgodini njengecala lokubulala. I-forensic psychiatry yazi amacala amaningi anjalo. Ngakho-ke, nge "Tyrants" kufanele uqaphele kakhulu.
Indlela yokuxhumana?
Ngeshwa, izici ezingalungile zobunjwa be- "Tyrant" azikwazi ukuguqulwa, futhi izinkathi zobunzima zizohlala zikhona. Indlela kuphela yokuphuma ukuyeka ukuxhumana naye. Kulungile, uma lesi sikhalazo sesivele senzekile, zama ukungaxabani, gwema ukuphikisana nekholi ehlelekile, ukuze ungabhubhisi ukuthukuthela okusha kwentukuthelo. Ngolunye usuku i-villain izoba "perebesitsya", futhi uphefumula kalula. Iqiniso, hhayi isikhathi eside, futhi kungekudala konke kuzokwenzeka futhi.
ISIHLOKO SESIKHATHI
Ngokujwayelekile, "inkanyezi" (kumuntu wesayensi-hysterical) uhlamvu lwabesifazane, kodwa abantu abanezici ezifanayo nazo zenzeka. Laba bantu bakunzima ukungaqapheli. Le ndoda ibheka ngokungcolile futhi igxile kakhulu. Le ndoda iyakhazimula futhi isitayela. Uhlala ephethe isibuko, lapho ebheka ubuso bakhe obungenakuphikiswa. Laba bantu abanesithakazelo kunoma yini kodwa ubuntu babo. Baqiniseka ngokungafani kwabo futhi bacabanga ukuthi wonke umuntu kufanele azi ngalokhu. "Izinkanyezi" azikwazi ukulalela, kodwa zinekhono ngesithunzi sabo, ingcebo nothando ukunqoba, benza ngokuhlakanipha kangangokuthi bona baqala ukukholelwa kulokho abakushoyo.
Babezobangela izinkinga ezincane uma abantu bengabathinti ngokungathí sina. Kodwa-ke, amanga aluhlaza abulala umqondo futhi, isibonelo, umphathi, lapho elalele i-braggart, emnika umsebenzi onomthwalo wemfanelo noma emisa esikhundleni esiphakeme. I-Khvastun, kodwa, ayisheshi ukuqala imisebenzi emisha, futhi amahora okusebenza asetshenziselwa ukuziqhayisa phambi kosebenza nabo ngempumelelo yakhe enkulu.
Kuyingozi ukuba umngane noZvezda. Ukuqinisekisa umngane wakhe ngokuzinikela kwakhe nokwethembeka kwakhe, akayikungabaza ukwakha umyeni wakhe futhi uzame ukumkhohlisa. Uma iphumelela, "i-Star" ingafika kalula kumngane bese isitshela ukuthi "ukuwa" kwayo kuyo yonke imininingwane yayo. Umthengisi uzoqala ukusila, acele ukuthethelelwa, athi usuke enamahloni kakhulu ngaye kanye naye, ukuthi akanakusiza, ukuthi yena ngokwakhe ... Nokho, akudingekile ukumkholelwa, ngoba wayenga indoda yakhe ukuze azibonakalise yena ngokwakhe: " Ngiyena engcono kakhulu, futhi wonke amadoda ahlanya ngami. "
Indlela yokuxhumana?
"Inkanyezi" ngumlingisi ongafanelwe (noma umdlali). Abantu abanjalo banomuzwa wokuthi banesidingo sokunakwa ngakho-ke bayayidonsela nganoma iyiphi indlela, hhayi ukuzidela ngisho nokuziphatha okubi kakhulu. Ukuze ungavumeli ukuqhuma kwemikhuba emibi yomlingiswa womuntu- "Izinkanyezi", uyazihlonipha izimfanelo zakhe ezinhle: ubungani, ukuxhumana nomphakathi, umsebenzi. Uma kungenjalo, uzoqala ukuhlela futhi ahlele ngokumelene nawe ukukhathazeka, ukuheha kuphela. Kunoma yikuphi, ungavumeli owesifazane - "I-Star" eduze kakhulu nomkakhe - uzama ukulwa.
Yiqiniso, kunezinhlobo eziningi zezinhlamvu ezingavamile kunalokhu esizifakile lapha. Ngokuvamile kukhona ukuxubana okuqhumayo kwezinhlobo eziningana, isibonelo, "Inkanyezi kwesikrini" + "I-fighter yomqondo." Noma kunjalo, ngisho nale "rattles" ingalawulwa ngosizo lwezindlela ezichazwe ngenhla.