Yini okufanele uxoxe nomyeni wakhe, yiziphi izihloko?

Kukhona isaga esidala saseRussia: indoda nomfazi bangamaSathane. Futhi, uma sibheka abantu abajabulayo emshadweni, siyaqonda ngokushesha lapho "imilenze ikhula khona" kulo mzekeliso. Abantu ababili abashade isikhathi eside, baqala ukuqonda omunye nomunye, futhi ngokuvamile bengenawo amagama. Izisusa zezenzo zabo, imikhuba, isitayela sokuziphatha - konke kujwayelekile.

Kodwa yini ebangela lesi sici esingaphandle esingavamile? Futhi kungani abesifazane abaningi beqhubeka bebuza: "Yini okufanele uxoxe ngayo nomyeni wakho, yiziphi izihloko?"

Ingxoxo yisidingo salo muntu, isenzo esidingekayo nsuku zonke. Akukhathaleki ukuthi ngabe kuyinto ngomlomo, ebhaliwe noma enye; kodwa abantu ngaphandle kokukhulumisana baqala ukuzwa imizwelo emibi, bazizwa bengathokozi noma belahlekelwa yingqondo yabo. Ngokuvamile, owesifazane ongaxoxani nendoda yakhe angazizwa engadingekile noma eshiyiwe.

Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ubuhlobo - kudla isikhathi, nsuku zonke, futhi ngokushesha, ngomsebenzi ngamunye wamaminithi. Futhi uma laba bobabili bebhalile ngokomthetho ubudlelwane babo, baye bazuza ukuzinza kubo, lokhu akusho ukuthi umsebenzi usuphelile. Ngokuphambene nalokho, izinto ezithakazelisayo kakhulu zizayo. Ukuqinisekisa ukuthi ngemva kokuthandana kothando isikhathi eside akushiyanga ubuhlobo, kubalulekile ukuthi ube nokuthembeka, intshisekelo, insizwa. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ungavame ukuzwa ukuthi phakathi kwabantu abaye bahlala ndawonye isikhathi eside, akukho ukuvuselelwa kwezinzwa, injabulo, ukukhuluma nje, ukukhanya. Kukhona kungenzeka ukuthi lokhu kubangelwa ukuthi bayobumba emsebenzini ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi bayathemba ngokugcwele ukuthi bayakhohlwa ngokuphelele "ngezinto ezincane" ezake zanikeza isithunzi ebuhlotsheni babo.

Kungenzeka ukuthi, ngokusho komyeni wakhe, ukuthanda uthando kufanele kubulawe emsebenzini ukuze kube nenhlalakahle yomndeni wakhe. Futhi lokhu akuwona ubugebengu. Nokho, kukhona okumele ucabange ngakho. Uma kubonakala kuwe ukuthi lokhu kuqondene nawe, khona-ke nansi iseluleko esihle - udinga ukuvuselela okwakwenzeka esikhathini eside esidlule, futhi ikakhulukazi, uma uchitha isikhathi ndawonye futhi ujabule. Kufanelekile noma yikuphi ukuzijabulisa ngokuhamba ngebhayisikili epaki ngaphambi kokuya emdlalweni webhola. Yenza, nguwe kuphela nomyeni wakho. Khohlwa ngalolu suku mayelana nomsebenzi, inzalo, ugogo ogulayo; mayelana nazo zonke izinto ezivamile. Ungalindeli ukuthuthuka okukhanyayo, kube njalo. Emva kwalokho ungatshela umuntu wakho ukuthi uyamthanda kanjani nokuthi ujabule kanjani emva kwezinsuku ezisebenzisiwe. Khetha amagama akho, kodwa ungabi mnene kakhulu, umenze abe nomuzwa ojabulisayo.

Ukukhuluma ngaphambi kokwenza uthando kungenye indlela yokuvuselela imizwa. Lokhu, yiqiniso, kuyindaba yokunambitha, kodwa kuwufanele ukuzama. Ungakwazi ukuxoxa ngezifiso zakho nemizwa okwamanje - lokhu kuzoholela ekuqondeni okungcono nokwaneliseka. Into eyinhloko ukuthi uvuke ngobuqotho futhi uvuleke kakhulu, mhlawumbe ungafunda okuthile okusha noma uvuke kwelinye izinga.

Zama hhayi kuphela ukukhuluma, kodwa futhi ukulalela. Futhi ngaphandle kwalokho, khumbula lokho oyizwile. Wonke umuntu uyajabula ukwazi ukuthi bayamlalela. Ngakho awukwazi nje ukubonisa ukuthi umuntu ubalulekile futhi uyamdinga; Uthola ukuthi unesithakazelo kulokho okubalulekile ohlwini lwazo zokuzilibazisa. Thatha ngokuphepha ngezandla futhi unqobe ngokuphindaphindiwe umyeni wakho, ukumangaze ngezinga lelwazi lakho nokuqwashisa ezenzakalweni zakamuva emkhakheni wezintshisekelo zakhe. Uma ufunda ukulalela, uzofunda futhi, mhlawumbe kusuka emabintweni abanjwe phansi, okushiwo kwezinye izici zokuphila komndeni wakho, ngakho-ke ungakwazi ukukhokhela izinkinga.

Cabanga futhi ngokuphila kwakho. Yengeza ama-adventures nezenzakalo ezingalindelekile emhlabeni wonke wansuku zonke. Ncoma usuku lwakho ngemibono futhi uzothola ngokushesha ukuthi yini ongayitshela. Yenza izinto ezintsha, isimo sakho sithuthuke, futhi amehlo akho azokhazimula. Akufanele ubize ihhovisi lomyeni wakho izikhathi eziyishumi ngosuku ukuze umtshele izindaba zakamuva, kungcono ukuligcina kusihlwa - khona-ke uzoba nesikhathi sokuthukuthela futhi uzobheka phambili ekuhlangabezaneni nawe. Ukukhuluma ngokuphila kwansuku zonke nokuphila kwansuku zonke, ungaphefumulelwa yimibono elandelayo: zama ukuhlela kabusha izindaba zakho zasendlini ngendlela yokuthi awuzwa isidingo esincane sokuxoxa (noma ukucacisa ubuhlobo) izikhathi ezimnandi zesimiso somsebenzi nsuku zonke. Ngakho-ke, i-daishisher noma i-akhawunti ebhange, lapho zonke izinkokhelo zenyanga ezisebenzayo zibhalwe khona, zilahlwe isidingo sokuchitha isikhathi nomzamo ekutholeni ukuthi ubani ozogeza izitsha noma ukubhekana nezikweletu.

Ungabuzi ukuthi "ufuna ukukhuluma ngani nomyeni wakho?"; khumbula ukuthi ukuthandana kokubili ubuhlobo obuqotho, obuseduze, lapho bobabili banikwa futhi bethathwa ngokungenabugovu. Zama ukulondoloza ukufudumala okunjalo emakhaya akho, bese kuhlale kube nenani elikhulu lezihloko zokuxoxisana!