Pho kungani abesifazane bexoshwa ngamadoda? Mhlawumbe abesifazane badumala kubafana banamuhla ngenxa yokuthi balahlekelwa isibindi nesimo sengqondo esifanele kobulili obuhlukile. Amantombazane adumazeka ngamadoda, ebuka obaba babo kanye nabakhulu. Vumelana, ngoba abantu abaningi balesi sizukulwane banamanani ahlukene ngokuphelele. Kungani abesifazane asebekhulile behlala bemangalisa ubuhlobo bentsha? Ngoba ngaleso sikhathi ngisho nendoda engafundile yazi ukuthi owesifazane kufanele anike isandla, avule iminyango phambi kwakhe ahambe phambi kwakhe, futhi angafungi phambi kwabesifazane. Emadodeni anamuhla, akunakwenzeka ukuba kutholakale ukukhuliswa okunjalo. Ngisho noma ngabe abazali baye bafaka imali kubo kusukela ebuntwaneni, abafana, bebheka, ngesizathu esithile banquma ukuthi ukufundiswa ubuthakathaka futhi beyeke ukuziphatha ngendlela evamile. Ngisho nemfundo ephakeme emibili kanye nezinga eliphakeme eliyinhloko le-ay-kyu, la madoda ayaqhubeka akhohlwa ngezinto ezisemqoka kakhulu okumelwe ayenze kumantombazane. Futhi hhayi kuphela othandekayo nezintombi, kodwa futhi kubo bonke abesifazane ngokujwayelekile. Uma umuntu ongajwayelekile ahlinzeka isandla, kubonakala sengathi uyisimanga, nakuba ngaphambili bekubonakala kujwayelekile. Kodwa, lokhu kuyiphutha labesifazane ngokwabo. Phela, sihlale sikhuluma ngokulingana nobufazi, saqala ukufunga ngomlingani futhi siziphathe njengomuntu. Ngakho-ke, ngokudumazeka, kunesabelo senecala lethu. Futhi labesifazane badumala kubafana, ngoba abazange basuke bengenalo uthando. Kubonakala kubo ukuthi ezweni lanamuhla yonke into ihlanganisiwe, futhi akukho mqondo ekwenzeni into engalindelekile, enhle futhi enhle ngentombazane ethandekayo. Umfana nje akawuboni iphuzu ekuculeni ngaphansi kwe-serenade yewindi, ukubhala ku-asphalt isimemezelo sothando, noma ukuvela esimangalisweni esithakazelisayo, esithandanayo esithinta umntombazane futhi siphinde siqinisekise imizwa yalo muntu. Abaningi bacabanga ukuthi labesifazane "bamane bethukuthele ngamafutha." Eqinisweni, lokhu akunjalo neze. Abesifazane kunzima kakhulu ngaphandle kokuthandana. Uthando lwabo alukwazi ukuthengwa kuphela ngezinto ezibonakalayo. Kubalulekile futhi kungokomoya. Ngakho-ke, uma singanikezwa ngisho nezimbali, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi iqala ukucindezela nokubhubhisa imizwa. Kodwa, noma kunjalo, uma umfana ekhathalela ngempela intombazane, nakuba engazi ukuthi angamthanda kanjani, ungafunda ukuthi ungamthethelela kanjani. Noma kunjalo, lokhu okushiwo akuyona into ebaluleke kunazo zonke.
Abaningi besifazane bayadumala kubafana abangakwazi ukuzimela, ngokuziphatha noma ngokomzimba. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka futhi amadoda eba buthakathaka? Mhlawumbe iqiniso liwukuthi abafana banamuhla akudingeki bafinyelele noma yikuphi ukuhlolwa. Kungani obaba kanye nomkhulu bethu behlala beqhubeka nokugxila engqondweni? Ngoba babehlushwa yimpi, inkonzo yezempi, umsebenzi womzimba. Kwakudingeka bazinakekele ngokwabo kanye nemindeni yabo kusukela esemncane. Futhi abaningi babo babefuna izingane zabo zikhule ezimweni ezikhululekile. Ngenxa yalokho, kwavela ukuthi amadodana alaba bantu azi kahle ukuthi angazinakekela kanjani. Bahlala kuma-computer futhi baphila impilo engokoqobo, bengakhathazeki kakhulu ngeqiniso. Abantu abasha abanjalo abakwazi ukunikeza ushintsho ngezwi noma isibhakela. Bayesaba kakhulu ukuhamba ngezinselele ezimnyama. Kodwa, ngakolunye uhlangothi, akulona lokho okulula. Abesifazane besimanje, emva kwakho konke, njengabafana abanesimo esihle, izwe elikhethekile elingaphakathi. Bathanda uma amadoda eqonda izimonyo nezingubo, akhala futhi azizwe konke ngokuhlakanipha. Lokhu kuholela eqinisweni lokuthi kukhona abamele abesilisa, okuyinto enzima ukuyibiza abafana. Babheka futhi baziphathe njengamantombazane. Yingakho, udinga ukwazi kahle ukuthi hlobo luni lomuntu esiyifunayo. Umuntu ozohamba naye ngokuthenga ngenjabulo futhi abheke i-melodramas noma othile ozokwazi ukujezisa abahlukumezi bethu futhi ngeke avumele noma ubani enze into embi kumfazi wabo. Eqinisweni, amadoda anjalo ahlala, asigcini kakhulu, ngoba bembethe kakhulu kunezidakamizwa zesimanje futhi baziphathe ngokungaqondakali futhi njengamantombazane angathanda.
Yiqiniso, ukuhlupheka kwengqondo, lokhu kuyinkinga yamadoda wanamuhla. Futhi lapha abanakho okumele balinganise. Wonke owesifazane njalo ufuna ukubona esoka lakhe othile owazi ukulwa nokufeza umgomo. Yiyo indoda okufanele ibe yinhloko yomndeni, induna enkulu, ongenza isiqiniseko sokuthi umndeni wakhe uphile kahle futhi ukhululekile. Ngisho nokulingana nentando yeningi, abesifazane abafuni ukubona abathandekayo njengababuthakathaka nabaninikhaya. Kodwa isizukulwane sabafana besimanje siziphatha ngale ndlela. Zinezinkinga eziningi ezingavumeli ukuba ziphile ngokujwayelekile. Kodwa inkinga ukuthi azama ukunqoba. Amadoda anjalo akhululekile ukuhlala ngemuva kwezinkinga zabo ezingqondweni. Bathi akakwazi ukufeza noma yini futhi abize izizathu ezakhiwe. Kulokhu, ngokuvamile, abazami ukwenza okuthile futhi bahambe endaweni ethile. Kodwa ngenjabulo bacabanga ngokungabi nabulungisa kokuphila, mayelana nokuthi balahlekile futhi abafanelanga lutho. Lokhu kuziphatha kuyabangela isihawu, futhi abaningi, ekuqaleni, bazame ukusekela nokuwasiza. Kodwa, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi bayaqonda ukuthi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bazama kanjani ukukhipha lo mfana ngaphandle kokucindezeleka, abakwazi ukukwenza. Ngoba akafuni. Kungcono ukuthi aphile kanje, efihle ngemuva kwamabhande abanye. Lokhu kudumazeka okukhulu kwentombazane.
Ukuze ungadabuki ngokuphelele ensimini eqinile, udinga ukufunda ukuthi ungayinaki amaphutha abo amancane futhi, ukhethe umfana, ngokuthembeka futhi ulinganise ngokwanele. Sonke siyazi kusukela ekuqaleni ukuthi ngubani nokuthi yini. Kodwa sizama njalo ukulungisa abantu abasha futhi senze kangcono. Futhi-ke sidumala. Ngakho-ke, kufanele uqale ukwethembeka kuwe, ukuze ungalili amaphupho aphukile.