Ukuvuma ngothando kuhle ukuzwa bonke abesifazane. Kodwa amadoda amaningi athi kubo kuphela ngoba okhethiweyo ulinda. Imizwa yeqiniso kanye nezinhloso kuyoba izenzo eziningi kakhulu. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, izenzo azisho nje ukuthambekela okuhle kakhulu ngendlela yokuvakasha ngothando, izimbali zezimbali, njll. Ukunakekelwa kufanele kukhokhwe ezintweni ezincane, kuzo zonke izikhathi kukhona ubuhlobo bangempela.
Ukuqala kobudlelwane: ukuqonda ukuthi indoda ithandana
Ukuqala kobuhlobo yisikhathi sokuthandana kakhulu. Kodwa ekuqaleni abesifazane bavame ukungabaza, ngabe imizwa iyabelana. Qinisekisa lokhu kalula ngezimpawu ezingekho amazwi:
- ubuso obuso (ukumomotheka, amashiya aphakanyisiwe, ukubukeka okuqondile);
- ukuthinta (ukuthinteka okungajwayelekile, le ndoda engaguquki izinwele zakhe nezingubo zakhe, iqondisa amahlombe akhe).
Ngokuvamile lezi zibonakaliso nezimpawu ezifanayo zididekile ngezibonakaliso zokukhangwa ngokocansi. Uma umuntu eqhutshwa kuphela yisimiso, amehlo akhe ayobe ewazisa, ehlehla phansi isibalo sesifazane. Thinta - uqiniseke futhi ungaqondile. Isibonakaliso esisodwa sothando sibonakaliso sentshisekelo ekuthandeni owesifazane, okuthandayo kanye nokuthandayo. Le ndoda izokulalela ngokucophelela i-interlocutor, ihlale ivulekile "ukuvuleka" (izandla azifihliwe, umzimba ukhonjiswe phambili). Ngokuthuthukiswa kobudlelwane, uqala ukufaka esikhundleni sesimemezelo esithi "wena" nethi "Mina" ngegama elilodwa - "thina". Ukubaluleka kwezinhloso kuboniswa yisifiso sokusungula owesifazane kubangane bakhe nezihlobo zakhe.
Indlela indoda enothando eziphatha ngayo ebuhlotsheni obuhlala njalo
Ingabe lo muntu uyamthanda ngempela? Umbuzo onjalo uvela ngenxa yokungaqiniseki kwalowo wesifazane kuye, kumuntu noma esikhathini esizayo sombuthano jikelele. Ukujula kwemizwa yakhe kuboniswa izici ezimbili eziyinhloko:
- Ukuziphatha (isimo sengqondo kumfazi wakhe yedwa nasemphakathini, uhlobo lwezokwelapha)
- Okubaluleke kakhulu (impendulo ebuhlotsheni, isikhathi esingakanani ozimisele ukuyichitha nowesifazane wakhe, ingabe ulungele ukuchitha imfucuza)?
Ekuphileni kwansuku zonke, uthando lomuntu lubonakaliswa ekunakekeleni, ekusekelweni, ekuphenduleni kwimizwelo yowesifazane, ukulungele ukunciphisa. Ngeke athukuthelelwe imizwa, ngeke ahlekise izifiso nezidingo zomuntu okhethiwe. Indoda ethanda owesifazane wayo ngeke izame ukushintsha futhi iguqule "yona." Ngeke abuyele ezinkingeni zokuqala, kodwa uzokwenza ukuxazulula izinkinga ndawonye. Ukuqaphela ukuthi unecala kungenye isibonakaliso esingenakuphikisana esibonisa imizwa ejulile. Kodwa umhawu akufanele uthathwe njengokubonakaliswa kothando. Ngokuvame ukufihla ukungaqiniseki kwe-banal kanye nesifiso sokuzifakaza ngokwezindleko zomlingani.