Izincwadi kanye nezithombe zesikhashana zikhazimulisa lesi sithombe ngokuphindaphindiwe. Isizukulwane esingaphezu kwesisodwa sokubonga sasilandela izinkathazo zikaMilady owaziwayo, ohlonishwayo weTorpil - omunye wamaqhawe amakhulu omlando odumile u-Honore de Balzac nabanye abaningi. Babengabesifazane, abafanelwe ukuhlonishwa kanye nokuqiniswa, abesifazane, ngenxa yokuthi badutshulwe ngamadayimane, babulala, badala ukungcola ... Nokho, ezimweni eziningi noma ubani ovalile incwadi noma oqedile ukubukela ifilimu akakwazi ukuthola i-analogue ehambelanayo ekuphileni kwangempela. Kungani?
Owesifazane obulalayo uyinhlobo engozini yokuphila?
Ingabe babekhona ngempela noma babengenalo nhlobo? Mhlawumbe izikhathi zanamuhla aziyona indawo yabantu abanjalo? Mhlawumbe bonke bahlala esikhathini esedlule, bahlaselwa yi-Revolution, i-Silver Age, i-Palace ishaya, njll?
Amadoda amaningi anamuhla awafanelanga isigaba sama-knights ahloniphekile. Ngaphandle kwabo bonke abafana namazwana aloluhlobo, ngakho-ke bakhetha ukusabela ekuhlaselweni okunjalo ngokuthi akukho nhlobo ekuvikeleni nokulwa nomunye umuntu. Kwakungenabesifazane ababulalayo ngempela. Abesifazane bafuna ukuziqaphela kwabanye, bengakwazi ukuzinikela bona. Abamele ubulili obuhle, obuhambisana nesigaba "sobulalayo", hhayi nje ukuhlangana emgwaqweni.
Owesimanje wesifazane, ngeshwa, akanakudonsela ukunakwa kwe-knight. Lokhu kubangelwa ukuthi izifiso kanye nethemba labesifazane besifazane manje selugxile ezintweni ezinjalo zokudla, indlela yokugcina yonke indoda, kuye njll. Abesifazane bakhetha ukuchitha isikhathi bexoxa ngamadoda, bekhalaza ukuthi kuyinto engavamile kakhulu ukuthi umuntu athole isithakazelo. Yiqiniso, laba besifazane bashesha kakhulu abantu abashaya.
Yini esiyaziyo ngabesifazane ababulalayo?
Njengamanje, umphakathi usinikeza isimo esibuhlungu kakhulu sobudlelwane. Bese baphelela emshadweni ophumelelayo, mhlawumbe esemncane. Umphakathi usifundisa ukuthi siqaphelisise ukubukeka kwethu. Sithembele ekutheni indoda ayikwazi ukumelana nobuhle bethu nokuzilungisa kahle. Abesifazane ababulalayo, abaziwa emlandweni (isibonelo, uLilya Brik), babengavamile ubuhle bangempela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ikhono labo lokushayela amadoda laphosa lilingana nethalenta noma isipho semvelo: bambalwa kakhulu abantu abangakwazi ukufunda lolu buci bodwa. Abesifazane ababulalayo abavame ukushaya izikhala eziphezulu, bazama ukuzibandakanya emkhakheni wezobuciko namasiko. Basebenzisa elinye ikhono - ukunqoba kwamadoda.
Umsebenzi noma umndeni?
Inkinga yezizukulwane inzima kunanini ngaphambili. Abazali balindele ukuba sishade, abazukulu kanye nokuziqhenya emndenini. Ngezinye izikhathi asikwazi ukulwa nezifiso zethu futhi sishiye konke lokhu ngisho nangokwesibini, kodwa esikebheni seshumi. Ngomzamo wokuba siphelelwe ngumfazi, sikulungele ukusebenzisa imali eningi ukuze sishintshe ukubukeka kwethu. Singashintsha ngempela, sizilungiselele futhi sihle kakhulu. Kodwa akukho muntu kithi owayengeke akhangwe nesiphetho se-fatale yomfazi, owathi ngenxa yothando lwakhe cishe usuke esenesizungu. Bambalwa babo bawazi injabulo yothando lwangempela, belula amashumi eminyaka. Ziyizithunjwa eziningi zesithombe, lapho zizalwa khona.
Ingabe umdlalo ufanele ikhandlela?
Ekuphishekeleni iziqu zemisebenzi, iqoqo lezinhliziyo zesilisa nokuziqhenya emkhakheni okhethiwe, sivame ukukhohlwa ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuba owesifazane. Njengoba siphefumulelwe izithombe zomlando ezikhanyayo, sizama ukudlulisa i-charm eyabonayo, yizame njengokungathi iyinkambinkimbi ekhanyayo, engaqapheli ukuthi injabulo yangempela ayikho kulokhu. Sizama ukulingana nesimo sengqondo, ngisho noma siphumelele, singaqapheli ukuthi umsebenzi wethu awufanele ube omunye umuntu, kodwa ukuba sibe ngokwethu. Owesifazane ojabulela lokho akwakhe ngokwemvelo uthatha i-niche efanele ekuphileni kwakhe.