Ngakho weza ... isimo, ukuthi yiziphi amafilimu ezenziwe, bhala ama-anecdotes futhi basakaza amahemuhemu. "Ungumuntu ompofu, ompofu! Umyeni wakhe uhamba, kodwa akazi! "- uzwa ngemuva kwezwi lakho lomzwelwane lomakhelwane oqinisekisayo ukuthi ungumuntu ongcono olungcwele umyeni okhohlisa. Futhi sekuyisikhathi eside ungazange ube "lula", nokuthi umlingani wakho unkosikazi, ngoba awukho imfihlo. Nakuba, lapho bekuyimfihlo, kwakulula. Okungaziyo akukho. Kodwa manje uyazi, futhi, kuvela, ukubhekana nesimo sokuthi "ukushiya noma ukuhlala" kunzima nakakhulu kunokubuyisanisa nokuqaphela ukuthi indoda ethandekayo iyashintsha. Ngakho hamba noma uhlale? Futhi mhlawumbe, noma kunjalo, kukhona indlela engenabuhlungu yokuthi umndeni ukhiphe inkosikazi, futhi ngesikhathi esisodwa kusuka enkingeni engenasifo?
Ubuciko bempi nenkosikazi yakho
Indlela enjalo, kusho ozobhalwa yisayensi yengqondo, umethuli we-TV, umlobi kanye nowesifazane ohlakaniphile uLarissa Renard. Wakha isiqondiso sakhe esiwusizo sokuqeda umphikisi futhi abuyisele oshade naye esifubeni somndeni ngokusho kwakhe siqu. Le workshop ihlolwe yizinkulungwane zabesifazane emhlabeni jikelele futhi inemibiko eminingi emihle kanye nokubonga ngobuqotho ngokulondoloza umndeni. ULarissa akathembisi ukuthi kuyoba lula. Njengoba bethi, to la guerre comme à la guerre. Kuthatha amandla amaningi, ukubekezela nokuhlakanipha. Noma kunjalo, lokhu kulula kakhulu kunokuqoqa inhliziyo ephukile nokuzihlonipha.
- Ukukhululwa kwezikhalazo
Uyakhumbula usuku lapho bazinikezela emfihlekweni yomyeni wakhe futhi bathatha indawo esemthethweni enxantathu yothando - umyeni, inkosikazi yakhe nawe? Yiqiniso, khumbula! Futhi ngelinye ilanga uzokhohlwa ukushaqeka, ukuphikisana kwangaphakathi nokungavumelani nalesi simo. U-Larissa Renard uchaza ukuthi, njengomthetho, lesi simo sihlala ezinsukwini ezintathu kuya kwezingu-7, futhi siyingozi kunazo zonke kule "impi" yonke, njengoba ingase ilahleke ngaphandle kokuqala impi. Le ndlela kufanele ibe kanje:
- Thatha isikhashana. Zama ukuhamba ngezinsuku ezimbalwa, ngaphansi kwesizathu esicacile, esivumelwaneni esivamile nomyeni wakho - kumama wakho, umngane, ku-dacha. Uzodinga izinsuku ezimbalwa ukukhala kahle, ulahleke, uzizisole ungajabuli futhi uvumele i-psyche ukuthi ikhulule ekufutheni okukhulu nokuhlukunyezwa.
- Sebenzisa umkhuba osebenzayo wokuhleka nokukhala. Okunye okuyingxenye yehora:
- wakhala ngokukhala okukhulu nokumangalela;
- ukungena ekuphumuleni;
- ukuhleka (ukudansa, izingoma ezihlekisayo).
Ngisho nokuhleka ngokusebenzisa amandla kukwazi ukukhulula esifisweni sokubhubhisa nokubhubhisa. - Yenza lo msebenzi "U-Emancipation kusuka ekufutheni." Qaphela amaphutha owawenza ebuhlotsheni, kodwa uqaphele ukuthi isizathu akusona nje wena. Njalo bobabili kufanele babekwe icala. Indoda iya kwenye hhayi ngoba ungamabi, uyisiphukuphuku noma awuyena ocansini. Izimpande zihlala zijulile kakhulu. Ake sibheke. Okwamanje, buyela emndenini.
- Ukubekezela okuqinisekisiwe okuqinisekisiwe
Futhi akuyona ngomqondo ongokomfanekiso. Ukuze sigcine isimo esingenakwenzeka somfazi onakekelayo kanye nomuntu osizinikeleyo ngokuqonda konke isimo, kuzothatha izinzwa zezinsimbi nezinyanga ezingu-2-3. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, gwema ukwenza izinqumo ezihlukumezekayo nezinzima. Ungabuyi ku-spyware futhi ungaqapheli ifoni nomyeni wakho. Dlulisa lesi sikhathi ukuvuselela: ubudlova endlini, ukunambitha ezitsheni, ubuhle ngokwayo. Ungaphelelwa ithemba uma isimo sibuhlungu futhi umyeni wakho "uzobonga" ukugxekwa kwakho. Phendulela lokhu hhayi ngentukuthelo, kodwa ngokunaka. Vula amehlo nezindlebe. Zonke "ukwehluleka" kwakho kusho isithunzi somphikisi wakho. Manje uzokwazi ngokuqinisekile ukuthi kungani egijima kumninkosikazi wakhe. Hlola, khumbula uphinde udwebe iziphetho, kodwa ungenzi ngokwakho. Zama ukungakhethi. "Kuthiwani uma ehamba?" - uyakhathazeka. Kulula. Amadoda awanqunywa njengoba ucabanga. Imindeni ehlelwe kahle, impahla, izingane, idumela ngokuvamile ziyihange ezinamandla. Into eyinhloko kule nkathi akufanele yenze amahlaya futhi angamcasuli ukuba aqoqe izinto ezinemizwelo. Ungaguquli indlu ibe yinqaba. Kulula kakhulu ukushiya amaxhaphozi bese uthola isimo sokuphepha sababaleki. Kungcono unike ingqondo yakho "ukudla" esihlokweni: udinga umyeni onjalo? Mhlawumbe yisikhathi sokuba uqale umthandi, noma ngisho nomyeni ongcono? Uma kungenjalo, qhubeka uhlupheka, futhi uthembele inqubo eqinisekisiwe.
- Izinguquko
Faka phakathi kwakho intombazane enomdlandla, owawusesiteji se-candy-bouquet period nomyeni wakho:
- Ukumemeza. Yimane nje iyakubonga ngobuqotho. Noma ubani, ngisho nomuntu ongafaneleki, unamakhono namakhono ongawajabulela. Thola kubo.
- Ukunakwa sicela. Ungasusi kumyeni umkhuba wesiko ukuze ulungele: ama-ironed shirts, ibhulakufesi noma umbono ohlangene weHockey. Qhubeka uqaphela izidingo zakhe.
- Ukubonga. Yibonga umyeni wakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ikusasa lakho liye lathuthuka kanjani, unesikhathi esidlule, indaba yomuntu siqu, lapho kwakukhona injabulo enkulu. Yibonge futhi ujabulele konke okwenzela umndeni wakho naphezu kwothando olusha.
- Nkosikazi
Izinduna zibizwa ngokuthi izilwane ezimbi. Azinakulinganiswa, ngobuqili, ezingenakuthola, ezingavinjelwe, ezingokwenyama futhi ezifiselekayo. Mhlawumbe uye wagcina le nki isikhathi eside ebuhlotsheni bomndeni, kodwa umkhuba ohloniphekile uphazamisekile, futhi uthando luye lwadla ukuphila. Kufanele ubuyele emsuka. Yiba yindoda yenkosikazi yakhe. Khulisa iziqu zakho zothando futhi uthinte. Funda amasu wezocansi, uphakamise imisipha ebucayi, bonisa ubuciko. Ubulili abanekhono yi-anchor enamandla kunayo yonke egcina abantu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungayisebenzisa ukuze ubukeke kubonisana nomphikisi oyena "inkosikazi" yangempela yile ndoda: shiya ngesikhathi sezocansi ngemuva komyeni wakho "uphawu" lwakho ngemikhonyovu. Tshela umyeni wakhe ukuthi kwenzeke ngengozi, ngoba wayemkhulu!
- The Queen
Wenze konke okuthembele kuwe. Manje, thatha isimo sobukhosi sokulinda futhi ukhulule ngokomqondo umyeni wakho. Ungumuntu okhululekile, kodwa uyaziqhenya ngokwakho nangenkululeko yakho. Uma umyeni eqhubeka egijima "ngakwesokunxele", sekuyisikhathi sokuyibeka ngaphambi kokukhetha: yena noma mina (izingane, indlu, ibhizinisi, njll). Amacala angu-95%, amadoda ahlala emndenini enomfazi obuyekeziwe. Uma umyeni wakho engahlali, mkhulule ngokuthula futhi uzinike ithuba lokuhlangana nalowo muntu oyokwazi ukukujabulisa.