"O, umhawu, umona! Yeka ubuningi obuningi! .. "- njengoba kuchaziwe ngokuqondile. Nakuba, ngalesi sihloko, abesifazane abaningi bangasabela ngokuhlukile. Omunye ukholelwa ngempela ukuthi umona uyisicefe, omunye uzothi ukuthi umhawu ungumqondo okhethekile wobulungisa, kanti omunye uzokucela ngobuqotho iseluleko sokususa kanjani. Kungenzeka yini ukuba nomhawu ngeminye imizwa eyakhayo? Ngokuphelele! Into esemqoka - ukufuna.
Ukuqala kokuqhathaniswa kokuphila kusilindele esibhedlela sokubeletha: "Wow, futhi intombazane yethu yayinkulu kakhulu!" Okulandelayo ohlwini luyisikole, isikhungo, umsebenzi, umndeni. Ukuziphatha kanye nokuphumelela kwabantu abaseduze kwethu kuba yi-stencil kithi, lapho sizama khona ukuzidubula futhi siyakhathazeka kakhulu lapho singenakukwazi ukukwenza.
Uma ubuka emuva ngelinye ilanga, uthola ukuthi umngane oneminyaka efanayo uphumelele kakhulu emshadweni, uhamba ngokushesha ngesiteji somsebenzi futhi isinqe sinamamentimitha amahlanu ngaphansi. Ukuhlaziywa okuningiliziwe endleleni yakhe yokuphila akudalula lutho olukhethekile ikakhulukazi kumlingiswa wakhe nokuziphatha kwakhe. Wayefanelwe yini lokhu konke lokhu?
Omakhelwane banotshani obuluhlaza ...
Isivivinyo sokubheka impilo yomunye umuntu sivela lapho izinto zingasihleli kithi. Kukhona umuzwa okhethekile, kuba lula uma uqinisekisa ukuthi akuzona zonke ezindebhisi ezibomvu. Futhi uma kungenjalo? Khona-ke kukhona umona. Ukuzethemba kuyashesha ngokushesha, kukhona ukungabaza kanye nemizwa yokunganeliseki ngokwakho.
Kungase kube nokunye ukuphendula: ukwamukela inselelo futhi ulwe "ukunqoba," okufakazela ukuthi awunzima kakhulu kulabo oye waqhathaniswa nabo. Okusho ukuthi, hamba uzithenge isembatho esifanayo nomakhelwane. Ukupenda izindonga zamakamelo egumbini elincane le-violet, njengoNadia. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ungakwazi njalo ukuphakamisa ibha phezulu, uqinisekise kancane ... futhi ube ngumnikazi ojabule we-dorogusche kanye neprosesa yokudla okungadingekile nomsebenzi wokufinyelela ku-Intanethi. Umngane wami, isibonelo, wavikela isingeniso sakhe esenzweni somuntu owayengumfundela naye owayesemfundo ephakeme emibili. Isitifiketi ukuthi ungumfundi wezesayensi yezobuchwepheshe, manje sisekhobhodi yakhe. Yena uqhubeka nokusebenza njengomxhumanisi kule salon yefenisha. Futhi umuzwa wokunganeliseki nempilo yakho ukhula njengeqhwa leqhwa.
Kungani ngidinga isigodlo?
Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi ukuqhathanisa cishe kuhlale kwenzeka "esigabeni sabo sesisindo." Umakhelwane we "Khrushchev" endala akakhumbuli umhawu ngoSultan waseBrunei, ohlala esigodlweni. Kodwa unesithakazelo kakhulu ekupheleni kukaNinochka kusukela emnyango ongomakhelwane kanye nendlela ayekwazi ukuthuthela endlini yokuhlala phakathi nendawo yedolobha, ngaphandle kokuba nabayeni abacebile noma amaholo ahloniphekile.
Okufanayo kuya ekubukeni. Akunakucabange ukwakha okufana nama-model "aphezulu", adlulisa kule podium. Kodwa kungani ungaziqhathanisi nomuntu osebenzisana naye emsebenzini, onokuqhathaniswa okufanayo nokuphelela, unesibalo esincane?
Kubonakala sengathi iqiniso lokuqhathanisa liqukethe isici esifihlekile: uma osebenza nabo abavamile, abangane, abajwayele ukukwazi ukufeza okuthile ekuphileni, khona-ke uzokwazi!
Umuntu othile ungcono njalo
Intukuthelo nomkhuba wokuziqhathanisa nabanye kungadlala ihlaya elinonya: impumelelo eyinhloko yomuntu siqu izophela phambi kweminye impumelelo yabantu. Uma siziqhathanisa nomunye umuntu, senza imizamo yethu siqu, sizishiya isisusa sokuthi siqhubekele phambili. Iyini iphuzu lokuthile okumele lizuze uma intombi isasaphambili? Futhi kubonakala sengathi empilweni akukho indawo yobulungiswa.
Kodwa ngisho noma umuntu ephumelela njalo lezi ziqhathaniso, uwela emgodini okhohlisayo. Ngokusheshisa uqala ukukholelwa ekukhetheni kwakhe nokhetho lwakhe. Noma kunjalo, ukuphila kunjalo ukuthi kukhona umuntu ongcono kuwo njalo. Futhi uma ujwayele ukuziqhathanisa, uqiniseke ukuthi uyacindezeleka!
Ungasusa kanjani umkhuba wokuziqhathanisa nabanye?
• Thola izithakazelo zakho futhi uzisebenzise. Uma sisebenza ebhizinisini oyintandokazi, asinaso isikhathi (futhi sifisa) ukufanisa nabanye ngokweqile.
• Zama ukwenza konke okusemandleni ukuze ufinyelele imigomo yakho. Ulwazi olunikeze uhlelo olugcwele luzokunika isizathu sokuziqhenya, ngisho noma umphumela ungahlangabezane nakho konke okulindelwe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, usuvele uqine umncintiswano obaluleke kakhulu - ngobuvila bakho.
• Vumela ukuba ungaphelele. Phela, ngubani owakusho ukuthi njalo futhi kuyo yonke indawo kufanele ube yiyona engcono kakhulu? Ukufunda ukuba ujabule nawe, uzokhipha izizathu zokungabaza.
• Ungaqhathanisi abanye abantu nomunye nomunye, noma usengozini yokuwela embuthaneni ononya: uma uqhathanisa nabanye, uma beqhathanisa nabanye. Ivivinywa ngokwenza.
• Ngesikhathi esilandelayo uma unesilingo sokuqala ukubheka emuva komunye umuntu, thatha umoya ojulile futhi ucabange ngokwengqondo kuyishumi. Into eyinhloko ukuzibamba ekuqaleni komfutho wokulimaza.
Isibonelo sempumelelo
Njengoba sinikezwa amandla okuba nomona, makube yisikhuthazo sokuzithuthukisa. Ukukhuluma ngomona "lokhu kungumqondo okhethekile wobulungisa" ngeke kusize. Ngeke uyeke ukuqhathanisa nokuhlupheka. Kudingekile ukuthi ufunde ukuthi ungazama kanjani ngokufanele ukuhlukahluka kwezinguquko empilweni. Umngane wavula studio yakhe yokuklama? Akukho phuzu ekuthukutheleni noma ukuzama ukulandela ezinyathelweni zakhe. Kungcono ukukhumbula ukuthi yikuphi umsebenzi okuheha wena. Mhlawumbe unokuzilibazisa okwesikhathi eside noma iphupho? Qaphela leli bhizinisi, cabanga ngeqhinga lokuthuthukisa, futhi impumelelo izofika ngokwayo.
Uma kungazelelwe indawo yezifiso zakho ihambisana nalokho umngane wakho akwenzile, bonisa isithakazelo esiqotho futhi umbuze ukuthi wakwazi kanjani ukufeza impumelelo enhle kangaka. Cela iseluleko. Ngokuvamile ukushintshaniswa okuhlangenwe nakho okunjalo kusishukumisela ukuba sithathe izinyathelo ezizimele futhi sithuthukise amakhono ethu.
Ukuze ukhethe kahle isiqondiso sakho, kuyasiza ukuzama empilweni yomunye umuntu, njengezingubo esitolo. Bamba iqhaza emdlalweni: zibonise wena "esikhumbeni" somuntu onomhawu. Ungesabi ukukhuphuka, ngokwengqondo, ukunambitha impilo yayo, indlela yomndeni, ubuhlobo bomuntu siqu, umsebenzi - uzizwa ukhululekile, ungacindezeli lutho, ungagcoki? Mhlawumbe lokho ozifisayo, lapho uhlolisisa, ngeke ubonakale ukhanga kakhulu. Yebo, uma isithombe "esivela ngaphakathi" usalithanda, ngokuphepha uqala ukugcwaliseka kwephupho lakho. Futhi ungaboni muntu!