Ukukhwabanisa kwengqondo.
Cabanga kahle ukuthi amahlaya akukhipha yini ibhalansi. Mhlawumbe, usabela ngokuqondile ngoba lezi zihlabe ziwela endaweni ebuhlungu kunazo zonke. Vumelanisa - unenkinga efihliwe ehlushwa ngokoqobo njalo uma uyicindezela ngengozi. Isibonelo, unabaza kakhulu ngokubukeka kwakho. Ingabe uzothatha ihlaya elingenacala mayelana nobuso bakho, ngempela uthanda ihlaya noma uzobona ukuhlambalaza ngokuqondile kulokhu? Ngezinye izikhathi abantu abamomotheka bathi: "Ungumama nje!", Futhi uzwa: "Amehlo amancane, amahlathi aminyene, imibimbi eduze kwamehlo." Okuhlangenwe nakho okunjalo kuyinto evamile kwabasha, kodwa uma usukhulile isikhathi eside sokubeletha, kubalulekile ukucabanga ukuthi ukuphendula kwakho kuvamile yini.
Zama ukuxazulula inkinga ekhadini ku-stylist. Vumela ashintshe ngokuphelele - kusukela ezinwele nasezintweni kuya ekhabethe lezindlela zokuhamba. Cishe, entsha uthanda wena ngokwengeziwe. Ungesabi ukwakha ubuso obuhle kubangani, uhleke amahlaya nabo futhi ungakhathazeki nge-bullshit.
Uma konke lokhu kungakusizanga, phuthuma ukuya kumculi wezengqondo, ngaphandle kwalokho ubeka engozini ukuhlala nezinkimbinkimbi zakho uze ugugile, kanti empeleni uneminyaka yobudala asizuzi kahle. Imibimbi engenakugwemeka nezinye izinguquko esikhathini esizayo kungaphazamisa impilo, uma ingabhubhisi inkinga emmpandeni.
Imingcele yethonya.
Siphila, sikhulumisana, sithola isiqu esithile sabangani, abangane, osebenza nabo. Laba bantu esizizwa sikhululekile kakhulu, okungenzeka ukuthi izenzo zabo zingabikezelwa. Ngokuqiniseka, singasho ukuthi abaningi babo sisesimeni esifanayo futhi siqondana ngokugcwele, naphezu kokuxabana okuncane.
Kodwa kwenzeka ukuthi othile kulo mbuthano omncane, ongokwenyama uhluke ngokuphelele kuwe. Uhlobo lwezindlovu esitolo se-china. Kungaba umngane ongajwayelekile womuntu owaziyo, umuntu ongajwayelekile ngokuphelele emgwaqeni, umshayeli esitimeleni, isithunywa ehhovisi. Uzivumela ngokwakhe amahlaya angathandabuzeki, okumbuthano wakho kubhekwa njengento engcolile.
Indlela kuphela yokuphuma kule simo ayinaki. Kungumfokazi ongafani nawe. Angeke abe mabi nhlobo, kodwa elula nje, engumuntu oyisiphukuphuku, noma enenhlamba enhlekayo. Abantu abanjalo bazovela ngandlela-thile ekuphileni kwakho, kodwa laba bantu abangahleliwe abangeke babe nethonya elikhulu emhlabeni wakho wangaphakathi.
Ukuze ungaboni njengenhlanzi emhlophe phakathi kokuhleka nokuhlale uvumela abangane amahlaya, uqeqeshe umzwelo wakho. Funda ama-anecdotes akwenza uzomomotheka, bukela indlela abanye abantu ababhekana ngayo namahlaya ekuqondiseni kwabo. Uzobona ukuthi akubona bonke abacasuliwe futhi, mhlawumbe, ukuzwa ihlaya ekhelini labo - akukubi kakhulu? Uma ubona ukuthi bahleka ngawe ngenxa yesizathu esifanayo, ungasheshi uphele ithemba. Vele ushintshe umbuthano wokuxhumana, bona ukuthi abantu abahluke ngokuphelele kangakanani bazosabela kuwe. Uma-ke, yiziphi ozakwabo abahleka ngazo, abangani abakuboni, kusho ukuthi inkinga cishe akunjalo.
Ngezinye izikhathi abantu bakhetha into yokuhlekwa usulu, kusukela kumahlaya akusikho okuningi okushiyekile, ukuhlaselwa kwangempela kuqala. Ungabi yisisulu. Isixazululo esihle kakhulu sokushiya inkampani enjalo. Uma ngesizathu esithile lokhu akunakwenzeka, unikeza ukuhlushwa okufanelekile. Yiba namahloni ekhelini labo, kodwa ungahlahli ekuthukeni. Ukuzizwa kwakho okuhle kakhulu kuzokunqoba noma yikuphi ukuzama ukubeka endaweni engafaneleki.
Ukuzijabulisa kuyinto umugqa omuhle phakathi kokuhleka nokukhala. Ihlaya elilodwa kanye elifanayo lingabangela abantu abahlukene ukuba bakhale ngokuhleka noma ekusizini. Zama ukufunda ukuthi ungathathi amahlaya ngenhliziyo, funda ukuhleka usulu ngokwakho. Uma ihlaya emlonyeni womuntu lizwakala njengomzamo wokucasula, nje ungamnaki lo muntu noma uphendule ngokuphelele. Noma kunjalo, ngokuhleka kwemizwa impilo yethu iyathakazelisa kakhulu futhi injabulo kunokuba ngaphandle kwayo.