Umuntu wamanje - umvikeli wabuthakathaka

Mhlawumbe, cishe wonke owesifazane ufuna ukuthi eceleni kwakhe kwakukhona lowo muntu ongamvikela ezinkingeni zokuphila futhi avikele kuzo zonke izinto ezimbi, ezibi nokungajabulisi. Yingakho efuna ukuthi umuntu wanamuhla - umvikeli wabuthakathaka, ulungile eduze kwakhe.

Kodwa, ingabe kuvame ukuhlangana nomuntu onjalo njengendoda yesimanje - umvikeli wabuthakathaka? Akusiyo imfihlo ukuthi izwe lethu liye layisimangalisa futhi liyamangalisa futhi ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala sengathi akekho oyoke avimbele intombazane evela kuma-hooligans futhi ngeke abuyisele isikhwama esibiwe kunogogo wakhe. Ungaziqonda kanjani uma umfana wakho ekwazi ukwenza izenzo ezinjalo?

Okokuqala, kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi amadoda angakwazi ukwenza okuthile, ngeke ahlale ekhuluma ngalokhu. Lona uhlobo lomlingiswa wabo. Amadoda wangempela ngokuvamile awafuni ukukhuluma ngokuxhaphaza kwabo, ngoba aboni lutho olungajwayelekile, olungavamile futhi olufanele ukunakekelwa okukhethekile. Isimo esivela kakhulu kulabo abahlala bekhuluma ngalokho ayezokwenza uma kukhona ukungqubuzana, futhi angancenga umuntu osondelene noma ongajwayelekile. Laba bantu abakuzo zonke imibala bachaza ukuziphatha kwabo, yonke inkulumo, zonke izenzo nazo zonke izifo. Bathembisa isifungo ukuthi bayosindisa futhi bavikele, ngisho noma kungekho owucela. Ngeshwa, kubantu abanjalo amagama, ngokuvamile, ahluke nendaba. Futhi, uma ama-hooligans efika kuwe emgwaqweni, okungcono, insizwa enjalo izonikeza konke, uma nje yena kanye nawe ungabambeki, futhi nakakhulu - uzozibalekela, eshiye intombi yakhe ukuxazulula inkinga ekhona.

Esinye isizathu sokuthi umuntu uzovikela ababuthakathaka ububele. Eqinisweni, le mfanelo ingenxa yamadoda amaningi kunokuba angabonakala ekuqaleni. Ngokulula, abaningi babo bafihla ngokucophelela imizwa yabo, ukuze bangabonakali ubuthakathaka babo futhi bathambekele. Kodwa, le mfanelo yomlingisi ibonakala ngisho ngaphandle kwamagama. Kuvezwe ukuthi umuntu akasoze ahlazisa, ahlambalaze futhi ahlekise labo ababuthakathaka kunaye. Insizwa enjalo ingahlukaniswa ngokuthi ayihambisani nesixuku kusukela esemncane. Uma inkampani ihlazisa omncinyane futhi ebuthakathaka, akasoze ajoyina abanye, kodwa, ngokuphambene nalokho, uzoma ukuvikela. Laba bantu abasha abesabi umbono womphakathi, ngoba bayazi ukuthi bangakwazi ukuzivikela ngokuphelele kunoma ubani. Futhi akuyona nje ukulwa. Abantu abanjalo, bavame ukuba nomyalo omuhle wezwi, ngakho bangafaka umhlukumezi endaweni yabo, bekhuluma naye nje. Yiqiniso, indoda yangempela ngeke iphakamise owesifazane isandla, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ibubi kangakanani, futhi akunandaba ukuthi yiphutha kangakanani. Naphezu kwemizwelo, umuntu onjalo uyaqonda ukuthi owesifazane ubuthakathaka futhi uma emshaya, ngokuqinisekile angeke wenezele ekuhlonipheni kwakhe, ngoba ngisho nawo wonke amakhodi ezempi ahloniphekile athi ukushaya abangenalutho kungaphansi. Futhi empeleni, intombazane ayinamasosha, njengoba isikhali somuntu, kuleso simo, amandla akhe, okuyinto owesifazane engenayo. Ngakho-ke, uma insizwa iphakamisa isandla sakho ngokumelene nawe, akudingeki ukuba nethemba lokuthi uzoba ngumvikeli wabuthakathaka. Iqiniso liwukuthi, eqinisweni, ubuthakathaka ngokwakhe, okusho ukuthi akasoze akwazi ukumelana nabantu abanamandla ngokuziphatha nangokwenyama. Kungenzeka ukuthi uma kunjalo lapho ecindezelwa, ngeke nje akuvikele, kodwa uzokwenza konke ukuze angakhubeki futhi akhululwe. Abantu abanjalo akufanele nanini bathembeke, ngoba, kungase kwenzeke kakhulu ukuthi ngesikhathi esithile esibucayi uzoshiywa wedwa futhi esikhundleni sokukusiza, ngokumane, kuzolungiswa.

Enye ikhwalithi engamukeleki kumuntu ozovikela ababuthakathaka kungukuhlukunyezwa. Iqiniso liwukuthi abantu abanobudlova bahlale behlushwa abantu ababuthakathaka ukuze baziphendulele. Futhi, lokhu kungaba ukubonakaliswa kokungaqondakali kwengqondo, lapho umuntu ejabulisa ukubuka indlela umuntu osobala ongakwazi ukumnikeza ukuhlushwa okufaneleka ngayo. Abantu abanjalo, ngokuvamile, abathandi izilwane futhi abaphuthelwa ithuba lokubalimaza. Uma ubona into enje isoka lakho, cabanga ngokucophelela ukuthi kufanele yini uqhubeke naye. Iqiniso liwukuthi laba bafana baba abahlukumezi emindenini yabo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, akukhona nje abafazi abahlupheka, kodwa nabantwana, njengababuthakathaka. Obaba abenza imisebenzi engaqondakali futhi, lapho ingane ingakwazi ukuyigcwalisa, iza nezijeziso, ezifanelwe nobuhlungu obukhulu. Isizathu salokhu kuziphatha kungaba ukuthi phezu kwendodana encane ebusheni bakhe, kaningi futhi ehleka usulu, kodwa akakaze athole amandla okusola abaphula umthetho. Ngemva kokukhula, umfana onjalo uqala ukuziphatha ngendlela efanayo nangokwenza kuye, ngokuqondene nalabo ababuthakathaka kunabo. Lona uhlobo lokuziphindisela kuzo zonke izinhlamba zezingane. Ngeshwa, lo mfana kunzima kakhulu ukuguqula. Uma wakhetha indlela yokuziphatha enjalo isikhathi eside ngokwanele, akukho lutho olungashintsha isimo sakhe sengqondo eqinisweni. Ngakho-ke, ungacabangi kakhulu ukuthi ungamkholisa futhi umenze abe yindoda yangempela. Kungenzeka ukuthi uzokusola ngokungaboni umuntu kuye futhi ehlambalaza isithunzi sakhe. Umphumela walokho kungqubuzana kungaba ukuphikisana noma ukuhlukunyezwa okuqondiswe kuwe. Yingakho, uma uqaphela ukuthi umfana uzimisele ukujabula ngempela, ukubheka ukuthi ababuthakathaka bahlupheka kanjani, kungcono ukuzama ukuhlola lesi simo ngokulinganayo ngaphandle kokuzama ukuwufanelekela. Uma kwenzeka uqaphela ukuthi uvela ngempela ekubukeni kwakhe kwezwe nokuziphatha okungaphezu komkhawulo umuntu ovamile onamathela kuye, indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma izobe isaba ukuhlukana ebuhlotsheni.

Uma lo mfana engabonisi ubuhlukumeze kubuthakathaka, akakhulumi ngokuxhaphaza futhi uyazi ukuthi ungazwelana kanjani, khona-ke eceleni kwakho umuntu wesimanje ungumvikeli wabuthakathaka. Kungumuntu onjalo ongazethemba kunoma yisiphi isimo futhi uqiniseke ukuthi angeke akushiye yedwa ngezinkinga. Lo mfana akasoze azama ukubonakala njengomkhonto neqhawe, uzokwenza nje njengoba eyala udumo nonembeza wendoda yangempela.