Ngempela, eneminyaka emihlanu nesikhombisa, bahlukaniswa nomama ngokushintshela "emthonjeni wesilisa", ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokushesha ngemva kokuhlukaniswa, abanaso ukucindezeleka okukhulu noma izidakamizwa, abazikhumbulanga ukuphila komndeni, abazizwa benecala futhi bengesabi ikusasa. Ngokwezibalo zezazi zengqondo, amadoda angama-65% ashada ngaphambi kweminyaka emihlanu ngemuva kokuhlukaniswa, kodwa cabanga ukuthi umshado wokuqala ungcono kakhulu, u-15% uyashada phakathi kweminyaka emihlanu kuya eyishumi, kanti 20% athole umbhangqwana ongunaphakade noma udale umndeni omusha emva kweminyaka engama-20 noma ngaphezulu, futhi ngezinye izikhathi zihlala zodwa.
Kodwa-ke, eminyakeni eyishumi eyedlule, izazi ze-psychologists, i-psychotherapists kanye ne-sexologists ziqaphelisisa lokho abantu abakwenzayo ngemva kokuhlukanisa. Isizathu ukuthi amadoda angama-30% abe amaklayenti awo, kuyilapho kuyingxenye yamacala abaholwa wona ngaphambili. Abesilisa abavame ukuhlukaniswa bacindezelekile futhi badidekile, badlwengulwe utshwala noma badle ngokweqile, banesithakazelo esincane emsebenzini nasemisebenzini yezocansi, ejaculation ngaphambi kwesikhathi kanye nezinye izifo zobulili. Ukuthuthukiswa kwalezi zinkinga ezivela eminyakeni engangenani nengxenye ngemva kokuhlukanisa (noma "inyanga leshumi nesikhombisa") kuchazwa ukudumazeka. Iqiniso lokuthi indoda ngemuva kwesahlukaniso imele ukuthi "ngaphandle" uzothola owesifazane ohle - enhle, enhle, onomusa, onakekelayo futhi omncane. Kodwa-ke, leli holide alikwenzeki - ngokuvamile uhlangana nokugxekwa, ukunakekelwa okwanele ngisho nokungathembeki kobulili lwezintombi. Ngenxa yalokho, uhlola abesifazane ngokucophelela, kodwa lokhu kuholela ekucindezelekeni.
Ngendlela entsha, uhlola impilo yomndeni wangaphambilini, ekhumbula izikhathi ezimnandi kakhulu. Ngalesi sikhathi, amadoda amaningi afuna ukubuyela emndenini, kodwa imithetho enzima yomphakathi wesilisa iyayivimbela. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, bayaqonda ukuthi akuwona wonke umuntu owanikwa wedwa ukuba aphile yedwa. Abaningi babo bagxilile ngemithwalo eminingi yokulimaza, esisiza empilweni yomndeni ngabafazi: isifiso sokuphuza noma sokudla okungaphezulu, ukuze ujabule futhi ube nobulili. Kulo "intando" akekho ovimbela lokhu, kodwa umthwalo wemindeni unikeza indlela yokuzibophezela ngokwakho. Akekho omsekelayo ngesikhathi esilukhuni, engamcebisi lutho futhi engamthandi. Futhi phakathi nobuhlobo bobulili obuvamile nabalingani noma abajwayele ukusebenzisa amandla amaningi engokwengqondo nokuphila. Phela, ngokungafani nomkakhe, emzimbeni osuvele ushintshile wona, umlingani omusha udinga ama-caresses amade, ubulili obude futhi obunamandla.
Futhi ukuze ulungiselele, udinga okungenani imihlangano emihlanu kuya kwesikhombisa okungenani okunamathiselwe okuncane ngokomzwelo, udinga ukuqhubeka ukhuluma naye, ngezinye izikhathi umyisa ekhaya, uqaphele ngokucophelela isimo sakhe. Ngakho-ke, izazi ze-psychotherapists ezathola ukuthi indoda yenzani ngemva kokuhlukanisa, yeluleka abafazi bangaphambili ukuthi bangazilahli ithemba, futhi bangacabangi ukuthi isinqumo somyeni sinengqondo futhi singenakuguqulwa. Yiqiniso, ungenzi amahlazo, umgijime futhi ucele ukubuya. Kungcono kakhulu ukugcina ubuhlobo obuseduze ngokugcina umnyango uvulekile kuze kube yilapho indoda ivuthwa ukuqhubeka nobuhlobo. Ngokwezibalo emadolobheni amakhulu aseRussia, wonke umuntu wesithathu angathanda ukubuyela kumkakhe wangaphambili, futhi wonke umuntu wesine ubuyela kuye. Umthandi womuntu ohlukanisile naye udinga ukubekezela futhi akumangazi ukuthi yena, nakuba ezwa kahle naye, unomkhawulo emihlanganweni emibili noma emithathu ngesonto, ngaphandle kokusheshisa ukuqala umndeni.
Kumele kukhunjulwe ukuthi washiye umkakhe hhayi ukuze akhe impilo ehlangene nomunye. Udinga inkululeko, kufaka phakathi kobulili, ngakho ungamgijimeli, ukuze ungaqedi ubuhlobo. Ngokuvamile, owesifazane akufanele aphuthelwe ngokuthi indoda emva kweminyaka emihlanu noma eyisikhombisa noma eyishumi yomshado ophumelelayo icabanga kuphela ngomfazi omusha ofanelekayo. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ngemuva kokuhlukanisa, uzokwazi ukuvumelanisa "nokuphila kwesikhathi eside". Ngakho-ke, abesifazane akufanele bachithe ukuphila kwabo bonke balindile, bexosha abanye abaqeqeshi abakwaziyo.
Umuntu ohlukanisile uvame ukuhlangana neminyaka eyodwa noma emibili noma amabili nabesifazane abaningana. Kodwa kowesifazane omkhathalelayo, umuntu kumele athathe kalula futhi amukele. Izazi zengqondo zibiza lezi zikhundla ezimbili eziphambene nabesifazane ekusebenzelaneni namadoda emva kwesahlukaniso: ngakolunye uhlangothi - i-hyperopeak nomsebenzi wasekhaya kanye nesisu, okungumngcele wokuhleleka; ngakolunye uhlangothi - ukungakhathaleli nokuhlehliswa kokunakekelwa ngokweqile ebuhlotsheni obubi kakhulu. Zombili izinketho akusizi ngalutho. Owesifazane othanda ukuthanda, udinga ukuzibonakalisa okusemandleni akho kwansuku zonke, nakuzo zobulili, kodwa ungadluli.