Yiqiniso, akuyona imfihlo ukuthi kungcono ukuqala ubuhlobo nomfana owazi kahle noma ohlala eduze nawe. Kulokhu, kuzoba lula kuwe ukuthi uthole konke okuphathelene nomunye nomunye, zonke izinzuzo nezingozi zomlingani wakho futhi ngokujwayelekile wenze isiphetho - udinga lo muntu. Kungenxa yalesi sizathu ukuthi ubheke ngokucophelela ukuthi ungakwenza kanjani kangcono kulabo abakuzungezile (ekilasini, othandana nabo, omakhelwane nje). Uma phakathi kwabo omunye umuntu ekubangela ukuzwelana okusobala, zama ukuqala ukuxhumana ngokuseduze, okuzokwazi ukubona le ndoda evela kuzo zonke izinhlangothi. Isibonelo, ukuthi yini elula, uhlangabezane nomfana ovela esikoleni sakho noma ubacele ukuthi bakumeme abangani bakho ababili. Uma kungekho abakhethiweyo abanjalo phakathi kombuthano wakho, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukufuna umfana ohlangothini oluhlukile. Ngakho ungathola kanjani othandekayo wakho, obani ofuna ukwakha ubuhlobo obungathí sina? Eyokuqala, ziqonde ukuthi akukho lutho olubi lokuthi intombazane yokuqala ithatha isinyathelo sokumazi umfana. Isinyathelo sakho simane nje sifuna umfana ukuba azijwayele, ngoba kanjani ukungaphambuki, futhi ingxenye ebalulekile yokwakha ubudlelwane, okufanayo, incike kumuntu. Umsebenzi wakho oyinhloko ukwenza umbono wokuqala kumuntu, ukumthakazelisa, ukuzibeka njengomuntu onentshisekelo. Yilokho konke, kuzomenza ahambe, azokuya kuwe impendulo futhi avule ekukhulumisaneni. Futhi njengesiphetho, ukuqhubekela phambili kuzo zonke izinto, lokhu kuzokwenza isisekelo sobuhlobo bakho obuseduze.
Ngakho-ke, ungayithola kuphi nokuthi ungayithola kanjani, lapho ungabheka khona, uma ungafuni nje imihlangano engaphansi kwenyanga, kodwa ubuhlobo obungathí sina? Lokhu kungenziwa noma kuphi. Okokuqala, qala ukuvakashela izindawo lapho iningi lalabafana (kuyoba khona lapho ongakhetha khona). Amaqembu ezemidlalo, izindawo zokudlala, izingxenye ezihlukahlukene. Isibonelo, kungaba ubuciko bokulwa, ukudansa, ukudlala isiginci, umbuthano wekhompyutha, izinkampani zokuhamba. Lapha akufanele kube nezinkinga ezikhethekile ezijwayelene nabo, ngoba usuvele unesifiso, hhayi ukuthanda, ukubopha okungekho, kodwa kusekhona isithakazelo esivamile. Into esemqoka, qiniseka ukuthi ucabange ngokucophelela ngokuthi yiziphi izinto zokuzilibazisa ongazihlanganyela ngesibindi. Ngendlela, kumfana othandekayo, njalo, kungenzeka ukucela usizo kulokhu noma lolo daba. Nangu kuwe nesizathu, nemiphumela yaso. Ungakwazi ngisho ukujoyina imidlalo yezemidlalo - iya emidlalweni embalwa ebhola noma ibhola. Kulezo zindawo, akunakwenzeka ukuthi unqatshelwe ukunakwa kwamadoda. Ungakhohlwa ukuthatha umngane. Ngokubili kuyoba mnandi kakhulu, futhi umkhandlu ngeke uphazamise.
Futhi, ukuze wandise amathuba akho, ungakhohlwa ngezindawo ezinjengeqembu, ama-discos, amathilomu nemigoqo. Njengoba usebenze kahle ngokubukeka kwakho, ngokushesha uye kwenye yezindawo ezibalwe ngenhla. Isimo esiphumule kakhulu nesimo sengqondo esivela kulezi zindawo kuphulukisa futhi senze isandla ekuzijwayeleni ngokushesha.
Uma ungewona fan of izindawo zomsindo, khona-ke kuwe kukhona indlela enokuthula neyanamuhla yokuhlangana - inethiwekhi emhlabeni wonke. Namuhla, ukuzijwayeza, ngokusebenzisa i-intanethi, sekuyisikhathi eside kungenalo ilukuluku, kodwa ngisho nokuphikisana nakho kwazuza isimo somsizi obalulekile ekufuneni isigamu sakhe sesibili. Futhi lolu hlobo lokuphola luba nezinzuzo ezithembisayo kakhulu. Okokuqala, ngesikhathi sokukhulumisana, ungakwazi ngokucacile ukuqonda kwakho, wenze umqondo we-interlocutor yakho, ngaleyo ndlela wenze iziphetho ezithile kuwe uma kudingekile ukuxhumana ngokuqhubekayo nesakhiwo somhlangano oqhubekayo empilweni yangempela noma okungcono kakhulu ukuyeka. Okwesibili, ungakwazi ukuxhumana isikhathi eside, ngaphandle kokukhuthazana, ukuxoxisana, noma yiziphi izihloko nokuhlanganyela izithakazelo zakho kalula. Njengoba ufunde ngokucophelela amaphrofayela wabafana abahlukene (nezithombe kuqala), ungakhetha izihlobo zakho ngokuthandayo kanye nokubukwa ezimpilweni zabantu. Uthando oluvamile lomculo, amafilimu, izincwadi - lokhu konke kuyisibonakaliso esihle, ngesisekelo ongakha ubuhlobo obuhle kakhulu. Futhi, ukukhulumisana okunjalo kungabonisa konke ukudala komphefumulo womuntu, ngakolunye uhlangothi lomqapha. Ukuphila, izimiso, izinkolelo zakhe, ukuthanda, ongazi ngokushesha ngomuntu, lapho uhlangana, emgwaqweni kuphela.
Ngendlela, mayelana ne-questionnaire yakho futhi unakekele ngokucophelela. Ulwazi olubanzi mayelana nawe, amathuba amaningi. Futhi ungakhohlwa ukubuyekeza ama-albhamu wesithombe. Izithombe zakho kufanele "zitshele" mayelana nokuphila kwakho, zigcizelele ukuthi uhlala kanjani. Usebenza kanjani, kanjani futhi kuphi, uphumula, yini oyifunayo.
Ngenhloso yalo, sebenzisa amasayithi awaziwayo, njenge: VKontakte, Facebook, Classmates, World My. Lawa amanethiwekhi omphakathi athandwa kakhulu, lapho ungathola khona umphefumulo wakho womngane ngaphandle kwezinkinga. Khulumisana cishe futhi ungakhohlwa ngomhlangano empilweni yangempela.
Ngendlela, ungesabi ukuzama nokukhetha. Njalo thatha izinombolo zocingo kumadoda futhi, ngangokunokwenzeka, shiya inombolo yakho. Okungaphezulu, kuhlu lwakho lwabafana, kuphakamisa amathuba akho okukhetha eyodwa, efanelekile. Ungadluliselwa kumuntu ngamunye, uma nje kukhona ukukhetha, ungaphuthelwa, ukuze ungazisoli kamuva.
Futhi wokugcina. Ngaphambi kokukhetha indawo yakho yokuphola, cabanga ngakho futhi unqume ukuthi yiluphi uhlobo lomfana othanda kakhulu. Futhi ngokuhambisana nalokhu, qiniseka ukungeza ezindaweni zokusesha kwakho, okunjalo, lapho ungavame ukuhlangana nomfana onalezi zimfanelo.
Futhi wena ukhumbule - endaweni yokuqala yesibambiso sakho sokuphumelela, isimo sakho sengqondo kuwe. Kufanele uhlale ubheka okukhangayo, ugcizelela isithunzi sakho. Ungenzi njenge-bitch futhi ungalokothi uthathwe. Vula, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo gcina "i-zest" yakho ekhethekile. Uzobona ukuthi impumelelo iqinisekisiwe kuwe. Emva kwakho konke, impendulo yombuzo: "Indlela yokuzitholela umfana nokuthi ungayitholaphi" - ifakwe ngaphakathi kuwe. Amadoda ngokwawo azoba emgqeni, lokho kungathatha isikhiye senhliziyo yakho. Umsebenzi wakho uzoba nje ukukhetha okungcono kakhulu okufanelekile.