Ukuze kube nokwakheka komuntu kwengane ephumelelayo, kubalulekile esimweni esinjalo ukuba asize ngesikhathi futhi abuyele kuchwepheshe. Emva kwakho konke, uma ungathathi lesi sinyathelo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ubunzima bezingane buzobuthelela, buphenduke iqhwa elikhulu, elikhulayo ngokushesha.
Ukuze uqonde ukuthi ungakhetha kanjani ingane yengqondo efanele ingane, kufanele uqaphele ukuthi ukuxazulula ukuthi yiziphi izinkinga owadinga usizo lochwepheshe.
I-psychologist yengane iyadingeka uma ingane yakho inenkinga yokuzivumelanisa nomphakathi, ukungqubuzana njalo nabantu abaseduze, uma uqaphela ukuthi unesithakazelo njalo noma isimo esicindezelekile, uncharacteristic yobudala bakhe futhi engenaso imbangela ebonakalayo yomzimba.
Uma ingane yakho ihlushwa amaphupho ahlukumezayo, ama-phobias obhejane, ukhathazeka okukhulu, kufanelekile ukukhuluma nomuntu ongokwengqondo noma umqondo wezifo zengqondo. Ungacabangi ukuthi izifo zengqondo ziphatha abantu abagulayo kuphela. Umsebenzi wabo oyinhloko ukuvimbela ukuthuthukiswa kwesifo.
I-psychotherapist ihlanganisa amathuba ochwepheshe wengqondo nomuntu wezifo zengqondo, abanolwazi olujulile kokubili kwengqondo nokusebenza kwengqondo. I-psychotherapist isebenza nezimo ezinzima kakhulu. Isibonelo, imiphumela yokwethuka kokukhathazeka okuhlobene nobudlova, ingozi noma ukulahlekelwa othandekayo. Udokotela osebenza emsebenzini wakhe angasebenzisa imidlalo yokudlala indima, i-hypnosis elula, amasu okuhlela uhlelo lwezinzwa.
Ngokungafani nomqondo wezengqondo, ovame ukuba nemfundo ephakeme kubantu, isazi sezifo zengqondo kanye nengqondo yezokwelapha kukhona ochwepheshe abanezemfundo yezokwelapha. Ngakho-ke, banezindlela eziningi ezivunyelwe zokufaka isicelo. Udokotela wezifo zengqondo kanye nomuntu ongokwengqondo anganikeza imithi, kodwa isazi sengqondo akufanele sikwenze lokhu.
Njengoba unqume ukuthi udinga isazi sezengqondo, siyaqhubeka siqonda ukuthi singayisebenzisa kanjani kahle.
Nakuba isazi sezengqondo asiyona udokotela, kufanele sikhethwe ngokulinganayo ngokucophelela. Ngempela, kufanele uthembele lo muntu ngento ebaluleke kakhulu enayo, ingane yakho. Futhi indlela ikusasa lakhe elizokhula ngayo, uhlobo lomuntu ozokhula ngalo, kuxhomeke kakhulu ekufundeni kwengqondo kwengane yengqondo.
Kungcono ukukhetha isazi sezengqondo ukuthi omunye wabangani bakho usevele usetshenzisile. Khuluma nabanye abazali, buza ukuthi ubani ongayeluleka. Ngezinye izikhathi isazi esifanele singabangane bakho. Ukuthatha iseluleko kwabanye abantu, uzosindisa imizwa eminingi nesikhathi.
Uma ochwepheshe kufanele azinakekele, qiniseka ukuthi ufunde ngokuningiliziwe ngeziqu zakhe. Cacisa imfundo yakhe, ngokukhethekile. Akungabazeki ukuthi isazi sengqondo esijwayele ukusebenza nabantu asebekhulile abalahlekelwe yimisebenzi ingasiza ingane yakho.
Ungalindeli ukuthi isazi sezengqondo esikoleni noma isazi sengqondo sengqondo se-kindergart sizobhekana nenkinga yakho. Imisebenzi yalezi zincenye ayihlanganisi kuphela ukusebenza nenani elikhulu lezingane, kodwa futhi wonke umsebenzi wokufundisa. Ngakho-ke, njengomthetho, akukho amandla noma isikhathi somsebenzi ngamunye. Mhlawumbe, into kuphela isazi sezengqondo esingasiza ngayo ukuhlolisisa ubunzima bakho.
Ngaphambi kokuba uhole engqondweni yengane yengane, khuluma naye ngokwakho. Chaza ukuthi yiyiphi inkinga yenkinga, cacisa izinketho zokusebenza okuhlelwe ngazo ukuxazulula. Isithembiso esisheshayo semiphumela kufanele sikuxwayise ngokushesha. Noma yikuphi okuqinisekisiwe kwimiqondo yokusebenza kwengqondo akufanelekile, impahla encane kakhulu - umphefumulo womuntu.
Enye indlela engamukeleki umzamo woku "wazi ukuthi usondelene nawe." Uma "isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo" senza konke okusemandleni ukuze uthole ulwazi lwakho lomuntu siqu (inombolo yocingo, ikheli), cishe kungenzeka ukuthi ungumkhwabanisi. Futhi wena, hamba, kufanele ufune esinye isazi.
I-psychologist ofanelekayo (hhayi kuphela ingane, kodwa futhi nomuntu omdala) ngeke ibeke kumakhasimende akhe noma iyiphi ifilosofi noma inkolo. Ngokuyinhloko, uma ingxoxo mayelana nokholo iza ngaphandle kokucacisa ubuhlobo bakho kulokhu. Kulesi simo, kunamathuba aphakeme okuba khona ukulethwa nommeleli wehlelo elithile.
Uma kungenjalo mayelana nokujwayela komphakathi kwengane, ungakheli ukuzama ukukuqinisekisa ukuthi usebenze eqenjini. Ngakho-ke, izazi zengqondo ezingenangqondo zivame ukwamukela inani eliphezulu lamakhasimende ngesilinganiso esincane semali. Ngekhwalithi yomsebenzi, yebo, inkulumo ayikho lapha.
Ngisho nokwazi ukuthi ungakhetha kanjani isazi sengqondo esifanele kwengane, futhi wenze lokhu kukhetha ngokuvumelana nayo yonke imithetho, lungele ukuthi uzodinga ukuza kuye kaningi. Ungalindeli ukuthi ukuvakashela isazi sezengqondo kuzosebenza njenge-wand magic, futhi zonke izinkinga zakho zizohlakazeka ngokushesha. Ingane yakho nengcweti yengqondo kumele uthole ukuxhumana, futhi lokhu kuthatha isikhathi nesineke.
Mhlawumbe kuyoba ukukhulumisana okuqondile phakathi kwengqondo kwengqondo nengane "eyodwa ngakunye," noma kungadingeka ukuthi iqhaza ngokuhlanganyela emsebenzini weqembu. Kunoma yikuphi, ithonya lombhali wezengqondo lisiza ukuvuselela ubungqabavu bemvuthuluka, ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sigxilisa ukunakwa kwengane emakhono akhe kanye nezici zobuntu eziqinile. Lokhu kusiza ingane ukuba ibe nokuzethemba ngokwengeziwe, ifunde ukubhekana nezinkinga zokuphila ezivela, yenza isinqumo esifanele.
Ukubonisana kwengqondo kuzokusiza ingane yakho ukuba ikwazi ukuzethemba. Usizo olunjalo lubaluleke kakhulu kule nkathi yokuphila, lapho umuntu ekulungele ukuthuthukiswa. Emva kwakho konke, ebuntwaneni, izakhi eziyinhloko zomlingiswa zakhiwa, isitayela sokuxhumana nabangane nabantu abadala, isimo sengqondo kwabanye kanye nokuphila ngokuvamile. Kule nkathi ukuthi kunqunywe ukuthi ingane ingakhula ibe umuntu ophumelelayo, noma kuzomele inqobe imicabango yakhe eyiphutha futhi ilwa nezinkimbinkimbi zokuphila kwakhe konke.
Noma kunjalo, intuition yakho izokusiza ukuba ukhethe isazi sengqondo esifanele. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iziphakamiso kanye nomhlahlandlela wezobuchwepheshe, bobabili wena nomntanakho kufanele nizwele ukuzwelana naye. Ngempela, kwengqondo, enye yezingxenye ezibaluleke kakhulu zokuphumelela yithemba phakathi kwengqondo kwengqondo kanye neklayenti. Uma kungenjalo, ngeke sithole ingxoxo ecacile, okusho ukuthi ngeke kube khona umphumela.