- ukwesaba ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho besikhathi esizayo ngeke buhambe, njengoba ungathanda futhi kuzodingeka uqale ubuhlobo obusha kusukela ekuqaleni;
- ukwesaba ukuthi unamathela kakhulu kumuntu, bese uyingxenye naye. Kulokhu, kufanele uphinde uthathe inkambo yokuthatha ama-antidepressants;
- ukwesaba ukuthi ngeke ukwazi ukuba lo wesifazane oyingqayizivele, othandekayo futhi odingekile kuye, futhi emva kwakho konke, iminyaka ithatha umthamo wayo;
- ukwesaba ekuthintaneni ngokomzimba - ikakhulukazi uma kushayela;
- Ukwesaba ukuthi izihlobo zakho nezihlobo zakho zizosabela kanjani ngokukhetha kwakho.
Ukuze uqale ubuhlobo obusha udinga ukukhohlwa ngobuhlobo obudala nomyeni wakho wangaphambili. Ukwenza lokhu, shiya konke okukhumbuza ubuhlobo bakho obudala nomuntu wangaphambili. Ngemva kokukhohlwa konke, usuvele ucabanga ngokukwenza impilo yakho ibe ngcono. Futhi amadoda azizwa futhi abone lapho owesifazane ekulungele ubudlelwane obusha futhi kuphela lapho angafika khona ukuhlangabezana nawe. Izazi zengqondo zeluleka emva kobudlelwane bokugcina ukuzama ushintsho oluncane empilweni: shintsha izinwele zakho, shintsha isitayela sakho sezingubo, ubhalisele umdanso noma ungene emzimbeni. Ngakho-ke, uma ukhumbula ngokukhululekile konke okuxhunywe nomuntu wakho wangaphambili, ngokushesha impilo yakho ezayo ejabulisayo izoqala ukulungiswa.
Kuningi ukwesaba nokwesaba, ngenxa yalokho abesifazane besaba ukwenza ubuhlobo obusha. Kodwa zonke lezi zikwesaba zivela ngenxa yothando lwakho oludlulele. Ngemuva kwakho konke, wena, ukuvuka kuma-skate roller, ungalindeli kulolu hlobo oluthile lokuzwa okukhulu. Kulesi simo, ungawa futhi ususe amadolo akho. Futhi uma wesaba lokhu konke ukuphila kwakho, khona-ke ungakwazi ukuzithokozisa injabulo ye-skating skating. Ngokufanayo, ebuhlotsheni: uze uqale - angazi.
Ukwesaba nokwesaba kwakho kuvela ekuntulekeni kokuqonda kwabantu nasezingeni eliphansi lobukhulu bakho, kodwa konke kuza nesipiliyoni. Ngakho-ke, ochwepheshe abaqeqeshiwe bayeluleka ukuthi bangakheli izinkomba ezikhethekile mayelana nokuthi yini okufanele ibe yindoda yakho yesikhathi esizayo nokuthi ubuhlobo bakho kufanele buqhubeke kanjani. Noma yikuphi owesifazane kufanele nje futhi ngaphandle kokusaba aqale ukujwayela omusha nabafana - ukuthola ukuthi bacabanga kanjani, baphupha, bathande, basebenze, yini abamesabayo, njll. Yiba nomusa kakhulu futhi uqaphele ekukhulumisaneni, zama ukufunda okwengeziwe ngalomuntu. Uzoqonda konke lokhu enkulumweni yokuxhumana futhi akudingeki ukwakha noma yiziphi izinhlelo zokuthuthukisa ubuhlobo bakho.
Funda ukuxhumana namadoda, ubuze imibuzo eminingi futhi ulalele, lapho bekutshela okuthize - vula futhi ukhululeke. Ukuxhumana kakade kunika injabulo, uma uwedwa, futhi kubaluleke kakhulu kumuntu.
Ungacabangi ngalokhu ukuthi sekuphuzile kakhulu ukuba uqale ubuhlobo obusha, ngoba wonke umuntu unenjabulo kuleli zwe, futhi amadoda ahle. Kodwa ngenxa yalokhu kudingeka ukhulume njalo, wenze abantu abajwayele ukuxhumana nabo, futhi ngokuvamile bahlanganyele ekuphileni.
Abanye besifazane bazibophezela ngezinto ezahlukene, nje kuphela ukucabangela ubuhlobo babo obudlule nomuntu wangaphambili kanye nokusungulwa okusha. Yiqiniso, akukubi ukuqhuba amacala amaningana ngesikhathi esisodwa, kodwa namanje udinga ukwabela isikhathi esimisweni sakho esinzima ukuze wenze ubuhlobo obusha.
Ngakho-ke, kulokhu okushiwo ngenhla, isiphetho esiyinhloko singathathwa ukuthi asikho isidingo sokwesaba ubudlelwane obusha. Khohlwa mayelana nokwesaba nokwesaba kwakho futhi ukhumbule ukuthi uma ungazami ukuwaqala, khona-ke impilo yakho yonke uzozisola ngakho. Yiba nomthelela ngokwengeziwe, ube ngunkosikazi wekusasa lakho futhi uzophumelela!