Izingane sezikhulile kakade, abazukulu bakhula ... Nsuku zonke ngokuphindaphindiwe ikhanda livakashelwe imicabango emibi ongayifumani nayo umlingani womphefumulo. Kodwa ukuqala impilo nge-slate ehlanzekile akuphuzi kakhulu! Kumelwe ulalele amathiphu amanye futhi ushintshe impilo yakho.
Yini ulindele ukuthola?
- ukuvikelwa;
- ukusekela kanye nethuba lokuhlanganyela imicabango yakho, imizwelo;
- ithemba;
- ukuvumelana, ukugcwaliseka kwesidingo sokuphila umuntu oqhakazile;
- ukuqonda ngezwi lesigamu;
- ukuhloniphana.
Kungani ungeke uthole umlingani? Yini ekuvimbayo?
- Ulahlekelwe "ukungahambisani nomntwana," okungukuthi, ucabanga ukuthi iminyaka yakho isivele ingcolile futhi akunakwenzeka ukwenza izenzo ezimbi futhi eziqhakazile. Futhi uthatha futhi uzame, ngokuzumayo uthanda ukufunda amashajethi amasha kagesi noma ugibele ngeparachute.
- Mhlawumbe, ukuthanda umuntu kungaba injabulo, ngakho izidumbu zezifo zihlushwa futhi zithatha wonke amandla angaya ekwakheni ubuhlobo obusha. Yiqiniso, uma uzizwa ungalungile, awufuni ukucabanga ngothando ... Zizinakekele: hamba kudokotela, mhlawumbe uzibandakanye nokwelapha noma uma udlula wena; qala ukudla kahle bese uhambisa ngaphezulu.
- Qhathanisa nalokho osuke wakubona: nomthandi, indoda yangaphambili. Njengomthetho, abesifazane abafelokazi bacabanga ngakho. Oshade naye olahlekile wayephelele, futhi uqala ukucabanga ukuthi akekho ozokuhlangana nawe kangcono, ubuhlobo obunjalo ngeke buphindwe. Ungagqoki, uzivumele ujabule. Nginike ithuba. Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, cabanga ngalokho umyeni wakho angathanda, ukuze ungahlupheki, kodwa uqhubeke uphila, hhayi nje uphile, kodwa ujabule. Vumelana ukujabula ngezinto ezithile eziyingqayizivele.
- Uke wedwa wodwa iminyaka eminingi, ukuthi umane usinyamalale kubantwana nabazukulu, umane nje awukwazi ukwenza ngendlela ehlukile. Lesi yisithiyo sakho ekuphileni okujabulisayo. Kufanele ube nensimu yakho, futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uneminyaka engama-30 noma engu-65 ubudala. Akudingekile ukuba uchithe isikhathi nabazukulu bakho imini nobusuku. Khumbula ukuthi eminyakeni emihlanu kuya kweyishumi izithakazelo zabo zizoqala ukuvela, abangani futhi bazokunika isikhathi esincane. Futhi uzohlala emkhombeni ophukile ...
- Usetshenziselwa ingubo eyodwa, ukudla okulodwa, indlu eyodwa kanye nombuso wosuku, usanda "ukunamathela" ngesikhathi. Khumbula, ukuze impilo yemibala ye-zagrilanova idinga ukwenza okuthile ngokwabo futhi ishintshe, akunjalo?
- Zihlaziye: emva kwakho konke, imikhuba yakho nemikhuba yakho, usanda kuguga, uthathe ukukhangisa kanye nobulili. Lokhu kusebenza ekuguleni komzimba, nasezinyaweni, nokuhlala ebhentshini ngezinhlamvu ze-sunflower, nasekuxoxweni njalo, nini futhi ngamuphi inani elinikwe impesheni.
Ake sicabangele izizathu ezintathu ezibaluleke kakhulu zalokho owesifazane oneminyaka engu-50 efuna ukushada. Ngemuva kwalokho, egameni le-athikili, ukugcizelela okuyinhloko kudala, noma ngabe yini ongayisho, konke kwenziwa ngokuhlukile kule minyaka. Ngenxa yothando olukhulu, bayashada eneminyaka engu-18-22, ukuze bangabhekwa njengendodakazikazi endala (ngisho noma ungesiyintombazane isikhathi eside) eminyakeni engama-26-30. Abesifazane abaneminyaka engama-35 bazama ukuphuma emshadweni ukuze babelethe ingane-ithuba lokugcina, kodwa eminyakeni engama-50 kungani lenzeni?
Ukushada ngemva kweminyaka engu-50 ukuthuthukisa isimo somzimba
Ezweni esiphila kuyo, zonke izikhangiso ku-akhawunti yomsebenzi zinombhalo omncane: "awuneminyaka engaphezu kwengu-35", okusho ukuthi uma uneminyaka engama-40 nangaphezulu kakhulu, bese usebenza ulahliwe, ngoba abaqashi bacabanga ukuthi usukhulile kakade. Futhi lokhu kwenzeka, ngisho naphezu kokuba minyaka yonke umhlalaphansi womhlalaphansi wesifazane ukwandisa futhi uthembisa ukuthi bayokwandisa ngaphezulu, kodwa ukuthi bangathola kanjani umsebenzi futhi baphile ngaphambi kokuthatha umhlalaphansi ezimweni ezinjalo akekho ongachaza. Ngenxa yalesi sizathu owesifazane kufanele athathe lokhu ukukhombisa konke ukucabanga kanye nezimangaliso zomcabango ukuze kuphile. Ngezinye izikhathi kulula ukuthola umyeni kunomsebenzi futhi amvumele ukuba azizinakekele. Kodwa-ke, ukuze uthole futhi wenze indoda yakho ibe indoda enhle, kufanele ube nempilo, ulungiswe kahle, uhlakaniphile, ubuhle, futhi kubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlakanipha. Ngenxa yokuthi unomncintiswano oqinile ngendlela yamantombazane amadala angama-20 kuya ku-30 aphezu kwezixuku eziseduze nabantu abanjalo, kuphela ukusebenza nokuhlala ngezindleko zabo.
Ngokuqinisekile, lo msebenzi obunzima kakhulu - ukuthola umyeni ozimele ngokwezimali ozokuhlinzeka kokubili wena nabantwana bakho. Kumelwe uqaphele njalo isibalo esingekho, ukubukeka, ngaso sonke isikhathi, ungayinaki izintatheli nabanobhala abancane nakuzo zonke izinto ukuze ukhulume naye.
Ngakho-ke, ukuze uthole umyeni emva kweminyaka engu-50, akudingeki ube ngowomuntu ocansini, ohlakaniphile, othakazelisayo, ukuhlangana nomlingani wakho emsebenzini ngokumomotheka ezindebeni zakho, kufanele ube ophelele.
Kodwa ungamtholaphi umuntu onjalo? Njengomthetho, "baphila" ezinkolweni ezivaliwe, zokudlela ezibizayo, izitezi zabo noma ama-hippodromes, amabhishi akhokhelwa kwezinye izindawo ezifashisayo.
Ukushada ngemva kweminyaka engu-50, hhayi ukuhlala wodwa
Lesi yisizathu esivame kakhulu sokufuna umyeni kule minyaka. Izingane sezikhulile futhi zihlala ngokuhlukana, umyeni uye waya komunye owesifazane, noma ufile, kukhona umsebenzi, nempilo, kanye nemali, kodwa akukho okuzilibazisa - akukho lutho okufanele lwenze. Kuyintliziyo enomusa, futhi iyabuyisa, ngakho-ke ngolunye usuku lapho ubukela uchungechunge olulandelayo mayelana nothando, wanquma ukushada. Uma ucabanga kanjalo, khona-ke noma yikuphi umuntu ozokusondela kuwe, ngoba into esemqoka ukuthi kufanele abe nxazonke. Zama ukuthola insizwa encane engakazi kahle kakhulu ama-cunnings wesifazane noma ngokufanayo, indoda evuthiwe, efana nephupho ngekhaya induduzo. Ungabheke abantu beminyaka yakho, ngoba cishe bonke bathandeka ngocansi namantombazane amancane. Khumbula ukuthi into ebaluleke kakhulu kumuntu ukuthi udle ngokumnandi futhi konke okusemandleni akhe kugcwaliseka. Ngezinye izikhathi amenze izipho ezibizayo futhi agijime ubhiya. Uma ufuna ukushada nje ukuze uphume ekubeni nesizungu, awudingi ubulili, ukuhlakanipha nobuhle, kufanele ube nemoto yakho, ifulethini, i-akhawunti yasebhange, ukwazi ukupheka okumnandi futhi ube nesifiso esinamandla sokucindezela impilo yakho uma wenza isinqumo sokuthola umyeni.
Ukushada emva kweminyaka engu-50 ukuthanda nokuthandwa
Yiqiniso, lokhu kunzima ukukholelwa, bese abesifazane abaningi emva kweminyaka engamashumi amane baphonsa yonke imicabango engayithanda ngempela, futhi ngokuhlanganyela. Okhulile owesifazane, lapho ekwazi ukuthola ulwazi nolwazi, futhi uma ngemuva kweminyaka engama-40 ehlala yodwa, lesi simo sibuhlungu kakhulu. Izinguquko, imihlangano, ukukhwabanisa, ukwehlukana, ukulahlekelwa akufundisi nje ukubuka umhlaba ngokuhlukile, kodwa futhi nobuhlobo namadoda. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngaphambili ungase ucabange ukuthi ufuna isikhulu ihhashi elimhlophe, kodwa manje usuqonda kakade ukuthi ngaphandle kwakhe ungaphila ngokuthula. Eminyakeni encane ukuthanda umuntu kube lula, ngoba asidingi ukuba umuntu abe ongaphezu kwemvelo, futhi ngaphezu kweminyaka baqala ukucasula izinto eziningi. Owesifazane kuqala uthanda, bese ecabanga. Futhi ngemva kweminyaka engu-50 owesifazane eqala ukucabanga, ulinganisa konke kahle, bese evumela ukuba athande.
Khumbula ukuthi bonke ubudala bayathobela uthando. Vumela ukuthi uphile ngempela. Bheka ifilimu "UMoscow akakholelwa izinyembezi," ngoba lapho kuphela u-heroine oneminyaka engamashumi amane uthanda ngothando. Yebo, uzosho ukuthi lena yi-movie, kodwa ngeke ukholwe ezimangalisweni, ngeke kwenzeke kuwe.
Ungabheke iminyaka yakho, khumbula ukuthi kulokhu kuyinzuzo yakho. Okhulile uba, ulwazi oluthe xaxa, ukubekezela, nokuhlakanipha onakho.
Ingabe kungokoqobo ukushada ngemva kweminyaka engu-50?
Ngokwemvelo, kuncike ekutheni ubukeka kanjani nokuthi unayo "izandla zegolide". Uma ungowesifazane ohlotshisiwe kahle, futhi ema-60 akho no-50 awuniki, khona-ke unamathuba okwanele.
Uma ungabazi abantu abakule mlando, bese ufunda ku-inthanethi, abesifazane bayashada uma bengabantwana kuphela, kodwa nabazukulu. Kunezinkundla eziningi namasayithi agcwele izindaba. Ukushada ngemva kweminyaka engu-50 kungokoqobo, into esemqoka akukona ukuyeka noma ukuphelelwa ithemba.