Thina, besifazane, siyajabula lapho umuntu othandekayo engumuntu ophumelelayo. Umsebenzi othakazelisayo, umholo omuhle kakhulu, inhlonipho kwabanye, ukutholakala kwezihlobo ezithembisayo - konke lokhu kubonakala kuwe kube into ebonakalayo uma kuziwa kumuntu ophumelelayo. Isithombe somuntu onjalo sihlotshaniswa nezindleko ezibizayo, izimoto, indlu yezwe kanye ... owesifazane omuhle okhona. Kodwa hhayi nabanye besifazane, ikakhulukazi uma lo muntu engumyeni wakho. Kodwa ekugcineni kwavela owesifazane omuhle. Kusukela ekuseni kuze kuhlwe lo muntu omuhle usondelene nomyeni wakho: ulungisa ikhofi, wenza izinyathelo, uhambela izivakashi eziza kuye futhi zimemeza efonini kaningi ngosuku. "Kuyingozi!" - uzocabangela futhi ukwesaba - "Mfundisi!". Kodwa ungesabi ngesikhathi esisodwa. Ungumlobi nje.
Futhi kungani kudingeka ngisho? - ubuza. Uthini unobhala? Umsebenzi we-Secretar udinga ikhono lokushintsha ngokushesha kusuka kohlobo olulodwa lomsebenzi ukuya kolunye futhi lubonakala ngobubanzi nokuhlukahluka kwemisebenzi eyenziwe. Umsebenzi obaluleke kakhulu unobhala ukusiza umholi futhi ulondoloze isikhathi sakhe. Unobhala usebenza namaphepha kanye nemishini yehhovisi, uqhuba izingxoxo zocingo, uthumele iposi, uthola izivakashi, ulungiselela futhi aqhube imihlangano. Unobhala unesibopho sezinkinga ezihlukahlukene zezomnotho. Njengoba ubona, unobhala unokuthile okumele akwenze emsebenzini, ngakho-ke akacabangi ukuthi angangqinga kanjani umphathi wakhe.
Wena-ke, uyaqonda ukuthi unobhala ubuchwepheshe obunzima futhi obudingekayo, uyaqonda ukuthi lesi sisebenzi kumele sibe sesigungu futhi sibe nombukiso omuhle. Uyaqaphela nokuthi ikhanda kufanele libe nobhala futhi wazi ukuthi, cishe, lesi sikhundla sizobe sithathwe owesifazane, futhi okuthandayo kuzonikezwa owesifazane okhangayo nenhle. Kodwa awufuni neze unobhala onjalo abe nomyeni wakho. Uma uqaphela ukuthi othandekayo wakho uchitha isikhathi esengeziwe enkampanini yakhe kunani (ubona ngemuva komsebenzi kuphela, futhi bonke usuku), uba nomona.
Isinyathelo esisodwa: ubophe naye
Awuthandi lapho umyeni ehlala ehhovisi, futhi unobhala wakhe umbiza esitokisini emva komsebenzi, ecacisa isikhathi semicimbi yebhizinisi. Uyakhathazeka ngokweqile ngamazwana omngane ovamile owafika kumyeni wakho ukusebenza. "Unobhala enhle, intombazane enengqondo," esho, ngokuba isimenywa sakho, futhi waqala ukwesaba. Uzicabange wena intombazane encane engumngane ozwakalayo, ingubo yesiketi ecacile kanye ne-decollete ejulile ... ngokuzumayo uzozungeze umyeni wakho? Umkhuba wokuthi umyeni wakho uzodlala ngunobhala wakhe omkhulu, uma ukuthanda abanye besifazane kuyinto evamile. Kodwa uma umuntu omthandayo engakwazi ukubekezelela izintuthwane, akakwazi ukudlala ngothando nabalingani bakhe, ngisho noma bekhanga kakhulu.
Futhi kufanele ujwayelane nabalingani bomyeni wakho futhi ongaphansi kwakho ukwazi ukuthi uchitha bani usuku lwakhe ngokuhlangene. Ukubikezelwa - kusho ukuzivikela. Ukwazi ukuthi ubani oqhuba umyeni wakho, futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, ngubani ophethe, uzobe lula ukubikezela izimo ezikhona futhi uhlaziye izinkinga. Mxwayisa umyeni ukuthi uzofika emini kanye naye futhi uhlale isikhathi eside ehhovisi lakhe. Zenzele i-hairstyle enhle ne-makeup, igqoke ngokugqoka, ikakhulukazi uma lokhu kungukuqala kokuzijwayeza nabalingani bomyeni wakhe. Kunoma yikuphi, uma wazi kahle unobhala wakhe, ungenza iziphetho ezingaphezulu. Kuhle uma ufika kumyeni wakho ngenhlangano yenkampani. Njengomthetho, baphuza emacimbini. Futhi kusukela osebenza nabo odakiwe emsebenzini ungathola ulwazi oluthe xaxa. Kodwa qaphela lokho okutholakele - abanye besifazane, ngenxa yomona wokukhangisa kwakho, ngokwesibonelo, bangakwazi ukukhuluma ngokuqondile mayelana nomthandi wakho. Qaphela futhi uthembele intuition yakho.
Isinyathelo sesibili: qaphela
Empeleni, udinga ukuqonda ukuthi umyeni wakho uzizwa kanjani. Mbheke amasonto amabili kuya kwamathathu.
Kufanele uhlaselwe uma:
- njalo uya ekhaya evela emsebenzini ekhathele, noma engumfana, noma ephuzile;
- uhlala eboshiwe emsebenzini, angaphezu kwamahora amane;
- akavami ukukubiza ngesikhathi semini, futhi uma ebiza, ukhuluma ngokuzikhukhumeza futhi ehlangene;
- Ngesikhathi esekhaya, uphendula ucingo ngamazwi athi "Ngizokubiza kamuva" noma "wenze iphutha ngenombolo" okungaphezu kabili ngesonto;
- uthola ezincwadini zakhe ezinye izinombolo ezintsha ngaphandle kwesignesha;
- uyakubiza ngegama elithile lesibhotela ephusheni noma ezingxoxweni;
- yaqala ukucasula ukuziphatha kwakho, imikhuba yakho nezihlobo zakho.
Isinyathelo sesithathu: Qonda imizwa yothandekayo wakho
Ngobudlelwane obuseduze phakathi komphathi kanye nonobhala, izinketho ezintathu zingenzeka. Esimweni sokuqala, u-flirts, futhi indoda ayikhathaleli. Lesi simo sizuzisa kakhulu, ngoba sikhuluma ngokuthembeka komlingani wakho. Uzodinga ukuthola ukuthi yini eyabangela ukubhala kombhali. Mhlawumbe unendlela enjalo yokuthola ukuzethemba, futhi mhlawumbe usevele esethandweni. Isixazululo esihle kakhulu kobudlelwane bomndeni wakho ususa lo wesifazane. Ukudala izimo ezingenakulinganiswa zomsebenzi wakhe futhi amenze ahambe, noma nje ukhulume ngokukhululekile nomyeni wakhe mayelana nokudluliselwa kwesisebenzi sakhe komunye umnyango - kungcono kuwe. Kodwa khumbula ukuthi umyeni wakho uzodinga umsizi omusha emsebenzini, futhi uma kungenzeka, thola esikhundleni sombhali wakhe onothando ngokweqile ngokwakho.
Okungenzeka kunokwenzeka, lapho umholi efakaza, futhi unobhala uphazamisekile. Kulokhu, ungalokothi ukhulume ngokuxoshwa kwesisebenzi. Phela, inkinga ayikho kuwo, kodwa kumuntu. Lokhu ukukhanga kwakhe ukuba adventure, ufuna izinzwa ezintsha futhi nokwanda ukuzethemba. Kulesi simo, sebenzisa wonke amasu owaziwa ukuthi uvuselele uthando lomyeni kuwe futhi uwuthise ngothando olusha.
Okukhethwa kakhudlwana kuyisifiso sokuthandana kwekhanda nombhali, noma, ngokumane nje, i-romance yesevisi. Uma usola umyeni ukuthi ukukopela kuwe nomsizi wakhe, ungalahlekelwa ikhanda lakho. Mhlawumbe akayena owokuqala okumnandi ngaye, okusho ukuthi kufanele ube ukhathazekile esikhathini esidlule. Ungasheshi ukusola intombazane yonke, i-provocateur ingaba yindoda yakho. Uma ubekezelela ukuthengiswa komyeni wakho, futhi ngisho uvumele lokhu, khona-ke akungabazeki ukuthi ukhathazekile ngempela ngunobhala wakhe. Kodwa uma ungowesifazane othembekile futhi othembekile - waqala ukusola umlingani wakho ekukhohliseni, sekuyisikhathi sokukhuluma. Lungiselela ingxoxo: cabanga ngezinketho ezingenzeka ezingxoxweni bese upheqa ekhanda lokukhetha okungalungile - khona-ke kuyoba lula ukuba ulalele oshade naye. Hlanganisa ulwazi oluthe xaxa ukuze izinsolo zakho zingenasisekelo, nakuba ezimweni eziningi, amadoda akhipha wonke ama-ins nokuphuma ekuphenduleni i-bluff ephumelelayo. Kuye ngemiphumela yengxoxo, zithathe isinqumo - ingabe ulungele ukuqhubeka nale ndoda noma ingabe uyisikhathi sokuqala impilo entsha.
Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ungesabi. Owesifazane ohlukumezekile, othukuthele futhi edidekile, akakwazi ukuhlola ngeso lengqondo isimo. Ihlaziya futhi ilandise lesi simo. Yiqiniso, kunzima ukushaywa igazi, ukusola umyeni wakhe wokuhlubuka. Kodwa nokho ungakhohlwa mayelana nokucabangela kobumsulwa.
Isinyathelo Sesine: Bonisa Izinzuzo Zakho
Awubambanga umyeni wakhe ngamanga aqondile noma ngokuhlubuka, kodwa uthole isizathu sokuthi uqaphele? Ingabe uqinisekile ukuthi ufuna, ngokusemandleni onke, ukugcina ubuhlobo bakho? Khona-ke kufanele usebenze kuzo. Ukuqaphela lokhu noma cha, umyeni wakho uzokuqhathanisa nomuntu okhathalela manje. Futhi ungathonya ngokugcwele ukuthuthukiswa kwezenzakalo. Zama ukuvimbela isifiso sokubiza umyeni ngetekisi lomlomo futhi "ukumbulala" nge-hysteria noma ukumemeza. Ngemuva kwalokho, "ukuvusa" kuyoba ngumngane omnene nomsuka emsebenzini. Futhi isithombe sakho sizohlupheka. Isixazululo esihle kakhulu ukuhlala unomqondo ozolile futhi uzolile, kuyilapho ubonisa izinzuzo zakho ngaphezu kwalokhu okuthiwa umphikisana.
Isibonelo, uma encane kunawe, gcizelela njalo ukuthi unolwazi oluthe xaxa - ocansini, emsebenzini, ekukhuliseni izingane. Uma uneminyaka yobudala obufanayo, gcizelela ukuthi, isibonelo, uhlala esikhundleni esiphezulu, uphathe umnyango ngokwakho, kuhlanganise nokunikeza imiyalelo kumbhali womnyango wakho. Zama ukuvumela umyeni wakho aqonde ukuthi unokunye okufana nakho okukwenzayo: isibonelo, unezingane ezinhle, unekhaya elihle, abazali bakho bayathanda ukukhulumisana.
Qaphela ukwehluleka kobhala wakhe ngokugqamisa izimfanelo zakho. Uma unesikhumba esincane nomzimba oziqhenyayo, futhi uyisitofu futhi ukhuluphele kakhulu, gqoka ukugcizelela izinzuzo zakho. Uma wazi izilimi eziningana, cela umyeni wakhe ukuthi asize ekuxoxweni noma ahumushe le ncwadi. Qaphela ukuthi kulula ukukhuphuka nokuthanda ukuhamba uma engeyena umuntu ohambayo. Ungakhulumi nje ngakho, kodwa yenza. Hlela uhambo olwandle, ezintabeni, echibini, noma nje epikiniki nabangani emahlathini.
Ngendlela, mayelana nabangane. Thola ukusekelwa kwabo. Uma abangane bomyeni wakho bethanda ukuxhumana naye kuphela, kodwa futhi nawe, kungenzeka ukuthi bayabona ngaphandle komdlandla ukuthi kungenzeka ukuphuka kwakho ngenxa yowesifazane othile. Futhi lokhu kusho ukuthi ngeke kube yinto engathandeki ukuba athule enye intokazi embuthanweni wabangane bakhe, ngoba angeke asekelwe, ngeke akhathazeke, futhi, mhlawumbe, uzolahlwa. Futhi nawe - ngokufudumala nangokufudumele yonke inkampani, ukuthi awufuni ukushintsha noma yini.
"Qinisekisa" ubuhlobo bakho. Qala futhi ukuya emidlalweni namaqembu, buyisa isifiso esidala. Vumela umyeni futhi afune ukunqoba. Ungamenza ngisho nomhawu omncane. Ngaphandle kwalokho, mhlawumbe uke ucabangele ngonobhala wakhe? Mhlawumbe, wayengesiyo yonke imbangela yengxabano yakho yesikhashana?