Ushadile hhayi ngomnyaka wokuqala, futhi umshado wakho uphumelela kakhulu, kodwa uyaqaphela ukuthi awunaso uthando oludlulile, futhi uncane kakhulu othandana, ngoba ukhathele, futhi akukho ukuzwa okusha. Konke kujwayelekile futhi kushaywe. Mhlawumbe wonke umuntu unjalo?
Kuvela, cha. Imibhangqwana eminingi eshadile iyavuma ukuthi ngemva kokubhekana nobunzima obunjalo, bakwazi ukuthola ama-horizons amasha. Kanjani? Nawa amanye amathiphu anikezwa ochwepheshe bezocansi abawaziwa kahle, abakwa-psychotherapists kanye namane "imibhangqwana eshadile enezimo".
1. Ubulili buzwa
Udokotela wezicansi owaziwayo u-Dilya Enikeeva uqhathanisa ubulili nomculo wokucula: "Abaculi bangacula bodwa, kodwa bangabamba amaqembu abo. Uma behlabelela, amazwi abo azoba nomsindo ohlukile kunama-solos. Esikhathini esihle abahlanganyeli bobabili abahlanganyeli bazizwe bengumlingani. Uma umuntu efuna ukuhlaziya, okwesibili kuzolungiswa kalula. "
Yiqiniso, ubulili emashumini amathathu abukho nhlobo ukuthi ubulili buneminyaka eyishumi nesishiyagalolunye. Ebusheni konke okulula - ama-hormone adlala egazini, ungahlala ubusuku bonke, futhi ekuseni ube ne-rose enhle, kunezethemba elikhulu nezinhlelo eziseduze, futhi uhle njenge-Aphrodite.
Eminyakeni edlule, kanye nobuhle, ukuzithemba kubuyeleka (ikakhulukazi uma umyeni othandekayo ekukhumbuza ngezikhathi ezithile amakhilogremu amaningi kanye nemibimbi), imizamo emayelana nomndeni idliwa yiwo wonke amandla, futhi umzimba ngokwawo ucela ukubeka eceleni ihora lokulala, hhayi ukulala.
Kodwa nokho, ukwaneliseka ngokobulili kuhlobene ikakhulukazi nokwaneliseka jikelele ngomshado. Uma abashadile benelisekile ngobuhlobo babo obuseduze, lokhu kudala isizinda lapho ubudlelwane babo bekhula khona kwezinye izigaba. Lesi sizinda sithonya impumelelo yalolubudlelwano, futhi ukwaneliseka ngocansi, futhi, kuxhomeke kulobu buhlobo.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Okokuqala - ngokuzithoba uphendule ngokwakho kumbuzo: konke kulungile phakathi kwakho ebuhlotsheni bansuku zonke? Uma kungenjalo - bheka lelo qalo lokuqala, okwaqala ukuhlukana, futhi uvale igebe lomzwelo.
2. Pamper komunye nomunye!
Enye yezingoma zikaVadim Egorov kukhona inkulumo emangalisayo: "Uthando esiwuthanda kakhulu kulabo abathandayo lungcono kakhulu!"
I-paradox: asikhohlwa ukusola umyeni zonke izinkinga eziqoqiwe phakathi nosuku, senza izimangalo, sidonsa abangane. Futhi luphi ububele? Abashadile abangakhohlwa ukuveza isithandane nothando komunye nomunye, njengomthetho, ungabandani komunye nomunye futhi ulele embhedeni.
Uke wanika nini umyeni wakho ikhofi embhedeni? Futhi sekuyisikhathi sokugcina ukugubha umhlane wakho endlini yokugezela? Ingabe uhamba emini enyangeni?
Umndeni ngamunye unayo "zokupheka" zawo ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Uma uvame ukubonisana imizwelo yakho emihle kaningi, ukuqinisa ubuhlobo bakho bobulili!
3. Izidakamizwa ezikhathele zithandwa ngocansi olukhathele
Ubani phakathi kwethu, abafazi abashadile, abazange bawele esimweni lapho umuntu efuna ukulala ngenxa yokukhathala, futhi umyeni uthatha isinyathelo kuqala? Wena wenqaba - umyeni uphukile, uyavuma - uyaqamba amanga, futhi ukucasuka kuphakama emphefumulweni wakho: ufunani? Futhi kwenzeka enye indlela: uya kuye, futhi une "ikhanda"!
Yini okufanele ngiyenze? Nikeza omunye nomunye ithuba lokuphumula.
Nginezibhangqwana esishadile "abanolwazi" abaye baxazulula le nkinga (futhi ngayinye ngendlela yabo!). Abanye bathumela izingane zabo kunogogo futhi ngoMgqibelo bacele ukuthi bangazitholi ngezingcingo nokuvakashelwa. Abanye - labo abangadingekile ukuba basebenze ngo-8 - bakhuthaze ucansi ekuseni. Kanti abanye, ngokuphambene nalokho, babeka izingane ukuba zilale futhi ziqaphelisane kusukela kuyishumi kuya phakathi kwamabili. Umngane wami omdala uthi kuye, ubulili abulinganiswa ngobuningi, kodwa ngekhwalithi: ngisho nangaphansi kaningi, kepha "ngokugcwele"!
4. Shiya izinkinga ngemuva komngcele!
Ungadonseli izinkinga zesevisi endlini. Ungathathi amadokhumenti ekhaya ukuthi awunaso isikhathi sokubona emsebenzini. Amakholi wefoni kumngane-ntombazane ubude esikhathini esisodwa nesigamu nawo angahlehliswa.
Uma ulinde ucingo olubalulekile, sebenzisa umshini wokuphendula, manje akuyona inkinga yokuwuthengisa, futhi uzosindisa isikhathi esiningi esiyigugu namandla angokomoya, ukuzilahla ukukhulumisana okungenakukhiqiza nezinto eziningi ezincane.
Uma ngalolu suku unezinkinga eziningi zesevisi ezingaxazululwa, kungcono ukuthi ungahle uhlele kulobu busuku ubuhlobo obuseduze, ngoba umcabango walokho okwenziwanga ngeke kukunike ithuba lokuphumula.
5. Ngezinye izikhathi kubalulekile ukutshela izinhloso zakho kumyeni wakho!
Uma utshela oshade naye ekuseni: "Sawubona, sinebusuku ngokuya ocansini namhlanje!" - ke lokhu kuyisimo sengqondo esisodwa. Futhi uma usuvele ukhululekile ekulindeni ubusuku obumnandi, futhi phakathi nomsebenzi uzobiza umyeni wakho izikhathi eziningana, uthi usuke ubheke phambili kusihlwa, uzobuya ekhaya kusuka emsebenzini okungenani isigamu sehora ngaphambili, ukulungiselela ukudla okulula kokubili, kusengaphambili unakekele i-champagne noma iwayini, ugeze noma ugeza - khona-ke uzoba nomuzwa omuhle, ozozizwa ngokushesha nomyeni wakho.
6. Gwema izingozi!
Ngokusho kwezocansi, isicupho esivame kakhulu embhede womshado siyisimo esifanayo. Ngokushesha noma kamuva, kodwa kuza isikhathi lapho uhlangothi oluseduze lomlingani lufundwa ngokucophelela, ngakho-ke lwenza uthando, abashadile ngokushesha "bathathe le nkomo ngezimpondo", okungukuthi, basebenzise lezo zinhlamvu eziqinisekisiwe zokuletha umphumela.
Cabanga ngakho: uma umuntu edliwa nsuku zonke ngamazambane othosiwe (i-halva, i-ananas, ama-shrimp), khona-ke kuyofika isikhathi lapho umlenze lo mkhiqizo uzoba nesisulu. Ngakho noma kunjalo, "imenyu" idinga ukuhlukahluka.
7. Ungenzi umngane wakho umngane!
Ngokuvamile, lokhu kungumthetho wegolide wokuphila komshado. Khumbula njalo: eduze kwakho - indoda! Futhi lo muntu udinga ukukhohliswa futhi anqobe nsuku zonke.
Ngokwenza, kuvela ngenye indlela. Umfazi uphendukela phambi kwesibuko bese ekhononda kumyeni wakhe ukuthi wanezela amakhilogremu angu-20, waba "inkomo" futhi akayikukhuphukela kunoma yisiphi skirt. Ebuya ebuchotsheni bamazinyo, uthi kukhona izimbobo ezingamashumi amabili emazinyo futhi ngokuvamile kudingeka adondolozwe emhlathini wamanga. Noma yamukelwa ukuxoxa nomyeni ukuthenga ukhilimu anti-cellulite. Ngokuvamile, wenza konke okusemandleni ezinsuku zokuzijwayeza abangeke bakwenze!
Yiqiniso, lapho umfazi eqala ukukhononda kumyeni wakhe, ufuna indoda yakhe ithi: "Ukudumisa, uhle!" Kodwa amadoda ngokuvamile akasho lokho. Abuboni amacebo emazwini akho. Bakholelwa egameni. Lapho umkakhe ethi usekhulile, ukhuluphele, unonya, nge-cellulite ne-caries - ngakho-ke. Futhi ubani ofuna ukulala nomfazi onjalo?
Cabanga, uthola lokhu?
8. Engeza amanye amahlaya!
Yebo, ngubani owakutshele ukuthi ubulili bubi kakhulu? Ngezinye izikhathi indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphinde uvuselele ukuthakazelisa ngukuhleka.
Omagazini abaningi besifazane banikeza izindlela zokupheka ezilula, njengokuhlangana nomyeni emsebenzini ohamba nge-apron. Ngokusobala, washeshe wakuhlasela njengesilwane. Nganginecala lapho umuntu oyedwa ehlushwa umhlangano onjalo: "Ngabuyela ekhaya ngikhathele, njengendoda yesigqila sokugcina, futhi ngasemngceleni umkami uhamba-ze futhi efasini. Ngacishe ngidelekile: ingabe kufanele ulale ucansi? "
Omunye umngane wabalula lokhu iresiphi ngendlela yakhe: wahlangana nomyeni wakhe hhayi nje ehamba nge-apron, kodwa ngama-skate roller! Umyeni wami wahleka kakhulu! Ubusuku kwakumangalisa. Yiqiniso, leyo ndoda yayinomqondo wokuhlekisa. Uma ngabe unakho, zama ngakho.
9. Imemori yi-ally yakho!
Omunye engangisebenza naye wathi: "Sahlala nomyeni wami iminyaka eyishumi. Futhi uma uhlobo oluthile lokupholisa lungena phakathi kwethu, ngithatha izithombe zethu zakudala. Sihlala nomyeni wami kusihlwa, siwahlunge, sikhumbule izinto ezinhle ezenzeka phakathi kwethu. Yiqiniso, simomotheka futhi sihleka. Ukuphuza okudingekayo kudlula phakathi kwethu. Siyaqonda ukuthi sithandana, futhi sikhuluma ngakho. Futhi-ke ... Kubonakala sengathi sithwalwa ebusweni bethu bokuqala, esithandweni sethu ... Ngokuvamile kuyamangalisa ukuthanda nomyeni wakho! "
10. Flirt!
Siyazi okuthile kuwe ukuthi kulula ukudlala ngothando nomuntu ongajwayelekile: ukumomotheka ngesibindi, ukubona ukuthi kulo mfokazi zonke izinsipho zizocwiliswa kusuka kwesifiso, kanye nezinye izinto ezifanayo eziyizigidi. Kunzima kakhulu ukudlala ngothando nomyeni wakho!
Kulungile, isibonelo, uhambela noma uhamba, thola umzuzwana ukumemeza iskripthi sobusuku bakho. Futhi lapho uvakashele ubheka amehlo akhe futhi engaboni abanye, bamba unyawo lwakho phezu kwalo (lokhu kuvame ukuqhutshwa ngabanqunu bezocansi kule ifilimu - mhlawumbe hhayi ngeze), noma ukushaya idolo ngefobhu, bese uyithuthela phezulu. Ngidinga ukukufundisa!
Ungaphuthelwa ithuba lokudansa. Yisho ukuncoma, ukuhleka amahlaya akhe, ukumanga ezindlebeni zakho - ngokujwayelekile, wazi okuthile ngomyeni wakho, njengenhlanhla! Futhi umphumela ngokuqinisekile uyoba!
Khumbula : uthando lwakho aluhambanga! Kulula nje, wayegcwele izinkinga zansuku zonke. Vula uthuli futhi ujabulele ukuphila!