Eqinisweni, bobabili owesilisa nowesifazane bangase bangakulungeli ukushada. Kulokhu, sisho ukungazilungiseleli kokuziphatha konke okulindeleke umbhangqwana osemusha ngemuva komshado. Lokhu, ngokuyinhloko, kuxhomeke ezingeni lomthwalo wemfanelo: kokubili okwenu namadoda akho, kodwa umfana ojwayelekile uzocabangela ngokujulile ukuthi usekulungele yini ukuqala umndeni, noma ngabe kufanele alinde? Nakuba, ngeke siphikisana, kukhona uhlobo olunjalo lwamantombazane, ukuthi, ngokusemandleni onke, afuna ukudlala lomshado "lapha nalapha", ukuze ekugcineni athole "isigqila u-Izaura" ozokuhlanza indlu nokugeza amasokisi, bese upheka isidlo sakusihlwa. Futhi ubusuku bubuke futhi buzokwenza zonke izihloko. Kulula, akunjalo? Kodwa-ke, kungenzeka ukuthi umuntu onjalo angumuntu onomndeni omuhle, ngoba ekuqaleni usebenza ngesisekelo sokungaqondakali, futhi ukungabi nobuchopho kwamadoda kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo kumenza abe ngumfana oluhlaza, ngesikhathi esifanayo ukuze anakekele umama onothando.
Ngakho-ke, ake sithi indoda yakho idonselwa umshado. Futhi ucabanga, bathi, bayaqhubeka, sebevele befuna izingane, futhi ngandlela-thile bahlala phansi bese benza ukwakhiwa komndeni ngokungathí sina. Kodwa uthula, unenkani. Khumbula ukuthi uma umuntu engasheshi ukushada - akusho ukuthi akayithandi, mhlawumbe nje ulinganisa nokulungela kwakho lesi sinyathelo. Thokoza ukuthi unomuntu onjalo ocabanga okwazi ukuhlaziya. Lezi zimfanelo ezinhle zizomsiza ngokuphindaphindiwe esikhathini esizayo esiseduze. Okwamanje ... ngenkathi sikukwazisa ukuba ube nesineke. Ikakhulukazi uma wena ubona ukuthi akakubizi ukuba ushade, hhayi ngoba engathandi. Ubuhlobo obufudumele, futhi, ngezinye izikhathi kudingeka kuhlolwe ukuphikiswa empilweni yansuku zonke kanye nempi yomndeni wokuqala, ngakho-ke, mhlawumbe ngaphambi kokuba uhlele ubuhlobo bakho ngendlela efanele, indoda yakho izofuna ukuhlangana ndawonye futhi iphile ndawonye. Ngakho ukusho, ukuqonda uma ungakwazi ukuxubana nomunye nomunye. Futhi lesi sinqumo sinzima kakhulu, sibonisa ukuthi umfana wakho ungumuntu omdala futhi onengqondo.
Nakuba kwenzeke ukuthi le nhlakanipho kanye nobudala buyandisa isikhathi eside. Okusho ukuthi, uhlangana, uhlangane, uhlala ndawonye iminyaka eminingi, futhi, njengoba ucabanga, uhambisana kahle. Cha, yebo, futhi unezingxabano nezinkinga ezincane - kodwa wazi ukuthi ungathola kanjani isisombululo sokwehlisa, futhi ungabuyiseli isimo esimweni somhlaba jikelele. Uyakwazi ukusakaza ngokufanele imisebenzi yasendlini, wena, njengowesifazane, uthanda ukuhlomisa isidleke somndeni, uhlakaze ngokukhululekile induduzo nokufudumala kuzo zonke izingxenye zomkhaya wakho womndeni. Futhi, njengendoda, uyathanda ukuthi lapho ebuya ekhaya evela emsebenzini, uzithola engaphansi kokunakekelwa nokufudumala okungapheli ukuthi angathembela kuwe ngaso sonke isikhathi, ukuthi uzokwenza konke ngaye. Kodwa lapha ubuhlobo buphelile. Okungukuthi, bekungekho isiphakamiso, futhi cha, futhi nonke nilinde futhi ulinde. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka?
Empeleni, konke kulula. Amadoda ashesha kakhulu ukujwayela okuhle (mhlawumbe abesifazane nabo badumile ngalokhu). Futhi uma impilo yakho emshadweni womphakathi (ake sikubize kanjalo) yithanda umfana, khona-ke ujwayele ukuthi, ewela umngcele wendlu, uzwa ngokushesha izwi lakho ukuthi iphunga elimnandi livela ekhishini, ukuthi akukho lutho olushintshayo futhi konke kuzinzile. Ngakho ujwayele ukuhlala njalo. Futhi akaqondi nakancane: kungani kufanele ushintshe okuthile, kungani kufanele uphule le ndlela yokuthula-ukuthula ngokulungiselela umshado, kungani lokhu kuxabana? Cha, cishe uyaqonda ukuthi umdwebo awukwazi ukugwema, kodwa uzama ngokungaqondakali ukulibazisa lo mcimbi, ukuze angabuyi futhi. Futhi lokhu kufakazela futhi ukuthi uma umuntu engasheshi ukushada - akusho ukuthi akayithandi, mhlawumbe usetshenziselwa ukuba ndawonye?
Kunezinye izizathu ezenza umuntu onothando angakwazi ukuyeka usuku lomshado olufisiwe. Futhi ukuvinjelwa kunabo bonke ukungabi nesisekelo sempahla yomcimbi omkhulu kangaka. Emva kwakho konke, kusekhona amadoda emhlabeni abona ukumomotheka okujabulisayo ebusweni babathandekayo babo njengenhloso yokuphila kwabo. Lawa angama-genies amahle asekulungele ukulimaza ngamazinyo abo, ukuze agcwalise iphupho elibaluleke kunazo zonke lomfazi wabo. Kodwa hlobo luni lomlobokazi aluphuphi ngomshado we-chic, owusizo?
Umshado esikhathini sethu - lo mcimbi awushibhile, ngezinye izikhathi kuthatha ngaphezu konyaka owodwa ukuqoqa imali ukuhlela iholidi yangempela, ukumema zonke izihlobo zabo. Futhi emva kokudla okunomsindo ukushayela inyanga kwenye indawo kwelinye izwe, ukuphumula ngaphansi kwesundu, ukushisa ilanga elangeni futhi ungacabangi nganoma yini, ngaphandle komunye nomunye.
Noma mhlawumbe indoda yakho isaba nje! Yebo, yebo, wesaba, kodwa hhayi wena, kodwa umthwalo wemfanelo oyowela emahlombe akhe emva kokuba ipasipoti ihlotshwe ngesitembu? Phela, umndeni unomsebenzi omkhulu nokukhathalela, akuyona inkululeko yokunyakaza. Emva kwakho konke, kuzodingeka uxoxe njalo nowesifazane kukho konke. Futhi, ikakhulukazi, ayikho inkululeko yezimali - lapha, futhi, kuyodingeka ixoxisane nento ngayinye yenkcitho nomkayo, ikakhulu uma umuntu edinga imali eningi. Akuwona wonke umuntu ofuna ukushintsha kakhulu impilo yakhe evamile. Futhi lokhu akusho ukuthi amadoda anjalo awawuthandi amantombazane abo - awakwazi ukukhula ngokwanele emndenini, futhi adinga ukusiza ukwenza lokhu. Noma okungenani ulinde aze akhule afike ekuvuthweni. Kungcono kuwe ukuthi unqume.
Ngokuvamile futhi ngokujwayelekile, umndeni uyisinyathelo esinomthwalo wemfanelo, ngokugcwaliseka kwesinye isikhathi okudingekayo ukulinda isikhathi eside, ukukala, ukuhlaziya nokuhlola ubuhlobo bakho ngamandla. Ngempela, sonke sifuna umndeni ukuba ube munye - nokuphila, ngaphandle kwempi nokuhlukana, okuqinile, okuqinile. Futhi uma sithatha lesi sinyathelo ngokusheshisa futhi ngokungenangqondo - singenza iphutha ngokujulile bese sihlala nomfula ophukile. Futhi ngokuqinisekile akekho ofunayo.
Ngakho-ke ungacindezeli insizwa yakho ukuthi ingasheshi ukushada nawe-mhlawumbe ilindele nje isikhathi esifanele, izimo ezifanele? Yiba nesineke, ikakhulukazi uma uqiniseka ukuthi isoka lakho liyisiphetho sakho. Amaphupho agcwaliseka, ngezinye izikhathi akhethe isikhathi esifanele!