Emkhawulweni wekhulu lokukhululwa kanye nobufazi, ngokulandelana, uma indalo elula futhi ithenda ebizwa ngokuthi "owesifazane" iye yaba yinto ekhululekile, eyazimele futhi enenjongo yocansi lesifazane, kodwa namanje nemikhuba yamadoda. Owesifazane ngokuphindaphindiwe uthatha indima ebantwini emphakathini. Uthola impilo yakhe, uhambisa umdwebi njengenhlanzi, ngenkathi ephendula ukuthi akahlali nje lapho. Uma kunesidingo, uzozibophezela ngezipikili, ukulungisa i-carpet, ukususa amaphepheni, ukuhlaziya ikhompyutha ngemininingwane encane, bese uqala ukuyihlanganisa kalula, kodwa kuzovela izakhi ezimbalwa, ngisho noma kungadingekile. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lesi sizwe esizimele esizimele sithandana. Futhi okungaqondakali kwenzeka engqondweni yakhe. Ingqondo yakhe yenza uhlelo - nbsp; "Ukuhlelwa kabusha". Kwabe sekuphuthumayo. Uqala ukuba nesithakazelo emibutheni engazange imnake ngaphambili. Uqala ukwenza izinto angazange azenze ngaphambili. Ngakho umbuzo uvela - "kungani?". Futhi konke kulula, umtshingo wothando nomshado usufikile. Kuye, konke kusha futhi akungaziwa. Wathola izwe elihluke ngokuphelele. Izwe lokuzilibazisa okuhlanganyelwe, ukulenga, ukulungiselela isikhathi eside ngamaholide, bese kuhlanzwa isikhathi eside emva kwabo. Kuleli zwe, kunzima ukuhlala kuzo zonke izimo. Phela, umshado kuwumsebenzi onzima futhi onzima phakathi kwabantu ababili. Leli yindawo enemithetho yayo. Manje ake sibone ukuthi owesifazane oshadile kufanele akwenze.
Isenzo sokuqala. Ikhethini ivuleka
Okokuqala, owesifazane kufanele acabange kahle. Ukucabanga okuhle, ukucabanga okuhle, umusa oqotho - lokhu kuyisisekelo samandla wesifazane kanye nokukhathazeka. Futhi lokhu, kunika ithuba lokuhlola konke kusuka ekubukeni okuhle, ukunikeza ukuhlolwa okuhle kubantu, imicimbi, izimo, kukho konke ukubona ubuhle, amathuba kanye nekusasa elithembisayo. Wonke umuntu ufuna ukuhlala ngomsindo omuhle, ngakho-ke kuyamangalisa ukuthi amadoda adonsela kubafazi abathokozile, abathokozile. Akusizo ngalutho abakushoyo, "Oholwa naye, ukuthi uzobe uthayishiwe." Khona-ke indoda izobukela impilo ngokusebenzisa i-lens enhle. Ngakho-ke, emshadweni onjalo akukho ndawo yokuxabana nokuphazamiseka.
Isenzo sesibili
Okwesibili, owesifazane oshadile kufanele azigcwalise yena kanye nabanye ngamandla. Cabanga ngawe uma engenalo isithakazelo kukho konke okusha, empilweni, ngeke kube nokuzilibazisa nokuzilibazisa, lapho ehamba kancane kancane endleleni yakhe yokuphila eyakhelwe ekhaya, uyeke ukuya ezenzakalweni ezithakazelisayo, iminyuziyamu, imidwebo, imibukiso. Izinwele zakhe ezihle kahle zizophenduka umsila ongaqondakali. Khona-ke kuzoqala kancane ukuphenduka "i-jellyfish". Ake ungitshele, ingabe uzoba nesithakazelo kumuntu ovele ekhathele impilo yakhe? Ngakho-ke, abathandekayo abathandekayo, kufanele sizihlole, kokubili ngokomzimba nangokomoya. "Ingqondo ephilile isemzimbeni onempilo!". Singena ezemidlalo, siphuza amavithamini, sifunda izincwadi, sithola izindawo ezithakazelisayo, ezithakazelisayo, uvakashele zonke izinhlobo zemibuthano nezifundo, ngokujwayelekile, ukuthuthukisa, ungabe ume, ungadli!
Ukungena
Into yesibili cute igeleza ibe sesithathu - sisekela ubuhle nempilo. Umuntu uthanda ukuvumelana, ukuzwana phakathi kobudlelwane, kubantu, emvelweni. Phela, imvelo kithi yaqala ukuvumelana, ukuhambisana nokulinganisa. Uzibheka kaningi kangakanani ukubuka umuntu omfushane, futhi kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Kulula, sithanda ubuhle, ikakhulukazi ukucabangela lobu buhle kumuntu. Sithandwa abantu abalungile, bakhangwa ukuvumelana kwabo kwemvelo nomusa. Eqinisweni, kunzima kakhulu ukulondoloza ukuzwana phakathi kwakho, kungabi yedwa ukugcina ukuvumelana phakathi kobudlelwane. Ngempela, ukuhlala ndawonye, ukuhlala ndawonye ukuzindla njalo. Futhi kuyinto engavamile ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kucabangela akukwazi ukuletha leyo njabulo, lokho ngaphambili. Futhi konke lokhu kungenxa yokuthi, ukujwayela nokubonana njengento ejwayelekile, abashadile baqala ukunganaki ukubukeka kwabo futhi nsuku zonke kancane kancane ukuze banakekele. Ingabe lo wesifazane oshadile? Ngakho-ke, ubuhle, impilo nokuzilungisa - yingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila komndeni ogcwele.
Isinyathelo sesithathu
Uyazi ukuthi yisiphi isici esibalulekile ebuhlotsheni bomndeni obuphilile? Yiba ohlukile. Abantu bakhula, bahlakulele, bashintsha imibono yabo ezintweni ezithile, izithakazelo zishintsha. Ngakho kungani ungangenisi ubudlelwane bezinto ezintsha kanye nokuzikhethela. Yiqiniso, impilo yansuku zonke idinga kithi ukuchithwa kokucabanga, ukuqiniseka ngesenzo, inhlangano ezindabeni, ukuhleleka kwemvelo. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lokhu kuphila okubuhlungu kwansuku zonke kuqala ukudonsa ngaphandle, futhi siba ama-robot. Ngakho-ke, kumelwe simise, sibheke nxazonke, sicabange ukuthi yikuphi okufanayo umphefumulo okufunayo nokwenzayo. Kungaba yinoma yini, futhi nje kuphela isidlo sokuthandana sabantu ababili ngokukhanya kwekhandlela elincane, hhayi uhambo olulungisiwe lokuya e-cinema, nokucindezeleka kokucindezeleka ngenhla yokudubula, i-carousels ne-sweet cotton wool. Mhlawumbe wake wayenombono noma uphupha, ngenxa yokusebenza okudingekayo othandekayo wakho. Cabanga ngakho ngokufanele, futhi khumbula okuthile.
Ikhefu livala
Uma kuboniswa, owesifazane oshadile wayeseqonda ngokucacile indalo. Uyazi ukuthi kubalulekile ukugeza izinto ngaphakathi, ukuthi amaqabunga eklabishi athole umucu uma ufaka izaqathe nezinyosi ukuze ubambe inyama, uyazi ukuthi izingane azilula ukukhuphula. Uyazi ukuthi ama-tupps awasiwo omfisha, uyazi ukuthi yini isizinda, umhlinzeki ne-Skype, yimuphi isabelomali somndeni, futhi ngokuvamile kunamagama amaningi ahlakaniphile.
Futhi bekukuthakazelisayo kuwe ukuthi lokhu kungumqondo wamadoda alabo besifazane abashadile abashadile. Ngandlela-thile ngabuza umyeni wami ukuthi, ngombono wakhe, owesifazane oshadile kufanele akwenze kanjani? Futhi uyazi, impendulo yayiyinto elula futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo eqinisweni - "owesifazane oshadile kufanele enze lokho owesifazane ovamile, okungcono kakhulu!". Ngakho-ke, bathandekayo abathandekayo, funda ukuba ngcono kukho konke!