"Uma uhlala phansi ukuze usebenze," umuntu uyaziqhenya, azibhubhise yena, impilo yakhe nobuhlobo bakhe. Izwe elikhulu nalo lonke ukuhluka kwalo lifinyeleleka emisebenzini emincane yemisebenzi yokukhiqiza, lapho konke kugxile khona. Okukhathazayo kuze kube manje: umndeni, izihlobo, abangane - sekuvele kubonakale kungabalulekile njengoba kunjalo. Umsebenzi kancane kancane uba indlela yokuphila. Kubonakala sengathi umuntu uya phambili, kodwa eqinisweni uhamba embuthanweni. Kuhle, uma osebenza ngokuzikhandla ekwazi ukwenza umsebenzi futhi akhokhele imizamo esetshenzisiwe ngeholo eliphakeme. Kodwa umndeni kunoma yikuphi ukuhlupheka ngenxa yokucindezeleka - isifo noma isimo sengqondo: ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo kulahlekile, abashadile bahamba kancane kancane, izingane zikhula ngaphandle kokunakekelwa kukababa nokuhlanganyela empilweni yabo.
Yisiphi isizathu?
Isizathu sihlale sengqondo futhi, cishe, sisuka ekubuntwaneni. Umuntu osebenza ngokweqile angafaka indima enjalo: indlela yokwandisa ukuzethemba (uma umuntu elahlekelwe ithemba kuye):
incazelo yokuphila (uma umuntu engafuni ukucindezela ekufuneni ezinye izincazelo);
ikhono lokunqoba ukwesaba (isibonelo, ukwesaba ukwehluleka ebuhlotsheni);
indlela yokuzijabulisa, ukuzwa ukuphakama ngokomzwelo, nokunyuka kwe-adrenaline. Kuzo zonke izinketho, kuvamile ukugwema izinkinga zomuntu siqu, izinkathazo zansuku zonke, ukucacisa ubuhlobo, okungukuthi, ukucindezeleka kwengqondo.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze?
Inkinga yokucindezeleka - isifo noma isimo somqondo ukuthi umuntu osebenza ngokweqile, njengomthetho, uyajabula kakhulu nokuphila okunjalo, uzibheka enempilo futhi akahlose ukushintsha noma yini. Izingxoxo ezivamile ngalesi sihloko azithinti neze isimo. Yiqiniso, kungcono ukuphendukela kuchwepheshe, kodwa ungakwazi ukulwa nawe.
Njengoba uzama ukusebenzisana, cela umyeni ukuthi athole idayimane, izihloko zayo ezizokhomba izigaba ezine zokuphila komuntu omdala: umzimba (impilo), umsebenzi, umndeni, oxhumana nabo (ukuxhumana). Isikhathi sayo sangempela sisakazwa kanjani kulezi zakhi? Lokhu kuzokwenza kube lula ukubona ukuthi kunesibalo esicacile (100% kuphela, isibalo esilinganiselwe sigaba ngasinye singama-25%).
Iyiphi intengo umyeni wakho akhokha ngokukhuthele ngokweqile? Ukuhlupheka kusuka empilweni? Umndeni? Umsebenzi ukubuyisela ibhalansi kuzo zonke izigaba zokuphila.
Ikhono lokuziphumula ngokuzikhandla - ikhono elifanayo njengokukwazi ukushayela imoto. Lokhu kungafundwa ngokuhamba ngezinyathelo ezifanayo njengalapho okwenza noma yiliphi elinye ikhono.
Khumbula: kubalulekile ukugcina njalo, ukuze ukuphumula kube umkhuba.
Owesifazane onothando ukukhuluma ngomnandi - akuyona nje injabulo, kodwa isidingo. Ukuyeka inkhulumomphendvulwano, noma ukuvimbela ukukhulumisana okukhulu, le ndoda iveza izinkinga eziningi: isifiso sesithandane sokukhuluma ngeke sibuyele kuye, kuphela ngesimo esiphambene. Kodwa indlela yokuqonda umlayezo womuntu ongathuli?
Thule njengenhlanzi
Esinye sezizathu zokuthulisa ukungafuni ukugxekwa. Noma yiluphi ulwazi lungasetshenziswa njengesikhali. Izindaba kusukela ebuntwaneni, ubudlelwane emsebenzini, izenzakalo emndenini wabazali - wonke lawo maqiniso ezandleni zabafazi abanekhono aphenduka "izinwele zomzimba" zomyeni. Umzwa wengozi nokucindezeleka - isifo noma isimo sengqondo sigcwaliswe ngokuthuka futhi simenza singathuli: ayikho ulwazi - ayikho indlela yokuzulazula.
Akagcini nje ukuthula, kepha akafuni ukulalela owesifazane (isibonelo, ukuhamba noma ukufaka i-headphone). Kuyindlela yokusabela, indlela yayo yokuthi cha. Mhlawumbe ubona isimo njengokwephula isikhala somuntu siqu , imingcele yengqondo.
Mnike lo muntu ithuba lokuzizwa ekhululekile.
Ngezinye izikhathi ukuthula komuntu onesidakamizwa kuyindlela eqondisayo - indlela yokujezisa, ubonise icala: isibonelo, uma ethula nawe, kodwa ngesikhathi esisodwa uxhumana kahle nomunye umuntu. Ukuphoqa owesifazane ukuba azikhohlise, uqobo uyaqinisekisa, ukwandisa ukubaluleka kwakhe. Ungakhohlisi. Noma ulinde aze akhulume, noma axoxe ngokujulile futhi ngokuthula ngesimo - njengabantu abadala. Ingabe kukhona isihloko esidinga isinqumo, engxoxweni lapho eqa khona bese engena ekuzivikeleni okungakhulumi?
Uma kubalulekile ukuba uzwe impendulo, yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuthola. Indlela ixhomeke emcabangweni wakho kanye namathuba akho. Nquma ukuthi kufanele ucindezele. Uma ukhuthazela, kufanele ulungele ngaphakathi ukuzwa noma yikuphi impendulo - kokubili okuhle nokubi.