Indlela yokunaka kakhulu izingane?
Ngokuvamile owesifazane uthi usebenza, ususa, uya ezitolo, akanaso isikhathi sokunakekela ingane. Futhi-ke, ungumuntu omdala futhi angakwazi ukuzinakekela yena. Lena yinkinga enkulu, ukuthi angakwazi ukuzibamba ngento ethile. Kuphela akusiyo njalo kusengaphambili kwaziwa, kunokuba kuzothathwa futhi nokuthi kuyamnandi kuwe.
Abazali abakucabangi ukuthi izingane zidinga ukunakekelwa okungaphezulu. Ingane izakukhula zimele, kodwa ngokuxhumana naye, lapho ekhula, kuyoba nezinkinga ezithile. Uzofihliwe bese ehoxiswa.
Uma usubuyele emsebenzini, khona-ke kufanele ukhokhele kakhulu izingane kanye nomsebenzi wakho womzali ukukhulisa ingane yakho umuntu omuhle. Awukwazi ukuvumela "umgwaqo" ukukhulisa ingane. Kodwa ungayiphatha kanjani yonke into futhi unikeze izingane zakho isikhathi esiningi nokunaka?
Zama ukuhilela izingane ezindabeni zasekhaya. Ufuna ukupheka isobho. Bandakanya ingane ukuhlanza amazambane, ngokubuyisela, isithembiso sokudlala nomdlalo owuthandayo. Ngale ndlela unga "bulala onogwaja 2". Ukudla kuzokupheka ngokushesha, futhi uzochitha isikhathi nengane, lapho upheka, ukhulume naye, umfundise ukwenza okungeyona nje ewusizo ekuphileni kwakhe, futhi edlala umdlalo othakazelisayo, ungakwazi ukuphumula ngokuphelele ngemva komsebenzi. Awukwazi ukudlala imidlalo yezingane kuphela, ufundise ukudlala ingane emdlalweni oyokuthakazelisa kuwe.
Uma uya esitolo, tshela ingane ukuthi udinga usizo lwakhe futhi uyithathe nawe. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ekuqaleni uqala ukuheha ingane ukuya ezitolo, ngokushesha uzokwenza umbono wokuthi kuyadingeka futhi uyathandeka. Esikhathini esitolo, mthengise umshini-umshini wokubhala, umshini-omangala noma ijusi, khona-ke kusukela ekuvakasheleni esitolo, ingane izoba nenkumbulo enhle kuphela.
Kusukela esemncane, fundisa ingane ukuba iphumule nomndeni. Ngisho noma wena nomyeni wakho ningenalo izithakazelo ezifanayo, kufanele zenzelwe ingane. Umama, ekhumbula ingane yakhe, egcwele izinkumbulo ezimnandi nezinjabulo, angenza umyeni wakhe athathe indodakazi yakhe ukudoba.
Indodakazi isetshenziselwa ukusondelana nabazali bayo, ichitha yonke impelasonto yokudoba ndawonye, iyakusizana ukudoba, ukuthatha igesi, ukukhanyisa umlilo nokudla shish kebab. Emndenini onjalo ngeke kube khona umbuzo wokuthi uzoba kuphi lapho udoba noma uthola khona. Njengomthetho, izingane ezifunda nabo zikhetha i-disco, nakuba ezinama-nightclub ezineminyaka engu-14 ubudala ziqala ekuseni. Futhi indodakazi yami inesithakazelo sokuba nabazali bayo, futhi bazama ukumnaka kakhulu. Phakathi nosuku, indodakazi ixhumana nabangane bakhe, futhi kusihlwa abazali bahamba ngamabhayisikili bese begibela wonke umndeni. Ukuhamba okunjalo kusihlwa kuyasiza engxenyeni encane, ewusizo kumajoyini kanye nemisipha, ngaphandle kwalokho, bayakuletha ndawonye umndeni ndawonye.
Uma lezi zihambo ziqala kusukela ebuntwaneni, ingane ngeke ibabone njengodlame olubhekiswe kumuntu. Indlela izingane ezikhulayo incike kubazali, hhayi kubangani, emigwaqweni nasezikoleni. Uma abazali bethatha imikhonto yabo emisebenzini yabo, khona-ke izingane zizokhula futhi.
Kodwa uma abazali bechitha isikhathi esiningi nezingane zabo, bafaka imali ekuthandweni kwabo nangomphefumulo wabo, ngakho-ke izingane zizokhula abantu abahloniphekile nabafundile. Kodwa uma umndeni ukuphuza njalo, ukulwa, izingxabano, ingane ikhula njenge "ukhula" futhi akukho mbuzo wokukhulelwa. Phela, izingane zizitholela ngokwabo, njengezipanji, konke okuzibonayo. Futhi uma bebona okuhle, bamukela kuphela "okuhle". Kukhona okuhlukile, kodwa bangashadile. Thanda izingane futhi ungakhohlwa ukuxhumana nabo, zinike isikhathi sakho.