1. Njengazipuni ezidakeni lokudinga
Esikhundleni esinjalo esithandanayo futhi esithobile, imibhangqwana esemisha ivame ukulala iminyaka yokuqala engu-3-5 yokuhlala ndawonye. Ngokufana nesimo segciwane lesisu elisesibelethweni sikamama, lesi sikhundla sinikeza bobabili abalingani umuzwa wokuphepha nokuphepha, okwenza ubuhlobo obuseduze bomzimba. Ezimweni eziningi, yindoda ethatha owesifazane. Amabili lapho ubudlelwane bobabili bozakwethu bilingana, ngobusuku obuphindwe kabili babubukisa lesi sikhundla, okungukuthi, lapho omunye umlingani ephenduka, omunye ulandela isibonelo sakhe futhi ammbathise ngemuva.
2. I-Honeymoon hugs
I-Hugs ibhekana ubuso nobuso - phezulu kokusondelana. Lesi sikhundla asivamile kakhulu kunesikhundla sangaphambilini se "Spoon", futhi ngokuvamile akusizi kahle ukulala kule ndawo ubusuku bonke. Ngokujwayelekile kulesi sikhundla, abathandi balele phakathi komunye nomunye abalingani abafuna ukuhlakazeka komunye nomunye, ekuqaleni kobudlelwane babo noma ngokushesha ngemuva kokwenza uthando.
Kodwa imibhangqwana ebudlelwane obude, isibonelo, ngezikhathi zenjabulo ethile eyenzekayo, noma uma abalingani bezwa ukuthi bancike kakhulu, bangakwazi ukulala kanje. Uma umlingani wakho ethanda lesi sikhundla, futhi ungakutholi kahle, ulinde aze alele, bese wamukela isikhundla esiphezulu.
3. Amathrekhi ogwadule
Omunye wabalingani (isikhathi esiningi umuntu) ulele phansi lapho isikhundla sokuthi izazi zengqondo zibiza "ubukhosi", ezibonisa "i-ego" ethuthukile kakhulu nesifiso sokubusa. Ngakho-ke lona wesifazane ulala nenhloko yakhe ehlombe lomuntu, okusho ukuthi ungumlingani othembekile futhi ovumelana naye, futhi lesi sikhundla simsiza ukuba azwe sengathi uvikelekile futhi unakekelwa. Lesi sikhundla sikhombisa izinga eliphakeme lokuthembela phakathi kwabalingani, futhi bathanda imibhangqwana eminingi ebudlelwaneni obuzinzile.
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Lena inguqulo esondelene kakhulu nesimo sangaphambilini esithi "I-Tile", ngoba kulokhu, owesifazane ukhonyiwe, futhi hhayi nje ukubeka ihlombe lakhe elisekelayo. Owesifazane uthathwa ngokoqobo ngaphansi kwephiko, enikeza uthando lwakhe, ukwesekwa nokuvikelwa. Lesi simo sibongwa ngokukhethekile ngabesifazane ngesikhathi sezinkinga ebuhlotsheni noma isimo esibucayi sokuphila. Kodwa akulindele ngempela ukuthi lolu daba luzame ukulala kule simo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, iqembu lokugqekeza lingase lingabi yindoda kuphela, kodwa futhi owesifazane ofuna ukukhulula ukucindezeleka komuntu ngemuva komsebenzi wosuku olukhuni.
5. Isikhwama samahhala
Abantu abasanda kushada bavame ukuzidela lapho belele ukuze bazizwe besondelene. Cishe eminyakeni emihlanu kamuva, imibhangqwana eminingi iqala ukuqonda ukuthi ubuhlobo babo obuzinzile ngeke busongelwe uma bevuma ukukhululeka nenkululeko xaxa ngesikhathi sokulala. Ngakho-ke, abalingani abanjalo bavame ukulala endaweni ekhumbule isikhundla se "Spoons", kodwa ngebanga elikhulu phakathi kwabo. Ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo kusekelwa ngokuthinta ingalo noma umlenze. Lesi sikhundla silinganisela isifiso sokusondelana kanye nesidingo senduduzo. Lokhu kuyisimo esingathí sina, kodwa esingenacala.
6. Inyawo ihlanganisa
Ezinye imibhangqwana zizwa zingakhululekile ukuxhumana ngqo, ngakho-ke ukuhlangana kwabo ngesikhathi sephupho kwenzeka njengokungathi ngengozi: unyawo lwakho "ngengozi" luthinta unyawo noma unyawo lomlingani, noma ubeka unyawo lwakho emlenzeni womlingani wakho. Imilenze eboshwe ihlanganisa ubudlelwane obunobungane nenduduzo ngesikhathi sokulala. Lesi sikhundla singase sibonise ukuthi omunye wabalingani ukhala ukubonisa imizwa yabo noma ngenhloso engafuni ukuwabonisa, isibonelo, ngemuva kokuxabana.
7. Isitayela se "Zen"
Ngemva komshado omude, ukuthambekela kokuthola isikhala somuntu ngesikhathi sokulala kukhula. Njengoba kusungulwa ubudlelwane obuseduze, ngamunye wabalingani uqinisa umqondo wobuntu kanye nokuzimela. Kule ndaba, imibhangqwana eminingi kule nkathi yokuphila ijwayele ukuthenga umbhede obanzi ukuze umlingani ngamunye abe nesikhala sakhe esanele. Kodwa-ke, umuzwa wokusondelana ukhona phakathi kwabalingani, ngenxa yamathanga abathintekayo.
8. Njengemikhumbi yolwandle
Uma isigamu sakho siphumelela ekugcineni kombhede bese ulala, wena, ukubheka emuva kwalesi siqingatha, ungazizwa unqatshelwe. Kodwa ingabe kunjalo ngempela? Ochwepheshe bagcizelela ukuthi awekho "okulungile" noma "okungalungile" izikhundla ngesikhathi sokulala. Nakuba lesi sikhundla ngezinye izikhathi singabonisa noma yiziphi izinkinga eziye zavela.
Zama ukuqonda ukuthi yini eyabangela lesi simo: intukuthelo, intukuthelo, ukukhathazeka? Uma wazi ukuthi umlingani wakho ubhekana nanoma yibuphi ubunzima okwamanje, ake abe nesinye isikhala sakhe siqu, okungenani ngesikhathi sokulala - nawe ungase uyidinge uma udabukile, ucindezelekile, noma uma ufuna nje ukuhlala isizungu. Cishe, ngemuva kwesikhathi eseduze ukulala kwakho embhedeni kuzoqala futhi, isikhundla sakho sokuxhumana ngesikhathi sokulala sizoshintsha.
9. Ugwayi
Uma wena noma umlingani wakho ulele endaweni ethile engavamile, cishe uwela embhedeni, njengokungathi uzama ukwandisa ibanga eliphakathi kwabo nomlingani, noma uvuke ekuseni ngakusesikhundleni se-jack, khona-ke lokhu kufanele kukuxwayise. Kungenzeka ukuthi isikhundla esinjalo sibangelwa isifiso esingenasici somlingani wakho ukuba asuke kuwe noma ukuphazamise ubuhlobo bakho.
Kodwa ungakhathazeki uma kungekho ezinye izimpawu eziphazamisayo ebuhlotsheni bakho obukhombisa ukuphuka okungenzeka. Ukushintshwa kwesikhundla njalo kukhona abantu abakhuthele futhi abanamandla, noma abantu abadala.