Amadoda okufanele agwenywe

Lapho ukhetha umlingani, uqondiswa yiphi? Ingabe unayo imithetho, noma uthembele kuleso cala, futhi ukhetha ukukhetha intuitively? Uma ungakafundi ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwabantu esixukwini, udinga izincomo ezimbalwa.

Thayipha 1 - Handsome


Uhambahamba emgwaqweni, futhi ubuhle obuhle bubhukuda. Ukugxila kukaDiCaprio, Cruz noDepp kumuntu oyedwa. Usuvele uhlola ukubuka kwamehlo akhe ngayinye ngo-$, kodwa ngemuva kokumamatheka kwe-Hollywood yakhe ukumomotheka. Uhle kakhulu kangangokuthi akekho umculi ongeke adlulisele lobu buhle emgqeni. Usuvele uncibilikile? Ungasheshi. Ngabantu abanjalo abanomusa kudingeka ugcine amehlo akho evulekile. Bavame ukuthatha indawo yakho ebuhlotsheni. Lokhu kuzodingeka umnakekele, ubeke ama-aphoyintimenti futhi wenze izipho. Kungcono ukuthi aye embukisweni wokubutha kunokukubona. Ngakho, njengoba ebheka ubuhle bakhe, akekho omunye wabangane bakho ozikhathalelayo.

Yonke isikhathi sabo sokuphumula Abanikazi bezandla bachitha ukuzokwanelisa izifiso zabo, zonke izinhlobo ze-salons, izindawo zokudlela ezidumile, amaqembu azintandokazi nemidlalo ehloniphekile. Futhi, yiqiniso, konke lokhu kuqhuma ipenny. Ubani? Kungenzeka ukuthi nguwe. Ngakho abantu abathandekayo abanaso isikhathi sokusebenza, futhi ukufunwa kwabo phakathi kwabesifazane kuhlale kukhulu. Ngakho-ke, awulindeli ukwethembeka kunkosana, ngokuvamile uhlala nabesifazane abaningana. Bayizi, njengomthetho, ama-egoists amakhulu, futhi asikho isidingo sokusekela esimweni esinzima. Yebo-ke, ukuhlasela omunye endaweni emnyama, umngane wakho uzoshaya wonke amarekhodi agijime ibanga elide.


Thayipha 2 - Jabulela


Uyakwethulwa emcimbini, futhi uhleka naye ngaso sonke isikhathi kusihlwa. Emlonyeni wakhe njalo sypyatsya amahlaya, amahlaya namazwi nje funny. Ujabulise kakhulu ukuthi awuqapheli ukuthi isikhathi sifike kanjani, futhi ekuseni uvakashelwe yimisipha yomshini ophansi. Ngalokhu okungenani i-opera enezikhala ezintathu ezihambayo, konke kuzokufana ncamashi. Uhlala njalo umphefumulo wenkampani, abangane bakhe nabasebenzi bamthanda. Kodwa, impilo yethu ayiyona injabulo, ngakho-ke yilahla kakhulu. Umuntu ojabule ngeke akwenze. Uzokugcwalisa ngezwi lezinkulumo ezithintekayo okuthi "kufanele uhambe ngokuhleka impilo," noma "uma uzomomotheka empilweni, uzomomotheka emuva." Ngifuna nje ukubuza: "Uke ulale - kunzima?" Iqiniso liwukuthi isimo sengqondo esinjalo, sifihla izinkinga ezithile ezicacile. Ngokuvamile lokhu kungukulimala ngokomzimba, mhlawumbe endaweni ethile esikhathini esidlule ukuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo, noma mhlawumbe nje kuyinkimbinkimbi ephansi. Wonke umuntu unayo eyakhe, kodwa ukhona. Futhi akunakwenzeka ukulwa nalokhu, ngoba hero yakho izohleka kakhulu. Abantu abanjalo bavame ukuhlala bodwa bodwa futhi bebuhlungu kakhulu. Kungachazwa yiqiniso lokuthi, ngokuzizwa njalo okuhle nokuhleka okungaphazamiseki, umzimba uchitha amandla amaningi. Futhi yingakho ngokuvamile kuphelile. Kulungile, ngenxa yokucasula nokukhathazeka. Ngakho-ke kufanele uqaphele. Umuntu onjalo ulungile isikhathi esithile, sokuba unomphela ... Khetha wena.


Thayipha 3 - Isifuba segolide


Ngosuku lokuqala uzofika egijimela kuwe ngezimbali zama roses ezithakazelisayo kakhulu. Okwesibili, nikeza i-trinket encane enhle, njengesihluthulelo noma esikhwameni, okwesithathu kuzokudonsa ngomhlobiso obizayo. Futhi konke lokhu kuqinisekiswa kakhulu ngezindawo zokudlela ezinhle kanye namatekisi amantombazane. Yebo, nje iphupho! Yebo. Kuze kube yilapho ungena emandleni akhe. Uma nje ezwa ukuthi ungowakhe, konke lokhu kuzophela. Njengoba usuzuzile lokho okufisayo, awusenaso isithakazelo kuye, njengokungathi wayengakaphoqeleli ukuba akwazi ukwenza lokho okushiwo. Amadoda anjalo aqoqa abesifazane ngale ndlela. Bahlale benenothi eligcwele amafoni wabesifazane othandweni, belungele ukugijima usuku nosuku, okungenani amahora ambalwa. Lo mhlaba uhambelana nalabo abasanda kuvela, kodwa amadoda asekhaya abhekene nalokhu. Kubonakala sengathi udala i-herem, futhi izancinza eziningi zikhona kuye, kunokuba uzizwa eqiniseka kakhulu futhi engumuntu.


Thayipha 4 - I-Shirt Guy


Ukhala izinyembezi emehlweni akho ngoba u-boss akazange akhulume ngokuhlakanipha ngokuqondisa kwakho, noma othandekayo wasusa ubuhlobo bakhe, futhi-ke, lo Mngane omangalisayo uvela ngaphandle ngokuphelele. Uyayilalela, isula ikhala layo ngebheki, iphula itiye eliphumuzayo, futhi ekuseni ivakashela wena. Kulungile kakhulu kunabo bonke abangane emhlabeni. Uma lo mngane ehlukunyezwa ngokobulili, kufanelekile ukuzindla ngesihloko: futhi kungani ngingabethelwe esiphambanweni? Ucabanga ukuthi lo muntu unezinga eliphakeme kakhulu lozwela? Yiqiniso kunjalo! Futhi kunalesi sizinga siphakeme kunokuba isifuba sakho siphezulu. Ungalindeli ukuba aqonde ngemuva kokuthi ujoyine naye ocansini. Nakuba kungenzeka futhi ulinde, kodwa kuphela uma ubulili obufanayo nawe, wayethanda ubuhlanya. Manje kuningi okuphikisanayo okuqhubekayo mayelana nombuzo: ingabe kukhona ubungane phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, kodwa lo mfana akaweleki esigabeni sabangani. Ngaphansi komngane othembekile noqondayo, uhlala esilwaneni esivame kakhulu, ofuna ngokushesha ukuba agcwaliswe nesisulu sakhe. Ibhizinisi lapha linhlangothi ezimbili. Uzoyithokozela futhi, kodwa ngeke uphonseke lapho ucingo olulandelayo ephendula: "Ungangibizi futhi."


Thayipha u-5 - I-Melancholy edabukisayo


Okuphambene ngokuphelele nohlobo oludlule lwamadoda ukuthi lokhu ngeke kukududuze. Lokhu udinga ukumduduza! Konke akulungile ngaye. Futhi emsebenzini awuhambisani, futhi ukuphikisana nabangani, abazali abaqondi noma abangekho nhlobo (okungeyona neze iqiniso). Futhi wena, njengoMariya oseMartin omuhle, zama ukusiza ompofu, okungenani ngiduduze, bese ezwa sengathi uyazibulala. Uzokwenza ukholwe ukuthi ungumuntu owedlula kakhulu! Unomusa kakhulu, ozwela kakhulu, othenda kakhulu. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, uzogcizelela ukuthi unina wayeyindoda enesihluku futhi enesihluku (lokhu kushukunyiswa kwengqondo lapho ufuna ngokuzenzakalelayo ukuthatha indawo kanina futhi ulungise isimo.) Ukuba umama omuhle kulo mfana. ubonakala sengathi uyaphila, kodwa i-vampirchik yakho ishukunyiswa amandla akho, noma ngabe yimaphi, imali, ukwesekwa, umsebenzi. Futhi ngokushesha nje lapho unquma ukushaya, uyashesha ngokushesha bese ebeka ikhanda esifubeni sakho, ethi, ngihawukele, mina ngakho kanzima. ngakho-ke uma kungenjalo ukuhlukumezeka okunjalo, qiniseka ukuthi lokhu akusiyo ukucindezeleka okwesikhashana, kodwa indlela yokuphila, uzokusebenzisa uze uthuthuke futhi akafuni ukuhlukahluka. Ngalesosikhathi uyakushaqeka uzobona umuntu ovuthiwe ngokuphelele, onamandla ogcwele ngokukhanya okucacile esikhathini esizayo ... Kodwa ... awusasendleleni, uzokubonga futhi aphenduke futhi avule umnyango.

Yile ndlela abahluke ngayo, la madoda. Futhi uma ufunda ukuwabona kusukela kude, ungagwema amaphutha amaningi. Noma mhlawumbe omunye wabo othanda ngempela. Ngiyethemba, ngenxa yalezi zincomo, ungayikhetha phakathi kwabanye abafake izicelo ngenhliziyo yakho.


Umbhali: Elena Sukacheva-Il'inykh
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