I-Illusion enkulu
Ungathandi abantu asebekhulile kusukela ekubukeni kwesifo sengqondo noma isazi sengqondo kuyisenzo sokuzivikela, inkolelo engafanele futhi engenamahloni: "Ngeke sisafana nalokhu, asisoze saguga futhi sife." Bese kulandela isiphetho: "Abadala kufanele basolwe, ukuthi basendulo." Yini evumela ukuthi sikholelwe ukuthi ukuguga ngeke kusithinte? Ngokumangalisayo, isayensi. Phakathi neminyaka eyikhulu eyedlule, cishe imibono eyikhulu yokuguga, ehambisane neziphakamiso, iye yasungulwa, kanjani "ukuyilungisa." Shintsha ngokuguqulwa kwezakhi zofuzo "ukuguga kwezakhi zofuzo" (lapho kukhona khona ama-geneticists amaningi angabaza). Khohlisa amangqamuzana ngokuwafaka imishini encane, eyenza ukuxhumana kwe-intercellular. Ekugcineni, vele uthathe, udonse phezulu, futhi lapho kudingekile - ukuphambanisa isikhumba, njengokungathi i-suit endala, engaphandle, okudinga ukuqoshwa kabusha. Konke lokho kuyamangalisa futhi kuyakusasa ukuthi ngeke sikwazi ukuphatha kahle lolo lwazi, lapho sikwazi ukuqinisekisa ukuthi izizukulwane zangaphambilini zisebekhulile ngenxa yokuthi ayinalo ithuba lokusebenzisa izimpumelelo ze-genetics yamangqamuzana nemithi yokwenza ubuhle. Siyikhohlwa ukuthi konke kuxhomeke ebuchosheni. Yikuphi ngempela umfutho osithunywe ovela ebuchosheni ukukhiqiza noma ukuyeka ukukhiqizwa kwamahomoni, ukuthi ubuchopho bungase buqale (noma vimise) uhlelo lokuguga ngaphambi kwesikhathi, futhi kubangele ukuguga, ukuphuma esikhathini sokuqala, isisindo esiningi, imibimbi. Futhi njengoba isayensi ingakaze ithole amathuluzi okuvuselela ubuchopho, sikhetha ukungacabangi ukuthi ngaphandle kwesimo sengqondo esihle njalo, ukulahla nokuzwa ukuhlukumezeka kokungahambisani nokungaboni kahle - kuhlanganise ne-gerontophobia, ngaphandle kokuqeqeshwa okuvamile kwemizwa emihle nokusebenza kwengqondo okukhulu, intsha ayikwazi . Umuntu usemusha, uma nje enamandla okuthile okwenzakala ngempela nokubeka imigomo emisha. Lokhu kulandelwa kwaziwa isikhathi eside, ngakho-ke akukhiqizi umphumela omangalisayo njengokukwazi ukuvuselela amangqamuzana akho ngaphandle kokucindezela, ngokuphuza okuthile "imilingo".
Ingabe kukhona amanga endabeni yezinganekwane?
Uma sibheka ezindabeni zomlando lapho kuvame ukufihla khona ukuhlakanipha, sithola ukuthi abantu asebekhulile bangabantu abanokuhlangenwe nakho okuhlangenwe nakho okuhlangenwe nakho kokuphila, ulwazi, ukusekelwa okungathandekayo, nokuthi isimo sengqondo esihloniphekile, sokuzola, nesihloniphekile ngaso sonke isikhathi sivuzwa (noma, ngokubheka, ukukhokha), nokuphazamisa - kujeziswa. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, abantu asebekhulile bavame ukuhamba. Inkinga yabamama banamuhla ukuthi ngisho nalapho bezinika izingane zabo isikhathi futhi beqiniseka ngokugcwele futhi benza ngobuqotho ukuthi benza konke ngenzalo, basebenzisa lesi sikhathi hhayi ekudaleni izibopho eziqinile ezingokomzwelo, kodwa ngesisusa senhlalo yomntwana. Ngamanye amazwi, ukunakwa nokubaluleka okwengeziwe kunikezwa ekufundiseni isiNgisi, ukudweba ukudweba noma ukuhlelwa kwezinto zobuciko kunomsebenzi wokusebenzisana, ukuzijabulisa okuhlangene, okuhlangenwe nakho okuhlangene nokucabanga. Umphumela wukuthi ungabonakali: kusukela ezinganeni ezithole ukugonywa okusheshayo kokuncintisana nokufisa imisebenzi, abantu abanelungelo lokuzimela, abahlosile ukunikeza ukunakekelwa kwabo nokufudumala kwabo kubantu abasondelene nabo, bakhula ukuze baphumelele, abantu abakwanele. Ikakhulukazi - umama, ohlangene nezimo ezibucayi, udinga ukuxhumana ngokujulile nangokomzwelo nezingane zakhe. Banikeza iseluleko, umsebenzi noma imfundo, kodwa bayakwenza intsha. Kulesi sithombe esicacile ngokuphelele, kukhona ukuphikisana, okungeyona indlela yokusungula isikhathi sethu.
Ngemuva kwalokho, uma kulandelwa inganekwane futhi imemezela ngokuqondile ukuthi kuyadingeka ukuhlonipha asebekhulile, lokhu kubonisa ukuthi ngisho nasezinsukwini zakudala, konke kwakungekho bushelelezi ebuhlotsheni phakathi kobaba nezingane. Okunye okuwukuthi izingane ezilalele lezi zindaba, ezitshelwe ngendlela, ugogo, ngokungazi kahle ukuthi kunesidingo sokuthi ulalele abadala. Yiqiniso, ngokusho okuphazamisayo kokuphila komuntu, siyaqaphela ngokugcwele isidingo sokuhlonipha kanye nokukhathalela asebekhulile kuphela uma thina ngokwethu siwela emgodini wokuvuthwa kwekwephuzile. Isithombe sabantu asebekhulile abakhuthele, uma ubheka ngokucophelela, kubonakala sengathi kunemibala enemibala yaseRussia: Baba Babarikh no-Old Agekazi kaPushkin, abangazange banelisekile emgodini omusha onesizotha, noKashchei ongenakufa, okufana nomuntu ongcwatshwe emhlabeni, indoda endala ... Ngokukhethekile ezweni lakithi, i-gerontophobia ngomqondo wokungathandi ngabantu asebekhulile ikhuthazwa yiqiniso lokuthi kubantu abaningi baseRussia, ukuguga kuyimpofu, futhi akufanele neze baphumule ekukhuleni kwezindiza ngisho naseVolga (uma kungenjalo eCaribbean Kim iziqhingi, njengoba kunjalo ne umhlalaphansi German kanye Japanese).
Iqiniso langempela
Kungani isimo sengqondo ngokuqondene nabantu asebekhulile ezingeni lomndeni kusanda kushintshela ukuthi sibi nakakhulu? Isizathu sokuthuthuka. Ngaphambili - futhi lokhu kwaphela amakhulu eminyaka - kwakungabantu asebekhulile ababephethe ubuningi bokuphila okuhlangenwe nakho okudingekayo ekusindeni kwezizukulwane ezintsha. Babona ngesikhathi sabo nempi, nangendlala, nazo zonke izinhlobo zokulwa kwabantu. Ngaphezu kokuphila kwezizukulwane ezimbili noma ezintathu zokugcina, isimo siyashintsha ngokushesha. Manje ukuze uphumelele empilweni kubalulekile ukuba uqondiswe ezindaweni ezinjalo ukuthi eminyakeni engamashumi amabili edlule ayengekho futhi isipiliyoni esiqongelekile asebekhulile sinciphisa phambi kwamehlo ethu. Noma, uma ubheka ngalezi zinsuku ezingapheli, ezingapheli isikhathi njengobuhlobo phakathi kwabantu, asebekhulile namanje bayazi okuningi. Khumbula, njengoMark Twain: "Ngesikhathi ngineminyaka eyishumi nane, ubaba wayengumuntu oyisiphukuphuku kangangokuthi ngangingakwazi ukuwuthwala; kodwa lapho ngineminyaka engamashumi amabili nanye, ngimangele ukuthi le ndoda yayineminyaka engakanani ubudala ehlakaniphile eminyakeni eyisikhombisa edlule. " Ukuhlukumeza ukuguga nokuhlukaniswa phakathi kwezizukulwane kungenxa yezici eziningi. Okungenani ezimbili zazo zihlobene nezinguquko esakhiweni sobudlelwano bomndeni nabangaphakathi. Okwokuqala ukwanda esikhathini sokuphila. Ukukubeka kalula, ikhulu leminyaka edlule ukungqubuzana kwezizukulwane kwakungenakukhula ngamandla, njengoba isizukulwane esidala saphela ngokushesha futhi, ngomqondo wezenhlalo, "kwakhulula indawo". Isimo sesibili: ukushintshwa kwemfundo yasekhaya yasekhaya ngokubambisana. Kuyaziwa ukuthi eminyakeni engaba yintsha ingane ingu-100% encike kumama ngokomzwelo nangokwengqondo. Ngisho nangemva kweminyaka emithathu, kuze kube sekufikeni, ukuxhumana ngokuqondile nomama, amaphethini okuziphatha okuqeqesha, amasu okusinda ngokulingisa kubaluleke kakhulu. Kodwa izizukulwane ezimbalwa zokugcina zabazali zibeka izingane zabo kubafundisi abahlanganyelwe - izikole zothando. Abamele isizukulwane sabaneminyaka engama-40-50 ubudala bavame ukuba izisulu zokukhuliswa okusemthethweni. Ngenxa yalokho, baqala ukuxhumana nabomama, bese behluleka ukufaka umqondo wobunye bomndeni kubantwana babo ngaleso sikhathi, uma kudingekile: kuze kufike eminyakeni emihlanu kuya kweyisikhombisa. Ukubizela izingane, nokunye okuzwakalayo emizwa yabazukulu, lapho inzalo iphenduka iminyaka eyishumi nanhlanu, futhi ngisho nangaphezulu-engamashumi amathathu nanhlanu, ayinalutho ngokuphelele. Ngakho-ke, ukuze unqobe i-gerontophobia esimweni saso uma kuziwa ekungabi nandaba kwabantu asebekhulile, kubalulekile ukuhlolisisa ubuhlobo nabantwana abancane bese ukhuluma nabo ngenhlonipho kanye nokunakekelwa okufanayo ongathanda, ukuthi eminyakeni eminingi ezayo bakuphatha.
Ukunakekelwa kwesikhumba ekugugeni kuyadingeka futhi kunakekelwa ukubukeka kwayo - futhi. Kodwa ukuthola umphumela ophephile futhi ongekho kuphela kuphela, kodwa futhi owusizo, udinga indlela ehluke kakhulu yokwelapha amaseli. Esikhundleni sokususa ngokucindezela ukuguga kwe-epidermis, izimonyo kufanele zenze konke ukuze zandise ukuphila kwazo. Khumbula, "isethi" ngayinye yamaseli yenzelwe iminyaka eyisikhombisa. Uma, ngosizo olukhethwe kahle, izithako ezinobungane ezikhumba, ukusiza isendlalelo ngasinye siphile esikhathini esibekiwe (ngaphandle kokulula isikhathi sokuphila kwamaseli), intsha ebusweni izohlala okungenani iminyaka eyishumi nengxenye, noma ngaphezulu. Ngenxa yalokhu injongo, izithako zemvelo zifanelekile, ngoba ziphela kuphela ezikwazi ukondla ngempela, futhi hhayi ukudala inkohliso yokudla.
Inkokhelo yokusebenzisa kabi
Ngokuziphatha kwengqondo futhi, uma uthanda, imiphumela ye-karmic ye-phobia ehlobene nobudala ("konke kubuya, nokuthi uphatha kanjani asebekhulile, ngakho-ke emashumini ambalwa eminyaka kuzokuphatha") ngokucacile noma okucacile. Kodwa izinkinga kulokhu aziyeki, ngoba ingxenye yesibili ye-gerontophobia - ukwesaba ukuguga kwabo, nakho, kungaphuma emaphandleni ukuze kube yintsha yaphakade. Ukuvuselelwa kokufakelwa kwezimpahla kumelela "imikhomo" emibili: ukuletha phezulu kwezingxenye ezincane ze-epidermis nokukhuthaza isidumbu somzimba we-hormonal. Yikuphi ngempela okuhambisana nokuzilibazisa kwamahomoni nokusetshenziswa okungalawulwa kwazo zonke izinhlobo ze-elixirs kanye ne-cocktails yobusha, odokotela abangeke bakhathele ukutshela, bekhumbula ngokungaqondile lokho kusukela ekubukeni kwezinto eziphilayo kuze kube phakade iseli elincane lingumakhalekhukhwini wesifo somdlavuza. Umphumela wokuqala utholakala ngenxa yokwehla okujulile: kusuka ebusweni buso ubhidliza (wena empeleni ukhumbule ukuthi ukuhlunga - kuhumusha ngokuthi "ukuvuthwa"?) Ubunqamu obunzima besikhumba, kusukela ngaphansi kwawo bubukeka buncane, empeleni, engakavuthwa futhi ingasivikelo ngaphambi kwendawo enonya. Inkinga yukuthi sinombalo olinganiselwe, ozuzwe njengefa, isikhumba, okungukuthi, amashumi amahlanu. Ngamunye wabo ngaphansi kwemibandela evamile yenzelwe iminyaka eyisikhombisa, ukuze isethi yethu - enomkhawulo omkhulu, amakhulu amathathu nengxenye, kungaki omunye umuntu owake waphila. Uma kanye njalo ezinyangeni eziyisithupha ukwenza i-peeling ejulile, ukukhipha laser, ukufaka isithombe se-photobleaching - bese uqala ngamashumi amathathu, bese ulandela amashumi amane nanhlanu ungasebenzisa zonke izinsiza zokuvuselela nokuvuselelwa kabusha. Kodwa emva kwakho konke, njengoba sibona ngokungazelelwe, ukuqhubekela phambili emgqeni wesikhathi, okukhangayo kanye nentsha ofuna ukuyibuka futhi kumashumi amahlanu nanhlanu, mhlawumbe ngisho nangaphezu kwengamashumi amathathu! Ngakho, ukubeka nokubeka isiphambano? Emuva ezikhathini ezingekho kude, lapho owesifazane oneminyaka engamashumi amahlanu kuphela engangena ugogo kuphela (ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu - owesifazane osemusha) futhi ngaleyo ndlela waziqonda yena? Akunjalo! Kungokuthi udinga ukuzinakekela kahle, ungahlosisi kakhulu emphumela "lapha nanamuhla nganoma iyiphi indlela" njengefilosofi yobuhle - okungukuthi, inhlalakahle yomzimba wonke iminyaka eminingi ezayo.