Ubani phakathi kwethu ongafuni ukuba nomuntu oseduze kakhulu naye, okwazi ukwabelana nazo zonke izinjabulo nezinsizi, okwenza impilo ibe yindabakwane. Ezigaba zokuqala zobudlelwane bomndeni, kuvame ukukwenzeka: indoda iyathwesa owesifazane ezandleni zakhe, ikhathazekile naye, iyayilalela. Kodwa iminyaka eminingana idlula, futhi ukuphila okuqhakazile kuthatha indawo yempilo yansuku zonke imfucuza, eqiniswa ukulutha komlingani komunye nomunye. Lapha usuvele ufunde ukuqagela izifiso zomlingani wakho, wazi ukuthi uzophendula emicabangweni nasezenzo zakho. Ngokumelene nalesi sizinda, kunezimpikiswano ezingakwazi ukudikibala ngokuphelele isifiso sokwenza izinto zothando, lo mbhangqwana uveza ukunganeliseki ngesigamu sabo sesibili.
Ungaba kanjani kuleso simo, kungenzeka ukuthi uvuselele imizwa yokuthandana yokufa, ukwethula isici esithile senzuzo embusweni noma isitimela sesishiyile futhi konke okungenziwa kwenziwa ngokuthula futhi kuhlukaniswe ngokuthula, bethembisa ukuthi bazohlala bangani?
Thatha isikhathi sakho: imvelo inemithetho yayo!
Izinto eziningi endaweni yonke zikhula ngokuya komthetho we-cyclic. Hlola nxazonke: ubusika buya esikhundleni senhlobo, izinkathi zenkinga zihamba phambili. Okufanayo kuya ebuhlotsheni, futhi, njengobungane, nabathandi. Kufanelekile ukubhekana nezinkinga futhi kuzothathwa indawo yemizwa evuselelwe.
Kubonakala ukuthi abukho ubudlelwane obemi namanje, bahlakulela noma balahlekile, kodwa akukho lutho kuleli zwe elisesimweni esiqhwa. Ngemva kokubhekana nalesi simo, kungaqondakala ukuthi ngokuthuthukiswa kothando kulo mbhangqwana kuvela ukuqonda, ukwesekwa, ukwethemba. Yiqiniso, ubuhlobo besikhathi eside bunezimo ezimbi: imibhangqwana esebenze iminyaka eminingi emishadweni yabo, isivele ingenaso isifiso socansi ecacile komunye nomunye, ingabonakali eyedwa.
Izazi zengqondo ziphawula ukuthi ayikho umehluko oyinhloko ukuthi abantu abasha bahlala ndawonye isikhathi esingakanani: inzalo engxenyeni yabo yesibili ilahlekile njengeviki lezinsuku zothando, futhi emva kweminyaka engama-30 yokuphila okuhlangene. Ngokuvamile ukwehla okuphawulekayo kwenzalo kuphawulwe omunye wabalingani, kodwa kwenzeka ukuthi bobabili abantu bapholisa ngesikhathi esisodwa. Ngenxa yalokho okwenzekayo futhi ingabe ngandlela-thile ungabuyisela uthando?
Ukuzivocavoca kubonisa ukuthi kuyisihlungu kunazo zonke ukuqaphela ukuthi kungenzeka ukuphela ngomzuzwana owodwa labo abakholelwa ngobuqotho ukuthi ubuhlobo obunye bungaphinde buqhubeke nokuphila konke. Amahhovisi okubhalisa ama-passports aphrintiwe akuqinisekisi ukuphila okude futhi kufanele kuqondwe ukuthi ngokubeka izindandatho eminwe yomunye nomunye, umile ekuqaleni kohambo olunzima. Kodwa kuyoba isikhathi esingakanani, isikhathi sizokhuluma.
Ngakho-ke, unomlingani ohlala njalo, kodwa ubuhlobo naye bubucayi kakhulu. Uma ufuna ukuphinda uqale lolo thando olwaluqala ekuqaleni ubuhlobo, kufanele ulalele izincomo ezilandelayo.
Izinketho zokunqoba inkinga yobuhlobo
Into yokuqala okudingeka uyenze ukuhlaziya ukuziphatha kwakho, zama ukuqonda ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngomuntu ophetheyo. Abanye besifazane, bazizwa bengakhululekile ebuhlotsheni, ngokushesha bashada ukugxeka umuntu. Gwema lokhu ukulutha, ngoba uyakwazi ukuhlukanisa ngisho nabantu abaseduze kakhulu. Khumbula ukuthi "owesifazane-saw" injabulo eschechenkomu ayizange ilethe futhi indoda ngokushesha noma kamuva bayafuna izimo zokuphila ezikhululekile. Cabanga, ingabe oshade naye ubi kangangokuthi akanakho ukudumisa? Ufunda izifundo nendodakazi yakhe, ujabulele ukudlala ukuthunjwa? Yebo, ungumndeni omuhle kakhulu! Njalo kusihlwa inja iyahamba, ilungele ukusebenzisa wonke amashalofu endlini futhi ingakwazi ukuhlanza amapayipi angenalutho? Futhi emva kwalokhu ucabanga ukuthi akukho lutho lokudumisa nokuhlonipha?
Uma uziqonda ngokwakho, ungangabazi ukuletha inkinga kwingxoxo. Tshela lo muntu ukuthi ukhathazekile ukuthi uthando luphume ebuhlotsheni bakho, futhi ungathanda uthando oluthe xaxa futhi, mhlawumbe, okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu. Buza othandekayo wakho ukuthi akwazi ukuphuma kulokhu, futhi uzoqonda ukuthi ukuxazulula izinkinga ndawonye kulula.
Ukuze uvuselele isithakazelo somuntu emzimbeni wakho, zibandakanye wena. Ngenxa yalokhu, akudingekile ukuba uchithe isigamu ngosuku ngosuku lokuzivocavoca, okwanele ukuba ubhalise echibini, uye ku-Pilates, zama ukuthi lo mdwebo-eplastiki. Ngelinye igama, phuthukisa, futhi umyeni uzobona izinguquko ezingcono kakhulu.
Nika inkululeko enkulu! Isibonelo, ngolunye ubusuku ungaphumula futhi uphinde ugcwalise amabutho ngokwehlukana komunye nomunye. Owesifazane ngalesi sikhathi angaya nabangani bakhe emgodini, emgodini wokugeza, vakashela i-SPA salon. Indoda futhi, ngokuqinisekile, izothola kalula, kunokuba ikwazi ukuhlala: ukuhamba ngezinyawo nabangani enkundleni, inkhulumomphendvulwano ngemuva komugomo webhiya, i-sauna - akukho inkathazo lapho oshade naye ehamba khona ngaphandle kwakho.
Uma unethuba, kunconywa ukuba unikeze usuku lwakho othandekayo wakho usuku olulodwa. Ngalesi sikhathi, ungenza ukuzithuthukisa, qhubeka nezifundo, lapho uzofundiswa ukwenza ubucwebe ngezandla zakho, ukwenza amakhadi ezenziwe ngesandla. Ngamafuphi, ujabule futhi ufunde ukuziqonda ngokwakho. Kuphela kulesi simo ungalindela ukuthi indoda yakho izoqonda nokuthi uyigugu kangakanani kuye.
Ngisho noma usuwedlule iminyaka eminingi ushadile, akekho oye wakhansela imihlangano yothando - ungathola isikhathi sokuba ngumuntu omatasa kakhulu. Mema othandekayo wakho endaweni ethakazelisayo, futhi ngesikhathi esilandelayo makenze isinqumo sokusebenzisa isikhathi ngaphandle kwendlu yakhe.
Indima ebalulekile ekubonisaneni phakathi kokubambisana idlala impilo ehambisanayo yobulili. Futhi noma ngabe konke kuhambisane nawe, ungakhohlwa ukuthi ungenza intsha ngokuzihlola ngezikhathi ezithile, ukugqoka izingubo zangaphansi ezithakazelisayo, ngegama, zama ukugcina intshisekelo yendoda isikhathi eside ngangokunokwenzeka.
Ukusungula ubudlelwane kuzosiza futhi kukhulume ngezihloko ezithakazelisayo kubo bonke, kanye nokuhlela ikusasa elihlangene.
Zama ukubamba umlingani wakho ngangokunokwenzeka, mtshele ukuthi uyamthanda kangakanani nokuthi uyamthanda kanjani. Uma ungenayo isikhathi esanele samahhala, ongasichitha ndawonye, cabanga, mhlawumbe uzobukeza kabusha uhlelo lwakho lomsebenzi. Uma ungeke ukwazi ukusebenzisa lolu hlelo, zama okungenani ukudla kwasekuseni nokudla ndawonye ndawonye.
Ingxoxo ehlukile ukubuyiselwa ubuhlobo bomntwana nengane. Owesifazane ngalesi sikhathi unikeza iningi ingane ngalolo suku, ngokuvamile akanayo isikhathi esanele sokuthatha ukunakekelwa kokuqala kwakhe. Vala uzokusiza ukunakekelwa komntwana okuhlangene. Unganikezi isikhathi sonke ingane, khumbula, umyeni udinga ukunakekelwa kwakho.
Uma ubuyisela ubuhlobo nabathandekayo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi imigqa yangaphambili ayisona isitha, efuna ukuthi konke okubi kakhulu, akusivila, uphupha ukulala ngokushesha, kodwa umuntu ozinikele kuye ingxenye ethile yokuphila kwakho. Ukuxhumana nomuntu wakho, ungakhohlwa uhlobo luni lobuhlobo olubuzwa ngumkakho, ngokuvamile ucabange ukuthi yiziphi izindlela ongafeza umgomo wakho. Ingabe ulungele ukufunga ngakho konke okuncane, ukufaka ingozi yokulahlekelwa othandekayo wakho nokubhubhisa umndeni?