Izimbangela.
Wonke umuntu omdala empilweni yakhe uhlangabezana nohlobo lokuzizwa. Kulesi simo, ikakhulukazi ngaphandle, ungakwazi kalula ukulahleka futhi ulahlekelwe ukuzilawula. Ngesinye isikhathi ngisho namama omnandi asekupheleni kokufa ngaphambi kokukhathazeka kwengane yabo. Ezimweni ezinjalo, indlela engcono kakhulu yokucabanga ngezimbangela zokuphazamiseka kwengqondo kwezingane. Isibonelo, ingane ngezinye izikhathi ayinakho okwanele ukunakwa kwakho, futhi uyalwela ukunqoba ngale ndlela.
Izingane ziqala ukungenangqondo ngesikhathi sonyaka ongu-1. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ngalesi sikhathi umntwana uhlala kuphela ngezidingo zakhe nezifiso zakhe. Kodwa umkhuba onjalo ungagcinwa esimweni somntwana futhi udluliselwe ekubeni umuntu omdala.
Indlela yokuziphatha nokubhekana nezinkinga zomntwana?
- Uma ama-hysteric evuselela, into ebaluleke kakhulu akuyona inkathazo. Phela, kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi ingane iqala ukukhula, njengoba ingabonisa imicabango kanye nesifiso.
- Ngezinye izikhathi ingane izama ukukusebenzisa futhi ithole konke ayifunayo. Ukukhubaza ukuphathwa ngokulula kulula, nje ubukele ingane yakho. Qaphela ukuthi uyakhala kanjani nokuthi yini eyamsiza ukuba aqine. Uma uqonda ukuthi ingane izama ukukuxhaphaza, masikucacisele ukuthi awuvumelani nezenzo zakhe.
- Ungathatha umntwana ezandleni zakho, ubambelele ngokuqinile futhi ulinde umntwana ukuba ahlale phansi, abonise isihawu sakhe, mhlawumbe ngombhalo owodwa, ophindaphindiwe ophindaphindiwe.
- Zama futhi ukukhuluma kaningi nengane mayelana nemizwa yakhe nezifiso, izithakazelo nemithwalo yemfanelo.
Iseluleko somqondo wezengqondo sigxila kulokhu okulandelayo: ukuze silwe nabahlaziyi bezingane zethu, okokuqala kudingeka siqonde isimo sabo. Isizathu esiyinhloko sokucasuka kwengane ukukhathala, impilo embi, ukulangazelela okuthile, ukufisa isifiso, ukwesaba, isifiso sokuthonya abantu abadala.
Imfuneko yokudabuka kwengane ezimweni eziningi ingabonwa ngokushesha. Isibonelo, uma ingane ilambile, ungathathi nawe esitolo. Ngemuva kwalokho, lapho, cishe, ufuna into enhle.
Izazi zengqondo zihlukanisa izinhlobo ezimbili zama-hysteric:
1) Ama-hysteric of uhlamvu. Kulesi simo, ingane izama ukukhombisa zonke izici zayo ezimbi. Inhloso yalesi simo sokuqeda ukuhlukumezeka ngokomzwelo okwakhiwe. Isidingo sokulala, ukudla, ukuphumula ngokomzimba noma nje isimo esinjabulo singase sibangele ukuthi lezi zintukuthelo.
2) Abahlaziyi abanobuciko. Inhloso yalo ukuzama ukulawula abanye abantu. U-hysteria onjalo uqala ngane uma ethola ukwenqaba: ufuna ukudlala ithoyizi enye ingane eseyidlala kakade; Ufuna ukudansa egumbini egumbini lokuphumula futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo aphuze ijusi le-orange; Ufuna ukudweba izindonga ngamapenethi azizwayo. Kulokhu, isikhala sokuphefumula singasiza. Okubalulekile ukukhipha ingane endaweni ephephile, lapho angahlala khona nabantu.
Ake sibheke ezinye izibonelo ezivela ekuphileni.
Ake sicabange ngesimo esithile. Isibonelo, ingane yakho, ekuthuthweni komphakathi, ingane yakho ifuna ukudla i-ayisikhilimu. Awuzange umvumele ukuthi akwenze lokhu futhi ingane yakho itholakale.
Izazi zengqondo zeluleka ezimweni ezinjalo:
- Unganaki ukubukeka okubuhlungu kwabantu abavela kwamanye amazwe nokwesaba. Phela, ngamunye ubhekene nezimo ezifanayo futhi angakuqonda.
- Ukubonakalisa ngaphambi kokuba ingane isuse i-agent ye-causative ye-hysteria. Ngokwesibonelo, phonsa i-ayisikhilimu ngaphandle kwefasitela noma ufihle esikhwameni. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ingane kufanele ilandiswe ukuthi uma ingapheli ukuba ingenangqondo, ngeke iphinde ithole i-ayisikhilimu.
- Ungaphinda ubeke i-ayisikhilimu esikhwameni bese uthula ngendlebe yakho ukuze utshele ingane ukuthi awukwazi ukulinda uze ufike ekhaya udle ndawonye i-ayisikhilimu enhle futhi enhle.
- Uma izindlela ezingenhla zingasiza, izazi ze-psychologists zeluleka ukuba zinganaki izingane ze-whims futhi zenze isimiso "sokukhala nokuthula." Oomama abaningi ekuhlangenwe nakho kwabo baqiniseka ngokusebenza kwalendlela.
Esinye isibonelo - ingane iphikelela ekuphuzeni ijusi le-orange egumbini lokuphumula. Njengoba ungafuni ukuthi athole i-carpet entsha engcolile, mnike ithuba lokuzikhethela:
- Hlanganisa ijusi
- Phuza ijusi ekhishini
- Phuza amanzi egumbini lokuphumula
Izazi zengqondo zihlukanisa imithetho eminingana yokulwa nokuphazamiseka kwengqondo kwezingane.
- Okokuqala, ungathathi ama-hysteric wengane. Udinga ukumtshela ukuthi awuthandi ukuziphatha kwakhe, futhi awuvumeli izenzo zakhe.
- Okwesibili, ungabandakanyi amathuba okuhlukanisa ingane. Kumele kuthathwe endaweni ethile ethule lapho angathula khona.
- Okwesithathu, zama ukufundisa ingane ukuba iveze imizwa yabo, kuhlanganise nezindlela ezimbi, ezamukelekayo.
- Okwesine, yiba njalo ezintweni zakho.
Ungakhohlwa ukuthi ingane ingumuntu ofanayo nathi, ngezifiso zethu nezimiso zethu. Futhi, naye unelungelo lokuthukuthela nokucasula ezimweni ezithile. Kodwa uma behlushwa imizwelo emibi, zama ukubonisa inhlonipho nokubekezela umntwana.