Umona uchitha ubuhlobo emndenini. Kuyini umhawu? Lo mzwa uyisitatimende sokuthakazelisa noma ngokuphambene nalokho, isibonakaliso esiyinhloko sokungathembeki komlingani? Umhawu uhluke ngokuphelele futhi uhlala uthinta abantu ngezindlela ezahlukene. Udinga ukufunda ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani nalesi sizwa ngendlela efanele futhi ngokunembile.
Uhawukele insizwa yakho
Ekugcineni uSveta waba owesifazane oshadile. Ngemuva komshado, wathuthela eyohlala nomyeni wakhe omusha futhi waqala ukuhlomisa indlu ngesidleke semindeni, ikhaya, ngoba indlu yokuhlala yayinakho ukufudumala nokududuza. Lapho ehlanza indlu, u-Sveta wathola iphakheji elikhulu lezithombe, okwakubonakala ukuthi wayebukele. Ngemva kwalokho, waya ekamelweni elithile wazitshela i-cognac, ayiphuza nge-volley. Futhi konke ngoba esanda kushada kuzo zonke izithombe zanyatheliswa enye intombazane, e-cafe, ogwini, epaki ... USveta wayazi ngaleso sikhathi ukuthi le ntombazane evela esithombeni, indodakazi yakhe yangaphambili, kodwa ngokungaqondakali, akazange athole okungcono kusuka kulokhu. U-Sveta usuvele enqume ukuthi lapho umyeni wakhe efika ekhaya evela emsebenzini, khona-ke esikhundleni sokudla uzomphonsa inhlamba. Amazwi ukuthi ubuwula kakhulu ukuba nomhawu ngomuntu ngokudlulela kwakhe akuzange asebenze ekuKhanyeni.
Kungani lokhu kwenzeka?
Ngokuqinisekile izimo ezinjalo zenzeka kumunye wethu. Phela, sonke siqonda ngokucacile ukuthi amantombazane adlulile amantombazane, lokhu kuyadlula, akufanele kukhunjulwe. Kodwa awukwazi kanjani ukuhawukela umfana lapho ukucabanga kwethu kuveza ngokucacile izimo ezenzeka manje kuwe - ukuthi wamemeza ngamazwi amnandi, wammbamba, ebizwa ngamazwi amnene?
Ngaleso sikhathi, intombazane ngayinye iqala ukuziqhathanisa nesoka lakhe lesoka. Ngeke ulethe lutho kodwa ubuhlungu. Uma umela ubudlelwane bokuqala bomlingani wakho, wena ngezandla zakho ubhekisela ngqo enhliziyweni yakho. Umhawu uchitha ubuhlobo, kusiza ukunciphisa ukuzethemba, futhi ngaleyo ndlela kuyamcasula insizwa yakho. Uqala ukumba ekudleni kwakhe, lapho ungajabulela izinsuku zamanje uphile ngokujabula.
Yini okufanele uyenze ezimweni ezinjalo?
Khumbula ukuthi kuyohlale ikhona umuntu oyobe ngcono kangcono kunakho. Lona ngumthetho wokuphila, kodwa akusiyo inhlekelele futhi uyithathe njengokunikezwa. Kodwa ungafaki ngalokhu, futhi ngisho nangaphezulu, lesi simo akumele sibe nomthelela wokuzihlonipha kwakho, ngoba sonke sinakho isiphetho sethu, impilo.
Wena ngokwakho, udinga ukukhumbula: insizwa yakho ethandekayo ihamba nawe ngokuthanda kwayo, ngenxa yezizathu zayo. Ngemuva kwalokho, uma ekhona nawe, kusho ukuthi unelisekile ngokuphelele ngakho konke okukuwe futhi uthanda ukuhlala nawe, hhayi ngomuntu ovela kwamanye amantombazane kusukela esikhathini esidlule. Ubuhlobo besikhathi esidlule buye baba usizo njengelinye isoka lakho, manje njengoba kunjalo, amanoveli adlule amvumele ukuba abe nolwazi oluningi, oluhlakaniphile.
Umhawu. Ingabe uthando noma ukugula?
Omakhelwane bami bangumshado omusha osemusha, u-Olga no-Igor. Bashade iminyaka engama-4, futhi sonke isikhathi, u-Olga ucabanga ukuhlukanisa umyeni wakhe. Isizathu salokhu ngumhawu ka-Igor. Umyeni wakhe ulawula zonke izinyathelo zakhe, nganoma yiluphi ithuba, ugoqa ama-scandals. Ukuyeka isikhathi emsebenzini - ukukhwabanisa, ukuthengwa kwesigqoko esisha futhi okungaba yisenzakalo sehlazo. U-Olga kumele azinakekele, zonke izizathu zakhe ziyize, futhi amagama adala kuphela amahlazo amasha futhi abangela ukuba umyeni wakhe athukuthele.
Kungani lokhu kwenzeka?
Kulesi simo, umhawu usuke ukhululekile. Umyeni ka-Olga uhlale eshukunyiswa umqondo wokuthi uyashintsha futhi umkakhe akathembeki kuye. Inkinga enkulu ukuthi umuntu onomhawu ungu-100% oqinisekisayo wokuhlukumezeka futhi akadingi izizathu futhi kunzima ukukholisa umuntu onjalo. Ochwepheshe bathi lesi simo somuntu "i-delirium of delirium." Phela, umuntu onjalo kunzima kakhulu ukuphuma kulo mbuso futhi ngumhawu ochitha ubuhlobo.
Yini okufanele uyenze kulesi simo?
Uma konke sekufikile manje ukuthi ulahlekelwe yibo bonke abangane futhi uya enhle salon nomyeni wakho, khona-ke kufanele ucabange ngokujulile ukuthi udinga ubuhlobo obunjalo. Kuyinto yokuphila kwakho futhi kuyadingeka ukuba uphile ngokukhululekile, ujabulele nsuku zonke, futhi ungaziphendulela ngazo zonke izinyathelo ozithatha ngaphambi kwanoma yimuphi umuntu. Uma ucabanga ukuthi uziphatha nomlingani wakho ngesithunzi futhi uzame ngawo wonke amandla akho ukuze umqinisekise ngobuqotho bakho, khona-ke akukho okukuvimbela unembeza ohlanzekile ukuze uhlanganyele nayo. Kuyoba okungalungile, uma ngenxa yomuntu othandekayo uyozibhubhisa impilo yakho.
Uma uthola kunzima ukuqonda imizwa yakho, kufanele uxhumane nesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Futhi khumbula ukuthi umona ubhubhisa ubuhlobo emndenini. Thembela othandekayo wakho bese uzophila ngokujabula njalo.