Kodwa umbuzo uvela: yini osadingeka ukuyikholelwa, futhi ingabe amanoveli anamadoda asekhulile amancane kakhulu? Ake sizame ukuqonda ndawonye.
Into yokuqala yokukhuluma ngale ndaba: ubulili besilisa abuxhomeki ekukhuleni kwabo. Ukuxhumana nabantu abahle, abanobuhlakani nabalungile, uzolalela ukukhula kwabo kuphela imizuzu yokuqala yokuqala. Khumbula ukuthi bangaki abantwana abafunda esikoleni baqala ukuhlambalaza ngoGubin ngasekupheleni kweminyaka engamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye. I-Toulouse-Lautrec, okuphakama kwayo yayingamamitha angu-150, yayinakekelwa kakhulu yizinsikazi ngesikhathi esisodwa. Wonke amaSoviet Union adumisa u-Yuri Gagarin, iqhawe lesizwe elinomusa omnandi, omusa, futhi bambalwa besazi ukuthi ukuphakama kwakhe akudluli okungaba ngu-157 cm. ukukhula akuzange kuphazamise umsebenzi ophumelelayo wabantu abadumile njengoMartin Scorsese, uTom Cruise noThomas Andersen. Futhi ngisho nanamuhla, kunezimo ezivame ukuba khona lapho umfana engaphansi kwentombazane.
Akuzona amadoda amade kakhulu avame ukushiswa okukhulu futhi engavamile, evelele ekubukeni kwesixuku. Bazokwazi ukuzithoba ngokufanele, ekukhulumisaneni bahlale beziphatha ngokwemvelo. Bayihle ngempela, njengabathandi.
Ubudlelwano namadoda aphansi banenzuzo eningi, ngakho-ke amantombazane akudingeki abe nesaba uma abafana bengaphansi kwabo:
Okokuqala, umfana ophansi (futhi ngaleyo ndlela engaphansi), kancane kudingeka adle ukudla. Ukondla fan fan mini kuyinto elula umsebenzi. Ukuhlala naye endlini efanayo, wena ngokwakho ngeke ufune ukudla kuze kube yinqwaba, ngakho ngeke ukwazi ukuthola isisindo esiningi ngokweqile.
Okwesibili, awudingi ukuma ku-tiptoe ukukhala noma ukubamba ekhanda.
Uma ungapheli kakhulu, khona-ke kuyoba lula kakhulu ukuba uhlale nomfana ongeyena omude. Ngeke ahlanze izinto ezisekelweni lokugcina lekhamera, lapho ungafinyelele khona, futhi ngeke ufake isibuko endlini yokugezela ngaphansi kwelayili ngokwalo, ukuze udinga ukugeza ngokuthinta kuphela. Ubudlelwano, kanye namadoda angaphansi kwamantombazane anenzuzo ethile.
Futhi-ke, emadodeni aphansi kukhona ukufaneleka okungenakuphikisana kwabesilisa abakhulu kule nkinga yokuzala. Izingane zalabobaba, njengombuso, azizalwanga kakhulu, okuyiwona owenza inqubo yokubeletha futhi, ngokuqondile, ukukhulelwa.
Ukuntuleka kwamadoda anjalo, mhlawumbe owodwa nje kuphela: ngeke bakwazi ukukuthwala ngezandla zabo. Kodwa ingabe kunjalo ngempela, ucabangela zonke izinzuzo zayo?
Ngezinye izikhathi ubuhle obuhle abufani nezehluko omkhulu ekukhuleni nomlingani. Kodwa ungacabangi ukuthi imibhangqwana enjalo isivele ilahlwe ukuhlukaniswa okungenakugwemeka. Futhi, akudingekile ukuthi owesifazane uzobusa ngaleyo mbhangqwana ngesimiso sezwi elidumile elithi "Mulia, ungangikhathazeki". Akuzona amadoda amade kakhulu athatha isinyathelo kuqala ebuhlotsheni, kusuka kubo bavela amadoda avelele - izinhloko zomndeni.
Ngisiphi iseluleko engingayinika owesifazane omude ohlangana nomfana ophansi? Kungcono ungagqoki izithende eziphakeme kakhulu, ukuze ungagcizelele umehluko ocacile, futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, ungakhathazeki ngakho. Khumbula ukuthi akukho lutho olungalungile kumfana ongaphansi kwentombazane.
Ukufingqa, kufanele ngithi awukwazi wonke umugqa, usayizi owodwa uhambisana nakho konke. Amantombazane ahlukene afana nabafana abahlukile futhi ngokuphambene nalokho. Lesi sihloko sasingabhalwa phansi ukuze sithukuthele nganoma yiluphi uhlobo lwabantu. Mhlawumbe, lesi sihloko sizosiza abanye ukuba baqonde imizwa yabo futhi bahlole kahle isimo.