I-Child-bully: iseluleko sabahlengikazi ekuxazululeni inkinga

Uma kwenzeka ukuthi uthisha wabiza ekhaya futhi wakhononda ngomntanakho, abazali kufanele baziphathe kanjani? Ukucasula uthisha nokusola ukuthi uzama ukuphindisela ingane ngokuziphatha kabi? Noma ngokushesha uthathe i-pose ye-defender's child? Ingabe abazali kudingeka balalele uthisha futhi baphethe ngokushesha ukuthi iqiniso lingase libe yedwa? Kungenzeka ukuthi udinga ngempela ukulalela. Ngakho-ke, uma uthisha ebiza ukuba azise ngezinkomba ezilandelayo zengane esikoleni, ungasheshi uphazamise ingxoxo ngokucima ifoni.


Njengoba izazi ze-psychologists zincoma abazali bomntwana ongenacala, kufanelekile ukunaka izibonakaliso ezithile zokuhlukunyezwa ekuziphatheni kwengane yakho, isibonelo: ukungaqhubeki kokuthukuthela kwentukuthelo nentukuthelo, inkinga yokuqondisa izigwegwe, ukubekezela kanye nokungaqapheli umqondo womunye umuntu, ukunyanyisa nokukhwabanisa, ukuqina, ukuhlukunyezwa kwezilwane kanye nokungabi namandla izidalwa, ukulangazelela ukucekelwa phansi - konke lokhu akulona uhlu oluphelele lwendlela yokuziphatha enobudlova engaboniswa ngayo.

Uma kwenzeka ukuthi ingane isongela uthisha, kufanele ukhokhele kakhulu ukuziphatha kwengane yakho, okungaholela ngisho naseqinisweni lokuthi uzoxoshwa esikoleni. Ngokwesibonelo, eMelika, othisha abayizigidi ezingu-1.3 baba yisisulu sokuziphatha kwabafundi be-hooligan. Lena inkinga enkulu kakhulu futhi eyingozi edinga isinqumo ezingeni likahulumeni. I-VKanade, ngokwemininingwane engavunyelwe, abasebenzi abangaphezu kwama-40% wezwe lonke baba izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa kwabafundi. Akuyona indlela engcono kunazo zonke izinto ezikhona kwamanye amazwe, isibonelo, eFinland ukuxhashazwa nokusatshiswa kwabafundi kanye nama-hooligans, kanye nabazali babo, sekuvele kunomunye uthisha wesine nomqondisi wesikole. Izibalo e-UK zabonisa umphumela we-61%, okungukuthi, amaphesenti anjalo othisha kwakudingeka alalele ukuthukwa nokusongela, 34% babhekene nokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba. Yebo, uzovuma ukuthi abazali abakwazi ukuxoshwa lapho bezwa ukuthi ingane yabo ibonisa ukuhlukumezeka, noma noma ngabe banezinkampani zayo.

Ukuxhashazwa kwabantwana: indlela yokuxazulula le nkinga

Zama ukuqapha izifiso zomntwana mayelana nokubukwa kwezinhlelo zethelevishini namasayithi lapho kubonakala khona izinto ezinonya, lokhu kusebenza nasemidlalweni yekhompyutha.

Kukhona ubufakazi obuqondile bokuthi uhlangana njalo nobudlova, okubheka ividiyo noma imidlalo yekhompyutha, umuntu ulahlekelwa ukuzwela ekuhluphekeni kwabanye. Uma ingane idlala isikhathi eside kumahlumela ahlukahlukene, kungase kube khona ukuphambuka okufana nalokhu:

  1. Ukwandisa okwenyuka ku-sadism
  2. Ukungqubuzana okwedlulele, ukuvukela ukuphikisana nabalingani nabo ekilasini nabantu abadala
  3. Ukuvela kwesifiso ekuvivinyweni kwangempela kwamandla abo kwabuthakathaka
  4. Ukulimala kokusebenza kwezemfundo
  5. Ukubonakaliswa kobukhulu bokuhlukunyezwa, okuyinto eyamukelwa emidlalweni yekhompiyutha, lapho amaqiniso enkohlakalo ephindaphindiwe khona. Ingane iqala ukujwayele zonke izigcawu ezibuhlungu, ngoba ngaphandle kokuphindaphindiwe, lezi zenzo zobudlova zifakwe kahle ezinhlelweni zakhe zokucabanga.

Imfanelo yemidlalo enjalo inikeza isikhuthazo sokugqugquzela ukuhlukunyezwa, njengoba umntwana wesifazane eba yingxenye yazo zonke izenzakalo zezwe elibonakalayo. Akukwazi ukusho ngezinhlelo zethelevishini namafilimu e-video, lapho ebonakala khona njengombonisi ongenayo futhi engenawo ithuba lokuthinta inkambo yezenzakalo. Futhi ukuthi umsebenzi womdlali uhlanganisa ukunqoba okuphoqelekile, endleleni umuntu okudingeka ayenze ngayo inhlupho eningi kwisinyathelo esilandelayo (ezingeni), futhi kuyenza ibe yingozi, ilungele ukunikeza konke ngenxa yokunqoba.

Ukuthuthukisa izindlela zokukhulisa

Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi izihlukumezi ngokwazo ziyingxenye yezisulu zokuhlukunyezwa nobudlova, ngakho-ke ukuhlukunyezwa kwabo kuyindlela kuphela yokuzibiza. Futhi ezimweni eziningi umthombo oyinhloko wobudlova ngumndeni. Mhlawumbe wena noma othile ovela emndenini wakho unzima kakhulu ngomntwana? Noma, mhlawumbe, ubonisa njalo ukunganaki kwakho futhi ugxeke izenzo zakhe nezenzo zakhe? Uyamjezisa ngokwenyama? Noma mhlawumbe ingane ayiyona isisulu, kodwa ufakazi kubudlova? Ngaki kaningi unayo ama-scandals noma ukuhleka okukhulu endlini yakho? Ingabe kukhona ukuxhashazwa ekhaya lakho ngokumelene nomuntu? Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi sesivele sisetshenziselwa isimo esingavamile sezinto futhi siyayeka ukuwabona. Futhi kungenzeka ukuthi ukulungiswa kokuziphatha kufanele kuqale ngokulungisa indlela yokukhulisa ingane.

Ukulawula okuphephile

Ukulawula okungakanani okusetshenziselwa ingane yakho? Uyazi ukuthi wenzani ngesikhathi sesikhathi samahhala? Noma mhlawumbe yena yedwa nekhompyutha isikhathi eside? Ngokuvamile, uma izingane zingalindelwe abazali bazo, ziba nezimo ezingathandeki ezimweni ezingathandeki kusukela ngo-3 kuya ku-6 ntambama kusihlwa, beza kulezi zikhathi esikoleni futhi behlala endlini ngaphandle kwabazali. Zama ukunciphisa amahora wamahhala wengane, ukulayisha izinto ezungeze indlu noma ukuyihlobisa ngombuthano. Zama ukuzinikela isikhathi esiningi kuso.

Kubalulekile ukusebenzisana nalesi sikole, kodwa hhayi ukulwa ne-sney

Zama ukuvakashela isikole bese uhlangana nabothisha kanye nenhloko yesikole. Qonda ukuthi ukuhlukumezeka ekuziphatheni kwengane yakho kungaba umkhuba, futhi ngisho nalapho okwesabekayo kwemiphumela kuyingozi kakhulu. Konke lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu, ngoba, ngokubambisana nesikole, ngeke ushiye izinyathelo zokufuna izinto eziyingozi kumntwana.

Bazali, silwela ukulungiselela ingane yakho ukuhlolwa okuyinkimbinkimbi, okugcwele kwempilo yomuntu omdala, kumthwalo wemfanelo oyobe ungajwayelekile ekuphileni. Uma umvikela njalo, njalo usebenze njengomvikeli, ngaphandle kokwazi ukuthi ulungile noma ungalungile, uzakuqonda ukuvuma kwakhe, futhi lokhu kungaholela ezinkambisweni ezingenakwenzeka esikhathini esizayo. Cabanga ngalokhu.