Ukunganeliseki kwengqondo noma ngokocansi emshadweni kungaholela ekungathembeki. Lokhu kungenzeka emindenini yonke, futhi lokhu kuxhomeke esimweni sendoda nowesifazane, ubuhlobo babo nezinye izici eziningi. Noma kunjalo, zonke izazi ze-psychologists ziyavuma ukuthi ukungathembeki kwabesifazane kuyisibonelo esikhethekile. Ngakho-ke, yini ukukhashelwa kowesifazane - iphutha noma ukukhwabanisa, futhi kuzoxoxwa ngezansi.
Amanye amadoda azivumelanisa ngokuthula ngokungathembeki komkakho, kanti abanye bayiphatha kabi kakhulu. Ngokuvamile, amadoda angaboni ngokucophelela ukuthi abathandekayo babo bashintsha kanjani. Ngokuvamile kuthinta futhi kudikibala, kuyathukuthelisa futhi kuyabathukuthelisa. Kodwa-ke, kunemithetho ejwayelekile yokungathembeki kwabesifazane. Abacansi be-sexologists bakholelwa ukuthi owesifazane (ngokungafani, ngendlela, evela kumuntu) akaguquki ngesizathu, ngaphandle kwesizathu. Ngokuvamile bafuna kumlingani omusha ukuthi umyeni osemthethweni ulahlekelwa yini.
Ngokungafani nabantu abavame ukugxila ebuhlotsheni bobulili, abesifazane bafuna, ngaphezu kwakho konke, uthando, inhlonipho, ukuhlonishwa, okungakaze bazizwe kumyeni wabo isikhathi eside. Bafuna ukuvuselela ikhono lokuthanda nokuzifisa. Kodwa-ke, uma bengenelisekile emshadweni, ohlangothini lwezocansi nalo lukhangayo kubo.
Ngemva kokusungula ubudlelwane nomthandi, abanye besifazane baqaphela kakhulu amadoda abo, abantwana, benza yonke imisebenzi yasendlini, bahlelekile kakhulu emsebenzini wabo. Isizathu salokhu umqondo wecala abawutholayo, okubakhuthaza ukuba ngandlela-thile bahlawule ukukhashelwa kwabo bese belungisa iphutha labo. Kwabanye besifazane, ukuthanda uthando ohlangothini kuvamile. Owesifazane onjalo kunzima ukuveza, njengoba enza konke ngokucophelela, ngokucabangela nangokuhlelekile. Kubo, ukuhlubuka kuyinto umdlalo othakazelisayo futhi owedlulele, kuhlanganise nengozi kanye nesimo sezulu. Owesifazane onjalo awusizi ngalutho ukuhlazeka futhi afundiswe kabusha. Ukuhlambalaza kuyindlela yokuphila, into ethathwa kalula. Ngendlela, owesifazane onjalo, abesifazane abanjalo banokuthula, abasoze bahlukumeza umyeni wakhe kanye nokuvota ngasese emaphaketheni akhe. Ngesikhathi esifanayo bangamthanda ngempela umyeni wabo, imishado nabo ngezinye izikhathi ihlala iminyaka eminingi.
Kukhona abesifazane abanobuhlobo ohlangothini lwabo ngokuvamile abaqedi umbhede. Bathanda ukudlala ngothando, ngoba ukuqhuma kwemizwelo kubalulekile, uma kusuka kokubheka inhliziyo inqamuka, lapho konke kupheka ngaphakathi futhi ufuna ukuhleka, khona-ke ukhale. Ukuziphatha ngokocansi okunjalo akusijabulisi kubo. Ngokushesha uma kuziwa ebuhlotsheni - baqeda ubuhlobo. Ababheki ukudlala kwabo ngothando, ukuphutha noma ukukhwabanisa. Nakuba eqinisweni, lokhu akuyona ukuzijabulisa okungenabungozi. Kungaba yingozi, okokuqala, ngowesifazane ngokwayo. Ubuhlobo obunjalo bungadluliselwa futhi bukhathwe, kuguqulwe impilo yomthandi wokudlala ngothando ngaphandle kokulimala.
Kukhona abesifazane abakhohlisayo umyeni wabo, besebenzisa wonke amathuba. Ngokuvamile lezi zindodakazi zihlushwa yizinkinga eziphansi, uhlobo lokugula kwengqondo. Baqala ukushada ngokushesha futhi ngokushesha, kodwa ngokomzwelo abakwazi ukuqhubeka nothando. Abazizwa bodwa imizwa yokubeletha evamile, ababala ngisho nezingane zabo. Ukushada nomfazi onjalo kuyinhlekelele kumuntu, ikakhulukazi uma umndeni unabantwana. Amanye amadoda ahlupheka futhi ahlukunyezwa abesifazane abanjalo kuphela kubantwana, ngoba abakwazi ukubanikela kumama onjalo onobuqili. Bangakwazi kuphela ukuzwelana. Ngenhlanhla, lolu hlobo lwabesifazane aluvamile, bambalwa nomndeni abayidala njalo.
Ngezinye izikhathi ubudlelwano bobulili obuyiphutha obuyingxenye yabesifazane bubangelwa yinkimbinkimbi yecala. Uma abazali balo ntombazane bemkhuphula, uma engena emcimbini wokuthi kufanele ahlanzeke ngaphambi komshado, kodwa ulahlekelwe ubuntombi bakhe ngaphambili, manje uzizwa enecala. Lokhu kwenzeka ezingeni eliphansi, kunzima owesifazane ukulwa nalo. Abesifazane abanjalo abakwazi futhi abafuni ukuyeka ucansi, babamba iqhaza ekuzijabuliseni okuqhubekayo, njengoba bezama ukuzijezisa ngokulahlekelwa ukushada kwasekuqaleni futhi baqinise imibono yabo ngokwabo ukuthi baziphatha kabi, bahluzekile futhi bafanelwe ukuphila okunjalo kuphela.
Abesifazane abashadile abashadile bacabanga ukuthi ukuziphatha kokuphila kabili kungalungile, ngoba isikhathi esilahlekile ngokuphola nomuntu esithandanayo sintshontshiwe kubantwana bakhe nomyeni wakhe. Ngakho-ke, ngokuvamile ukungathembeki komfazi kuletha izinkinga ebuhlotsheni bomndeni. Ngomzamo wokulondoloza umshado wakhe, owesifazane oshadile akanakuhlala ejabule nomthandi wakhe, ngoba indlu yakhe, izingane kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo yakhe yomndeni imlindele. Ngaphezu kwalokho, akanakulungiselela ukulibaziseka kwakhe njalo ngezimpikiswano ezinjalo, njengendoda evame ukuyenza. Ngakho-ke, uma ethandwa ngumthandi wakhe, ekhathele imihlangano engavamile futhi ocansini, angancuma ukuhlukanisa.
Iqiniso lokuthi abesifazane bavame ukukopela abangaphansi kwamadoda kuchazwa ukuthi banamathuba amancane okukhohliswa. Phela, ngokuvamile kuvame emahlombe abesifazane ukuthi basebenze, umndeni, izingane, abangane nezihlobo zilale. Ngokuvamile, izimiso zakhe zokuziphatha azikuvumeli ukuba uqale ukuthandana nomyeni wentombi yakho noma osebenza naye. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi owesifazane oshadile akasenayo ikhetho. Futhi uma othile ebonisa isithakazelo kuye - uphendula ngokudlala ngothando futhi uyaqhubeka ukukhaphela.
Ngokuvamile, abashade abakhohlisayo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi amadoda noma abesifazane, abavumelani ngisho nokuthi isigamu sakhe sesibili singakunikeza futhi sishintshe. Uma umfazi ehlangana nomthandi wakhe, ukholelwa ukuthi ngalesi sikhathi umkakhe usemsebenzini, nomngane noma nabazali bakhe, nakuba empeleni akunjalo. Ngokuyinhloko, imibono yangempela yamanoveli womshado angowamadoda. Owesifazane angabonisa isithakazelo sakhe, aphendule ekuthandaneni kwakhe, kodwa indima eqinile isadlalwa yindoda. Yingakho amadoda avame ukukhohlisa abafazi babo kunabesifazane - amadoda abo.
Amadoda nabesifazane babekwe ngaphambilini ezindaweni ezingalingani. Ngakho-ke, kuze kube manje abesifazane abaningi abakwazi ukukwazi ukujwayelana nendoda, ngokwesibonelo, endaweni yomphakathi, emgwaqweni noma e-cafe. Abaningi besifazane banamahloni ukukhombisa isithakazelo sabo njengendoda ngisho nasenkampanini evamile yabangane. Ngakho-ke, ngemva kokudala umndeni, owesifazane uyakhohlwa ngokukhanga kwakhe, ikhono lakhe lokuthanda nokuthandwa. Ukuhlambalaza owesifazane onjalo kuyisimo esibucayi kodwa esidingekayo njengomoya. Ngakho lona wesifazane ukhumbuza ngokwakhe ukuthi usaphila. Ngokuvamile, ubuhlobo bubonakala kuye njengephutha noma ukukhwabanisa, uyazifihla, kodwa, ngemva kwesikhathi esithile, waphinde wangena echibini lesithando esinqatshelwe.
Ngeshwa, umbono womphakathi ukwedlula kakhulu ekungathembeki kwamadoda kunabesifazane. Ukushintsha umuntu kubizwa ngokuthi igama elihle "kazanova". Futhi njengoba bebiza owesifazane eguqukayo? Ukuqhubeka akudingekile. Abantu baye badala inkolelo yokuthi indoda ingashintshwa, kodwa owesifazane akakwazi. Kukholelwa ukuthi indodakazi ehlakaniphile, enhle futhi enokonga ngeke ishintshe. Kodwa akunjalo neze! Nokho, njengoba kunjalo, indoda enhle, ehlakaniphile futhi enakekelayo ingashintsha umkayo.
Uma uzoqala ubuhlobo obude nendoda ohlangothini, khona-ke yazi ukuthi abafihli injabulo kuphela ejabulisayo ngokulindela usuku oluzayo, kodwa futhi nezici eziningi ezimbi! Uzodinga ukuqamba amanga futhi ufihle phakathi nale mihlangano, "ukumboza imidwebo", emuva kokuhlangana nomthandi wakho. Kuzodingeka ubheke amehlo omyeni wakho, ukhulume naye, ukufihla injabulo nesifiso sokuvuma nokuphenduka kukho konke. Uqinisekile ukuthi ukuhlukumezeka ngeke kulimaze ubuhlobo bakho nomyeni wakho, ukuthi lokhu ngeke kuthinte izingane zakho uma ziqala ukubuka isimo somhawu endlini kanye nokucaciswa kobudlelwane obwenzekayo phambi kwamehlo abo? Ekuthungeni umyeni wakhe, abesifazane abaningi babona ukuphunyuka komkhaya kuphela, kodwa-ke, ngokuthathwa ngokungathí sina, bawela esicupheni abangakwazi ukuphuma kuzo.
Uma uhlose ukugcina umshado wabo okungenani ezinganeni, kufanelekile ukucabangela ukuthi bazojabula yini uma omunye umuntu ebonakala empilweni yakho. Nakuba ukuhlukumezeka nokukhohliswa manje sekuvamile, ngokuvamile baletha ukudumala okukhulu kunokwaneliseka kowesifazane oshadile. Yonke into ingaqala kahle - ukuthandana, ukunakwa komunye umuntu kanye nesithando esiningi. Kodwa-ke ubunzima nokuhlupheka kuqala. Abesifazane abathile abashadile bayavuma ukugcina ubuhlobo besikhathi eside ngaseceleni kumyeni wakhe. Isici esibi asikona ukuthi ukuphinga kwenza ukuthi ucabange ngobuhlobo bomndeni, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lokhu kuxhumana kunganciphisa owesifazane ngokwayo, ukuletha ukuhlupheka nokuhlupheka kwakhe. Ukungasho umqondo wecala lokungathengi kwakhe, isiphambeko nokukhwabanisa.