Namuhla sizokhuluma ngokuthi yiliphi iloli elithatha abesifazane futhi yiziphi izindlela zokubamba indoda ezisetshenziselwa abameleli abalungile besintu.
Pick-up (kusuka ku-English pick up - "pick up") - isayensi yokukhohlisa. Isekelwe kumasu omlando wengqondo: i-NLP, ukukholisa, ukuthinta imidlalo, njll. Njengoba ukubonakala kwalesi senzakalo samadoda amaningi amaphepha akuyona nje imidlalo nokuzijabulisa, kodwa futhi ifilosofi yokuphila.Into esemqoka yomdlalo wonke ilula njengosuku olucacile. Ukwahlukanisa inkosikazi yezocansi, futhi ngokushesha futhi ngokwemvelo ngangokunokwenzeka, ujabule naye ebusuku, bese nje ngokulula futhi ngokwemvelo yanyamalala. Ngokwemvelo, lezi zikhetho azibonakali ngokuziphatha kwalolu daba - ngaphezu kwalokho, iningi labo lenzeni ukuphindiselela ngokobulili besifazane ngenxa yezikhalazo ezinesikhathi eside ... Kodwa lokhu akuyona inkinga namuhla.
Kanye nesipuni sesilisa, owesifazane wazalwa endaweni ye-intanethi. Konke kwaqala ngamasayithi amancane mayelana neloli lokuqoqa amadoda, khona-ke izinsiza ezizimele zabesifazane. Ngesisekelo salomabhizinisi bamabhizinisi abahamba phambili bahleleka ngokuhleleka ukuqeqeshwa okukhokhwa, izifundo kanye nezinkulumo zokukhohlisa.
Inhloso yamaloli wesifazane amancane ahlukile kancane kumuntu: ukudukisa lowo okubukeka kuye. Emva kwalokhu, kungenzeka kube nezinketho ukuthi le nsizwa encane ikhethe yona.
- senga ucansi, bese uyeka
- senga ukuba uthandane nawe, bese ushiya
- senga ukushada
Ngakho yiziphi izinkinga eziphakama phambi kowesifazane lapho ekhetha, ekhohlisa isisulu?
Eqinisweni, owesifazane esiteji sokuqala sokuphola kungenzeka kakhulu kunamadoda. Phela, isinyathelo sokuqala sihlale senziwa ngumuntu, futhi uma owesifazane - cabanga ukuthi lokhu kungavamile kanjani futhi kuyathandeka.
Futhi uma engakuthandi, akekho ozokuqeda ngaso leso sikhathi - uzothokozisa u-ego wakhe wesilisa.
Cishe isithombe esifanayo mayelana nobulili. Ngemuva kwalokho, ngokuvamile umuntu uqala ukuya enkampanini yekhofi endlini yakhe. Futhi-ke lona wesifazane usuvele usulungele ucansi ngosuku lokuqala. Akungabazeki ukuthi othile uzokulahla. Kodwa-ke, ukukhathazeka kungabanjwa noma labo abangathí sina, kuyomangalisa ngokubekezela kwakho futhi kunganqatshwa. Kodwa kunjalo, ngenhlanhla noma, ngeshwa, kakhulu, kakhulu kakhulu, ukuze ukwazi ukuya ocansini ngaphandle kwezinkinga.
Kungenye indaba uma unamaphuzu amakhulu kakhulu - ukuthola umuntu ukuba akunikeze isipho. Kuzodingeka ukuthukumezeka, ngoba ukujwayela nokukhohlisa kulula kakhulu kunokugcina nokunikela.
Kunoma yikuphi, kuzodingeka usebenzise lonke ulwazi lwakho namakhono, bheka izinyathelo ezimbili ezizayo, ngobuqili futhi udale ukubonakala kwesithakazelo sakho esilula kulokhu. Futhi indoda kufanele icabange ukuthi lena yinkqubo eholayo hhayi wena.
Ngakho-ke, ake sihambe ngqo ezindleleni zamaphini abesifazane, okuyiqiniso, okuyokwengeza ku-arsenal of seduction yakho.
1. Zithakazelise, kodwa zimele. Ake akubone, ake abone ukumomotheka kwakho nokuthi yini oyithandayo kwabanye. Ayikho imizwa yokwesaba (izibhamu ezifakwe esifubeni, iminwe ehlanganisiwe, njll.) Lapha ukuhlelwa komsebenzi kudlala indima enkulu - amahlombe abuyele ngqo futhi aqondiswe azothi okuningi.
2. Calm, ukuthula nje. Abesifazane abaningi, uma bethanda umuntu ukukhohlwa izinhlamvu namagama olimi lwesiRussia, baqhubekele ku-stupor futhi ngokuvamile baziphatha njengezingane. Lokhu akuvumelekile. Njalo uhlale uzolile. Kwenzeka ukuthi unemizuzu embalwa nje ukuphonsa i-lasso engabonakali entweni, ngeke kube khona ithuba lesibili, uma uthola ukwesaba, udidekile, noma uphinde ubuyeke. Ubuningi begazi-ngumngane wakho.
3. Thumela isignali. Ngisho noma uhle, uthakazelisa, u-sexy, njll. "Waziyokwazi kanjani ukuthi akakuboni?" Thumela ukukhanya kokuma. Into elula ukumbamba iso nokumomotheka. Ungaphonsa into eduze kwayo, ukuze kusize ukuphakamisa, njll. Kodwa ungawudluleli ukuze imizamo yakho yokuheha ingeke ibe ukubekezela kokungaziphukuphuku.
4. Bheka 100%! Wonke umuntu uyazi kahle ukuthi yiziphi izingubo ezenza abantu bakunake kunoma yisiphi isimo: iziketi eziqinile, amaqabunga akhanyayo anezinwele ezimnandi, izithende eziphakeme, njll. Ungakhathaleli ukwenza izimonyo nezinwele. Kodwa! Konke kufanele kuvumelane futhi kuhambisane nesimo. Bheka ubuciko futhi bufanele! Kulokhu, akusiyo kuphela isisulu sakho, kodwa bonke abanye bayokulalela - futhi lokhu kuzosiza kakhulu indaba!
5. Ingxoxo yokuqala. Uma ukwazi ukuheha, ukuma isikhashana phakathi kwalesi mzuzu nengxoxo yokuqala akumele kube mkhulu! Khuluma ngokukhululekile, ngokuthula nangokucacile! Kubalulekile ukuthi uhlanganyele engxoxweni encane kunawe. Phakathi nesikhathi lapho uhleka ekuphenduleni uhlaya lwakhe, ungakwazi ukuthinta ngesandla sakhe ngobumnene. Ngokuvamile, ungakhohlwa ngokuthinta.
6. Cabanga ukuthi uthini. Ungalokothi utshele umuntu ngosuku lokuqala, ikakhulukazi uma nje udinga ucansi, zingaki izingane ozifunayo, zingaki amadoda onakho, khumbula - amadoda angamadalwa anamahloni kunalokho, ngisho noma "Hhayi, uke waya kimi?" Kungenzeka kalula soka uphinde ucindezele!
7. Yisho ukuncoma. Khumbula ukuthi owesilisa uthanda ukuncoma kunowesifazane. Kubalulekile ukuba bazizwe bekhethekile, behlukile. Noma kunjalo, ungayidluli. Faka ingqondo bese uthi lokho afuna ukukuzwa, ngokusho kwesenzakalo, indawo kanye nemvelo.
Ukuncoma kuyindlela ebaluleke kakhulu yokubamba indoda nendodakazi yamaphoyinti. Kulungile ukukwenza kanjani?
Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ukunconywa kwamadoda nabesifazane kunencazelo ehluke kakhulu nokubaluleka. Uma kungowesifazane kuyisabelo sokuqala senjabulo nenduduzo yamadoda kuyisiqondiso esithile sokwenza okuthile. Emagama akho akufanele kube khona ukungabi nalutho kanye nencazelo engacacile. Gxila kwimininingwane.
Isibonelo, "lokho enginakho kumnandi, lokho onakho kunamandla" - ukuhluleka okuphelele, kepha "wow, usebenza ngokucophelela nge-screwdriver" - yenza aziqhenye yena! Ngaphezu kwalokho, okulandelayo kusebenza ngokuhlulekayo: uma usho ukuncoma, wehlisa izwi lakho ngokushelelayo - uzobona, lokhu kuzosebenza ngokushesha.
Ukuncoma kufanele kube MANDATORY ngobuqotho, noma okungenani, utshele nge-100% ngobuqotho. Ukusho ukuthi ukuncoma embhedeni kungaphezu kokudingekile.
Kodwa! Ungalokothi ulalele nendoda - ayithandi. Awudingi ukuthambekela okungenangqondo - kuvele ngokushesha futhi ukulinganisa kwakho emehlweni akhe kuwa ngokushesha. Izincomo eziningi zimbi kakhulu kunokungabikho kwazo. Khumbula lokhu. Udinga njalo ukwazi isilinganiso. Khuluma ngokucacile nangokucacile, akukho okungafani.
Okuhle kunakho konke, uma uhambelana ngempela nesihawu nemizwelo emihle kumlingani wakho. Kulokhu, izindlela zokubamba indoda zizoba lula kuwe ukuthi uzisebenzise.
Konke kwasungulwa esikhathini eside esidlule ngemvelo. Izidalwa ezinhlobo eziningi zezilwane zikhulu futhi zigqamile kunabesifazane. Futhi phakathi nemidlalo yokulinganisa, basakaza izimpaphe futhi baphendule ngamunye, bese omunye. Khumbula lokhu. Ngaphambi kokuba ummeleli wezinhlobo zethu. Ungowesilisa. Ngakho-ke, dumisani futhi mjabulise yena. Hamba futhi uvume. Kodwa! Ungadluli - asidingi ngempela ukubetha okucacile.
Kunendlela enjengesibuko sokubukwa. Kuvame ukusetshenziselwa abathengisi abanamakhono ukuthenga izimpahla. Incazelo yalo ukuphindaphinda kwamazwi kanye nokuphindaphindiwe kwe-interlocutor. Ngalokhu, unomqondo onobunye nawe. Isibonelo, waxhuma esihlalweni sakhe - encike emuva futhi wasondela eduze - yenza okufanayo. Ngokuvamile, yenza lezi zenzo ngokuvumelana.
Ungakhohlwa ukuthi umculi we-pick-up, kulokhu, wena, hhayi yena. Futhi isimo siholele wena, ngisho noma kubonakala sengathi ulawula inqubo. Funda esibukweni - funda ukulawula ibanga phakathi kwakho. Khumbula ukuthi ukuthintana nokuxhumana kubaluleke kakhulu.
Okuthakazelisayo, ngombono wami, ukuphawula - zonke lezi zindlela ngeke zihambisane ne-pikapersham kuphela, kodwa futhi nabesifazane abashadile, ngoba ukususa nokwehlisa umyeni wakho - lo msebenzi kunzima kakhulu. Uzodinga ukubekezela okuningi, umqondo wamaqhinga nokuqamba, ngoba ucabanga ukuthi kuyini, ngemuva kweminyaka eminingi yokuhlala ndawonye kubuye kwenzeke futhi ekuboneni ekati elikhohlisayo, elisha, elishisayo. Futhi kuwumsebenzi wakho ukwenza umyeni wakhe akubheke ngamehlo ahlukene futhi acabange: "Ingabe lo ngumkami?" Kungani angizange ngibone lokhu ngaphambili? ". Ngendlela! Ukusebenza okunjalo okuphothuliwe ngempumelelo kuyasiza kakhulu empilweni yakho yomndeni ohlangene ngokujwayelekile! Akukho lutho olungcono kunomshado omuhle, lapho abashadile abangabangane abakhulu nabathandekayo abakhulu!
Impumelelo ehloniphekile, ubusuku obunzima nokuphana kwamadoda!